Vick Torre

Paterson, NJ

#1824 Mar 23, 2013
honeymylove wrote:
I know how it feels to care for someone and be treated bad.This has happened to me so many times.I say I will never do this again..
Family uses family as well.As long as you do for them they will talk with you but soon as you stop no more to do with you and talk bad about you..I've learned I'm better off without them or anyone who I see try to use me.I am gonna enjoy my life the best I can and you do the same.Enjoy your life..
Sad that family can be worse treatment than from strangers. I try to enjoy my life and move on without them. You seem to have gotten the same lousy deal. I learned that family is of connections, not shared genes. Morally speaking.

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#1825 Mar 23, 2013
If the family is selfish you make a new family of friends and take care of each other.
Please make sure you don't disrespect the caring one in your family. Don't tar them all with the same brush.
Vick Torre

Paterson, NJ

#1826 Mar 23, 2013
Humhainna wrote:
If the family is selfish you make a new family of friends and take care of each other.
Please make sure you don't disrespect the caring one in your family. Don't tar them all with the same brush.
I sent last week an anniversay card with money last week. Earlier this month a birthday card with money. I spent thanksgiving,christmas,my birthday, new years alone. Not one responce. When our mother died my older brother took me to the services. While there and seeing our mother shoved into the cremation oven,no one comforted me while they gathered. Don't know why I'm shunned. They know where I am. My phone number. So I go on alone and what people I have don't see much. Mainly my neighbor who suffers from depression/aniexity the other is 88 snd constantly repeats his life history while forgetting recent conversations. The other is an alcoholic. One young man is too busy for me anymore just a few short visits who I use to mentor. When my neighbor is in my home she also stays on 3subjects. Her former job, her daughters not talking to her, Tv reality shows. Very few left in the neigjborhood to socialize with. Most are section 8s and deal with drug sales in this neighborhood. That's another issue too long to get into. In my 20s-30s life was much better,had many friends.

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Since: Apr 12

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#1827 Mar 24, 2013
Vick Torre wrote:
<quoted text> I sent last week an anniversay card with money last week. Earlier this month a birthday card with money. I spent thanksgiving,christmas,my birthday, new years alone. Not one responce. When our mother died my older brother took me to the services. While there and seeing our mother shoved into the cremation oven,no one comforted me while they gathered. Don't know why I'm shunned. They know where I am. My phone number. So I go on alone and what people I have don't see much. Mainly my neighbor who suffers from depression/aniexity the other is 88 snd constantly repeats his life history while forgetting recent conversations. The other is an alcoholic. One young man is too busy for me anymore just a few short visits who I use to mentor. When my neighbor is in my home she also stays on 3subjects. Her former job, her daughters not talking to her, Tv reality shows. Very few left in the neigjborhood to socialize with. Most are section 8s and deal with drug sales in this neighborhood. That's another issue too long to get into. In my 20s-30s life was much better,had many friends.
Please don't feel down hearted. I am sorry that you feel shunned. Don't show them you feel this way. Be strong from inside. Seek comfort from within. Just send cards if you can't afford money. Make your friends your family.
If anything annoying you don't keep it in and talk to your special friend who can keep your secrets. If your 20's and 30's were better you will know how to make your golden years better. Smile.
humhainna

Ipswich, UK

#1828 Mar 24, 2013
Vick Torre wrote:
<quoted text> I sent last week an anniversay card with money last week. Earlier this month a birthday card with money. I spent thanksgiving,christmas,my birthday, new years alone. Not one responce. When our mother died my older brother took me to the services. While there and seeing our mother shoved into the cremation oven,no one comforted me while they gathered. Don't know why I'm shunned. They know where I am. My phone number. So I go on alone and what people I have don't see much. Mainly my neighbor who suffers from depression/aniexity the other is 88 snd constantly repeats his life history while forgetting recent conversations. The other is an alcoholic. One young man is too busy for me anymore just a few short visits who I use to mentor. When my neighbor is in my home she also stays on 3subjects. Her former job, her daughters not talking to her, Tv reality shows. Very few left in the neigjborhood to socialize with. Most are section 8s and deal with drug sales in this neighborhood. That's another issue too long to get into. In my 20s-30s life was much better,had many friends.
Please down fee down hearted. We are all your friends here. You are not alone. If your 20's and 30's were better you can make your golden years better. You don't need them they need you.

