How can i make wife give me head !

How can i make wife give me head !

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Terry

Canton, OH

#1 Mar 11, 2007
Is there any ideas to how to get my wife to like giving me head, she has done it before but not all the time.Only when i ask, but i dont like to ask. I dont have a huge dick only 7 1/2 so size shouldnt be the problem any suggestions

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#2 Mar 12, 2007
If she's not into, she's not into it--- you can't make her enjoy it and want to do it.

Ask her what she thinks about it. Be open and honest. Make sure you are clean. Are you going down on her? If not, I'd start there-- after a while, she may want to return the favor.
R U Suprised

Fishers, IN

#3 Mar 14, 2007
Here is another idea> Get out the can of wiped cream and spray all aound your woodie then sprinkle a few walnuts for taste and put a cherry on top. Then call your wife/girlfiend for some desert. WARNING, dont eat it yourself before she gets there, if you do then start over.

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#4 Mar 15, 2007
I just had a thought on this. I am not sure if this would actually appeal to you [[because I dont actually know you, and you've given no details]] but you could try to slowly get her interested.

I know that I have a few "alternative" tastes, and my SO is a good ol' catholic boy, so in the beginning, it was a bit hard to have him try new things. Over the past few months of our relationship, I've started writing erotic stories, that involve he and I. For him, I've been writing it in first person, because it makes it easier for him to imagine that he is doing these things and not someone else.

Try that. It is a good way to make her mind race, and to let her know what you want. Once she has imagined it enough in her mind, she may just act the story out.

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#5 Mar 15, 2007
Well, I am married too, and I can tell you that I do not care to give my hubby that pleasure but I do if you gives me things I want. If that helps you any. Like if I want something expensive, say $50 to $300, then I will do what he wants me to do. It does make if fun that way, I get things and he gets bj's. I even saw a couple on Dr. Phil and they had a whole menu of how much she got for certain things she would do for him. Like sausage with cream sause or rump roast, lol. It really cracked me up. I know the Rump Roast was the most expensive, $300 for them. I do not do that for any thing though, lol. You just have to spice it up and be open. And if you do not want to say things outloud then write your thoughts down for her.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#6 Mar 15, 2007
charmgirl wrote:
Well, I am married too, and I can tell you that I do not care to give my hubby that pleasure but I do if you gives me things I want. If that helps you any. Like if I want something expensive, say $50 to $300, then I will do what he wants me to do. It does make if fun that way, I get things and he gets bj's. I even saw a couple on Dr. Phil and they had a whole menu of how much she got for certain things she would do for him. Like sausage with cream sause or rump roast, lol. It really cracked me up. I know the Rump Roast was the most expensive,$300 for them. I do not do that for any thing though, lol. You just have to spice it up and be open. And if you do not want to say things outloud then write your thoughts down for her.
I'm sorry CHARM girl, but I don't get it. I really don't. YOu just described a marraige that is all about getting paid for your services. THat sounds like prostitution, not love and giving and caring.
who cares

United States

#7 Mar 15, 2007
tell her she just has to suck not swallow

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#8 Mar 16, 2007
franko wrote:
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I'm sorry CHARM girl, but I don't get it. I really don't. YOu just described a marraige that is all about getting paid for your services. THat sounds like prostitution, not love and giving and caring.
Oh no, it is not about that at all. We do not do that all the time. I just like to shop and he just likes me to do things that maybe sometimes I am to tired to do. I mean we do have 4 children, I am a stay at home mom, and 3 of the children are very young. So when they go to bed I am wiped out and so it is usually like a joke, and he wants it and I say, well you know I was wanting to go and get Abby these adorable shoes and get Kayla this, and so I get the money. Which he would have given me the money anyway, he just might give me a little more than normal, because after I do what I do, he is very happy and more willing to give me more money. Does that make since? I guess if you do not know us it is hard to understand.
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franko

Maple Ridge, Canada

#9 Mar 16, 2007
charmgirl wrote:
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Oh no, it is not about that at all. We do not do that all the time. I just like to shop and he just likes me to do things that maybe sometimes I am to tired to do. I mean we do have 4 children, I am a stay at home mom, and 3 of the children are very young. So when they go to bed I am wiped out and so it is usually like a joke, and he wants it and I say, well you know I was wanting to go and get Abby these adorable shoes and get Kayla this, and so I get the money. Which he would have given me the money anyway, he just might give me a little more than normal, because after I do what I do, he is very happy and more willing to give me more money. Does that make since? I guess if you do not know us it is hard to understand.
OK, sorry if I came across over the top about this. If it is just a playfull thing for you two. YOur first post did not quite come across this way.

It is very hard to convey meaning in these short posts sometimes. One of the flaws of text-talk.

FOrgive me?
The Watcher

Northridge, CA

#10 Mar 16, 2007
Do unto others my friend. First of let your wife know you enjoy oral sex by complimenting the features that attribute to that such as...her tongue, her lips, the way she looks when performing, even making an appropriate joke can let her in on it. By making her more comfortable with it your on the road to oral satisfaction. A more definite method however is perhaps instead of being just the receiver be the giver. Try giving your spouse oral sex and she may the idea. A good way of introducing this (in my experience) is the sixty-nine position. If she's uncomfortable with it don't get mad just cope and find a solution you can both agree on.

