There is no Husband in a marriage between two lesbians, since they are both women.<quoted text>
Now I understand.
You are the 'husband' in a lesbian marriage!
You'd be the perfect one to answer this question;
Why does a butch lesbian dress and act like a man to attract another lesbian???
Geesh. At least TRY to keep up.
And are you still fixated on "butch" lesbians? This has already been answered, though you seem to have forgotten. Short answer, they are not dressing like men and acting like men, since they are women.
You have the problem with sexual stereotypes, false expectations and preconceived notions. They don't. Women come in a variety of styles, types, shapes, and colors, and I don't see you asking why so many straight women look and dress exactly like those scary "butch lesbians", and they seem to have attracted men.
And believe me, where I live, this is not an uncommon thing. Half the farmer's wives look about as masculine as can be.
But guess what?
They are WOMEN.