sugarpie

Hillsboro, MO

#1 Jan 24, 2008
I'm new here and have a situation I hope someone can enlighten me about.

My husband hasn't wanted to have sex for a little over 2 years! Zilch, nada. I developed a complex and began thinking he was cheating on me. He finally went to the doctor awhile back and was diagnosed with low testostrone. He also is under a lot of stress from his job (enough to make him physically sick). I'm worried about him but found something a few days ago that has me thinking he's not being honest.

I caught him looking at porn on his computer. I backtracked and found he'd been looking at a lot for awhile. Normally this wouldn't bother me. But now, I'm wondering if he is just not interested in me or is cheating on me.

I'm confused! Guys out there, does this sound legit, or should I be concerned he's lying.I've asked him about it, and he seems to think it's no big deal.

“dream for freedom”

Since: Dec 07

Dream Land

#2 Jan 24, 2008
mmmm wow sounds like quiet a situation there sugarpie, have you possibly tried been spontanious and tried pleasuring him while he is looking at his porn? you would think that is when he would be most in the mood.

Though I am getting the idea that you are more conserned with the cheating factor at the moment rather than his low sex drive which is understandable...

I would say the only thing you can really do is approch him about it and ask him,

to answer your last question it does sound possible he may be cheeting on you but also it is very possible he isn't and this is all ligit.

Sad to say but another factor may be that he is not sexualy attracted to you any more like he used to be which is why he looks at porn on the computer though I hate to say that because it is so sad... but unfortunatly it is possible...

hope i was able to help some

Since: Sep 07

Location hidden

#3 Jan 24, 2008
sugarpie wrote:
I'm new here and have a situation I hope someone can enlighten me about.
My husband hasn't wanted to have sex for a little over 2 years! Zilch, nada. I developed a complex and began thinking he was cheating on me. He finally went to the doctor awhile back and was diagnosed with low testostrone. He also is under a lot of stress from his job (enough to make him physically sick). I'm worried about him but found something a few days ago that has me thinking he's not being honest.
I caught him looking at porn on his computer. I backtracked and found he'd been looking at a lot for awhile. Normally this wouldn't bother me. But now, I'm wondering if he is just not interested in me or is cheating on me.
I'm confused! Guys out there, does this sound legit, or should I be concerned he's lying.I've asked him about it, and he seems to think it's no big deal.
Stress can cause someone to loose the urge of having sex and the only way for him to do it is to live in fantasy that's why he is looking on those porns.

If you find him looking at porn,join him. Once he is so turn on,instead of doing it to hisself,you can do it together. There is a chance that he is fantasizing someone but I think it seldom that a man won't fantasize anyone other than his wife or g.f.

Let him enjoy his fantasy but get along with it if you can. Soon,your husband will get used to be more open with you and will enjoy watching the porn while making love with you.

At the end,the porn will just be a warm up for him but the joy and fun all goes to you. Either way,you are getting it so better than him getting out and giving it to someone else. Just an opinion. It is up to you.

“GUNS N ROSES”

Since: Dec 07

Australia

#4 Jan 24, 2008
sounds like he is cheating on you ,if he wont give you sex look else where
Craig

Dallas, TX

#5 Jan 24, 2008
Space1 is absolutely correct.
Don't be afraid to grab him while he is watching porn. Let him continue to watch while you pleasure him. This way you become part of his fantasy. Don't make him feel embarassed or humuliated because of his fantasies. Be understanding and eager to please!
jmo

Jacksonville, NC

#6 Jan 24, 2008
or come see me, exp. the teacher
sugarpie

Hillsboro, MO

#8 Jan 24, 2008
thanks for the posts (except for darrell -ouch!) I'm thinkin he has lost interest in me. We've had an open sex life, fulfilling many of each other's fantasies in the past. Even recently I've tried the porn participation thing with no results, among other things. He just says he has no interest. That's why I thought I'd get some other opinions.

I guess my frustration is a little selfish, I'm thinking if it's not the medical issue and just his inability to tell me "see ya" then I should be gettin' some somewhere - this is WAY TOO LONG to go without feeling a man inside of me.

