“Ignore the trolls”

Level 6

Since: Oct 08

Poole, UK

#22 May 1, 2013
tallyho wrote:
hey Capt... I was going to make a thread , but I was sure you wanted to remain silent
as you know Capt. jarhead/squadie we have seen our share.. all I have to offer is the deepest respect for you ...
not as a fine sailor/accomplished skier or a very articulate -educated-well mannered person , but a fitting member of the realm
but as a father ... I pray that you pass your strength upon your 1st mate and crew...
I love you as a person to a person SIR
Thank you sir, as one ex-grunt to another, we both know what the game is about.

“near Halloween.”

Level 8

Since: Dec 06

‘

#23 May 1, 2013
A few years ago now ... a close neighbour around
here, and valued friend by all, was struck down with stomach
cancer, sent us all into a dither, he lost
weight for a while and looked badly..

He was a REAL outdoor type, not one for sitting
Inside licking his wounds...

.......

Fast forward... 3 yrs later -last I saw of him was
up high balancing precariously on a roof top
mending a chimney pot(:

Me down below hand to mouth half in dread/half admiration
of his being up so high -no safety net!!

He has returned to 100% health,
And like Tony,
Attitude had a lot to do with his recovery.

“....VETS”

Level 9

Since: Jan 08

WELCOME HOME

#24 May 1, 2013
tony1003 wrote:
<quoted text>
Thank you sir, as one ex-grunt to another, we both know what the game is about.
to para-phrase one of your own...

This is your finest hour.' sir

Since: Feb 09

Location hidden

#25 May 1, 2013
Allure Homme DeVine wrote:
I do not presume
to grasp my sadness
when my heart is full
with what your hands
must make
before you feel this love
all on your own.
I must bow
to how long it will be
til your peace
recognizes mine
til you too weep
upon the shore
of this island,
where I wait
for everything
that awaits you,
without knowing when.
Dancing with the unseen
leaves me
waltzing with what is there
spinning in the Formless
in ways
that make me clumsy
when it comes to Form.
I trip over the feet of the mind…
step upon the toes of the known,
collapse upon the floor
of spiritual thought.
This dance is my connection
my grace, my gift
and
it is my loss, my pain
the Agony and the Ecstacy.
Tony,
Cancer is so limited...
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot reduce eternal life.
It cannot quench the Spirit.
just wondering, have u ever had cancer?
if not, then u cant really say what cancer "cannot" do to a person.
everyone deals with it in their own way, yes some may very well have a positive attitude, but normally these people are like that anyway in all aspects of life, the ones who aren't well they will deal with it in any way they can, even if it means screaming to the top of their lungs, crying, being angry at the world, then so be it.

not saying this to be mean or upset anyone, but its the truth.
kind words of encouragement, trying to sugarcoat it will only help so much.


yesterday one of my daughters students lost his battle with brain cancer. only 14 yrs old. she told me this kid was an upbeat, hard working child, the possibilities for this childs future were endless...
I know another women who is now in hospice care, 43 yrs old with breast cancer. this woman is and has been angry with all of this happening to her, and IMO rightly so, and not afraid to express her feelings..

maybe everything is about attitude, maybe not, but we all have our own ways of coping. there is No right or wrong way - IMO

so if I seem bitter and angry, then so be it, I am..

Since: Feb 09

Location hidden

#26 May 1, 2013
Tony
deal with this in any damn way u want to.
its not just survival of cancer, its survival of the mind.
whatever it takes.

take care and God bless u..

“Happy Halloween”

Level 9

Since: Mar 12

Witches Brew

#27 May 1, 2013
you are in my prayers..may God bless you..

“MEOW!”

Since: Jun 06

UK

#28 May 1, 2013
If Well Wishes would get you through this then
you are fast on the way to recovery Tony. My
understanding is that the treatment is not the
most pleasurable experience in the world, putting it mildly, but it is the start of being clear of
the cancer...so has to be worthwhile.
Thinking positive alongside you....and sending all
my very best.....

Level 9

Since: Jul 11

Location hidden

#29 May 1, 2013
I don't know you Tony but I seen how cancer does people.You are in my thought and prayers and I hope the best for you.Keep that good spirit you have.I always think,in my case,that the faith we have with our creator helps a long way...Take care....Remember people loves you for you..(((HUGS)))

“near Halloween.”

