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I've written in here a few times about sociopaths. Even started a thread once, I think. A lady at work told me about 'The Sociopath Next Door' by Martha Stout-
That book has changed my life. Up to one in twenty five people are sociopaths- according to Martha. Lots of different "experts" have lots of different opinions on the definition and characteristics of sociopaths. I think Dr Phil is an idiot (and probably a sociopath). Sociopaths can span the range from retarded to genius. The stupid ones (male mostly) end up in prison. A lot of the really smart ones are rich businesspersons. Like Bernie Madoff and Donald Trump and Mitt Romney. I believe my mom was one. I also believe it's more that 50% hereditary. One thing I think, that Martha didn't talk about much, is that there are degrees. I definitely feel guilt and remorse and empathy. But, as much as I like animals, I find it usually easy to go hunting and fishing and kill and eat them!
I think ME is one. Depends on your definition and degree. She is also very smart. It could be possible for very smart people to think things through logically and do the right thing, like being nice to her nieces and nephews. It might not be from an inner moral compass. Religion can help people too. Sociopaths need external controls. A belief in Heaven and Hell could help one behave. Money, fame and social acceptance (what my mom had, a desire for social acceptance) can mold behavior. Many women have that strong desire for social acceptance. I also think motherly instincts can be a strong motivator and guide behaviors.
How did that book help me? My daughter says I'm nicer and have a calmer demeanor now. It makes it so I can accept people better, when I know they have no guilt, remorse or empathy, I can tell myself,'it's not their fault', they can't help it. I get taken advantage of less and can stand up for myself better.
Why just Sunday morning, in a Box store parking lot, a guy came up with a gas can and asked for two dollars to buy gas. It was real easy to say,'no'- and I didn't feel guilty! lol
I am grateful for your post's and find them insightful.
I want to re-read it/them in the morrow, to better understand and form a reply.
(Tired eyes tonight, Tuesday has been a long day)
Good night Topix.