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Need advice please be serious I know there's normal in everyone on here I hope

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Hattie

Indianapolis, IN

#1 Mar 31, 2013
Ok so I have this boyfriend I've had for lets say a little while. When we first got together he had lots of females he spoke with slowly after he stopped talking to most of them after I found some text about hooking up. He never by the way left my side so I know he didn't hook up them but he verbally said inappropriate things. Well when I was 7 months pregnant a year into our relationship I found a text to an ex about loving to hear her voice if she would call him. I just found this text now and our baby is already born. Since then I haven't found anything but I don't understand why he feels the need to verbally cheat. I can't seem to get over it and I don't know if I should stay with him.

Now for me. I have had one relationship early in our relationship that was physical. I've had many verbal relationships since I had the child with the mentality he did it to me so why not. Recently he caught me going for a night on the town with another person but it was only platonic.

Are we doomed? I'm not going to tell on myself for my phsical relationship with someone else early in our relationship and not for half the platonic ones I've had since having the child. I would like to both stop doing this to each other. I need advice help and what this all means.

I know I can totally stop cheating I have in our relationship for 6 months but will he ever stop if he wants to or do you think he's just not into me. I totally love this guy and feel like I could only be with him easily but I can't seem to trust him again and it's consuming me.Help!

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Since: Dec 12

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#2 Mar 31, 2013
First off this isn't the relationship forum. You will be ate alive on this one but here's my two cents.

If you both are willing to let by gones be by gones then it will work. If you are having second thoughts, don't keep your partner in the dark. You are the only one that knows your true feelings for him. Is he worth taking a chance on? Is he willing to work on not verbally cheating, does he realize verbally cheating is wrong? Your worse with physically cheating. But since you are the one verbally cheating now you might not be that into him. If you have a child then work out your issues together and Good Luck!!!

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Since: Apr 08

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#3 Mar 31, 2013
your doomed... if he wants attention from other women, he will get it...wether verbal, emotional, or physical..with a shitload of excuse, and Idontgiveafck.....and you will spend your every waking minute wondering what he is up too....

and you have already lowered yourself to his standards..
take the baby and move on...

Level 9

Since: May 12

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#4 Mar 31, 2013
I agree with Reebie... If he needs the attention of other women or you men then neither of YOUR hearts are into it...

DON'T stay just because YOU have a child together...

“....VETS”

Level 9

Since: Jan 08

WELCOME HOME

#5 Mar 31, 2013
not another thread ... geeeeeeeeeeeeese give a rest

“We're all Bozos on this bus”

Since: Jan 07

South Bend, IN

#6 Mar 31, 2013
"Monogamous" evidently has too many syllables for it to be understood by some.
Hattie

Indianapolis, IN

#7 Mar 31, 2013
I do agree I have lowered myself. This will suck for the kid and financially I have to stay until I can save up. Sad.
Hattie

Indianapolis, IN

#8 Mar 31, 2013
reebie wrote:
your doomed... if he wants attention from other women, he will get it...wether verbal, emotional, or physical..with a shitload of excuse, and Idontgiveafck.....and you will spend your every waking minute wondering what he is up too....
and you have already lowered yourself to his standards..
take the baby and move on...
Yup that's what I do basically.
Seriously

United States

#9 Mar 31, 2013
You need to get a LIFE, Ferret.
Seriously

Indianapolis, IN

#10 Mar 31, 2013
Because I have no LIFE either I know you need one too

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