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Do you believe spanking a child over the knee on the bare bottom is child abuse?

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Abel Lewis

Onsted, MI

#1 Nov 10, 2010
This is my opinion and my opinion only. Spanking a child over the knee on their bare bottom is discipline to me. It's not child abuse to me. Spanking with wooden hairbrushes and paddles is discipline to me too. It's not child abuse to me either. Spanking does not work on every child. Because every child is not the same. What may work on one child will not work on the other child. If a child deserve a spanking over the knee on their bare bottom with a wooden hairbrush or the hand then they should get it. I don't have kids. But I believe in spanking. There will be no arguing, no judging parents, and there will be no telling parents they are child abusers just because they spank their kids. There is a difference between a beating and a spanking. A spanking is when a child has a BRIGHT RED BOTTOM.
A beating is when the child has permanent marks, bruises, the child is bleeding blood.

So i'm just wondering do you think spanking a child over the knee on the bare bottom is discipline or child abuse?
Paris Hilton

Huntington, NY

#2 Nov 10, 2010
I'm confused. Are you spanking the child above his/her knee or on their bare bottom?
Abel Lewis

Onsted, MI

#3 Nov 10, 2010
Paris Hilton wrote:
I'm confused. Are you spanking the child above his/her knee or on their bare bottom?
No. I'm talking about taking a child across your lap and spanking them on their bare bottom with a wooden hairbrush or using your hands. That is what I mean.

“this is my alias :)”

Since: Oct 10

~*~North Carolina~*~

#4 Nov 10, 2010
I agree with you ABel, there is a difference in spanking and abusing. I dont think there is a thing wrong with it as long as its not abuse.

See that youngin in my picture, to your left, he got his bottom popped quite a bit when he was smaller. He's since learned its best to listen to momma than get those spankings.

It irritates me when certain folk think spankings are abusive and that time out is the best solution. Well, like you said, what works for one child, doesnt always work for another.

Time out did not work for mine. Like I said, he got spanked and turned out (so far) pretty darn good. He still has his moments, dont get me wrong, he's a 10 yr old boy, what do you expect..lol. But, he knows he will be punished if he does wrong or gets out of line.

Parker Patterson

Since: Nov 10

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#5 Nov 10, 2010
I wouldnt advise it, it gives the child a bad complex,like me for instance Im 59yrs old and was whipped repeadedly on my bare butt as a child with belts, light cords,etc, but rarely bare handed because that hurt the spanker. Now I spend alot of time frequenting prostitutes and paying them to beat my bare butt while layin across their knees.

“I'm not listening.”

Level 9

Since: Feb 10

Middleburgh, NY

#6 Nov 10, 2010
I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but hell NO! When I was a kid all mom had to do was say "I'll take your pants down right here in front of everybody and spank you" straightened me right up.
These days? Kids think they can do whatever they want and get away with it, and do. I'm ashamed at how much we as adults let them get away with. It does them no favor to teach them there are no consequences to their actions. Ever wonder why there are so many kids running the streets without any manners? I don't.
Okay, there are other ways to deal with it, BUT you have to follow through with it. If you take away privileges for a week, IE, the tv, video games, going to friends houses, Make it stick for crying out loud! Don't let them guilt you into giving them back in two days. Then all they learn is how to manipulate you.

“this is my alias :)”

Since: Oct 10

~*~North Carolina~*~

#7 Nov 10, 2010
Oneluckygal wrote:
I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but hell NO! When I was a kid all mom had to do was say "I'll take your pants down right here in front of everybody and spank you" straightened me right up.
These days? Kids think they can do whatever they want and get away with it, and do. I'm ashamed at how much we as adults let them get away with. It does them no favor to teach them there are no consequences to their actions. Ever wonder why there are so many kids running the streets without any manners? I don't.
Okay, there are other ways to deal with it, BUT you have to follow through with it. If you take away privileges for a week, IE, the tv, video games, going to friends houses, Make it stick for crying out loud! Don't let them guilt you into giving them back in two days. Then all they learn is how to manipulate you.
agree with you 100%.