Level 8

Since: Dec 06

‘

#30 May 1, 2013
PFfff wrote:
<quoted text>
just wondering, have u ever had cancer?
if not, then u cant really say what cancer "cannot" do to a person.
everyone deals with it in their own way, yes some may very well have a positive attitude, but normally these people are like that anyway in all aspects of life, the ones who aren't well they will deal with it in any way they can, even if it means screaming to the top of their lungs, crying, being angry at the world, then so be it.
not saying this to be mean or upset anyone, but its the truth.
kind words of encouragement, trying to sugarcoat it will only help so much.
yesterday one of my daughters students lost his battle with brain cancer. only 14 yrs old. she told me this kid was an upbeat, hard working child, the possibilities for this childs future were endless...
I know another women who is now in hospice care, 43 yrs old with breast cancer. this woman is and has been angry with all of this happening to her, and IMO rightly so, and not afraid to express her feelings..
maybe everything is about attitude, maybe not, but we all have our own ways of coping. there is No right or wrong way - IMO
so if I seem bitter and angry, then so be it, I am..
I can see how one can feel bitter and angry,
And, we all have similar

positive and negative cancer associated
stories ..

BUT,

I just think here 'right now' we should
accentuate the positive for Tony's sake
(and others who may be reading here similarly affected.)

Regards, as always, PFfff

“I know where you are,”

Level 8

Since: Jun 08

Right here under my thumb

#31 May 1, 2013
tony1003 wrote:
Thanks guys - it's a long road, but have no intention of rolling over to this one.
I don't really know you Tony, but always remember you have friends here that you can always turn to for support.

P.S. Las Vegas has you at a 3:1 favorite.

:o)
Krypteia

Barrow, UK

#32 May 1, 2013
tony1003 wrote:
<quoted text>
Don't worry - we all post things on here that we shouldn't - it's part of the topix world. No offence taken, please don't give it any further thought and thank you for the generosity of your post.
iI don't care your still a Navy Cake serviceman and service and man being the operative words...Had a thought and my post is still right..lol,regards mate..

Level 7

Since: Mar 12

U.K

#33 May 1, 2013
Dear Tony,
As someone who has had several courses of chemotherapy you have my sincere empathy. I have met one person on one of the cancer forums here who described her experience of chemo as "a breeze". Although she might be in the minority I'm sure she's not alone. Hopefully, you will be one of the luckier few who don't find it too bad. I myself found it hell on earth. If you're unlucky enough to have similar please keep in mind something that was told to me at the time: As bad as it is it is only for now, 6 months, a year, 18 months, out of your life is surely worth it when it's possible the treatment will cure the cancer and you will have the rest of your life and what's just one year out of, say 80. Not knowing your details, I'm hoping you're having chemo to cure rather than simply to prolong; though if the latter then it's still, what's the relatively small amount of time out of your life when you will have so much more life to live after treatment.
Best of luck,
Hannah

Since: Feb 09

Location hidden

#34 May 1, 2013
Grace Nerissa wrote:
<quoted text>
I can see how one can feel bitter and angry,
And, we all have similar
positive and negative cancer associated
stories ..
BUT,
I just think here 'right now' we should
accentuate the positive for Tony's sake
(and others who may be reading here similarly affected.)
Regards, as always, PFfff
Grace, u know I respect u, as I do Tony. but half of those things in the "cancer cannot" list - for the most part, simply are not true and sooner or later Tony probably will agree with me on this. all kinds of emotions will be felt, no matter how strong a person one thinks he/she is.
part of being truly supportive to a person with a serious illness such as this, is being a realist for your friend or loved one.
and for men, it seems, it is much harder to open up and discuss it. even when given the opportunity to do so, they may not. like when someone ask "how are u feeling" - for the person asking this, part of them wants to know and the other part doesn't, same for the cancer patient - part of him wants to tell them and the other part doesn't.
well meaning people try to be upbeat, and tend to treat the person like a child, without of course even realizing it. which means the person can never open up even if he really wants to. and which is the reason I told Tony (over at Els kitchen) to join a support group with people who truly understand what he is going thru.

u may think im being classless and too blunt with my post, but its the truth, and in the end, Tony may appreciate my honesty and find it helpful and comforting later on..