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#11 Mar 16, 2007
franko wrote:
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OK, sorry if I came across over the top about this. If it is just a playfull thing for you two. YOur first post did not quite come across this way.
It is very hard to convey meaning in these short posts sometimes. One of the flaws of text-talk.
FOrgive me?
I forgive you Franko. Also, to the man that is wanting his wife to do the deed, do you give her oral as well? I LOVE LOVE LOVE TO RECEIVED IT, so she should as most women do. As far as the 69, I hate it, it kind of takes away from what I am feeling because I am giving at the same time.
franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#12 Mar 16, 2007
charmgirl wrote:
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I forgive you Franko. Also, to the man that is wanting his wife to do the deed, do you give her oral as well? I LOVE LOVE LOVE TO RECEIVED IT, so she should as most women do. As far as the 69, I hate it, it kind of takes away from what I am feeling because I am giving at the same time.
It is definitly not a good feeling when one gives freely and the other gives hesitantly or not at all. The man should be as willing... nay, eager to give as what he wants from her. ONly fair.

I experienced this gap with my (ex) wife for ten years .. she the unwilling one.

69 is part of the mix... more often than not I agree most poeple prefer to do one at a time so the giver can focus on what they are doinh and the receiver can enjoy without distraction. Yet somtimes 69 done in a certain heat of passion can be pretty wild, but not all the way to orgasm but a prelude to the next step.

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#13 Mar 16, 2007
69 has always been a "means to an end" for me... Generally, the guy in question is a little too distracted to really give a great performance.^_^
But--- no complaints from me.
Terry

Canton, OH

#14 Mar 19, 2007
i give my wife head all the time. And she loves it i just hating to ask her to return the favor
Spanky

United States

#15 Mar 19, 2007
I'm sorry to dissappoint and no offense to you women, I'm married and have tried a verity of things. She used to say she was always tired to do anything, so I gave her 3 years off, I've tried giving her whatever she wants, the whole buying thing, thats why we now own so many animals, I've tried being romantic, the desert thing that I got stuck cleaning up myself, didn't change a thing. I surrendered to the fact that when a woman wants to do whatever sex related, thats what and when its going to happen. Could be a good reason I visit all these porn sites and she still can't understand why. Is wanting sex more than once a month so wrong.

“gone surfing”

Since: Mar 07

South of the Highway

#16 Mar 19, 2007
itsalena wrote:
69 has always been a "means to an end" for me... Generally, the guy in question is a little too distracted to really give a great performance.^_^
But--- no complaints from me.


i donno about being distracted. during 69 i love the feeling i get in my c*ck when she moans and being she's moaning means i'm doing the right thing, i guess! lol

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#17 Mar 19, 2007
Spanky wrote:
I'm sorry to dissappoint and no offense to you women, I'm married and have tried a verity of things. She used to say she was always tired to do anything, so I gave her 3 years off, I've tried giving her whatever she wants, the whole buying thing, thats why we now own so many animals, I've tried being romantic, the desert thing that I got stuck cleaning up myself, didn't change a thing. I surrendered to the fact that when a woman wants to do whatever sex related, thats what and when its going to happen. Could be a good reason I visit all these porn sites and she still can't understand why. Is wanting sex more than once a month so wrong.
Just a thought, but have you tried to offer to clean the house for her or give the kids a bath if she would give head afterwards? I know I love it when my hubby will clean the house and I can just sit and relax for a while. Which I do not know if you have kids or not, but if she says she is tired I am guessing you do. It is such a great help if he jumps in and helps with the little ones.
It is not too much to want it more than once a month. I used to be that wife that never was in the mood, but we have been spicing it up and I want it more for some reason. But women do get tired taking care of house and kids, even the stay at home moms get very very tired. And giving head is just like another chore, a very yucky chore, lol.

“Milking it...”

Since: Jan 07

Iowa City, IA

#18 Mar 19, 2007
Spanky: this goes to show you that every woman is different. I don't need anything to motivate me to do it. Charmgirl needs favors and presents. some women just aren't going to be into it.

This is why I am an advocate of premarital sex/ experimentation. I also know that someone is going to come back with "well, things change after you get married" but I also feel that it is all a matter of communcation.

I know that marriage and love isn't all about sex... but for a person such as myself, I know that it is of great importance. if the sex life isn't satisfying/fulfilling, then it would never last for me. that's not meant to sound shallow- it's just truthful. I think it is important to have your partner know your interests and needs upfront... and this applies every aspect of you life--- not just sex.
usmc

Oceanside, CA

#19 Mar 19, 2007
I must say My wife and I never have problems with this cause she loves going down on me. Trust me there is nothing that comes between me and my wife's pu&&y.

Since: Mar 07

North Carolina

#20 Mar 19, 2007
Not meaning to sound bad here, but itsalena, I can say that when I only had one child and I was single, sex was tons of fun and I LOVED IT, I never turned down a boyfriend, ever. But when you are married and you have a couple or a few kids, expecially young ones, you do tend to be tired alot. Now if my hubby wants it mid day when our 2 small ones are napping and the other 2 are at school, then I am all for it usually. But by night time, I am so give out and kids have hung all over me all day, it is just like you do not want anyone else touching you. Even more so if you are breastfeeding a baby. Just speaking for myself, but every other mom I know is the exact same way. So that could be the problem for some of the mens wives, they are just to tired and tired of being touched. You do not know when you are getting married it will be that way, but it just does get that way. And Lord knows, men want sex no matter how tired they are.

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