The fear that defines most inner feelings, intuition, etc.<quoted text>
Your grumpy old man is showing. lol
What FEAR are you talking about?
Pleasure is something people don't put much planning into, so I don't think it plays much of a part, other than with people who have nothing left but kinky fantasies. If a person is that far gone, they're a bit unstable. Otherwise, Freudian slips may happen, but I think most people tend to bluff and pretend those are deliberate when they happen. It's all about fear.