Hey, I have a question. Please don't answer if you don't want to. I've done research in "gay communities" in both Tokyo and Vancouver - and one of the things I notice is that a lot of men who consider themselves gay actually have a fair amount of sex with women. They just don't fall in love with women. And a few lesbians have told me similar stories.like I've told you before, I am a homosexual man and I have no brothers. My partner, obviously also a homosexual man, does not have older brothers. How do you explain our sexuality? There must be other causes for homosexuality which you choose to ignore.
As an aside, a lot of the men I spent time with, and interviewed, in Tokyo said they were "gei" (the Japanese spelling of "gay") but not "homosexual." They enjoyed sex with men, but were actually opposed the adoption of the homosexual sexual identity in Japan. So many sexuality researchers adopt the phrase "men who have sex with men" (or MSM) to talk about these people. However, in the last 5-7 years there's been quite a change in Tokyo where more and more MSM are trying to "be more homosexual" in that they are valuing coming out and recognition of their sexual lives.
Japanese geis refer to heterosexuals as "nongei" - I kind of liked that definition, since it is centered on gei, and defines nongeis as the "other."