I understand your point, but it doesn't matter to me whether God is male or female. "Parent" is good enough for me.
All you need to experience spiritual peace is to find, or create a theory that suits and satisfies you Sherlayne. If that is a genderless God then so be it. You will die in time, as we all will and when we do nothing any of us believed on Earth will matter, since belief,'faith' as it is commonly known, has no basis other than guesswork.
Be happy Sherlayne.