'suspended between two worlds but
belonging to neither'
No way to 'live'
I agree....no way to live at all. Still sad to lose
them but a blessed relief for those concerned.
I was thinking on what you said Grace, on you learnt a lot
althopugh words were not spoken. I was rattling my brains
as to what I learnt from my own experience with seeing my friend,
once so vital and with such a sense of humour, hard working,
reduced to not knowing who I was...
and I couldn't think of anything I learnt, except to attempt to
keep my mind sharp as possible...
I already had compassion...didn't learn that from this one experience...
Sadness...got that too
After I'd visit her on a frosty night on my way to
The car when all the stars were out
But I could feel the bitter cold,
She taught me not to complain,
But to appreciate the fact that I could see them.
In her earlier stages of Alzheimer's ..
when trying to explain something and when
She became befuddled, she taught me ..
How I took communication on an minute by minute basis,
When alone in a room full of her friends and relatives,
yet not recognising ANY of them
She taught me what I had taken for granted..
Friends there, and yes,
All one had to do was join in-
But, alas, not always so simple;
plus a myriad of other things I took for granted,
She silently pulled me up
And MADE ME THINK,
Since she and I ..
during our times together, couldn't converse,
I had all the time in the world ..when sitting by her
to observe, ie, times when she would pull out a feeble hand
Out from under the bedclothes
and direct it to her face, yet never reaching the face,
she would withdraw her hand again, I remember thinking,
'Maybe a simple thing like her nose..was itchy'
but she couldn't scratch it!
I had never thought of that before,
but I knew now, because she taught me..
She gave me, by her teaching, an appreciation
of what it is like to 'live' every day..
not merely to exist in a
No man's land..like she had to do,
And because of it I have an extra sense
of being alive..
Strange that such a frail old lady,
Altho' lost in a forest of confusion,
had these hidden powers to affect
others, in a silent way..
and for the good...
I am very glad I knew her.