Found out my neighbor is a crossdress...

Found out my neighbor is a crossdresser. Now what?

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Legendary

United States

#1 Jan 13, 2012
I found out that my neighbor whom I've hung out with a lot is a crossdresser. Apparently he dresses like a woman a lot. Even in front of his wife and kids. This explains why he never answers the door or rarely comes outside I guess. I'm not sure if I want my kids playing with his kids but they are great friends. Not sure if I want to hang out with him but he is still a friend that has done a lot for me. Has anyone lived next to or found out something like this about a friend?
seattlejennifer

Temple City, CA

#2 Jan 14, 2012
You say your neighbor has been all these things that a neighbor/friend should be that you liked in him. Why now would anything be different. Because he enjoys a hobby that is harmless and does not affect you or anybody else? You probably enjoy doing some things that your neighbors would not.

Or maybe your neighbor/friend is questioning or confirmed his/hers gender variance and is on his/hers transition.

I guess what it comes down to respect everyone for their difference and refuse to make negative jugdements based on fear.

Jennifer

Since: Jan 09

Central NJ

#3 Jan 14, 2012
Let your kids play with his kids! This may be a little weird, but it's harmless. He's NOT a molester, at least crossdressing is not related to pedophelia. He's a guy with a secret passion, that he dare not expose. For if he did, he would be castigated as a queer, homosexual, pedophile and anything else they may conjur up to accuse him of and he doesn't want to go through it.
Gently, Discretly let him know you know and that his secret is safe with you. You'll make a friend for life! Don't blab it all over the neighborhood that "Joe's" a queer who likes to dress up as a girl. You'll just be making life hell on him, his wife and their kids. He's probably not gay, Most CDs aren't. If you get to meet his fem self, don't hurt him/her by using male pronouns. Remenber, It's being done for relief! No one's sure why some people (and Animals, Google alberta,tranvestite garter snakes) do this, but it's not to get attention. It gives them relief, it's that simple! Good luck!
Legendary wrote:
I found out that my neighbor whom I've hung out with a lot is a crossdresser. Apparently he dresses like a woman a lot. Even in front of his wife and kids. This explains why he never answers the door or rarely comes outside I guess. I'm not sure if I want my kids playing with his kids but they are great friends. Not sure if I want to hang out with him but he is still a friend that has done a lot for me. Has anyone lived next to or found out something like this about a friend?
Legendary

United States

#4 Jan 15, 2012
TerryE wrote:
<quoted text>Let your kids play with his kids! This may be a little weird, but it's harmless. He's NOT a molester, at least crossdressing is not related to pedophelia. He's a guy with a secret passion, that he dare not expose. For if he did, he would be castigated as a queer, homosexual, pedophile and anything else they may conjur up to accuse him of and he doesn't want to go through it.
Gently, Discretly let him know you know and that his secret is safe with you. You'll make a friend for life! Don't blab it all over the neighborhood that "Joe's" a queer who likes to dress up as a girl. You'll just be making life hell on him, his wife and their kids. He's probably not gay, Most CDs aren't. If you get to meet his fem self, don't hurt him/her by using male pronouns. Remenber, It's being done for relief! No one's sure why some people (and Animals, Google alberta,tranvestite garter snakes) do this, but it's not to get attention. It gives them relief, it's that simple! Good luck!
What u call a little weird is a lot of weird to me. Anyway I told my wife. Big blunder on my part. She blabbed to some of the other wives and now this has become an "elephant" in the neighborhood. I guess everyone knows about him now. Some jokes going around. I'm just leaving this alone till some of the air clears.

