How to turn off men
Maid Marion

Huntington, NY

#120 Mar 18, 2013
honeymylove wrote:
Talk about the Lord..
Unless HE is the lord you are talking about.
Then it would turn him on.....
Turn Off Numero Uno

Huntington, NY

#121 Mar 18, 2013
Act like her mother......

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#122 Mar 18, 2013
Paris Hilton wrote:
<quoted text>How the heck can I do that?
Not sure Paris.

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#123 Mar 18, 2013
Grow and plait your armpit hair.
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#124 Mar 18, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
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You don't like the word I used, either because you don't see it as strongly, or see me trivializing something much worse, and that is fine. I can live with that. It doesn't feel that deeply as a violation to you, but it is to me. If you want to interact sexually with others, then approach those who are known to be professionals in the trade, start out on a more innocent level, or go to venues that are known to be hook up places. I don't go to bars or clubs for this very reason. If I were to, it would only be briefly or early in the day if they were open. If a person is going to work, a store, or to pay bills, they don't expect others to approach them sexually, violate their space, or interfere with the task at hand. Why are men allowed to have one-track, business-only, nerdy, self-absorbed, left-brain minds and not women? Again, why a double standard?
Greeting you is not what I'm talking about here. She was not a man, not unemployed ghetto trash with a prison record. Nor was she there for sex, and what she said was out of respect. Approaching stranger women for sex is ALWAYS abusive.
What I am discussing is nearly always with sexual motives. Most people wave or greet someone and then they LEAVE or go back to their business. That is what normal people do. They don't pursue the person, chase them with their vehicle, turn the topic to sex like they are a common wh*re, ask them if they are a man, accuse them of being a man and asking to suck their junk, expose themselves, demand that you talk to them like they own you, etc. So there is a huge difference here.
Actually, it does matter in the long run if women are so terrified of this to even go out. It is causing loner women to develop agoraphobia or become recluses. Some are just that sensitive, and they keep to themselves, do nothing to suggest they want this, and stay in their own world. When you are minding your own business, others should automatically feel obligated to leave you alone - treat you as an anonymous adult stranger they can never know.
Well, like I said, I think Im missing something. because now you are talking about a woman who it seems, was stalked? but then you go back to someone cramping your space...
I understand the need to be respected ultimately..but..heck, people will be people,,the nature of the beast is to hook up, even on a friendship level, so if you go to the grocery, someone may smile at you...if you go to a bar , someone will hit on you..
I went to a bar a couple weeks ago with my DAUGHTER...when we were leaving , a man smiled at me..and patted my ass..I laughed ...I told my daughter it made me feel like the most desireable woman in the place...for ten seconds....I saw it as harmless ....no violation, I dont take myself that seriously.....and,my ass has seen much worse..
lol.......
:)

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#127 Mar 18, 2013
MEASURE them up, based on past relationships and TELL THEM HOW THEY COMPARE!!!

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#128 Mar 18, 2013
Tell him to do two things at once.
Get Out NOW

Huntington, NY

#129 Mar 18, 2013
Giggle after everything you say.......
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#130 Mar 18, 2013
Get Out NOW wrote:
Giggle after everything you say.......
lol

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Right here under my thumb

#131 Mar 18, 2013
"Hillary Clinton Endorses Gay Marriage"

***milwaukee69 getting shivers, throws up a lil' in mouth***

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#134 Mar 18, 2013
GenOmazing wrote:
<quoted text>Shouldn't they be entitled to be as miserable as the rest of us heterosexuals?
If you ever watched a lesbian couple fight, you'd know we need more laws on the books that cover dike abuse.

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#136 Mar 18, 2013
milwaukee69 wrote:
<quoted text>
If you ever watched a lesbian couple fight, you'd know we need more laws on the books that cover dike abuse.
I come to this thread and this page and this is the first post I saw.

Seems I always come into conversations at odd times. Now I have to go back and read.

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Spotted World

#137 Mar 18, 2013
Paris Hilton wrote:
<quoted text>
How the heck can I do that?
Dye your hair? Duh, I dunno. ;-)

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#138 Mar 18, 2013
milwaukee69 wrote:
<quoted text>
If you ever watched a lesbian couple fight, you'd know we need more laws on the books that cover dike abuse.
Yes, it should be against the law to damage levees.

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#139 Mar 18, 2013
reebie wrote:
<quoted text>Well, like I said, I think Im missing something. because now you are talking about a woman who it seems, was stalked? but then you go back to someone cramping your space...
I understand the need to be respected ultimately..but..heck, people will be people,,the nature of the beast is to hook up, even on a friendship level, so if you go to the grocery, someone may smile at you...if you go to a bar , someone will hit on you..
I went to a bar a couple weeks ago with my DAUGHTER...when we were leaving , a man smiled at me..and patted my ass..I laughed ...I told my daughter it made me feel like the most desireable woman in the place...for ten seconds....I saw it as harmless ....no violation, I dont take myself that seriously.....and,my ass has seen much worse..
lol.......
:)
Approaching ANY stranger for sex when that stranger is dressed dumpy and deliberately looking down or straight ahead and minding their own business like all who are supposed to, is EVERY bit as bad as stalking and worse. You can't seem to see it for the abuse it is. That could be the result of a number of things I am not qualified to speculate on. I'm not going back and forth here. I consider these behaviors all part of the same thing here. Approaching strangers for sexual purposes when it is obvious they are minding their own business is just ANOTHER type of rape, and when that is ignored long enough, the guys who do that might graduate to the criminal kind. And no, that is my gut feeling, not a double-blinded, scientific, university proven study.

