I agree , in a perfect world we should all be allowed our personal space.. but, its not a perfect world. but I dont see it as a "rape" I would like to walk into work every morning,, and not speak. Im not a morning person.. everyone I work with, KNOWS, I am not a morning person.. there is one individual who will step in front of me, and beller out GOOD MORNING !!..is this a "rape" of me wanting to keep my head down down and stay to myself??.. and an abuse? no, it is silliness, ignorance..etc.. I am her boss.. does that make her inferior to me? no.... its just an annoyance..and I go on about my business...<quoted text>
If someone is out alone, deliberately looking ahead or down, fully immersed in their own world, then approaching them at all is just another type of rape. Not a legally recognized one, but every bit as damaging and immoral.
We were all meant to function as individuals and to only care about our families and the friends we already have. If a woman by herself wanted others with her, she would have already brought her friends, family, or whatever lover she already has. So if you see someone alone, they value being alone and expect to be left alone. If they are not your friends or family, you have no right to even notice. Just say to yourself, they are JUST another person and move on. People are a dime a dozen and always in the way, but being alone, self-absorbed, in your own world and calling EVERY shot in your own life is priceless and should be protected under law.
Approaching you when you obviously want to be left alone, approaching you when they are from an inferior ethic culture or have lower values and standards than your own, is not a complement. It is a type of abuse. Maybe you don't find it abusive, or even enjoy it, but I do find it abusive. If men can be the authors of their own fates and have fulfilling, single lives, so should women. Women are not worth less than men. The more distance, privacy, and space you give others the more you are showing respect. And who gets the most emotional and physical space when walking alone on a public sidewalk? So which gender is respected more? It is not women.
From our exchanges, I see that the men won't get it until the women band together, learn not to tolerate this, and demand better treatment. Too many women have ridden on the gains made by the first and second wave feminists that they have taken it for granted and failed to be vigilant.
As the US immigration situation worsens, so will the way women are treated. Men from other countries think it is okay to rape women who are not covered up, rape women who are lesbians, grope any woman at random, sexually harass anyone, or hit on 10-year-old girls. They think it is okay to plop themselves into a booth in a restaurant where a woman is already sitting (I mean in parts of the US where that isn't an accepted custom - in big cities, that may be acceptable due to space constraints). Sure, born Americans do enough of these things, but exposure to feminism and US culture has placed some limits on their conduct. But when a bunch of new men from elsewhere flood in, they lack all that culture and training. I've seen too many Hispanic immigrants, mainly the undocumented variety who come here acting like every White woman is a sex worker.
It just doesnt matter in the long run..as far as the catcalls go..even if ignorant..they are good for the ego..to most..a quick little pick me up...that most will tell you made them feel "appreciated" as long as no lines were stepped over...I guess you just have stronger lines..and thats ok...