"Moms and Grandmas Chat Room!!"

"Moms and Grandmas Chat Room!!"

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“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#1 Aug 14, 2007
Good morning ladies! I thought that it would be nice for us to have a place to talk, exchange recipes, talk about problems with our children or grandchildren. We could talk about how great our kids are. Chat about everyday things.

I will go first. Most of y'all know that I have been raising Cody since he was born. His dad has been in his life for a year. Cody spends weekends with him. the problem is, when Cody comes back he has a bad attitude. His dad lets him do anything that he wants to. Does anyone have any advice on how I can get control back, when he comes home?

“Maytime”

Level 8

Since: Dec 06

#2 Aug 14, 2007
Good idea, La Sunshine, its difficult to generalise but I would say if his Dad has only been
in his life a year, there are a few things I can see..
His Dad being in his life is a new and important happening with Cody, unknownst to you or others, and with divided loyalties, he could
be 'getting used' to having him around and because he is slightly stressed in ways, it could be coming out as 'bad behaviour'..
Whilst his Dad, in giving in to him, seems to be trying to please him..

It is very new (and important)territory and will have a 'settling in' period.. I would play for time and, if you can, it would also be advisable {IF POSSOBLE]
to talk to the Dad when Cody is not around.. with a view to reaching a compromise and all the time working and aiming at making things better for Cody.. Whatever your role Sandy and you've been very good to him, BUT the role of the father will always be a huge influence in his life,for all his life, simply because he IS the father... therefore... I would work steadily, patiently and peacefully behind the scenes to help nuture this relationship and help make it blossom..

Since: Apr 06

Handsacre

#3 Aug 14, 2007
Excuse me ladies but I could not resist a peek, and having peeked could not resist a commen. Tell me to but out if you like but I am a Grandad ( Poppa to the grandkids) 3 of them all boys ranging from 1 to 5 years (almost) old. I also love recipes as cooking is my favourite hobby, so can I stick my nose in just a little bit? LA if my recollection is correct Cody is quite the young man now, and as young men get older they start to have feelings that are very different than their mums or grandmas. Not different in a bad way but in a amale way. One of my grandsons is brought up by his Mum, his father is a useless article, whose own father was a waste of space as well. Not in a material way as both were /are succesful businessmen but they are so full of themselves no woman could live with them. Fortunately there are still male figuresin his world who love and care for him. I had 2 girls and now get the chance to do " boys" things and I Love it. Grace is correct when she says you need to speak to his Dad so you both sing from the same hymmn sheet on things that matter like manners discipline and attitude. But a boy needs to play footbll, talk a bit dirty nopw and then have a sly drink of beer sneak a peek at girlie mags, be untidy not wash occasionally try shaving watch a sports show and relax in a masculine way. Like girls need their friends makeover nights sleepovers make up experiments etc. Cody sounds like a good kid who loves you to bits, don't cut the apron strings but untie them a little and let him find his way in life , he will always |LoVE you !- promise !

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#4 Aug 14, 2007
StevefromUK wrote:
Excuse me ladies but I could not resist a peek, and having peeked could not resist a commen. Tell me to but out if you like but I am a Grandad ( Poppa to the grandkids) 3 of them all boys ranging from 1 to 5 years (almost) old. I also love recipes as cooking is my favourite hobby, so can I stick my nose in just a little bit? LA if my recollection is correct Cody is quite the young man now, and as young men get older they start to have feelings that are very different than their mums or grandmas. Not different in a bad way but in a amale way. One of my grandsons is brought up by his Mum, his father is a useless article, whose own father was a waste of space as well. Not in a material way as both were /are succesful businessmen but they are so full of themselves no woman could live with them. Fortunately there are still male figuresin his world who love and care for him. I had 2 girls and now get the chance to do " boys" things and I Love it. Grace is correct when she says you need to speak to his Dad so you both sing from the same hymmn sheet on things that matter like manners discipline and attitude. But a boy needs to play footbll, talk a bit dirty nopw and then have a sly drink of beer sneak a peek at girlie mags, be untidy not wash occasionally try shaving watch a sports show and relax in a masculine way. Like girls need their friends makeover nights sleepovers make up experiments etc. Cody sounds like a good kid who loves you to bits, don't cut the apron strings but untie them a little and let him find his way in life , he will always |LoVE you !- promise !
Thank you Steve for peeking in. I'm soooooo glad that you stayed. It means alot to me that you took the time to speak to me about this. Cody will be twelve next month, going into the 6th grade. I will do what you and Grace suggested. You both gave me some great advice. I will talk to Codys dad soon. With school starting, things are gonna have to change. Hopefully for the better. Thank you Steve and Grace!!

