Bambi’s mom can be like that towards her. Sometimes she will do or say things that both Bambi and I feel are mean. Bambi is just so sweet … that for a long time, she just took it and would come to me if she were upset and needed to talk.Yo ho, Ricky!
Howdy doody, Perse!
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I really wish I felt comfortable sharing more on topix. My Mom.... she's fine more or less, but she's developed a split personality. I never know which "Mom" I'll get.
My advice has always been to approach things the same as I would with my parents. If my parents do something that bothers me … I will let them know … in no uncertain terms. While I was raised to respect my elders, that doesn’t mean I am to be their doormat and just take stuff or not speak my mind at times.
While not everyone has that kind of relationship with their folks, I do believe that establishing boundaries are important for everyone involved. So, even when Bambi would tell me she doesn’t have the same forward relationship with her folks that I have with mine, I would still say that she needs to stick up for herself and not just take it.
She will never be as I am with my folks, but as she’s become more assertive, their relationship seems to have gotten better. I think one day she even hung up on her mom and I was like, go you. I know it made her feel like she has a little bit more control in the situation. Things seem to have been much smoother as of late.
It sounds like the dynamics between you and your mother might be similar? If so, I would suggest the same approach. It’s okay to get upset sometimes and let the other person know … even your parents. This doesn't make you a bad person. Whether you are like me and say something along the lines of “F’ that mom and dad … that’s b.s.”(I tell my folks exactly how I see it) or are less forward about it, like Bambi, so long as you get your point across … that’s what matters.