Can Married Women Be Friends With Sin...

Can Married Women Be Friends With Single Men?

Created by Friendship on Jan 30, 2012

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ADRIAN DeVINE II

Camp Hill, Australia

#226 Jun 2, 2012
Mommyís princess, donít play rough,
Mommy, am I pretty enough?

Silver spoon, dress my part,
Diamonds cut into my heart.

Flawless clothes, make-up, and hair,
It certainly matters what you wear.

Teeth are meant for bleaching and braces,
A perfect smile will take you places.

Daddyís girl, Iíll make you tough,
Daddy, am I smart enough?

Make us happy, make us proud,
Daughter, stand above the crowd.

Bury my identity-dig the hole,
Being perfect numbs my soul.

Body image-donít eat that,
Perfect girls are not fat.

Fallacy of perfection,
Adolescent years of rejection.

Marry a man like our kind,
Gold, silver, and fancy wine.

Religious rituals-donít rebuff,
God, am I worthy enough?

Perfect woman in a mirror of confusion,
Being perfect is just an illusion.

DeVINE 2.

“WAY TO GO”

Level 8

Since: Mar 11

IRELAND

#227 Jun 2, 2012
holly wrote:
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fair enough! so we are talking only women can't be trusted! would you allow a fit younger , sexier, intelligent, man to be your friend! Women always go after strong men! And want them! Even fall in love! Why would you not! What makes you different?
His appearance is irrelevant for me because I'm a Lesbian and not interested in him on ANY level of sexuality........so, he could be young and fit or old and chubby......my interest in him would be strictly as a friend and in order to do that, he'd have to be a good person and we'd have to have things in common!!!
Gunner

Muskogee, OK

#228 Jun 2, 2012
Uscgthumper wrote:
The funny thing is that I think my husband and my BFF would get along really well but my husband doesn't want anything to do with him!
Your husband is insecure in your relationship, and you seem to enjoy making him feel that way. Spend some of that attention you spend on your friend on your husband, and he might not dislike him so bad.
holly

Australia

#229 Jun 2, 2012
RnL2008 wrote:
<quoted text>His appearance is irrelevant for me because I'm a Lesbian and not interested in him on ANY level of sexuality........so, he could be young and fit or old and chubby......my interest in him would be strictly as a friend and in order to do that, he'd have to be a good person and we'd have to have things in common!!!

Lesbian or not! And you use the word asinine? What makes lesbian any different? And you think your partner never looks or thinks! And in your case of another beautiful young lady! O silly me you lesbian! Your so different to any other person in a relationship!! Lesbian don't have affairs! Who are you kidding?

Level 8

Since: Sep 08

~ I See A Rainbow! ~

#230 Jun 2, 2012
RnL2008 wrote:
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Sure, you know how to reach me.......take care:-)
Hi RnL2008......Nice to see you again,,,and YES,,i certainly know how I can reach you,,Thanks for understanding me....I certainly will....get in touch,a few things on my mind to discuss.....

“So it's not you, It's them?”

Level 9

Since: Jun 11

Location hidden

#231 Jun 2, 2012
Gunner wrote:
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Your husband is insecure in your relationship, and you seem to enjoy making him feel that way. Spend some of that attention you spend on your friend on your husband, and he might not dislike him so bad.
Since neither you nor I know the nature of the prior "problems" that the poster and her spouse had (and therefore which of them caused the problems), I'd tend to not assume whether and or even why her husband was insecure.

If his actions caused the problems, he might deservedly be insecure. I think I see where you're headed with this, that her friendship is causing her spouse to be insecure, maybe even to feel cuckoled. Only she'd know that.

It can take a long time for hurts inflicted to heal. You don't seem to know that, so I'd guess you're not in the psychiatric care field. If usc wants to share more she will, if not, I intend to try to not assume anything.

“WAY TO GO”

Level 8

Since: Mar 11

IRELAND

#232 Jun 2, 2012
holly wrote:
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Lesbian or not! And you use the word asinine? What makes lesbian any different? And you think your partner never looks or thinks! And in your case of another beautiful young lady! O silly me you lesbian! Your so different to any other person in a relationship!! Lesbian don't have affairs! Who are you kidding?
I know that my WIFE does NOT look at men or think of men in a sexual manner.....and of COURSE Lesbians can have affairs.....BUT USUALLY with OTHER WOMEN......if they had thoughts of men in a sexual manner....THEY'D be BISEXUAL!!!

Hope you have a good day:-)
holly

Australia

#233 Jun 2, 2012
RnL2008 wrote:
<quoted text>I know that my WIFE does NOT look at men or think of men in a sexual manner.....and of COURSE Lesbians can have affairs.....BUT USUALLY with OTHER WOMEN......if they had thoughts of men in a sexual manner....THEY'D be BISEXUAL!!!