“To Make Someone Happy..:o)”

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Since: Mar 12

That's P.H..(Hugs)

#1829 Mar 24, 2013
if you need a friend Im here..just click the button..Im a good listener..and true friend as well..God loves you thats all you need..he never leaves you..stands closer than a brother..talk to him he is always there..have an awesome day..:O)
Vick Torre

Paterson, NJ

#1830 Mar 24, 2013
humhainna wrote:
<quoted text>
Please down fee down hearted. We are all your friends here. You are not alone. If your 20's and 30's were better you can make your golden years better. You don't need them they need you.
I don't want to be a downer for this forum. I don't want to unload problems to those here. I'll be out of a home by june. Mostly just stating my position for sake of conversation/subjects and knowing me. Golden years unlikly to happen. Only S.S. I been on since age 46. So nothing else into S.S. for any retirement. So I thought maybe somone else here in similar situation. Going to rhuematologist tuesday-a monthly appt. Have trouble with some leg swelling and feel like lead weights even after a nights sleep. Helping that senior has taken a toll on me. Did'nt go to his home 3 days. Does have a relative on weekends. Besides osteoarthritis the other 2 ailments-neuropathy+raynauds affect nervous system. Bursitis and G.E.R.D. reflux also. Been up 3hrs and feels like I worked hard all day! How about you or anyone you know with same things?

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Since: Jul 11

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#1831 Mar 24, 2013
Vick Torre wrote:
<quoted text> I don't want to be a downer for this forum. I don't want to unload problems to those here. I'll be out of a home by june. Mostly just stating my position for sake of conversation/subjects and knowing me. Golden years unlikly to happen. Only S.S. I been on since age 46. So nothing else into S.S. for any retirement. So I thought maybe somone else here in similar situation. Going to rhuematologist tuesday-a monthly appt. Have trouble with some leg swelling and feel like lead weights even after a nights sleep. Helping that senior has taken a toll on me. Did'nt go to his home 3 days. Does have a relative on weekends. Besides osteoarthritis the other 2 ailments-neuropathy+raynauds affect nervous system. Bursitis and G.E.R.D. reflux also. Been up 3hrs and feels like I worked hard all day! How about you or anyone you know with same things?
Good Morning Vick,I have some of the same things as you and with the problem with the legs sure does make you feel bad.I have the neuropathy which they think it's from my back,Gerd as well.My oxygen level drops at night down to 63 and was told that makes me feel tired..I thank God for another day and my faith in God is what keeps me going..Hope your doctor's appointment turns out good.Keep you in my prayers...Take care and if you need to talk,I'm here..
Vick Torre

Paterson, NJ

#1832 Mar 24, 2013
honeymylove wrote:
<quoted text>Good Morning Vick,I have some of the same things as you and with the problem with the legs sure does make you feel bad.I have the neuropathy which they think it's from my back,Gerd as well.My oxygen level drops at night down to 63 and was told that makes me feel tired..I thank God for another day and my faith in God is what keeps me going..Hope your doctor's appointment turns out good.Keep you in my prayers...Take care and if you need to talk,I'm here..
Good motning yo you! The tests done show some numdness because of herniated disks. The whole nervous system affected. Which means all organs and mobility affected. Was told I have a shortened life span due to it. It's ok. Life spans have no guarntees. Not everyone lives long and the ones that died younger than any of us of this 50+ club. I'm grateful for that. I had a temorary job at a cemetary and buried babies. Small graves are manually dug and I actually placed the babies in the ground. So at 58, yes I'm grateful to have had experiences that others won't. Then those born wheelchair bound like my nephew. Never has never will walk-run-play,etc that most of us done. I do keep things like thart in mind. Now I know of yout physical ailments and understand on those problems. That we have more in common. And your sttenght in dealing with it shows in your posts.

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Since: Jul 11

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#1833 Mar 24, 2013
Vick Torre wrote:
<quoted text> Good motning yo you! The tests done show some numdness because of herniated disks. The whole nervous system affected. Which means all organs and mobility affected. Was told I have a shortened life span due to it. It's ok. Life spans have no guarntees. Not everyone lives long and the ones that died younger than any of us of this 50+ club. I'm grateful for that. I had a temorary job at a cemetary and buried babies. Small graves are manually dug and I actually placed the babies in the ground. So at 58, yes I'm grateful to have had experiences that others won't. Then those born wheelchair bound like my nephew. Never has never will walk-run-play,etc that most of us done. I do keep things like thart in mind. Now I know of yout physical ailments and understand on those problems. That we have more in common. And your sttenght in dealing with it shows in your posts.
I have numbness in my right leg,like from my knee down..Off and on but I still drive.Was told I could end up not walking.I was told this in 1990 by another doctor.The numbness just happened some months ago.I climb on laddle but with caution.Clean walls and paint when I can...What kind of test did they do?..I talked to a lady lately at a store and she was telling me about a test where they place a needle down into the nerve on her leg and tell her to wriggle here foot.It hurts and say never will she to that again.The doctor told her they only do this test 1 time.There are several tests the doctor wanted to do on me and I told them I would pass for now...I have said I can relate to many here on topix/ob....By the way I'm 56 soon be 57...

