Cyber Friendships real or not?

“Bagging groceries....”

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Since: Mar 12

is child's play :)

#1009 Apr 6, 2012
justaguess wrote:
Wow CK, This is a cool thread..!
Yep, being on topix can be a bit taxing if ya let it. The troll people are the ones that consider that there is some kind of 'power' posting from anonymity, that is why they come across as stupid as they do, it is a shame but not really different then the world itself. There are just as many nice people and idiots around you if you are shopping at a store or mall, driving on a road/freeway or at an event/movie etc...There are people that justy(tm) don't get it.
The best thing is to not ignore them, make em look as stupid as they are, point em out so all can see. The people that matter are going to be laughing at them, sure it makes em act out, much like a child, but that even makes it funnier. I mean if you haven't chuckled at that thread about the farm in Canada there is really something you've been missing ya know..???..
No one owns a thread, but you own what you say. The big difference here is that the only weapon you have are your words. Size, money, fame etc.. do not matter in this place, so next time someone tries to tell ya how great they are...ya gotta laugh...!!!!
Oh, and I did end up gaining a very good friend from this place, been over two years now we have been in contact. So is it real..??...I think it can be.
With all due respect I tend to disagree with some of what you are saying to a degree and here is why. When these people attack an innocent person for no apparent reason and another person comes along with the sole purpose of just making the attacker look stupid ( and lest we not forget to derive a funny comment in the process ) then what has been forgotten is that there is still a human being that has been hurt by the original comment and all the focus is being put on the attacker instead of the person who is hurting. This is exactly what the attacker wants and by the way achieves.

On the other hand when the attacker is ignored and the emphasis is placed on the person who is attacked, the attacker has lost and loses interest and moves on after several attempts with no success. If this was to be the case over and over again, eventually the attackers would soon have nobody to attack except each other on their own threads.( and then you would have somehting to read that you might find entertaining, especially because many of these attacker all one and the same ).

I have said it many times... there is always one bad apple in the bushel, but that does not mean we must consume it and here on topix it also does not mean it must consume us.

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#1010 Apr 6, 2012
LOST IN MISSISSIPPI wrote:
I had a neighbor that bragged about having over 500 friends on Facebook
when he ran out of gas near his home on the exprewsway no one would come to his aid
Years ago, my son and I were in a VERY bad car crash...many VERY kind people stopped to help us...one called my husband from her cell phone...another bandaged my head, since it was bleeding...and they stayed with us...until help arrived. Even strangers can be kind...:)

AussiPino
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Since: Jan 12

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#1011 Apr 7, 2012
Just out of the blue here. Friendship these days can be hard to find. A growing trend is happening where people use people pretending to be their friends. In this modern world we live in where life is becoming more and more centralized on career and financial gain, many people are becoming more and more reserved and keep to themselves.

Some people give up on friendships because they know that most people just put on a face to utilize someone. In this selfish, competitive world we have gotten used to greeting protocols such as "Hello, how you going?" where they don't really want to know the answer.

Cyber friendships can be an alternative for those who do not want a friend from the outside so to speak. In the cyberworld, people can express themselves freely about common interests and topics without fearing of being used or judged by others.

The downside to all of this is that people are becoming more and more lonely and depression is rising. People are becoming less happy and this is one of the implications of this so-called progressive world.

Level 9

Since: Nov 10

Powellton WV

#1012 Apr 7, 2012
When I first started posting on
message boards yrs ago I met a group
of friends from all over the world.

Many in Au but some from NZ, Germany,
the UK, Canada and the US.

Even though we do not post on the
same boards as we used to we still
IM a few times a week and keep up
to date on each other and each others
families.

We've supported each other through
some hard times. Illnesses of ourselves
and our kids, divorce, financial trouble.

In short we are still friends.
And who ever has enough friends in life?

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Since: Jul 11

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#1013 Apr 7, 2012
Sometimes this is the only friend that a person has.No one in the real world doesn't want to be around this person unless it can help them out.It gets old so this person has no real friends or anyone to talk to.Left all alone.It is good to share with strangers than with someone you know.Just try to be kind to all cause you never know when the shoe will be on the other foot.
Jamaica Hollywood

United States

#1014 Apr 7, 2012
" In the cyberworld, people can express themselves freely about common interests and topics without fearing of being used or judged by others.

Just don't chose Topix as your cyberworld, of chose, to freely express your common interests. Because, your every word will be judged unrelentlessly and unfairly and with malice.

“Cool huh?”

