Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#21 Mar 19, 2007
Don't get me wrong, the kids are totally worth it. And if I asked my hubby would he rather have wild sex daily or the kids with some sex, he would pick our kids over wild daily sex. I do think all of the men on here would not wish there kids away. They just wish women could have kids and still have wild daily sex, lol.

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#22 Mar 19, 2007
charmgirl, I wasn't saying anything against you at all. I promise. I was making a point that women are different. I don't know about marriage or motherhood, because I've experienced neither. I can see your point entirely, though. It is understandable. I used your statement that you'd do it if your hubby bought you stuff... because you said it.

There you have it.

Sorry if I offended you.
franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#23 Mar 19, 2007
charmgirl wrote:
<quoted text>
Just a thought, but have you tried to offer to clean the house for her or give the kids a bath if she would give head afterwards? I know I love it when my hubby will clean the house and I can just sit and relax for a while. Which I do not know if you have kids or not, but if she says she is tired I am guessing you do. It is such a great help if he jumps in and helps with the little ones.
It is not too much to want it more than once a month. I used to be that wife that never was in the mood, but we have been spicing it up and I want it more for some reason. But women do get tired taking care of house and kids, even the stay at home moms get very very tired. And giving head is just like another chore, a very yucky chore, lol.
THis is something that I have learned in the past few months on TOPIX ... that all too many woman are frustrated with (what they perceive to be) the little help they are getting from their husbands and so to them the feeling that sex is not fun but an obligaotin puts sex into the same category as a chore, like mowing the lawn.

SO, to all the frustrated men out there .. maybe take a closer look at this, even talk to your wives (if they are willing) and ask them point blank "does sex feel like a chore to you sometimes?" .. then talk about what it would take, from her point of view, to take the obligation and frustration out of it for her, and infuse the romance back in for her.

It might require a re-alignment of household tasks. Maybe the man helps more with cleaning and the kids, but maybe she takes on some other things that she forgets he does? SOmething to balance it out?

It might be the path for happiness for both of you.
franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#24 Mar 19, 2007
charmgirl wrote:
Not meaning to sound bad here, but itsalena, I can say that when I only had one child and I was single, sex was tons of fun and I LOVED IT, I never turned down a boyfriend, ever. But when you are married and you have a couple or a few kids, expecially young ones, you do tend to be tired alot. Now if my hubby wants it mid day when our 2 small ones are napping and the other 2 are at school, then I am all for it usually. But by night time, I am so give out and kids have hung all over me all day, it is just like you do not want anyone else touching you. Even more so if you are breastfeeding a baby. Just speaking for myself, but every other mom I know is the exact same way. So that could be the problem for some of the mens wives, they are just to tired and tired of being touched. You do not know when you are getting married it will be that way, but it just does get that way. And Lord knows, men want sex no matter how tired they are.
YOu know,(I can speak from experience that I know how you feel. My ex-wife, due to a car accident, is unable to partake in parenting to a full degree, so I end up doing about 90% of the parenting. And I only have two kids, but sometimes it feels like all the demands for attention, all the putting out of fires and little arguments between them, and then everything else in life pulling at you, it feels like the next demand that comes your way you sometimes start to resent. Even though it is supposed to be something as loving as sex.

Yet, it depends on attitude. My brother runs a business and works way harder that his wife, with the kids all grown up. Yet he does not resent the need to attention, and he desires sex as much as ever.
nearly normal jimmy

AOL

#25 Mar 19, 2007
Give her head.
Spanky

United States

#26 Mar 20, 2007
Well, yes I have kids and I've tried the every now and then cleaning house to the stay at home dad always cleaning house while making home improvments such as replacing floors, a 100 flower landscaping scene including a fish pond, bailing her out of jail over a child support issue and even toys to spice it up a little. I've tried alot of things and hell, a BJ more than once a year would be nice, and the once a month, sometime I feel like I'm doing a corpse. On the other note I'm starting to think that itsalena has a good point, things do change when you get married. She was one to do something sex realted at least 3 times a week, that was 6 years ago, now here I am tring my damedest to try and get something more than once a month. And I will say that communication is key but how do you communicate with someone who has an attitude of if they don't deal with the problem it'll go away. any advice anybody or should I look for a buddy since its cheaper to stay married. I don't want to but what can I do to satisfy myself, masterbating is getting old :) . Hope I didn't sound to crude here and I'm sorry if I did, just alittle frustrated.