Hope you have a good day:-)
That's what I'm saying, in your lesbian relationship you have the same issues! Your telling me that your wife does not check out other women! Or other women don't think you or your wife are hot? Thinks happen just from that thought! Please don't get me wrong I'm not Judging you or attacking you! I don't think it's safe sometimes for a married women to have single male friends, or in your case female friends! You have to trust the soul for the answers??? Sometimes it's not safe!
Your wife is lucky to have someone like you. Xox you have a good day too! I'm like you, I trust my wife! ;)
THE LOVE MACHINE

Camp Hill, Australia

#234 Jun 2, 2012
Strolling through your teargarden
tonight, I strike a match, light
a cigarette.

The sherry
so sweet on my lips.

But I've tangled
my head in a spiderweb again.

And the spider crawling around
my hair: thoughts
of you.

Among fallen leaves, damp leaves
like dead stars strewn
about the grass.

"I don't know what I want
anymore..." I kick through the grass,
take a drag.

Nights
in your teargarden, and remembering
the old days.

And you and me, moving
into each other.

San Francisco at the turn
of the century.

A silent film,
reeling away.

Following you
up and down
all those cold steep streets, my cannibal
courage.

And the old days,
which even these
will be.

All the nights
in your teargarden, and the sherry
so sweet.

LoMac.
Laura Beffy

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#235 Jun 2, 2012
Assdrain..... This is not a poetry thread for you to post your stolen poems from other real poets . STFU

“smile and have fun!”

Level 4

Since: Oct 11

Location hidden

#236 Jun 2, 2012
Gunner wrote:
<quoted text>Your husband is insecure in your relationship, and you seem to enjoy making him feel that way. Spend some of that attention you spend on your friend on your husband, and he might not dislike him so bad.
Well, you really don't know me or my husband or our relationship. My husband disliked my BFF long before we ever started dating! I gave up my BFF for 10 years for my husband!!

“smile and have fun!”

Level 4

Since: Oct 11

Location hidden

#237 Jun 2, 2012
Chilli J wrote:
<quoted text>Since neither you nor I know the nature of the prior "problems" that the poster and her spouse had (and therefore which of them caused the problems), I'd tend to not assume whether and or even why her husband was insecure.

If his actions caused the problems, he might deservedly be insecure. I think I see where you're headed with this, that her friendship is causing her spouse to be insecure, maybe even to feel cuckoled. Only she'd know that.

It can take a long time for hurts inflicted to heal. You don't seem to know that, so I'd guess you're not in the psychiatric care field. If usc wants to share more she will, if not, I intend to try to not assume anything.
Thank you for your defense!

“WAY TO GO”

Level 8

Since: Mar 11

IRELAND

#238 Jun 2, 2012
holly wrote:
<quoted text>
That's what I'm saying, in your lesbian relationship you have the same issues! Your telling me that your wife does not check out other women! Or other women don't think you or your wife are hot? Thinks happen just from that thought! Please don't get me wrong I'm not Judging you or attacking you! I don't think it's safe sometimes for a married women to have single male friends, or in your case female friends! You have to trust the soul for the answers??? Sometimes it's not safe!
Your wife is lucky to have someone like you. Xox you have a good day too! I'm like you, I trust my wife! ;)
You really don't get this, do you? People will be people....that is true.....and for the most part Lesbians look at women and check them out......but NOT all Lesbians look at pretty women.......and my wife is one of those woman who is quite happy with what she has and is not interested in stepping out on her marital vows.....sorry, I know that it's not what ya want to hear(or read in this case), but it is true......and I'm married, not dead......but there is a difference between looking and getting one's fingers broken for touching......I'm not interested in touching......lol!!!

My apologies if I came off a little abrasive.....I get your point.....and yes, we are both very lucky to have each other and we have very similar beliefs in regards to marriage and monogamy:-)
Gunner

Muskogee, OK

#239 Jun 2, 2012
Chilli J wrote:
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Since neither you nor I know the nature of the prior "problems" that the poster and her spouse had (and therefore which of them caused the problems), I'd tend to not assume whether and or even why her husband was insecure.
If his actions caused the problems, he might deservedly be insecure. I think I see where you're headed with this, that her friendship is causing her spouse to be insecure, maybe even to feel cuckoled. Only she'd know that.
It can take a long time for hurts inflicted to heal. You don't seem to know that, so I'd guess you're not in the psychiatric care field. If usc wants to share more she will, if not, I intend to try to not assume anything.
I never asked you. If you don't assume anything, why are you assuming what field I'm in, or what I know about inflicted hurts? If you think I'm not in the mental health field, you would be 100% wrong. I didn't ask her to share more. Now mind your business about my posts that don't concern you.
Gunner

