Gay couples, employers could face legal maze if Supreme Court strikes down DOMA

Apr 3, 2013 Read more: 94.3 WSC 11

The Supreme Court could strike down DOMA and essentially create two different worlds for gay married couples in the country.

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“Equality First”

Since: Jan 09

St. Louis, MO

#1 Apr 3, 2013
I've thought about this a lot. When my husband retires we are probably going to move from this back-ward state. Where we move will be dependent upon how the law would view our marriage so far as Federal benefits are concerned.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#2 Apr 3, 2013
RalphB wrote:
I've thought about this a lot. When my husband retires we are probably going to move from this back-ward state. Where we move will be dependent upon how the law would view our marriage so far as Federal benefits are concerned.
When DOMA falls it won't matter where you live; any legal marriage will receive federal recognition & benefits. The only question is do you want state recognition as well.

“Equality for ALL”

Since: Jul 10

Massachusetts

#3 Apr 3, 2013
How is this 'legal maze' any different than the 'legal maze' that currently exists? I guess the solution to this problem is to make same-sex marriage legal across the country. No civil unions or domestic partnerships. Make everything equal. Make everything simple.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#4 Apr 3, 2013
DaveinMass wrote:
How is this 'legal maze' any different than the 'legal maze' that currently exists? I guess the solution to this problem is to make same-sex marriage legal across the country. No civil unions or domestic partnerships. Make everything equal. Make everything simple.
It'll be different because unlike now, married couples will have federal benefits regardless of where they live.

It's going to be a nightmare, especially for military members who move around every couple of years.

Time to clog the courts with discrimination cases.

“Equality for ALL”

Since: Jul 10

Massachusetts

#5 Apr 3, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
It'll be different because unlike now, married couples will have federal benefits regardless of where they live.
It's going to be a nightmare, especially for military members who move around every couple of years.
Time to clog the courts with discrimination cases.
Oh, I fully agree that it will be better when DOMA falls.

I was mocking the idea that if DOMA falls, it would create the 'maze' of confusing rules and procedures for employeres. As if they don't have to navigate varying laws and procedures now.

But that just argues for truely making everything equal across the board. Eliminate civil unions and domestic partnerships and allow civil marriage equality for all.

“Equality First”

Since: Jan 09

St. Louis, MO

#6 Apr 3, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
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When DOMA falls it won't matter where you live; any legal marriage will receive federal recognition & benefits. The only question is do you want state recognition as well.
Frankly, I could not care less what this backward state does on that score. I have more than enough reasons to move without even considering that one.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#7 Apr 3, 2013
RalphB wrote:
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Frankly, I could not care less what this backward state does on that score. I have more than enough reasons to move without even considering that one.
I hear ya. I've been in Michigan for just over a decade now and as much as I like it here, I may be moving on too if we can't get the ban overturned soon.

After moving every couple of years in the service, maybe I'm just getting itchy to try somewhere new.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#8 Apr 3, 2013
It doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, jew or gentile, Catholic or Protestant, Hindu, Sikh or Muslim, Buddhist Taoist Atheist or agnostic. Rock n' roll, R&B, funk, dance, electronica, jazz, country or western. Black, white Hispanic or Asian. This marriage proposal might make you cry.

And anyone who even SNIFFLES watching this can't deny they don't understand SAME SEX MARRIAGE isn't any different than what they see here in this AWESOME proposal I love how he just kneels and waits for her answer, never says a word. Dude stole my script!!(It's the same fantasy ending I had in every one of my marriage proposal dreams and two realities.)

It ain't the equipment any of us (gay or straight) want to commit to. It's the person INSIDE the body.

“Equality First”

Since: Jan 09

St. Louis, MO

#9 Apr 4, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
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I hear ya. I've been in Michigan for just over a decade now and as much as I like it here, I may be moving on too if we can't get the ban overturned soon.
After moving every couple of years in the service, maybe I'm just getting itchy to try somewhere new.
Years ago I would never have even considered the idea of moving, because my family is steeped in the history of St. Louis. We have been here since the 1850's, and my family literally helped build this city. But as the years go by, I want and need the legitimacy of the union of my spouse and I to be recognized. And if it cannot be here, it will be elsewhere. I will not bide in a city and state that shows me nothing but disdain and hate.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#10 Apr 4, 2013
RalphB wrote:
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Years ago I would never have even considered the idea of moving, because my family is steeped in the history of St. Louis. We have been here since the 1850's, and my family literally helped build this city. But as the years go by, I want and need the legitimacy of the union of my spouse and I to be recognized. And if it cannot be here, it will be elsewhere. I will not bide in a city and state that shows me nothing but disdain and hate.
I don't blame you at all. That's one of the reasons I'm not in Minnesota or Tennessee where my family goes back to the 1800's & 1700's respectively. I'll likely stick it out until 2016 and see if we can repeal our ban here in Michigan; if not we're outta here. I'm thinking upstate New York, Maine, Washington, or maybe Oregon (depending on how their vote goes next year).

“Equality First”

Since: Jan 09

St. Louis, MO

#11 Apr 4, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
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I don't blame you at all. That's one of the reasons I'm not in Minnesota or Tennessee where my family goes back to the 1800's & 1700's respectively. I'll likely stick it out until 2016 and see if we can repeal our ban here in Michigan; if not we're outta here. I'm thinking upstate New York, Maine, Washington, or maybe Oregon (depending on how their vote goes next year).
Since my hubby won't retire til 2015, I'm gonna have to stay here for the time being. But we plan on traveling in the meantime to see where we might consider settling down. Our plan is to find some places and then live in a rented place for a month at a time in each one to get the feel before we actually move. And even then, we will keep our condo here, just in case things don't work out in the new place. After about a year of living in a new place, and liking it, then we will sell this one.

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