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#27 Mar 20, 2007
itsalena wrote:
charmgirl, I wasn't saying anything against you at all. I promise. I was making a point that women are different. I don't know about marriage or motherhood, because I've experienced neither. I can see your point entirely, though. It is understandable. I used your statement that you'd do it if your hubby bought you stuff... because you said it.
There you have it.
Sorry if I offended you.
No offence taken at all itsalena, I understand what you are saying as well. I just wanted to add to what I said.
SPANK THE MONKEY

AOL

#28 Mar 20, 2007
it would be a good idea to have a guy give it to you.
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Lost

United States

#29 Mar 20, 2007
SPANK THE MONKEY wrote:
it would be a good idea to have a guy give it to you.
almost there, considering
usmc

Oceanside, CA

#30 Mar 20, 2007
Does your wife like Chocolate syrup? If so put some all over your body and especially down there. This way you will both be experimenting and enjoying and she may take the hint and if your lucky she may even enjoy it.

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#31 Mar 20, 2007
Ich.... sugar and sex

Just some FYI--- because this may come up, even though it is not about this topic... Sugar gives woman nasty infections down there... so steer clear if you are looking to spice things up.
usmc

Oceanside, CA

#32 Mar 20, 2007
On him not her. LOL

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#33 Mar 20, 2007
:-p I know USMC, which is why I said that it doesn't apply to this topic. There are just so many men [and even women] out there who are clueless to this kind of thing, and it can ruin good fun!

Since: Mar 07

Chicago,IL

#34 Mar 20, 2007
My problem isn't that she won't do it, that she is so bad at bj's that it isn't enjoyable. It may start off ok, but quickly it becomes so sensitive its like sandpaper. By then I'm rather take over.

Actully never a successful BJ ever. But fortunatly, I have an excellect grip and forearms like popeye.

-jim
franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#35 Mar 20, 2007
jimdoeman wrote:
My problem isn't that she won't do it, that she is so bad at bj's that it isn't enjoyable. It may start off ok, but quickly it becomes so sensitive its like sandpaper. By then I'm rather take over.
Actully never a successful BJ ever. But fortunatly, I have an excellect grip and forearms like popeye.
-jim
what, doe she have a rough sandpaper toungue like a cat?

Try this ... have her lick your balls and jack you off until a minute before you come, then have her use her LIPS (avoid teeth).. mostly on the head .. maybe just two inches down, and still jacking you with her hands until you cum. This might avoid the problem?

Since: Mar 07

Chicago,IL

#36 Mar 20, 2007
I donít really have a basis for what a good bj should be like. All I know is that after a minute it becomes supersensitive to the point of being almost painful. And there is no teeth involved. Donít know if she is sucking to hard or what.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#37 Mar 21, 2007
jimdoeman wrote:
I donít really have a basis for what a good bj should be like. All I know is that after a minute it becomes supersensitive to the point of being almost painful. And there is no teeth involved. Donít know if she is sucking to hard or what.
IS she the only one that ever gave you a BJ? What do you compare to?

Most women (not all) manage to keep their teeth back enough that they don't cause scraping. SOme have a problem. I guess those are the ones that can't give good head? But my suggestion above could take care of that ... any woman SHOULD be able to keep the teeth off for a couple of minutes.

If you are getting too sensitive and she's not even scraping with her teeth, then I don't know ... I've heard guys get too sensitve after they come, but not before. Does it happen if she jerks you off,(ie. presure and fricoitn from her hand also makes you too sensitive?) or only during a BJ?

Maybe have her try the motion and not suck at all, see if that makes a difference.
Lover

AOL

#38 Dec 19, 2007
If shes clean I love getting down on her, all females. Do it right and she will return the pleasure as well.
Bootyologist

Germantown, MD

#39 Dec 19, 2007
Terry wrote:
Is there any ideas to how to get my wife to like giving me head, she has done it before but not all the time.Only when i ask, but i dont like to ask. I dont have a huge dick only 7 1/2 so size shouldnt be the problem any suggestions
Well I have 1 suggestion and I dont think you'll like it. You and your wife need to communicate one time about what it means to you to have her be aggresive and show initiative for you to be aroused and happy. I know you said you dont like to ask but you have to have a conversation one good time with her on this matter. Just go to her and say, "honey we need to have a sexual conversation and when I'm done I don't want to have to bring this subject up again because I am uncomfortable asking". Then when you're done explaining ask her is there any questions and anything you can do for her to help her along the way. I am thinking perhaps you could buy flavored condoms. This way when she pull your pants down she can put one on and suck (if that'll make her feel better).

Well thats my half a cent worth
864hondasleeper

Barnesville, OH

#40 Feb 20, 2008
Terry wrote:
Is there any ideas to how to get my wife to like giving me head, she has done it before but not all the time.Only when i ask, but i dont like to ask. I dont have a huge dick only 7 1/2 so size shouldnt be the problem any suggestions
i know my wife try it with other befor we got togather but she not in to nothing

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