“"Stand and Fight"”

Level 4

Since: Sep 10

United States

#8 Nov 10, 2010
Parker Patterson wrote:
I wouldnt advise it, it gives the child a bad complex,like me for instance Im 59yrs old and was whipped repeadedly on my bare butt as a child with belts, light cords,etc, but rarely bare handed because that hurt the spanker. Now I spend alot of time frequenting prostitutes and paying them to beat my bare butt while layin across their knees.
Spanking does not work on me either. It's one of my fetishes too.

“"Stand and Fight"”

Level 4

Since: Sep 10

United States

#9 Nov 10, 2010
On a serious note and all joking aside I don't seen it as child abuse. It's gonna hurt but it's not that traumatizing as a falaqa, where in some Middle Eastern countries, they place your feet on a rack and then pound your feet/ankles/shins with a billy club.
Paris Hilton

Huntington, NY

#10 Nov 11, 2010
JasonStorm wrote:
On a serious note and all joking aside I don't seen it as child abuse. It's gonna hurt but it's not that traumatizing as a falaqa, where in some Middle Eastern countries, they place your feet on a rack and then pound your feet/ankles/shins with a billy club.
Oooohh, that's sounds hot!!!!

Parker Patterson

Since: Nov 10

Location hidden

#11 Nov 11, 2010
Oneluckygal wrote:
I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but hell NO! When I was a kid all mom had to do was say "I'll take your pants down right here in front of everybody and spank you" straightened me right up.
These days? Kids think they can do whatever they want and get away with it, and do. I'm ashamed at how much we as adults let them get away with. It does them no favor to teach them there are no consequences to their actions. Ever wonder why there are so many kids running the streets without any manners? I don't.
Okay, there are other ways to deal with it, BUT you have to follow through with it. If you take away privileges for a week, IE, the tv, video games, going to friends houses, Make it stick for crying out loud! Don't let them guilt you into giving them back in two days. Then all they learn is how to manipulate you.
Now days you don't even have to pull their pants down,LOL

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#12 Nov 11, 2010
I don't think I would go for the bare bottom but have spanked my kids. They learned to listen. They have friends come over that are rude and disrespectful, their parents never disciplined them except for a time out. Their parents are quick to tell me how mannered and respectful my children are in their home. My parents spanked me and I get that there are consequences for my actions. Seems such a scary concept for some parents these days then they whine because their kids are uncontrollable monsters.
Harley Homey

Huntington, NY

#13 Nov 11, 2010
I still spank my kids, and they are 35 and 39 years old.

“this is my alias :)”

Since: Oct 10

~*~North Carolina~*~

#14 Nov 11, 2010
JasonStorm wrote:
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Spanking does not work on me either. It's one of my fetishes too.
HA!!

“this is my alias :)”

Since: Oct 10

~*~North Carolina~*~

#15 Nov 11, 2010
Sebastians mom wrote:
I don't think I would go for the bare bottom but have spanked my kids. They learned to listen. They have friends come over that are rude and disrespectful, their parents never disciplined them except for a time out. Their parents are quick to tell me how mannered and respectful my children are in their home. My parents spanked me and I get that there are consequences for my actions. Seems such a scary concept for some parents these days then they whine because their kids are uncontrollable monsters.
Same here. Some of the friends of my kids that come over I think to myself "Do your parents discipline you at all??" We let them know straight up we dont tolerate name calling, showing out in public, disrespectfulness. If either of those things happen we will call their parents to come pick them up........regardless of the time. We usually have no problems after that. My kids dont disrespect me and I REFUSE to let someone elses come to MY house and do it.

