True Love--What every Gal wants...
Ami in Miami

Miami, FL

#63 Dec 11, 2013
If..he is unwilling to do that...then..it is not True Love.

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#64 Dec 11, 2013
Ami in Miami wrote:
If..he is unwilling to do that...then..it is not True Love.
If..he is willing to do that...then wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva...



:)
God

Huntington, NY

#65 Dec 12, 2013
sacrifice wrote:
To achieve true love, all you need to do is sacrifice yourself to your man.
You are 100% correct my son.
razz58

Flossmoor, IL

#66 Dec 12, 2013
Ami in Miami wrote:
Everything returned, in kind, that I give him.
Do you give him.......

Love, Honesty, Devotion, Commitment...sex when you 'both' want it.
Is it actually 'fun' to share the chores?
Do you finish each other's sentences.
Do you joke about a poorly cooked/prepared meal?
Share the same interest?
Feel secure in your relationship?
Have you grown together?

When not together....Do you think about each other at different times of the day?....every day......no matter how long you've been in your relationship.

This could be some of what True Love is all about...

Now

Where to find it.
Ami in Miami

Miami, FL

#67 Dec 12, 2013
razz58 wrote:
<quoted text> Do you give him.......
Love, Honesty, Devotion, Commitment...sex when you 'both' want it.
Is it actually 'fun' to share the chores?
Do you finish each other's sentences.
Do you joke about a poorly cooked/prepared meal?
Share the same interest?
Feel secure in your relationship?
Have you grown together?
When not together....Do you think about each other at different times of the day?....every day......no matter how long you've been in your relationship.
This could be some of what True Love is all about...
Now
Where to find it.
Now
Where to find it.

You forgot your question mark.
Flid

Huntington, NY

#68 Dec 12, 2013
Every gal wants DILF, or a guy like him.

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#69 Dec 12, 2013
Sometime in your life you think you found true love then you find out different...Afraid to love again.
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Since: Apr 13

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#73 Dec 13, 2013
All love is true love, otherwise it isn't really love.

FTW Yall

“"Trust no one"”

Level 1

Since: Jul 13

Drive it, like you stole it

#74 Dec 13, 2013
The idea of "true love" is a modern invention and a myth. Love is a choice. We choose to love or not love someone. What people imagine what love is these days is little more than the romanticised fantasies of medieval troubadours used to comfort and entertain the elite royalty of their day. True love is this romantic mythology being rehashed for the public zeitgeist by Victorian idealists. It is really a gross misunderstanding of love and also something that truly trivializes what love really encompasses. There is no falling into or out of love. You choose to love someone from the start and choose to stop loving someone when it is over. The whole idea of love at first sight or true love or (my personal favorite joke of love) this person completes me is just codependency and infatuation being mislabeled as love. It is a mockery of love.

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#75 Dec 13, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
The idea of "true love" is a modern invention and a myth. Love is a choice. We choose to love or not love someone. What people imagine what love is these days is little more than the romanticised fantasies of medieval troubadours used to comfort and entertain the elite royalty of their day. True love is this romantic mythology being rehashed for the public zeitgeist by Victorian idealists. It is really a gross misunderstanding of love and also something that truly trivializes what love really encompasses. There is no falling into or out of love. You choose to love someone from the start and choose to stop loving someone when it is over. The whole idea of love at first sight or true love or (my personal favorite joke of love) this person completes me is just codependency and infatuation being mislabeled as love. It is a mockery of love.
Wrong.

It's so not a choice or a decision. You can't make yourself love someone romantically. You also can't help it if you do. The heart has a mind of its own. I know. I've experienced it. It often times doesn't have a rhyme or reason. I dated many attractive girls, who were nice and sweet and intelligent ... had a lot of the traits I like in women and other men do too, but it just wasn't there for whatever reason. There was nothing I could do to choose to love them (I tried with one girl, broke up with her ... felt bad and really wanted it to work ... wanted to love her, tried to date her again shortly thereafter, only to break up with her again shortly thereafter and make her cry again ... for no reason that it just wasn't there ... she didn't do anything wrong and was a nice girl and pretty cute ... she probably thought I was a jerk (she's facebook friends with my wife, lol ... not me, lol)). It wasn't there.

Perhaps not everyone is lucky enough to experience and perhaps you are such a person.

Sounds to me like you think love is settling. You can choose to settle. It's a form of love, but it's not true love. Settling is what some folks do when they aren't lucky enough to find one of the folks (and I believe there are many, but there are so many people it can be hard to find one of them and even if you do, perhaps timing isn't right for one or both of you) on the planet who they could fall in love with/have it reciprocated and they just want to be with someone. You can love the person you settle for, but it's not true love.

“I'll just kick me down a wall,”

Level 6

Since: Dec 11

And walk outa here!

