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Please be courteous.

Leave a note.

Don't take anyone with you.
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TenderTink wrote:
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Good morning Dan,
You have been heavy on my mind;
Having thought about you and this post for the past 72 hours.
There is more than the loss of your home going on here.
You are finding too many reasons to give up.
Depression and Grief are insidiousness things.
They can sneak into a person's psych and settle in comfortably without that person being aware of anything being wrong or different.
The only clues could be pervasive sadness or a bottomless feeling of despair.
I strongly encourage you to speak to your Dr.,
who is prescribing pain med.s,
about your home situation, your emotions
and frustrations about it all.
With that aside, there is no reason you can not be considered a permanent resident in your home of 41 years.
If family or the bank is telling you other wise, I assure you they are mistaken or out right lying to you.
Foreclosure is one thing; eviction is another....
I'd dare say you have squatters rights to live there
if nothing else!
Who is getting the mail and or notices, concerning this foreclosure?
If it is not coming to the house addressed
to you, or Mom, why not?
If your brother took over the note,
and he is letting the house go, that is very wrong,
and you have several recourse's available.
If you answer this post, I will reply to you.
Tink cares about you, and obviously several
other posters here do also.
Do not be discouraged if we can not get back quickly,
we all have different life events
and schedule's to deal with too.
Thank you for sharing your story with us
and opening yourself to the possibility
of an alternate solution.
That means so much to me.
I look forward to your next post.
Hugs and best wishes.
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Thanks so much for caring. To answer a few questions-mail is sent from the bank and lawyers about this house. All addressed to her even when they are aware she died. I do know about squatters and is what I've been doing. I was told by 2lawyers that most likely the bank may offer me $2,000 to just hand over the keys and walk away so the bank won't have to take the more costly option of going through eviction process. The home next to me abandoned 18months ago, had a sheriff sale notlce. No one had since approached that house. My doctors know all about what I'm facing and have gone through. No help from there either. And any medical work to be done now, by the new medicare book, I have to pay 20% of anything done. My income so low that when I pay for ulilities-food/supplies, I have virtually nothing left. This month all but $5 is left till 2-1-13. S.S. only pays out once a month. I live on a budget of $9/day. I had to go on disability at age 45. Using S.S.. system of payouts based on how long you worked. People often said to me "I don't know how you do it'. Reffering to living as I do the past 12yrs. My options seem exhausted now. Most likely I"ll end up at a shelter. I know 3 people that their family takes care of their own members. On my block a mentally ill woman-her family rents the house for her, bring her groceries-pay all her ulilities even when she attacks them physically. Then another yoing woman- hooked on heroin,been to jail twice,has 2 illigitamate children and does'nt work gets supported by her family. Here I am-no crimes done, don't use drugs or drink, was a caretaker for our mother and father (freeing other family members to enjoy their lives) and I'm ignored/abandoned.
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reebie wrote:
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Interesting, Im kindof torn on suicide, even given the biblical reamifications..
I think suicide is a very selfish act. To leave your loved one behind to sort out that kind of trauma..forcing them to wonder why "you" became so miserable , you felt you needed to leave them.. suicide leaves loved ones, never being able to find closer..
but on the biblical note. I wonder why god would allow someone, who clealry in their minds have lived in a hell worth killing themselves for,,, going to eternal hell.. even if not heaven,, you would think there would be somewhere they could go to find some kind of peace... not more torment...
I've always taken the other side to that - isn't kind of selfish for us to demand someone hang around when they don't wish to?

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God NO!

Cannot possibly be a sin [in my humble opinion]

NO ONE WOULD DO THIS .. LIGHTLY

I think when one is driven to 'the edge'

[for WHATEVER reason]

it is the saddest and gravest thing.. WHO
amongst us, therefore, should stand in judgment of
the one who finds him/herself in this torment.
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Grace Nerissa wrote:
God NO!
Cannot possibly be a sin [in my humble opinion]
NO ONE WOULD DO THIS .. LIGHTLY
I think when one is driven to 'the edge'
[for WHATEVER reason]
it is the saddest and gravest thing.. WHO
amongst us, therefore, should stand in judgment of
the one who finds him/herself in this torment.
Spot on, Grace.

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EraserX wrote:
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I've always taken the other side to that - isn't kind of selfish for us to demand someone hang around when they don't wish to?
Well I see your point.. I think my opinion comes from my own experiences.. watching the few scenarios Ive been involved in... the heartbroken family members,,never having closure..even years later...strugglng with wondering what they could have done to change things...but, I do see your point as well...
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reebie wrote:
<quoted text>Well I see your point.. I think my opinion comes from my own experiences.. watching the few scenarios Ive been involved in... the heartbroken family members,,never having closure..even years later...strugglng with wondering what they could have done to change things...but, I do see your point as well...
I think the suddenness of it all is what gets folks. No closure. And that's because of the stigma folks place on it. But like Grace says, who are we to impose?

