Is the person I'm cheating with my wife?

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KenCan

Edmond, OK

#1 Sep 28, 2012
Excuse me for using an unregistered ID, but I can't use my registered one. Here is my problem. I started a conversation some time ago with a woman here on Topix. It has gotten pretty steamy. However, I think the woman is my wife! So, what to do? If I ask, and I am wrong, then I have admitted I am essentially cheating. If I don't ask, then I will be wondering if she is and has cheated on me.

“kik: as username”

Since: Jun 12

Weston-Super-Mare, England

#2 Sep 28, 2012
Reminds me of the song by Rupert Holmes "Do You Like Pina Coladas"

As you are essentially admitting that you are cheating on wife.. what is so wrong with her cheating.
If you dont talk.. you will never know and will always wonder.

Does she like Pina Coladas by the way ;)
Dan

Los Angeles, CA

#3 Sep 28, 2012
Keep the conversation going. ask her what she likes, where she works, etc. if it is your wife what's wrong? You both are wrong right? So play it out. But it's your chance to find out if your wife wants to expand the relationship. Ask if she's thought of swapping or threesomes, etc. then either call her out, or ask your wife these things personally. With her playing on topix she will most probably open up to you with fantasies in your bedroom.
KenCan

Edmond, OK

#4 Sep 28, 2012
Yes, she likes Pina Coladas. Why?

I am not sure anything is wrong with her cheating, although one of the big problems we have is she says no a lot more than she says yes, if you know what I mean. My fear is this person is not her.

“kik: as username”

Since: Jun 12

Weston-Super-Mare, England

#5 Sep 28, 2012
I was jesting with the Pina Coladas question - have you hear the song??
Yes I understand the problem of more no than yes.. I would suggest you ask a few questions about what she likes {make sure you know what your wifes replies would be}
KenCan

Edmond, OK

#6 Sep 28, 2012
Dan wrote:
Keep the conversation going. ask her what she likes, where she works, etc. if it is your wife what's wrong? You both are wrong right? So play it out. But it's your chance to find out if your wife wants to expand the relationship. Ask if she's thought of swapping or threesomes, etc. then either call her out, or ask your wife these things personally. With her playing on topix she will most probably open up to you with fantasies in your bedroom.
Yeah, surely if it's my wife, asking more personal questions might reveal that. Just for the record, I have not suggested meeting in person or anything like that. It's been fun titillating over this medium, but I have not really wanted it to go farther.
KenCan

Edmond, OK

#7 Sep 28, 2012
slaveHunterDMC wrote:
I was jesting with the Pina Coladas question - have you hear the song??
Yes I understand the problem of more no than yes.. I would suggest you ask a few questions about what she likes {make sure you know what your wifes replies would be}
It would have been a hoot had she been corresponding with you, too!
Old Jim 2

Granada, Nicaragua

#8 Sep 28, 2012
. The odds of this person being your wife is almost NON-existant!
There are usually 4 to 6 Thousand people actively on Topix, and I figure that is less than 10 % of the total members. So out of 50,000 do you really think you even know this person?
Anyway, do NOT disclose Your I.D. First ask her about her family, education, best food, job, etc. Then if she says she wants to do a 3-some, you got it Made!.
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KenCan

Edmond, OK

#9 Sep 28, 2012
Old Jim 2 wrote:
. The odds of this person being your wife is almost NON-existant!
There are usually 4 to 6 Thousand people actively on Topix, and I figure that is less than 10 % of the total members. So out of 50,000 do you really think you even know this person?
Anyway, do NOT disclose Your I.D. First ask her about her family, education, best food, job, etc. Then if she says she wants to do a 3-some, you got it Made!.
Yeah, I keep telling myself about those odds, but it has been her answers that seem close to home, as it were. I will ask more specific ones. Just won't ask about her husband because I might not want to hear the answer. ;-)
Dan

Los Angeles, CA

#10 Sep 28, 2012
KenCan wrote:
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Yeah, I keep telling myself about those odds, but it has been her answers that seem close to home, as it were. I will ask more specific ones. Just won't ask about her husband because I might not want to hear the answer. ;-)
Why not ask about her husband? If it does so happen to be your wife, this is a good chance for you to find out the truth. If she's talking to guys find out why. does she want more? Does she want to feel attractive? Does she not like how things are in bed at home? You can find out if she simply wants to explore, or you can change things if she's unhappy. Change them before she comes out with it asking for separation or divorce. Most likely she wants to explore though so don't get yourself down. You two probably want the same thing

“kik: as username”