Muskogee, OK

#240 Jun 2, 2012
Uscgthumper wrote:
<quoted text>
Well, you really don't know me or my husband or our relationship. My husband disliked my BFF long before we ever started dating! I gave up my BFF for 10 years for my husband!!
No, but if you put your relationship out for everyone to read, wouldn't it be natural for someone to comment on it? Did you not expect that? You people on these forums lay it all out, but expect no reaction to what you say. Public forum, guess I can throw out my opinion if I like. If you don't like it, I don't give a ####.
Gunner

Muskogee, OK

#241 Jun 2, 2012
RnL2008 wrote:
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You really don't get this, do you? People will be people....that is true.....and for the most part Lesbians look at women and check them out......but NOT all Lesbians look at pretty women.......and my wife is one of those woman who is quite happy with what she has and is not interested in stepping out on her marital vows.....sorry, I know that it's not what ya want to hear(or read in this case), but it is true......and I'm married, not dead......but there is a difference between looking and getting one's fingers broken for touching......I'm not interested in touching......lol!!!
My apologies if I came off a little abrasive.....I get your point.....and yes, we are both very lucky to have each other and we have very similar beliefs in regards to marriage and monogamy:-)
Looking at something pretty does not always make one long for it. One can look at a beautiful garden or a beautiful painting, enjoy the pleasure of the glance, then move on. It's human nature. I'm glad you have a good relationship. I hope it continues.

“So it's not you, It's them?”

Level 9

Since: Jun 11

Location hidden

#242 Jun 2, 2012
Gunner wrote:
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I never asked you. If you don't assume anything, why are you assuming what field I'm in, or what I know about inflicted hurts? If you think I'm not in the mental health field, you would be 100% wrong. I didn't ask her to share more. Now mind your business about my posts that don't concern you.
Gunner wrote:
<quoted text>
No, but if you put your relationship out for everyone to read, wouldn't it be natural for someone to comment on it? Did you not expect that? You people on these forums lay it all out, but expect no reaction to what you say. Public forum, guess I can throw out my opinion if I like. If you don't like it, I don't give a ####.
So you reply to another poster, but another guy can't reply to you on this public forum? You're just one big walking contraction, aren't you, hypocritical guy? Does that double standard even make sense to you? You can expect me to reply to any post I choose to on this public forum. You're in the mental health field? Sure you are...
Gunner

Muskogee, OK

#243 Jun 2, 2012
Chilli J wrote:
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So you reply to another poster, but another guy can't reply to you on this public forum? You're just one big walking contraction, aren't you, hypocritical guy? Does that double standard even make sense to you? You can expect me to reply to any post I choose to on this public forum. You're in the mental health field? Sure you are...
No. I think the word you're looking for is "contradiction", not "contraction". Unless you think I'm in labor. Yes. Whatever. Don't believe it? I don't give a ####. First, get a handle on the English language, then you can try to berate me. Just as you do, I can say what I please. Buh bye.

“WAY TO GO”

Level 8

Since: Mar 11

IRELAND

#244 Jun 2, 2012
Gunner wrote:
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Looking at something pretty does not always make one long for it. One can look at a beautiful garden or a beautiful painting, enjoy the pleasure of the glance, then move on. It's human nature. I'm glad you have a good relationship. I hope it continues.
Yes, I would agree with you.....and thank you for the compliment......trust me.....it will certainly continue:-)

“So it's not you, It's them?”

Level 9

Since: Jun 11

Location hidden

#246 Jun 3, 2012
Gunner wrote:
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No. I think the word you're looking for is "contradiction", not "contraction". Unless you think I'm in labor. Yes. Whatever. Don't believe it? I don't give a ####. First, get a handle on the English language, then you can try to berate me. Just as you do, I can say what I please. Buh bye.
Yes, thanks for confirming that you're a walking contradiction and a hypocrite. Darn spell check, huh? Contraction, contradiction, you don't have the logical high ground on this issue. I'm genuinely sorry for your patients, mental health care provider. Being treated by an apparently angry, clueless, judgmental hypocrite must be really tough on them.

My handle on the English language is ordinarily just fine. Thanks for your concern. Your "Do what I say, not what I do" argument isn't readily accepted by adult reasoning folks. You don't seem to be one of them. Berate you? Wah! Hahaha! What a fragile little ego you have. Again, why can you reply to others' posts and I can't? Don't hurry, I'll wait...

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