More moms are staying home, reversing a decades-long trend

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#1 Apr 9, 2014
I was always a stay at home mom and then I was a stay at home grandma. I loved being at home with kids. Alot of women may not have that choice or maybe they choose to be working moms. I admire moms who can work and raise their kids.
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#2 Apr 11, 2014
I am a working mom, I own my own business and work from home with a 2 year old. When my kids get home from school, I start my second job, managing their homework, after school activities, and trying my darndest to help them adopt routine hygiene habits. Moms are always working, whether it be for money, or for the satisfaction of producing amazing people to fill this world. Moms are always working, usually 16 hour days, we just receive a variety of compensation.

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#3 Apr 11, 2014
Women are always working wrote:
I am a working mom, I own my own business and work from home with a 2 year old. When my kids get home from school, I start my second job, managing their homework, after school activities, and trying my darndest to help them adopt routine hygiene habits. Moms are always working, whether it be for money, or for the satisfaction of producing amazing people to fill this world. Moms are always working, usually 16 hour days, we just receive a variety of compensation.
Let's not forget the important role Dad's play. They raise those amazing people too. Seems today society has forgotten about men, tend to put them down, emasculate them etc. Not saying you are, but lets not forget the very important role they play.

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#4 Apr 11, 2014
The breakdown of marriages, society, well adjusted children was the fault of women going to work and wanting to be like men.
I loved being a stay at home mom, and yes it was busy, taking care of kids, and husband. Getting them all off to school, work, making lunches for him, and kids, housework, entertaining, school activities, social clubs for mom and dad, etc. Keeping things in order, that is the way things should be.

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#5 Apr 12, 2014
AHarleyhoney wrote:
The breakdown of marriages, society, well adjusted children was the fault of women going to work and wanting to be like men.
I loved being a stay at home mom, and yes it was busy, taking care of kids, and husband. Getting them all off to school, work, making lunches for him, and kids, housework, entertaining, school activities, social clubs for mom and dad, etc. Keeping things in order, that is the way things should be.
I don't think that is completely fair. I am a stay at home mom. I feel incredibly blessed in that role. I never have to miss any of their school functions and I get a lot of time with my babies. I have time to plan really nice meals and keep an orderly house. I also get me time to do all of the things that I enjoy. Things that help me to feel like my own person and not just wife and mom. I go above and beyond in all things involving my children, but I don't think that makes me better than a mom that works outside of the home, whether she chooses to or maybe she doesn't have a choice. Maybe she has to and the last thing she needs is more guilt. To say that a woman working is the breakdown isn't true. Many of the men on here have voiced wishing they made enough money for their wives to stay home and many of them voice that they like that their wives work and that they get to pitch in around the house and with the kids. I have a husband that makes enough money and more importantly he stays, whereas some women don't have that. If the man leaves, what is the woman to do? Live off others? If the man can't make enough on his own and needs help, should he be made to feel bad? Any mom or dad, that takes their role as parent as a blessing and gives it their all, does what feels best for their family and their kids is a great parent. I love that my husband wants me home. I love being at home, but am I better than any other loving unselfish mom, because I get to stay home? Absolutely not. If the kids are healthy and happy and the decisions are made in their best interest, then there is some great parenting going on there. Kudos to all moms and dads, both the ones at home and the ones at work. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad if you are giving it your all, and don't feel guilty when you get a little me time. Just love those babies and put them first and you are on the right path. Please don't bash each other, your kids are watching you after all. We are the most important role models in their eyes. We should love the roles given us and respect the roles given others.

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#6 Apr 12, 2014
Where in hell did you read where I said anything to mean I think a stay at home mom is better than one who works. You over react!!!!
Yes the breakdown of family life was greatly due to women leaving the home to work,, about 90% of it. It is my opinion, and that of many, and as I said it is my opinion. I loved being at home, I was not a wife who sat around watching soap operas or eating bons bons as so many think, how many people out there put down the house wife, calling us "common". My home was spotless, meals everyday, canning, gardening, lunches for husband and kids, breakfast in the morning, etc.

I also do not believe in putting woman on the pedastal that so many do these days, I beleive standing on my own and don't look for a pat from another woman. Men are put down, and not appreciated for a godamn thing these days, and it is disgustinng.
If you read into my post that I think I am better or any woman who gets to stay home is, then you read wrong.

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#7 Apr 13, 2014
La Sunshine wrote:
I was always a stay at home mom and then I was a stay at home grandma. I loved being at home with kids. Alot of women may not have that choice or maybe they choose to be working moms. I admire moms who can work and raise their kids.
I know I don't have to, but you get a pat on the back.

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#8 Apr 13, 2014
Women are always working wrote:
I am a working mom, I own my own business and work from home with a 2 year old. When my kids get home from school, I start my second job, managing their homework, after school activities, and trying my darndest to help them adopt routine hygiene habits. Moms are always working, whether it be for money, or for the satisfaction of producing amazing people to fill this world. Moms are always working, usually 16 hour days, we just receive a variety of compensation.
You also get a pat on the back.

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#9 Apr 13, 2014
Both parents are the most important role model. To put yourself at the top above that of Dad, is thinking you are better.