We get the same response when our children stay at their friends house. It makes ya proud....like you are doing a great job as a parent.:)

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#16 Nov 11, 2010
PDEpp wrote:
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Same here. Some of the friends of my kids that come over I think to myself "Do your parents discipline you at all??" We let them know straight up we dont tolerate name calling, showing out in public, disrespectfulness. If either of those things happen we will call their parents to come pick them up........regardless of the time. We usually have no problems after that. My kids dont disrespect me and I REFUSE to let someone elses come to MY house and do it.
We get the same response when our children stay at their friends house. It makes ya proud....like you are doing a great job as a parent.:)
Problem is with a couple of their friends they don't want to follow my rules. They aren't allowed to come over any more. I actually had one of their parents call me for an explanation and got mad when I told them if their kid can't respect my house they can't come over. She actually started to yell at me and call me some horrid names,(wonder where the kid got his behavior from) I simply asked her if she would allow it in her home, of course her answer was no. I told her same here and if you can't teach them to be respectful somewhere else...keep him home. She actually came to my house and when I opened the door and she saw me you couldn't have asked for a nicer person to talk to. Apologized like crazy for herself and her son. Sometimes being 6ft tall is a blessing. LOL.

“this is my alias :)”

Since: Oct 10

~*~North Carolina~*~

#17 Nov 11, 2010
Sebastians mom wrote:
<quoted text>Problem is with a couple of their friends they don't want to follow my rules. They aren't allowed to come over any more. I actually had one of their parents call me for an explanation and got mad when I told them if their kid can't respect my house they can't come over. She actually started to yell at me and call me some horrid names,(wonder where the kid got his behavior from) I simply asked her if she would allow it in her home, of course her answer was no. I told her same here and if you can't teach them to be respectful somewhere else...keep him home. She actually came to my house and when I opened the door and she saw me you couldn't have asked for a nicer person to talk to. Apologized like crazy for herself and her son. Sometimes being 6ft tall is a blessing. LOL.
lmao!!! Love it!! Sounds like that apple didnt fall far from the ol' family tree.

“I'm not listening.”

Level 9

Since: Feb 10

Middleburgh, NY

#18 Nov 11, 2010
Sebastians mom wrote:
<quoted text>Problem is with a couple of their friends they don't want to follow my rules. They aren't allowed to come over any more. I actually had one of their parents call me for an explanation and got mad when I told them if their kid can't respect my house they can't come over. She actually started to yell at me and call me some horrid names,(wonder where the kid got his behavior from) I simply asked her if she would allow it in her home, of course her answer was no. I told her same here and if you can't teach them to be respectful somewhere else...keep him home. She actually came to my house and when I opened the door and she saw me you couldn't have asked for a nicer person to talk to. Apologized like crazy for herself and her son. Sometimes being 6ft tall is a blessing. LOL.
Would this be the protein powder incident?
Abel Lewis

Onsted, MI

#19 Nov 11, 2010
PDEpp wrote:
I agree with you ABel, there is a difference in spanking and abusing. I dont think there is a thing wrong with it as long as its not abuse.
See that youngin in my picture, to your left, he got his bottom popped quite a bit when he was smaller. He's since learned its best to listen to momma than get those spankings.
It irritates me when certain folk think spankings are abusive and that time out is the best solution. Well, like you said, what works for one child, doesnt always work for another.
Time out did not work for mine. Like I said, he got spanked and turned out (so far) pretty darn good. He still has his moments, dont get me wrong, he's a 10 yr old boy, what do you expect..lol. But, he knows he will be punished if he does wrong or gets out of line.
I'm just wondering "PDEpp" do you still spank your son over the knee on his bare bottom? Or did you think he is too old for a spanking because he is 10 years old?
Abel Lewis

Onsted, MI

#20 Nov 11, 2010
Oneluckygal wrote:
I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but hell NO! When I was a kid all mom had to do was say "I'll take your pants down right here in front of everybody and spank you" straightened me right up.
These days? Kids think they can do whatever they want and get away with it, and do. I'm ashamed at how much we as adults let them get away with. It does them no favor to teach them there are no consequences to their actions. Ever wonder why there are so many kids running the streets without any manners? I don't.
Okay, there are other ways to deal with it, BUT you have to follow through with it. If you take away privileges for a week, IE, the tv, video games, going to friends houses, Make it stick for crying out loud! Don't let them guilt you into giving them back in two days. Then all they learn is how to manipulate you.
Thank you. It's discipline. There is nothing with spanking a child on the bare bottom with wooden hairbrushes or using your hands. It's not child abuse.

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