Again, what is friendly to YOU is specific to YOU, and what is friendly to ME is specific to me. EVERYTHING I SAY is true FOR ME. Most truths are specific to each person. I wave at people and smile to be friendly, and I RESPECT them enough to let them do things for themselves. I want the privilege to do EVERYTHING for myself, and I EARN that by doing that to others.Ugh again just a few sentences in and a major prob. Uh fyi friendliness has a definition u choosing to warp that definition to fit in to ur non sociable personality does not make the definition change.
Lol no I don't swim in that pool im the lifeguard. I would throw u a life preserver but you haven't asked for one yet. I hope u have time to ask for help before u drown. Wouldnt want to offer unsolicited help to ya.
I don't take posting here serious I hold no grudges if we agree on the next topic sg you'll b the first to know. ;). Happy posting girl.
If you want to be friendly, then treat each person as they define friendly to mean. Mine is respecting the differences in others, never noticing strangers, waving, saying hi, smiling, etc. Any more than that is to be reserved for the people you ALREADY KNOW, who are your friends or family.You have your family, you friends, your ideas, and I have mine. That bothers some, that each person is different and has to be respected and related to in ways that are specific to each person. If I am a stranger, there is no way you can know me or to know my values or what is acceptable to me. I always walk on eggshells around new people and always do the least possible just to make sure I don't offend them.
It seems to bother others that I'm the expert on many things and they are not, and often their insecurity causes them to want to condescend to me and force help on me, and they often don't realize I am my own person and what I do is different from others, and never a mistake. I bend over backwards to not make mistakes, and I believe in ignoring mistakes others make. So anything you think you see is a mistake is deliberate on my part, and for reasons only I have a right to know. Like the woman who was too stupid to know I did my makeup in a gradient and assumed it was smudged, and she kept pestering me to fix it and pretending it was a flaw. It takes a highly negative person to see ANYTHING in another as a flaw (unless it was a moral issue like drug use, excessive sex, etc). Then when I called her on it, she said something about not being a social person. It isn't that. I simply socialize ONLY verbally. If I don't say it, I don't mean it, no matter what tone of voice, facial expression, gestures, manner of dress etc., that you think you see.
If I was drowning, I'd shout for help before getting too far under. If I don't well, that is my own tough luck. Everyone has to die eventually. There are undertows, but nobody can help you with those. The best way I hear to get out of it is to let yourself go, not fight it, since fighting it uses up your wind. And once you get thrown out, then worry about getting back.
Thank you, I don't take posting here seriously either. It is just venting and practice. It is therapy, self-expression, or a "White middle class game" and nothing more.