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#10 Apr 13, 2014
AHarleyhoney wrote:
Where in hell did you read where I said anything to mean I think a stay at home mom is better than one who works. You over react!!!!
Yes the breakdown of family life was greatly due to women leaving the home to work,, about 90% of it. It is my opinion, and that of many, and as I said it is my opinion. I loved being at home, I was not a wife who sat around watching soap operas or eating bons bons as so many think, how many people out there put down the house wife, calling us "common". My home was spotless, meals everyday, canning, gardening, lunches for husband and kids, breakfast in the morning, etc.
I also do not believe in putting woman on the pedastal that so many do these days, I beleive standing on my own and don't look for a pat from another woman. Men are put down, and not appreciated for a godamn thing these days, and it is disgustinng.
If you read into my post that I think I am better or any woman who gets to stay home is, then you read wrong.
I merely think that for you to call a working woman the breakdown of so many things is insensitive. There are many women that work because they have no choice and there are many that have husbands that want them to work. I'm all for being a stay at home mom. It's a role I treasure and I too do all of those very same things you are doing. I think it's fantastic that you were able to stay home and do all of that. But I just don't agree with your statement about working women and I don't understand why you are getting so defensive of men when no one has said anything remotely ill of them here. You seem very on edge and defensive in your reply. Wasn't meant to offend you so badly. You stated your opinion, I stated mine. I also do not think that a pat on the back is "needed" I feel a woman should be in charge of her own confidence, but I wouldn't associate with the type of people who were not deserving of that pat on the back....regardless of whether they are the dad, the mom, the provider, or the person working in the home. A good parent is a good parent and I happily give a pat on the back to all of them. Once again I am sorry I have offended you. I'm going to agree to disagree, although I admit I do agree with you that a stay at home mom, when done right is a beautiful thing and that dads deserve appreciation to. I just will not put down a woman that works outside of the home if it is what is working for her and her family. Peace to you and yours.

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#11 Apr 13, 2014
LOL,,,you did not offend me at all. I am not that high strung!
No where did I accuse woman of anything. I merely said, the breakdown of marriage was mostly caused by women going to work. Maybe I should clarify it for those that assume, the breakdown is caused by both who wanted the woman to work outside of the home. The reason woman had to do that is GREED! Keeping up with the Jones so to speak. Overspending, bigger homes, etc. A woman's place is in the home as far as I am concerned, and for many people.

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#12 Apr 13, 2014
I did forget to put that I think the breakdown is caused by men and women who sent women out to work. I should have reworded that where I said it was just women, it is not, it is their spouses too. Reason is as I said,,,Greed! It was an afterthought. My apologies for that. But will not apologize for my opinion.
But when it comes to being defensive where none is needed it is you Trina.

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#14 Apr 13, 2014
I think it's great that more mom's can stay at home now though I haven't seen this trend in my area.
I've been both, but even when I worked I always had time for my kids.
As far as it goes now a days, I've seen plenty of single dad's playing both roles. It doesn't matter whether you're male or female, some have the maturity to do both simply because it's their responsibility.
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#15 Apr 13, 2014
Beautiful Black Molly wrote:
I think it's great that more mom's can stay at home now though I haven't seen this trend in my area.
I've been both, but even when I worked I always had time for my kids.
As far as it goes now a days, I've seen plenty of single dad's playing both roles. It doesn't matter whether you're male or female, some have the maturity to do both simply because it's their responsibility.
"Responsibility" is something the poster above you will NEVER understand... I'm glad there are are folks like you to counterbalance the negative.

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#16 Apr 14, 2014
Historian wrote:
Stay at home moms started to leave the American landscape when Big Business discovered that, with two incomes, people could buy more stuff and go deeper into debt, when coupled with E-Z credit. The women's movement inadvertently helped this along and Big Business inadvertently took advantage of that movement when they realized that employing women was cheaper than men. Women at the time were making 70 cents on the dollar compared to men.
Any SAHM's today are likely married to very well paid husbands and there is no need for them to contribute to household income. And in many cases the wife's earning potential is limited and it's actually more cost-effective to have the wife stay home with the children rather than her working to cover childcare.
This is very true, and I agree with you 100%. I loved staying at home, it is a responsibility I took very seriously. I think kids are happier with a stay at home mom. I also don't think there is anything wrong with a woman staying at home when there is no children. This way I am here for my grand children as well, and if you have aging parents to look out for. It is still a responsibility some of us take seriously. Kind of like keeping the home fires burning. It works very well in our home.
Thanks again.

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#17 Apr 14, 2014
Proud To Be Trina wrote:
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I know I don't have to, but you get a pat on the back.
Thank you Trina.

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#18 Apr 14, 2014
La Sunshine wrote:
<quoted text>Thank you Trina.
You are very welcome. I hope you are having a nice day. You seem like a very sweet person and I enjoy reading your quotes on the quote thread. Please keep your postings coming, they are very enjoyable.:)

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#19 Apr 14, 2014
I think its a good thing if u can.
but either way, its hard staying home OR leaving them to go to work.
its either they drive u nuts or u drive urself nuts worrying about ur decision.
its tuff being a mom...

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#22 Apr 15, 2014
Historian wrote:
<quoted text>SAHM's will never be the norm again. It was fun while it lasted but it wasn't profitable enough for business, which requires both spouses to be out working, buying and going heavily into debt. Capitalism is based on debt. So is America. If everybody waited until they could afford durable goods like they used to, the economy stalls. It didn't have to be this way- they made it this way. There are too many people making too much money off of debt alone to ever go back to the way it was in the 50's and 60's. Plus, with the busting of unions and the 30 year stagnation of wages while prices have steadily risen, there's no way Ward Cleaver can afford to have June stay home. That will never happen again. Not on the scale that was The Baby Boom in America. There's just no money in it.
I agree, this is what I say as well, sad, but it is true. But in our home we do not buy unless we can pay cash for it. We live a quiet life, take holidays usually twice a year, have our toys, but they are paid for. As it seems even though both partners work in most homes, they are still by their own greed in debt.

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#23 Apr 15, 2014
LOL, you certainly didn't pay for a thing.
That guys a sucker ... the truth will rear it's ugly head soon enough

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