Since: Sep 07

Location hidden

#9 Jan 24, 2008
sugarpie wrote:
thanks for the posts (except for darrell -ouch!) I'm thinkin he has lost interest in me. We've had an open sex life, fulfilling many of each other's fantasies in the past. Even recently I've tried the porn participation thing with no results, among other things. He just says he has no interest. That's why I thought I'd get some other opinions.
I guess my frustration is a little selfish, I'm thinking if it's not the medical issue and just his inability to tell me "see ya" then I should be gettin' some somewhere - this is WAY TOO LONG to go without feeling a man inside of me.
If he has no interest in sex then what is he doing drooling on those porn babes? If he already went to the doctor,he should been prescribed with medication to help his sexual life. For him enjoying the porn but not when with you,only tell me that his interest on you is totally gone. I am not sure if it is how you bring up yourself in bed or how you fix yourself. Weight may have an affect,too,if you are too much than before. But a man who love his wife will never do anything to hurt her and to neglect her sex wise as he is pushing her to sin. If you think you did your best and it is not working and if you are not guilty of anything,no matter what happened,he is part of the problem therefore,the fault is not yours alone. You are just human,girl. Talk to him for the last time. If you have to both go to the expert like sexologist,do it. If he won't get along with you,do what you think is the best for both of you.

My husband is diabetec,they said that causes ED. It is not since I know how to turn him on and to work on it. He is not taking medication for hard on. We are doing just fine each time and I am not hurting for sex at all. I am getting so much more than I deserve from my spouse.
Join Free

Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#10 Jan 24, 2008
Space1 wrote:
<quoted text>

My husband is diabetec,they said that causes ED. It is not since I know how to turn him on and to work on it. He is not taking medication for hard on. We are doing just fine each time and I am not hurting for sex at all. I am getting so much more than I deserve from my spouse.
Sorry about your husband. Well at least he can still satisfy you.:)
woodsman

Miami Beach, FL

#11 Jan 24, 2008
I'll bet if you look in at the right time you will find him pleasuring himself.

Since: Sep 07

Location hidden

#12 Jan 25, 2008
Ronnnie wrote:
<quoted text>
Sorry about your husband. Well at least he can still satisfy you.:)
He is. We are doing fine. We have no proper schedule for sex. We do it anytime we have a chance wether it is day light or night time.
Doing so is less pressure and much enjoyable.
bigTex

United States

#13 Jan 25, 2008
sugarpie wrote:
thanks for the posts (except for darrell -ouch!) I'm thinkin he has lost interest in me. We've had an open sex life, fulfilling many of each other's fantasies in the past. Even recently I've tried the porn participation thing with no results, among other things. He just says he has no interest. That's why I thought I'd get some other opinions.
I guess my frustration is a little selfish, I'm thinking if it's not the medical issue and just his inability to tell me "see ya" then I should be gettin' some somewhere - this is WAY TOO LONG to go without feeling a man inside of me.
contact me sweety i can help
Nat

Denver, CO

#15 Jun 16, 2010
I don't need help with my sexless marriage. I take blood pressure, ulcer, cholesterol, depression meds
which thankfully has supressed any desire for sex. Wife isn't happy with the situation. But really thats to bad. I enjoy not having that communication. Sex is boring, unfulfilling, and not worth the effort. Been that way for about 27 years.
Anonymous

Reading, UK

#16 Jun 16, 2010
I can't speak for your husband, but my wife went through depression last year. No sex, or not worth it! I got bored because I didn't understand. I had an affair with a hot 19 year old. I'm not proud of it! They both knew what was going on, my misstress knows it's only fun and sex, wife knows I'm always ther and love her. It will end when thing are better. Testosterone is a funny thing. It sounds too me like he's watching porn to increase his own. I know I do after a stressful job. Good luck

“The coffee monster”

Since: Oct 09

London, UK

#17 Jun 16, 2010
Nat wrote:
I don't need help with my sexless marriage. I take blood pressure, ulcer, cholesterol, depression meds
which thankfully has supressed any desire for sex. Wife isn't happy with the situation. But really thats to bad. I enjoy not having that communication. Sex is boring, unfulfilling, and not worth the effort. Been that way for about 27 years.
FFS! You do need help you poor bastard!
katie

Lake Hopatcong, NJ

#18 Jun 16, 2010
Countess_Bathory wrote:
<quoted text>FFS! You do need help you poor bastard!
and so do for your corpse shagging necroho

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