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EraserX wrote:
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I think the suddenness of it all is what gets folks. No closure. And that's because of the stigma folks place on it. But like Grace says, who are we to impose?
I think that is where I see the selfishness..leaving unprepared loved ones to clean up the mess so to speak... but, I do agree with Grace,, and I will NEVER believe any God who claims to love mankind would further punish someone who is in earthly torment...with an eternal torment... simply for the act...that makes suicide the unpardenable sin..over every other atrocity...just not buying that logic..
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reebie wrote:
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I think that is where I see the selfishness..leaving unprepared loved ones to clean up the mess so to speak... but, I do agree with Grace,, and I will NEVER believe any God who claims to love mankind would further punish someone who is in earthly torment...with an eternal torment... simply for the act...that makes suicide the unpardenable sin..over every other atrocity...just not buying that logic..
Agreed. As with anything in life, one should clean up their messes before leaving.

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EraserX wrote:
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Agreed. As with anything in life, one should clean up their messes before leaving.
point taken..
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My uncle committed suicide just about 2 years ago. He could not live with the grief of his own child dying by a drug overdose. We knew he had a hard time accepting his son's death and despite that fact we still questioned what we could have done or said to possibly make him feel better so that he would still be alive today but deep down we all know that there was nothing we could have said or done that would have made hm change his mind. What he did he did out of grief for the loss of and love for his son. We'd like to think that he and his son are together in heaven, if indeed there is one.

I could not possibly believe that what he did is a sin and I do not believe in a book that scares people away from, rather than draws people closer to, God.
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I also think the bible scares away more than it draws. People simply have different strengths in the area of facing life issues. Sometimes there is no family to leave behind and some families could'nt care less what becomes of a family member. Some ignore obvious needs of a family member while the chance is there to help and talk about what they should have done during a funeral then not learn from it when another becomes needy of help.

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Grace Nerissa wrote:
God NO!
Cannot possibly be a sin [in my humble opinion]
NO ONE WOULD DO THIS .. LIGHTLY
I think when one is driven to 'the edge'
[for WHATEVER reason]
it is the saddest and gravest thing.. WHO
amongst us, therefore, should stand in judgment of
the one who finds him/herself in this torment.
Well said.

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danclark wrote:
I also think the bible scares away more than it draws. People simply have different strengths in the area of facing life issues. Sometimes there is no family to leave behind and some families could'nt care less what becomes of a family member. Some ignore obvious needs of a family member while the chance is there to help and talk about what they should have done during a funeral then not learn from it when another becomes needy of help.
Good morning Dan,
I see you are reaching out and interacting with a few other posters here on Topix.
This heart believes that is a good thing for you to do.
Lots of wisdom in these threads.

I'll be back later this afternoon to post
more with you if your on line then.
Keep your chin up friend.

O's -n-:-)'s

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No one gives their permission to enter this world, so why should one ask permission to leave or even believe that they can't leave at anytime?

If YOU choose to leave this world on your own terms; have a nice journey!
danclark

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TenderTink wrote:
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Good morning Dan,
I see you are reaching out and interacting with a few other posters here on Topix.
This heart believes that is a good thing for you to do.
Lots of wisdom in these threads.
I'll be back later this afternoon to post
more with you if your on line then.
Keep your chin up friend.
O's -n-:-)'s
Yes wisdom can be found. Since early ages I have listened to people. The main reason I go to forums. So we can all learn from each other-broaden out horizons. I enjoy being helpful to others. Anyones posts can be useful to those in or have been in same situation. When I was on the forums. 16months ago I answered to those seeking advice-opinions or just for someone to listen. Thanks for your kindness!

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no i dont think of it as a sin, yet i think its kind of brave and selfish at the same time.
brave to be able to do such a thing knowing u will leave behind ur loved ones, and selfish because ur willing to leave behind ur loved ones..

to get urself into this very dark place is really so sad when u think about all the people out there who really do care about u and who have no idea where u are at that point in life. a person Needs to speak up and say what he/she is feeling, willing to get help if need be, because in spite of how they are feeling at the moment that they take their life, IF they had just waited one more day, one more week, one more.. the sun sooner or later would come back out again. u just Have to believe....
at least thats how i feel about the subject,
and im willing to wait out the dark days for the sunny ones.

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harley-hunni wrote:
it is a cowards way out. No matter the reason, still a cowardly act.
Funny coming from your mouth.
You were all about bashing the US, calling us cowards and how horrible the US is.
Now that you sunk your jagged nails into some weasel who loves the US, you've changed your opinions.
Wouldn't want to lose that meal ticket would you?

coward

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Bar Fly_ok wrote:
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Funny coming from your mouth.
You were all about bashing the US, calling us cowards and how horrible the US is.
Now that you sunk your jagged nails into some weasel who loves the US, you've changed your opinions.
Wouldn't want to lose that meal ticket would you?
coward
Well, she is an expert on cowards.

No worries - she's in the Dominican Republic chasing shoe shine boys around in a Jeepnee. No way they have WiFi in Distrito Nacional.
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My friend did suicide out of fear of his own father. So strict some parents that kids will either run away from home of do suicide. I remember a story my mom told me, she said was true- a boys father decided for a punishment for his son to shoot his dog. So distraugt over doing such a deed, the boy shot himself instead of his dog. No one helped this boy with his home life. Then it was too late.

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