The nature of the beast is NOT to hook up on a sexual level. If it is, then that is evidence they were raised wrong. Society would work much better if most of "masculinity" was punished out of boys from an early age. Just think in Muslim countries if instead of girls being taught to cover up, boys were simply backhanded each time they look at someone of the opposite sex with sexual thoughts or made disrespectful comments about women or girls?

As for a friendship level, that is normal, but you don't do that when someone is busy. If someone is in their own world, then it is still an intrusion to try to get their attention, and particularly if you are a man and they are a woman, or if you are a ghetto bum and the person is of a higher class. If a ghetto bum approaches you, they usually only want sex, money, or a place to crash.

As for bars, like I said, I don't go. I guess if I did, I'd have to learn to lie. "No, I can't go home with you, my wife is waiting for me." I'd rather just sit at home with a can or two of beer and float off into my own world. Alone, nobody puts stuff in your drink, flirts with you, tries to rape you, nor tries to force you to drink more than you planned. And if you fall asleep alone in your own home after partying with yourself, you still have all your hair, there is no writing on your face, and your clothes are still in the same position as when you dozed off. Now, if you mess with drugs other than weed, then don't be surprised if you do all those things to yourself. Like the guy who took meth, bath salts, or angel dust, broke into a house, somehow ended up with a computer mouse in his rectum, beat up some police officers, and had no clue he had done any of that.

People who don't take themselves seriously often hate themselves, from my own observations.

“frequently laughing”

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Hotel California

#140 Mar 18, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
<quoted text>

People who don't take themselves seriously often hate themselves, from my own observations.


Interesting, I see something totally different. I see people that take themselves overly seriously as having no self esteem, they lack the ability to laugh at the mistakes they make, in fact they frequently can't acknowledge mistakes they make, they react with anger instead.(Family member, personal experiences)

As humans that is how we learn, by making mistakes.
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#141 Mar 18, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
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Approaching ANY stranger for sex when that stranger is dressed dumpy and deliberately looking down or straight ahead and minding their own business like all who are supposed to, is EVERY bit as bad as stalking and worse. You can't seem to see it for the abuse it is. That could be the result of a number of things I am not qualified to speculate on. I'm not going back and forth here. I consider these behaviors all part of the same thing here. Approaching strangers for sexual purposes when it is obvious they are minding their own business is just ANOTHER type of rape, and when that is ignored long enough, the guys who do that might graduate to the criminal kind. And no, that is my gut feeling, not a double-blinded, scientific, university proven study.
The nature of the beast is NOT to hook up on a sexual level. If it is, then that is evidence they were raised wrong. Society would work much better if most of "masculinity" was punished out of boys from an early age. Just think in Muslim countries if instead of girls being taught to cover up, boys were simply backhanded each time they look at someone of the opposite sex with sexual thoughts or made disrespectful comments about women or girls?
As for a friendship level, that is normal, but you don't do that when someone is busy. If someone is in their own world, then it is still an intrusion to try to get their attention, and particularly if you are a man and they are a woman, or if you are a ghetto bum and the person is of a higher class. If a ghetto bum approaches you, they usually only want sex, money, or a place to crash.
As for bars, like I said, I don't go. I guess if I did, I'd have to learn to lie. "No, I can't go home with you, my wife is waiting for me." I'd rather just sit at home with a can or two of beer and float off into my own world. Alone, nobody puts stuff in your drink, flirts with you, tries to rape you, nor tries to force you to drink more than you planned. And if you fall asleep alone in your own home after partying with yourself, you still have all your hair, there is no writing on your face, and your clothes are still in the same position as when you dozed off. Now, if you mess with drugs other than weed, then don't be surprised if you do all those things to yourself. Like the guy who took meth, bath salts, or angel dust, broke into a house, somehow ended up with a computer mouse in his rectum, beat up some police officers, and had no clue he had done any of that.
People who don't take themselves seriously often hate themselves, from my own observations.
wow, well all fairness to me...I dont know why Im trying to keep up with you..I told you from the beginning, I think Im missing something...one post you are talking cat calls, the next your are talking rape, or harrassment... I give.... your kindof all over the place on this one....and I tend to be a slow reader..Im screwed..
:)

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#142 Mar 18, 2013
reebie wrote:
<quoted text>wow, well all fairness to me...I dont know why Im trying to keep up with you..I told you from the beginning, I think Im missing something...one post you are talking cat calls, the next your are talking rape, or harrassment... I give.... your kindof all over the place on this one....and I tend to be a slow reader..Im screwed..
:)
She's like chasing a herd of cats.
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#143 Mar 18, 2013
Always Wary wrote:
<quoted text>
Interesting, I see something totally different. I see people that take themselves overly seriously as having no self esteem, they lack the ability to laugh at the mistakes they make, in fact they frequently can't acknowledge mistakes they make, they react with anger instead.(Family member, personal experiences)
As humans that is how we learn, by making mistakes.
good point.. if I took myself seriously, Id be curled up in a little ball of slobber...talking to the shadows in the corners of my ceiling....
this way seems to work best..
:)
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#144 Mar 18, 2013
milwaukee69 wrote:
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She's like chasing a herd of cats.
in heet Im afraid.. I bit off way more than I can chew....oh well...
:)

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