Cropped for space. Interesting perspective. Your fear of exclusion point is one that I usually remember to include as well, I just don't like to span post so I was attempting to keep it short, but yes, that is one of the aspects to the over/under sexuality through forced adherence that I have also observed.<quoted text>
We don't know how close to our own hard-wiring is to media-friendly know-it-alls to begin with. We don't know if they've experienced the same fears or were rewarded for their efforts in any way close to we were in our own efforts. For our own sakes, it's largely healthy to maintain a self-help point of view but we like to use someone else's feedback to assure ourselves that we aren't off course.
Media is a monster, I can almost state that literally, it has a way of defining the culture now when it is suppose to be defined by the culture, like other art forms. It would probably shock some people, doubt you will be surprised, to know that media actually markets from tat perspective. They choose what they want to make "in" or "out" based entirely on some strange game of chess played for money and notoriety, I often wish there was some conspiracy at play where they were all being controlled by one single entity, it's more sane than what's really going on sometimes.