I need to get to sleep, but after reading your post, I have to say that I completely agree with you on this. I could probably get into a lengthy discussion of the hippie movement and some of the good and bad that resulted if this were the place for it. I will just say, I support the ideas of individuality and freedom of expression that was part of the ideological basis of that movement. I think free love was rolled in for exactly the reasons you state. They had no understanding of the biological basis for behavior, not necessarily saying that we do, but it is much better.<quoted text>
Seems to me that the hippies tried out "free love" on the idealistic premise that possessiveness and jealousy were just hangups invented by a controlling and oppressive society.
Evolutionary psychology can tell us something very different....the possessive and jealous will succeed at the expense of the easy going...these impulses are inside us at a deeper level than mere rules of a society.
We need to build our moralities in recognition of human nature as it is, not as we wished it was. And that is a somewhat conservative argument...again a recognition that the traditional has one great advantageover the radical and that is that it has got us this far, no matter how imperfectly. It worked.
"Man is a wild beast" said Zorba. The human condition is not perfectable, just manageable, we hope!
I think management is a concept more aptly applied to a lot of human activities rather than the concept of control. Speaking of course from the point of view of an entomologist. We certainly don't control insects, but we can manage them.