Since: Jun 06

Location hidden

#1015 Apr 7, 2012
Marissa 2 wrote:
<quoted text>
Years ago, my son and I were in a VERY bad car crash...many VERY kind people stopped to help us...one called my husband from her cell phone...another bandaged my head, since it was bleeding...and they stayed with us...until help arrived. Even strangers can be kind...:)
You don't forget a kindness like that, it goes a long way in easing
the pain.
On the news this morning was the 'plane which crashed into a house
on a residential complex in Virginia Beach, and how many residents
rushed to the aid of the pilots, and how, when the pilot apologised, the people helping told him not to worry, a lesson in humanity.

“Bagging groceries....”

Level 5

Since: Mar 12

is child's play :)

#1016 Apr 7, 2012
Jamaica Hollywood wrote:
" In the cyberworld, people can express themselves freely about common interests and topics without fearing of being used or judged by others.
Just don't chose Topix as your cyberworld, of chose, to freely express your common interests. Because, your every word will be judged unrelentlessly and unfairly and with malice.
It isn't just topix, it happens everywhere. Just learn to weed out the bad apples and there will be plenty of good fruits to pick from. The problem is that when you first come to topix the bad ones always tend to bombard you for some reason, but if you ignore them, you will quickly find the good ones.( and the bad ones will soon move on when more new members join)
Jamaica Hollywood

United States

#1017 Apr 7, 2012
You don't forget Wildbluerose telling posters on Offbeat to F.O.A.D. either.

I wonder what those hundreds of users watching the Offbeat forum must be thinking when they read posts by that bitch.

Since: Nov 10

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#1018 Apr 7, 2012
eleanorigby wrote:
<quoted text>
You don't forget a kindness like that, it goes a long way in easing
the pain.
On the news this morning was the 'plane which crashed into a house
on a residential complex in Virginia Beach, and how many residents
rushed to the aid of the pilots, and how, when the pilot apologised, the people helping told him not to worry, a lesson in humanity.
I heard about this...how sad...:(
As for what happen to my son and I...I still haven't forgotten them...I just wish I would have gotten some names and address, so I could have sent them Thank you notes...I do however, keep them in my prayers...the Lord knows who there are...:)

“Cool huh?”

Since: Jun 06

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#1019 Apr 7, 2012
Marissa 2 wrote:
<quoted text>
I heard about this...how sad...:(
As for what happen to my son and I...I still haven't forgotten them...I just wish I would have gotten some names and address, so I could have sent them Thank you notes...I do however, keep them in my prayers...the Lord knows who there are...:)
There are some things that go unsaid, but people know in their
hearts how you feel. They will not have forgotten either, you
could say a bond was formed on that day. United in the eyes
of the Lord.
Happy Easter Marissa, and to your son.

Since: Nov 10

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#1020 Apr 7, 2012
eleanorigby wrote:
<quoted text>
There are some things that go unsaid, but people know in their
hearts how you feel. They will not have forgotten either, you
could say a bond was formed on that day. United in the eyes
of the Lord.
Happy Easter Marissa, and to your son.
Thanks Eleanor, I was just GREATFUL the Lord, kept us safe...without our seatbelts on...we would have been killed...He sure was watching out for us that day...:)
Happy Easter to you as well...:)

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#1021 Apr 8, 2012
i prefer friendship in the real world because i know its real and not "out there" thing. lol

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Since: Jul 11

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#1022 Apr 8, 2012
PFfff wrote:
i prefer friendship in the real world because i know its real and not "out there" thing. lol
I would too but sometimes it just doesn't happen.

Since: Feb 09

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#1023 Apr 8, 2012
honeymylove wrote:
<quoted text>I would too but sometimes it just doesn't happen.
i understand that, i think its just that we have to be open and willing to take on another persons joy and sadness in life. sometimes its enough to just deal with our own and so we cant handle outside problems.
but i know for myself there have been people in my life who've come and gone, and had i let myself absorb all the good and bad they had to offer, a stronge bond could have been made and my life would have been much richer for it.
but i guess in reality im a loner and always will be.
we all know what we can handle, for some its worth the effort.
Happy Easter!
:)

“Yum Chocolate!”

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Since: Apr 08

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#1024 Apr 8, 2012
I don't think it is whether in person or online that decides whether a person can be a friend to someone. It is how the relationship grows whether in person or online. Just depends how the two people connect. They either find similar likes / dislikes and so on.

If you enjoy chatting with the person ( oh yes just in case some are not aware it is a person behind the keyboard not a robot) and enjoy the conversation then it is a possible beginning of a friendship. If it just stays online that is still a form of friendship.

Enjoy your friendships in person and online and wishing everyone a wonderful weekend and Easter Holiday!:)hugs!

“you're not the boss of me!”

Since: Jan 08

the road less traveled.....

