Translation: If you kiss his a$s, play nice, don't f' up his mistresses marriage, and make him angry, he's more apt to be generous with a settlement.<quoted text>
I have no idea why her attorney advised her not to tell, something to do with a settlement.
I don't think I would be so nice and even if I were, as soon as we settled, unless it was stipulated in the agreement that it not be disclosed, which I doubt, I'd be like now it's time to pay the piper, b1tch. I think that is totally fair game a quid pro quo, so to speak, especially if it were a friend who betrayed me like that.
Even if it were stipulated in the agreement, which again I doubt, really that would be so easy to get around ... for example, I myself may not be able to spill the beans, but my good friend Sue, could send an anonymous letter to the husband, lol.