Since: Jun 12

Weston-Super-Mare, England

#11 Sep 28, 2012
KenCan wrote:
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It would have been a hoot had she been corresponding with you, too!
lol if she were chatting with me then you should be worried lol.. But then I only 'hunting' in the UK

Since: Dec 11

Location hidden

#14 Sep 28, 2012
KenCan wrote:
Excuse me for using an unregistered ID, but I can't use my registered one. Here is my problem. I started a conversation some time ago with a woman here on Topix. It has gotten pretty steamy. However, I think the woman is my wife! So, what to do? If I ask, and I am wrong, then I have admitted I am essentially cheating. If I don't ask, then I will be wondering if she is and has cheated on me.
What BS. Wow.
KenCan

Oklahoma City, OK

#15 Sep 28, 2012
Dan wrote:
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Why not ask about her husband? If it does so happen to be your wife, this is a good chance for you to find out the truth. If she's talking to guys find out why. does she want more? Does she want to feel attractive? Does she not like how things are in bed at home? You can find out if she simply wants to explore, or you can change things if she's unhappy. Change them before she comes out with it asking for separation or divorce. Most likely she wants to explore though so don't get yourself down. You two probably want the same thing
I think the thing to do is say "who is XXYYZZ?" with XXYYZZ being the screen name this person is using. If my wife is the one, then the look on her face will tell me what I need to know. If she looks puzzled and says "who?" then I will know she is not the one.
KenCan

Oklahoma City, OK

#18 Sep 28, 2012
revilot wrote:
<quoted text>This might sound daft but have you asked what Make/color of car she drives?.What school she went to.that kind of stuff.
Some of those questions, yes, and they match. This is what has gotten me suspicious. I didn't tell the truth for any questions that might reveal my identity, which is sometimes a problem if I can't keep my answers straight.
KenCan

Oklahoma City, OK

#19 Sep 28, 2012
Stern Master wrote:
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How about u ask her more personal questions ?? ask her for pics ??
Man .. this IS a good oppurtunity for you to know more about ur wife than she would tell you in person .. If it IS her !!!
Yes, until you mentioned it, I had not thought about that. Wow, what an opportunity! I feel like such a voyeur! I should be prepared to hear some things that are unpleasant, too. Well, there is a reason we both are doing this, if it is my wife. Just need to be subtle, so she doesn't become suspicious of the questions.
TomBolt

Wayzata, MN

#20 Sep 28, 2012
Geez... Quite a deal...
KenCan

Oklahoma City, OK

#22 Sep 28, 2012
revilot wrote:
<quoted text>Ken has she said anything about your family ,like kids or parents names,i take it she mentioned about your home town,what music and stuff she likes.just personal things you would only know,past boyfriends,who took her the first time.
No details like names, but a lot of things match. Number and gender of kids matches. The things that do not match are just slightly different, and interestingly ages are all 2 years different, as if she can remember 2. Her kids are 2 years younger than ours and she is 2 years younger than my wife, and her husband is 2 years younger than I. Both drive a red car, but my wife's is sorta plain and hers is a Miata. She uses some of the same phrases as my wife does, which is most suspicious. Nothing really definitive because she ignores things not having to do with sex. That is what she talks about most. Says she is married but not much about her husband other than he bores her. ;-) Too vanilla.

I do the same sort of thing. Online me has a dick that is 2" longer than the real me has. ;-)

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#24 Sep 28, 2012
KenCan wrote:
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Yeah, surely if it's my wife, asking more personal questions might reveal that. Just for the record, I have not suggested meeting in person or anything like that. It's been fun titillating over this medium, but I have not really wanted it to go farther.
I would let the lady u know ur married, she has feelings too.....did u send pixs to each other? Ask he is she can describe herself and ask personal questions.....
KenCan

Edmond, OK

#25 Sep 29, 2012
xsoccermomx wrote:
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I would let the lady u know ur married, she has feelings too.....did u send pixs to each other? Ask he is she can describe herself and ask personal questions.....
She already knows I am married. She claims she is too. A few more personal questions asked, and more answers that indicate this person is my wife. LOL!
KenCan

Edmond, OK

#26 Sep 29, 2012
revilot wrote:
Ken,sorry mate but this looks real bad,look like you've caught her out,look on the bright side though the other you is bigger,i must admit i would have said you were smaller so she could put you down(no offence),the idea of the photos is the best option.don't be to suprised if she post up photos of a friend.would you have been bothered if she'd been upfront and honest about meeting other men as long as you knew ?.
The pics is a good idea. I doubt she would send pics of her, but she might send pics of a friend, which would be real confirmation. Or, she might send some intimate pics that don't show her face, and I might recognize a few distinguishing characteristics.

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