#1025 Apr 8, 2012
Chatty Kathy wrote:
I don't think it is whether in person or online that decides whether a person can be a friend to someone. It is how the relationship grows whether in person or online. Just depends how the two people connect. They either find similar likes / dislikes and so on.
If you enjoy chatting with the person ( oh yes just in case some are not aware it is a person behind the keyboard not a robot) and enjoy the conversation then it is a possible beginning of a friendship. If it just stays online that is still a form of friendship.
Enjoy your friendships in person and online and wishing everyone a wonderful weekend and Easter Holiday!:)hugs!
You must be in chocolate heaven today! Hope your Easter is wonderful.

Since: Apr 12

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#1026 Apr 8, 2012
Chatty Kathy wrote:
I don't think it is whether in person or online that decides whether a person can be a friend to someone. It is how the relationship grows whether in person or online. Just depends how the two people connect. They either find similar likes / dislikes and so on.
If you enjoy chatting with the person ( oh yes just in case some are not aware it is a person behind the keyboard not a robot) and enjoy the conversation then it is a possible beginning of a friendship. If it just stays online that is still a form of friendship.
Enjoy your friendships in person and online and wishing everyone a wonderful weekend and Easter Holiday!:)hugs!
"People can and will continue to argue for their side of the debate. As for me, the acid test is a very simple one. As much as I respect and enjoy cyberspace relationships, I would be very unhappy if I could ONLY relate to my family and closest friends via the Internet, even if sophisticated visual/auditory technology made it seem like actually being there with them. Cyberspace relating is a wonderful supplement to IPR, but in the long run it's not ultimately fulfilling as a substitute, especially when it comes to our most intimate relationships. Most people who develop close friendships and romances in cyberspace eventually want and need to meet their friend or lover in-person. And once they've done that, returning to cyberspace-relating can feel at least a tiny bit flat and incomplete, despite the effects of the online disinhibition effect...

In an ideal world, we could have it both ways. We could develop our relationships in-person and in cyberspace, thereby taking advantage of each realm. But we don't always have the luxury of ideal circumstances. There will be some people who we can only or mostly meet in-person, and others only or mostly via the Internet. In the not too distance future, most people will have three types of social lives that will be distinct but overlapping. We'll have friends, colleagues, and lovers whom we know only in-person, those whom we know only via the Internet, and those whom we know both in-person and online..."

Variety is the spice of life.

C&P by Jamaica Hollywood

“Yum Chocolate!”

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#1027 Apr 8, 2012
Debra27 wrote:
<quoted text>
You must be in chocolate heaven today! Hope your Easter is wonderful.
Hi Deb, yes it is wonderful all the chocolate around. But I am being good and only had a little.lol

I hope you and your family are having a wonderful day!:)hugs!

“Yum Chocolate!”

Level 8

Since: Apr 08

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#1028 Apr 8, 2012
Jamaica Hollywood wrote:
<quoted text>
"People can and will continue to argue for their side of the debate. As for me, the acid test is a very simple one. As much as I respect and enjoy cyberspace relationships, I would be very unhappy if I could ONLY relate to my family and closest friends via the Internet, even if sophisticated visual/auditory technology made it seem like actually being there with them. Cyberspace relating is a wonderful supplement to IPR, but in the long run it's not ultimately fulfilling as a substitute, especially when it comes to our most intimate relationships. Most people who develop close friendships and romances in cyberspace eventually want and need to meet their friend or lover in-person. And once they've done that, returning to cyberspace-relating can feel at least a tiny bit flat and incomplete, despite the effects of the online disinhibition effect...
In an ideal world, we could have it both ways. We could develop our relationships in-person and in cyberspace, thereby taking advantage of each realm. But we don't always have the luxury of ideal circumstances. There will be some people who we can only or mostly meet in-person, and others only or mostly via the Internet. In the not too distance future, most people will have three types of social lives that will be distinct but overlapping. We'll have friends, colleagues, and lovers whom we know only in-person, those whom we know only via the Internet, and those whom we know both in-person and online..."
Variety is the spice of life.
C&P by Jamaica Hollywood
Hi JH, great points in your posts. I really see it as friendships in both places. Each person will decide what they want to do with a friendship and that is how it grows. We all have our expectations and worries on moving forward but I don't think it is whether on the internet or in person it is truly how the person is connecting with the other. I think that some see a friendship one way and expect it to be the same as those they have met in person. But friendships can just be enjoying a conversation online. I guess my point is some will post whatever they like because they feel the internet is not real I find that odd since they are chatting with a real person. I have a few here that actually became in person friends and then there are many I keep as my cyber friends. But they are all still a form of friendship. That is how I see it.:)

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