I sincerely hope so, my intention was to help, not hurt him.

Since: Feb 09

Location hidden

#35 May 1, 2013
Dream Crystal wrote:
Dear Tony,
As someone who has had several courses of chemotherapy you have my sincere empathy. I have met one person on one of the cancer forums here who described her experience of chemo as "a breeze". Although she might be in the minority I'm sure she's not alone. Hopefully, you will be one of the luckier few who don't find it too bad. I myself found it hell on earth. If you're unlucky enough to have similar please keep in mind something that was told to me at the time: As bad as it is it is only for now, 6 months, a year, 18 months, out of your life is surely worth it when it's possible the treatment will cure the cancer and you will have the rest of your life and what's just one year out of, say 80. Not knowing your details, I'm hoping you're having chemo to cure rather than simply to prolong; though if the latter then it's still, what's the relatively small amount of time out of your life when you will have so much more life to live after treatment.
Best of luck,
Hannah
good post

:}
Krypteia

Barrow, UK

#36 May 1, 2013
PFfff wrote:
<quoted text>
Grace, u know I respect u, as I do Tony. but half of those things in the "cancer cannot" list - for the most part, simply are not true and sooner or later Tony probably will agree with me on this. all kinds of emotions will be felt, no matter how strong a person one thinks he/she is.
part of being truly supportive to a person with a serious illness such as this, is being a realist for your friend or loved one.
and for men, it seems, it is much harder to open up and discuss it. even when given the opportunity to do so, they may not. like when someone ask "how are u feeling" - for the person asking this, part of them wants to know and the other part doesn't, same for the cancer patient - part of him wants to tell them and the other part doesn't.
well meaning people try to be upbeat, and tend to treat the person like a child, without of course even realizing it. which means the person can never open up even if he really wants to. and which is the reason I told Tony (over at Els kitchen) to join a support group with people who truly understand what he is going thru.
u may think im being classless and too blunt with my post, but its the truth, and in the end, Tony may appreciate my honesty and find it helpful and comforting later on..
I sincerely hope so, my intention was to help, not hurt him.
Good post babes,Tony being ex forces will have his own way of dealing with this intrusion in his body,we have in my case being an ex squad die way he will have a navy way,I know it sounds strange but that's the way of us..It's a thing that we will not be beaten and never lie down..
Krypteia

Barrow, UK

#37 May 1, 2013
Squaddie.

Level 8

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#38 May 1, 2013
evenin mate..... I hope you are feeling a bit better..... you have mail btw....

“....VETS”

Level 9

Since: Jan 08

WELCOME HOME

#39 May 1, 2013
stacked and proud wrote:
evenin mate..... I hope you are feeling a bit better..... you have mail btw....
I do ... oooooooooooooooooooops sorry wrong mate

Since: Aug 09

Location hidden

#40 May 1, 2013
Dream Crystal wrote:
Dear Tony,
As someone who has had several courses of chemotherapy you have my sincere empathy. I have met one person on one of the cancer forums here who described her experience of chemo as "a breeze". Although she might be in the minority I'm sure she's not alone. Hopefully, you will be one of the luckier few who don't find it too bad. I myself found it hell on earth. If you're unlucky enough to have similar please keep in mind something that was told to me at the time: As bad as it is it is only for now, 6 months, a year, 18 months, out of your life is surely worth it when it's possible the treatment will cure the cancer and you will have the rest of your life and what's just one year out of, say 80. Not knowing your details, I'm hoping you're having chemo to cure rather than simply to prolong; though if the latter then it's still, what's the relatively small amount of time out of your life when you will have so much more life to live after treatment.
Best of luck,
Hannah
Very good post . I will have to agree that different chemo treatment can make it easy or tuff . My daughter was 51/2 . Did chemo and radiation . She did breeze through it . I think that she didn't have any pre conceptions or fears that mentally drag aware adults down . It was just a regular visit to the doctor to help fix her boo boo ( tumor in her head). Yes she was tired , so she slept . Never threw up or had any other side effects .

Since: Aug 09

Location hidden

#41 May 1, 2013
Forgot to address Tony . I hope you sail through this with ease .My Heart goes out to you.

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