#76 Dec 13, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
The idea of "true love" is a modern invention and a myth. Love is a choice. We choose to love or not love someone. What people imagine what love is these days is little more than the romanticised fantasies of medieval troubadours used to comfort and entertain the elite royalty of their day. True love is this romantic mythology being rehashed for the public zeitgeist by Victorian idealists. It is really a gross misunderstanding of love and also something that truly trivializes what love really encompasses. There is no falling into or out of love. You choose to love someone from the start and choose to stop loving someone when it is over. The whole idea of love at first sight or true love or (my personal favorite joke of love) this person completes me is just codependency and infatuation being mislabeled as love. It is a mockery of love.
you sound lonely
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Since: Apr 13

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#77 Dec 13, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
The idea of "true love" is a modern invention and a myth. Love is a choice. We choose to love or not love someone. What people imagine what love is these days is little more than the romanticised fantasies of medieval troubadours used to comfort and entertain the elite royalty of their day. True love is this romantic mythology being rehashed for the public zeitgeist by Victorian idealists. It is really a gross misunderstanding of love and also something that truly trivializes what love really encompasses. There is no falling into or out of love. You choose to love someone from the start and choose to stop loving someone when it is over. The whole idea of love at first sight or true love or (my personal favorite joke of love) this person completes me is just codependency and infatuation being mislabeled as love. It is a mockery of love.
Well, every single person that hears "I love you" from me, hears it from someone that truthfully means it. I'm sorry that you feel the way that you do, but I feel like truth and love go hand in hand. I do think that people that say "Oh, I just love everyone" are interesting. That's sweet of them, but I don't get it. I don't love easily, but when I do it's truth.

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“"Trust no one"”

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Since: Jul 13

Drive it, like you stole it

#78 Dec 13, 2013
liam cul8r wrote:
<quoted text>you sound lonely
Not at all. Quite the opposite. I don't let others be my source of happiness. I create it myself. Depending on another person for happiness and fulfillment is not love it is dependency. Having someone complete you is not love either. Other people cannot do these things and any feelings they do are just illusions.

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#79 Dec 13, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
<quoted text>Not at all. Quite the opposite. I don't let others be my source of happiness. I create it myself. Depending on another person for happiness and fulfillment is not love it is dependency. Having someone complete you is not love either. Other people cannot do these things and any feelings they do are just illusions.
Just because you have true love with someone, doesn't mean you depend on them for happiness and fulfillment. You can be very happy before you meet your true love. In such a situation, they will enhance and already existing happiness.

I don't like the term "you complete me." My attitude is "complete yourself." You shouldn't depend on another for your happiness. So, it's not synonymous with dependency.
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#80 Dec 13, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
Just because you have true love with someone, doesn't mean you depend on them for happiness and fulfillment. You can be very happy before you meet your true love. In such a situation, they will enhance and already existing happiness.
I don't like the term "you complete me." My attitude is "complete yourself." You shouldn't depend on another for your happiness. So, it's not synonymous with dependency.
PROPS!
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#81 Dec 13, 2013
Proud To Be Trina wrote:
<quoted text>
PROPS!
Ditto.
Ami in Miami

Miami, FL

#82 Dec 13, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
Just because you have true love with someone, doesn't mean you depend on them for happiness and fulfillment. You can be very happy before you meet your true love. In such a situation, they will enhance and already existing happiness.
I don't like the term "you complete me." My attitude is "complete yourself." You shouldn't depend on another for your happiness. So, it's not synonymous with dependency.
TWO THUMBS DOWN
Ami in Miami

Miami, FL

#83 Dec 13, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
Just because you have true love with someone, doesn't mean you depend on them for happiness and fulfillment. You can be very happy before you meet your true love. In such a situation, they will enhance and already existing happiness.
I don't like the term "you complete me." My attitude is "complete yourself." You shouldn't depend on another for your happiness. So, it's not synonymous with dependency.
Your "attititide" about "True Love" comes off like a boring amateurish Power Point presentation and is most defiantly not what every Gal wants.
Ami in Miami

Miami, FL

#84 Dec 13, 2013
SimplyLoveYou wrote:
<quoted text> Ditto.
Oh, how Romantic, PROPS and Ditto.

FTW Yall

“"Trust no one"”

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Drive it, like you stole it

#85 Dec 13, 2013
Proud To Be Trina wrote:
<quoted text>
Well, every single person that hears "I love you" from me, hears it from someone that truthfully means it. I'm sorry that you feel the way that you do, but I feel like truth and love go hand in hand. I do think that people that say "Oh, I just love everyone" are interesting. That's sweet of them, but I don't get it. I don't love easily, but when I do it's truth.
I agree with you. You're missing my point. Love is love and that is it. There is no "true love" only love and we choose to love someone. What people call "true love" is infatuation and obsession neither of which has anything to do with actual love.

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