Since: Jan 09

Central NJ

#5 Jan 16, 2012
Well you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube! Some folks just can't think these things out further than a phone call to their best friend! If you all can't think of him and his wife, at least consider what the kids are going to be put through.If it's a "Lot weird" to you, then it's your problem. The real problem is, now the next step is to conjur up in your mind all sorts of possibilities about what's going to happen to your kids if they have any contact with his kids. Crossdressers at not common, but it's more common than you think. Approximately 1% or three milion Americans suffer fom being transgendered to one degree or another.
Actually, the suffering is all from external sources. It can be quite pleasant. But people who find it to be 'alot weird" cause the suffering. There is a psychic pain involved, but that comes from being denied the ablilty to allow their fem side to come out.
Another life ruined! For what?
Regards, Terry
Legendary wrote:
<quoted text>
What u call a little weird is a lot of weird to me. Anyway I told my wife. Big blunder on my part. She blabbed to some of the other wives and now this has become an "elephant" in the neighborhood. I guess everyone knows about him now. Some jokes going around. I'm just leaving this alone till some of the air clears.

flbadcatowner

“I call it as I see it.”

Since: Jul 09

Retirement City

#6 Jan 16, 2012
I will grant that he has the right to do as he pleases inside his own home, but I do wonder what effect it may have on his family. He obviously puts his sexual gratification above the well being of his children. It boils down to the age old battle between rights and responsible behavior.
sissy

Philadelphia, PA

#7 Jan 30, 2014
flbadcatowner wrote:
I will grant that he has the right to do as he pleases inside his own home, but I do wonder what effect it may have on his family. He obviously puts his sexual gratification above the well being of his children. It boils down to the age old battle between rights and responsible behavior.
you are an idiot. Why do the selfrightous like you always think that because something is different it is sexual. What a nit wit. Does your wife wear nothing but dresses? Does she ever wear jeans? OH NO! Your poor kids! Bet she is knocking the kids in your neighborhood of their bikes and rapeing them! OH MY GOD!
wayne boyd

London, UK

#8 May 30, 2014
Im a crossdresser and have been most of my life, i whent throuigh a rearlly bad time with my partner accepting this and the aguments its caused. i would say nearlly 10 years to accept this as she allways believed that cd's are gay.
We have a good life now and my kids arnt bothered about it but the issue does come from neighbours who think your weird and strange and the name calling, sometimes walking to the shops and they say rude comments just loud enough to hear them but i pretend i didnt.
I go out sometimes dressed either skirt and blouse or hotpants and tight and miss sisxty rear zip jeans.
Im happy the way i am but not with people who are small minded and get a kick out of hurting you. thare the ones that are scared and not accepting and to be honest it took me a long time fighting accepting myself and im comfortable i know who i am but others arnt comfortable so they get angry and act inapropriate because they dont have the intelligence to understand why we are who we wont to be.

Since: Jan 09

Central NJ

#9 Jun 1, 2014
Wayne, I'd use your Fem name if you posted under it, but.... About 8 years ago, my neighbor
was out side on his porch and saw me come home in a skirt one night. He gently made it known to me. At first, My feelings was extreme embarrassment. Then I thought about it some more and figured that the whole neighborhood must know by now so what am I hiding?
Now I had my permission slip and life got a whole lot easier. I stopped arguing and fighting with people. I cut way down on anti acid pills. I actually started to get along with people. I was being true to myself. Like you! I had a few rough spots, but only a few! Last year, I took a trip out west (7000 miles) and no one bothered me. I used ladies rooms all the way, in Idaho, Texas, Arizona, Arkansas, Tennessee, Etc and I met friendly people everywhere (see my profile pic) Don't let anyone grind you down!
Regards, Terri
wayne boyd wrote:
Im a crossdresser and have been most of my life, i whent throuigh a rearlly bad time with my partner accepting this and the aguments its caused. i would say nearlly 10 years to accept this as she allways believed that cd's are gay.
We have a good life now and my kids arnt bothered about it but the issue does come from neighbours who think your weird and strange and the name calling, sometimes walking to the shops and they say rude comments just loud enough to hear them but i pretend i didnt.
I go out sometimes dressed either skirt and blouse or hotpants and tight and miss sisxty rear zip jeans.
Im happy the way i am but not with people who are small minded and get a kick out of hurting you. thare the ones that are scared and not accepting and to be honest it took me a long time fighting accepting myself and im comfortable i know who i am but others arnt comfortable so they get angry and act inapropriate because they dont have the intelligence to understand why we are who we wont to be.

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