Since: Nov 12

Charleston, WV

#1834 Mar 24, 2013
honeymylove wrote:
<quoted text>I have numbness in my right leg,like from my knee down..Off and on but I still drive.Was told I could end up not walking.I was told this in 1990 by another doctor.The numbness just happened some months ago.I climb on laddle but with caution.Clean walls and paint when I can...What kind of test did they do?..I talked to a lady lately at a store and she was telling me about a test where they place a needle down into the nerve on her leg and tell her to wriggle here foot.It hurts and say never will she to that again.The doctor told her they only do this test 1 time.There are several tests the doctor wanted to do on me and I told them I would pass for now...I have said I can relate to many here on topix/ob....By the way I'm 56 soon be 57...
Please get a second op.DRS dont know your body like YOU.I 2was told never get out of wheelchair, went to 6 different DRS, Now I CAN WALK, not run but walk..Best of Luck

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Since: Jul 11

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#1835 Mar 24, 2013
I have done many jobs.Picking up coal and shoveling off the truck.Carried blocks underpinning a house which did 2 side the first day.Mix cement by hand in a wheelbarrow.Help with cutting tree place the rope around my body to help the tree to fail in a certain direction.Pulling the rope tight as one cut the tree...So many of these kind of work I have done.Torn down burn homes and hauled off.Cleaning the lot...So many,so many..I had this one girl even told me that a hard days work would kill me.She don't even know me or what I have done.The nerve of some people..She worked at the hospital in physical therapathy..I even got her into doing a flower garden..

Since: Nov 12

Charleston, WV

#1836 Mar 24, 2013
honeymylove wrote:
I have done many jobs.Picking up coal and shoveling off the truck.Carried blocks underpinning a house which did 2 side the first day.Mix cement by hand in a wheelbarrow.Help with cutting tree place the rope around my body to help the tree to fail in a certain direction.Pulling the rope tight as one cut the tree...So many of these kind of work I have done.Torn down burn homes and hauled off.Cleaning the lot...So many,so many..I had this one girl even told me that a hard days work would kill me.She don't even know me or what I have done.The nerve of some people..She worked at the hospital in physical therapathy..I even got her into doing a flower garden..
Have You Been or had a , AIC, sugar test....sometimes sugar will act that way....

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Since: Jul 11

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#1837 Mar 24, 2013
angel just me wrote:
<quoted text>Please get a second op.DRS dont know your body like YOU.I 2was told never get out of wheelchair, went to 6 different DRS, Now I CAN WALK, not run but walk..Best of Luck
I'm not in a wheelchair.Never had.But sometimes it is hard to walk.I have to keep going for I only have me to depend on.My legs would swell so bad they look like they would bust.I believe most of that was from a blood pressure medicine.I've had this doctor now take me off it.Had to go slowly for it could cause a heart attack.Leg still swell some,sometimes but nothing like they use to.I've been thinking about the other test but I don't know.I would have to ask what kind and how they do them before I will have it done...and still not sure if I would.My doctor now is one who does for jobs..but he is my primary doctor.

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Since: Jul 11

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#1838 Mar 24, 2013
angel just me wrote:
<quoted text>Have You Been or had a , AIC, sugar test....sometimes sugar will act that way....
What is an AIC?..I have my sugar check and it's ok...Now they use to do one like it takes serveral hours,urine and rest is blood work.Had those long time ago,several of them.The last one I had like that when they took the last blood they told me to go get me a candy bar.Haven't had any since and I have mention that to the doctor..

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Since: Jul 11

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#1839 Mar 24, 2013
Diabties do run in my family.My dad had it.

Since: Nov 12

Charleston, WV

#1840 Mar 24, 2013
You will swell with Heart Problems......Yes, I agree should slow down , but hard to do when you worked hard.

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Since: Jul 11

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#1841 Mar 24, 2013
angel just me wrote:
You will swell with Heart Problems......Yes, I agree should slow down , but hard to do when you worked hard.
I've had the heart calcium test and my heart is in normal size but I do have some small plaq in the left artery..They don't think it anything really to worry about...I knew this since around 89..just hoped it was different as in better.I'm trying to take better care of me and I hope you are too.

It has been nice sharing and listening to others here on any subject.That's what friends are for.

Since: Nov 12

Charleston, WV

#1842 Mar 24, 2013
YOU ARE CORRECT, FRIENDS ARE GOOD

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#1843 Mar 24, 2013
this is a great place to get a cheerful word.

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