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#5 Aug 14, 2007
Grace Nerissa wrote:
Good idea, La Sunshine, its difficult to generalise but I would say if his Dad has only been
in his life a year, there are a few things I can see..
His Dad being in his life is a new and important happening with Cody, unknownst to you or others, and with divided loyalties, he could
be 'getting used' to having him around and because he is slightly stressed in ways, it could be coming out as 'bad behaviour'..
Whilst his Dad, in giving in to him, seems to be trying to please him..
It is very new (and important)territory and will have a 'settling in' period.. I would play for time and, if you can, it would also be advisable {IF POSSOBLE]
to talk to the Dad when Cody is not around.. with a view to reaching a compromise and all the time working and aiming at making things better for Cody.. Whatever your role Sandy and you've been very good to him, BUT the role of the father will always be a huge influence in his life,for all his life, simply because he IS the father... therefore... I would work steadily, patiently and peacefully behind the scenes to help nuture this relationship and help make it blossom..
Thank you Grace. This is some wonderful advice. It is so hard to get Cody back on the right track after he has spent the weekend with his dad. I will talk with Codys dad. With school starting, Codys dad and I need to be on the same page. Thanks again!!

“I have a problem, it's me!”

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#6 Aug 14, 2007
Here's something all you grandmas and grandpas will enjoy ...
http://www.app.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article...

“Our Grand daughter”

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Since: Sep 06

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#7 Aug 14, 2007
I am a mom...

“Our Grand daughter”

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#8 Aug 16, 2007
Hello there, my company will be leaving tonight or either tomorrow. I have noticed with my teens that they love to show themselves when Melissa is here. Always have. We went to court Tuesday, I slept all day yesterday because of the swelling around my heart.
Got up at noon today, showered and met Melissa and her boyfriend at the Chinese place for lunch at 1. Get home and had reformated my computer while we were out and checked the Topix site. What do I find? Someone pretending to be me, they ain't!
I checked my mail before I read topix because my aunt has cancer surgery yesterday and my brother-in-law had surgery on his shoulder Monday and I had amil from them. Then saw where someone accused me ot trolling Jennifer Watts. I am ready to forget everyone here on topix and just stay in touch with you by e-mail and phone. I am too old for the games and stupid shit that goes on here day in and day out. I love you Sunnyshine..Mo4

Vee

“Man Of Every Hour”

Since: Dec 06

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#9 Aug 19, 2007
Hey Sandy, I never stopped by because I am NOT a mom and I am not a grandma so I sort of felt left out of the picture. I can t join in the discussions here. Enjoy the banter!!!!!!!!!!
Issabelle

AOL

#10 Oct 15, 2007
http://www.1childatatime.net

Please look at this link. This is a great way to give back. And you have never seen beauty until you see a foster child recieve something made especially for them.

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#11 Oct 28, 2007
Today is trick or treating for the township that I live in. Its 3-5. The trustees decided. I remember when I was growing up and went as a kid, it was early evening and dark outside. Cody is excited.

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#12 Oct 28, 2007
Issabelle wrote:
http://www.1childatatime.net
Please look at this link. This is a great way to give back. And you have never seen beauty until you see a foster child recieve something made especially for them.
Thank you for the link. It was very touching. I am going to spend more time reading about.
really serious

Sewell, NJ

#13 Oct 28, 2007
Hey Sunshine,
this is the first time ive seen this one.

but....
let me tell u all about my grandaughter.
LOL
:)

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#14 Oct 28, 2007
really serious wrote:
Hey Sunshine,
this is the first time ive seen this one.
but....
let me tell u all about my grandaughter.
LOL
:)
Hi RS. I made this thread awhile back and then I let it go. I decided to bring it back up. Please....tell me all about your granddaughter.
really serious

Sewell, NJ

#15 Oct 28, 2007
La Sunshine wrote:
<quoted text>Hi RS. I made this thread awhile back and then I let it go. I decided to bring it back up. Please....tell me all about your granddaughter.
how many words can a computer hold??
ha ha
and how much can ur ears hold.
:)
(my daughter has decided to make her a football player for halloween, because of the helmet of course - she looks so cute in it, but boy does she sweat in it)
later gator

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#16 Oct 28, 2007
really serious wrote:
<quoted text>
how many words can a computer hold??
ha ha
and how much can ur ears hold.
:)
(my daughter has decided to make her a football player for halloween, because of the helmet of course - she looks so cute in it, but boy does she sweat in it)
later gator
Later gator!
really serious

Sewell, NJ

#17 Oct 28, 2007
La Sunshine wrote:
<quoted text>Later gator!
is that ur way of saying u dont want to hear about my grandaughter???
ha ha ha
>wink<
i'll get u later. lol

“Spring is here, ”

Level 7

Since: Sep 06

next comes summer! Yippee!!

#18 Oct 28, 2007
really serious wrote:
<quoted text>
is that ur way of saying u dont want to hear about my grandaughter???
ha ha ha
>wink<
i'll get u later. lol
Noooooo. I have to get off the computer and give out candy. I'll check back when I'm done. Later gator!!
really serious

Sewell, NJ

#19 Oct 28, 2007
La Sunshine wrote:
<quoted text>Noooooo. I have to get off the computer and give out candy. I'll check back when I'm done. Later gator!!
Candy??
halloween is not until wed. what do they celebrate it tonite?
i know we start giving it out at 3 in the afternoon, but thats not until halloween nite.

have fun!!
:)

“pessimistically optimistic”

Level 1

Since: Jun 07

Detroit MI

#20 Oct 28, 2007
That's crazy! Halloween tonight. I'm glad I don't have to do that. I'm not ready.

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