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“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#1 Apr 3, 2013
I want to spice up my love life. It's been bland for a while. How do I tell my hubby that a mild spanking would turn me on. I'm shy about bringing up the topic. We've never done anything risqué in the bedroom. At times, he'll playfully smack my bottom when he's flirting, but never as foreplay. Any suggestions?
Jade

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#2 Apr 3, 2013
Spank your self grab his penis and then ask he will do anything you want
Pete

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#3 Apr 3, 2013
Well, you could try spanking him first. Or, or...maybe you have to be naughty first.

“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#4 Apr 3, 2013
Jade wrote:
Spank your self grab his penis and then ask he will do anything you want
I don't know about spanking myself. It sounds awkward. But the grabbing and asking part, I'm sure will work in my favor ;-) just want a easier way to his playful smacks into OTK spankings.

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#5 Apr 3, 2013
naughty_nice wrote:
<quoted text> I don't know about spanking myself. It sounds awkward. But the grabbing and asking part, I'm sure will work in my favor ;-) just want a easier way to his playful smacks into OTK spankings.
I meant I want I want an easier way to turn his playful smacks into OTK spankings (oops..typo)

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#6 Apr 3, 2013
Pete wrote:
Well, you could try spanking him first. Or, or...maybe you have to be naughty first.
I've spanked him before, like in a playful way. But we've never done it during foreplay. How do I show him I'm being naughty?
Pete

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#7 Apr 3, 2013
naughty_nice wrote:
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I've spanked him before, like in a playful way. But we've never done it during foreplay. How do I show him I'm being naughty?
Boy, hell if I know. That's what I always did to get spanked. Of course, it wasn't sexual and my mom did the spanking. Naughty? Hmm...maybe start things up in a new place, outside of the bedroom. Different times of day. I've always enjoyed it when women just walk around naked. In our culture, that could be considered naughty. I doubt any of those are good ideas, I'm just not a very naughty person, myself. Have you thought about just coming out with it and telling your husband that that is what you want? It's easier said than done, I know, but it would be the most direct way (though least spontaneous).

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#8 Apr 3, 2013
Pete wrote:
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Boy, hell if I know. That's what I always did to get spanked. Of course, it wasn't sexual and my mom did the spanking. Naughty? Hmm...maybe start things up in a new place, outside of the bedroom. Different times of day. I've always enjoyed it when women just walk around naked. In our culture, that could be considered naughty. I doubt any of those are good ideas, I'm just not a very naughty person, myself. Have you thought about just coming out with it and telling your husband that that is what you want? It's easier said than done, I know, but it would be the most direct way (though least spontaneous).
I'm not a naughty person myself, but definitely not a prude either ;-) like I said, I'm shy about just coming forward with my desires. If I walk around naked, he may initiate foreplay/ sex. The usual stuff though. I was looking a more natural way to transitioning into spanking. Thanks for the advice though.
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#9 Apr 3, 2013
naughty_nice wrote:
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I'm not a naughty person myself, but definitely not a prude either ;-) like I said, I'm shy about just coming forward with my desires. If I walk around naked, he may initiate foreplay/ sex. The usual stuff though. I was looking a more natural way to transitioning into spanking. Thanks for the advice though.
Well, I'm not much for kink myself, I usually just try to be grateful that a woman lets me have sex with her. Anyway, you mentioned that your husband sometimes smacks you on the butt playfully, in a nonsexual way. Perhaps if you changed how you reacted to that, make it more sexually charged, he'd get the hint. Again, though, I don't really know. Good luck to you.

“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#11 Apr 4, 2013
Thanks, Pete! I will try what you suggested.@Bopo the riding crop you mentioned really intimidates me. I think it may be to overwhelming for the both of us. I'm thinking of my husband just using an open hand. No implements (for now ;-) we've never done light bondage, but I'm open for it, if its subtle.

“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#13 Apr 4, 2013
bopo wrote:
<quoted text>scrap the riding crop and go for the light spanking and let your guy finish off after by riding your brown eye (rusty bullet hole) may be a bit tight but use plenty of olive oil on your socket first, you could always clean the oil up after by sucking him clean!
Okay, I think that sounds more reasonable. We've done anal only a few times, and he really loves it. So I'm sure I can use incorporate that and the spanking as part of my "punishment".

“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#15 Apr 4, 2013
bopo wrote:
<quoted text>yes if you have done anal then spanking should be easy to bring up!
Also tie him up on the bed then a bit of face sitting would be good for him....and good for you.
As long as you dont break wind!!!
Tying him up or him tying me up sounds intimating, but maybe we'll like it. I don't know...I'm a bit intimidated. Face sitting, yeah done that successfully w/o breaking wind ;-)

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#16 Apr 4, 2013
Take his hand and put it on your ass when your first starting to make out. If he tries to move his hand from your asd put it back and tell him to play with your ass. As he's squeezing tell him to squeeze harder and harder. He should move to lightly smacking your ass soon after that. Then you just need to tell him to do it harder and harder. Has he smacked your ass during doggy style before? If so encouraging him during that should work as well. When your done that session mention breathlessly how much you enjoyed him playing with your ass.

Keep encouraging him further, do not get upset even if it's not exactly what your wanting. Guys can retreat very quickly without encouragement when it involves sex.
Jason

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#17 Apr 4, 2013
naughty_nice wrote:
I want to spice up my love life. It's been bland for a while. How do I tell my hubby that a mild spanking would turn me on. I'm shy about bringing up the topic. We've never done anything risqué in the bedroom. At times, he'll playfully smack my bottom when he's flirting, but never as foreplay. Any suggestions?
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#18 Apr 4, 2013
etem wrote:
Take his hand and put it on your ass when your first starting to make out. If he tries to move his hand from your asd put it back and tell him to play with your ass. As he's squeezing tell him to squeeze harder and harder. He should move to lightly smacking your ass soon after that. Then you just need to tell him to do it harder and harder. Has he smacked your ass during doggy style before? If so encouraging him during that should work as well. When your done that session mention breathlessly how much you enjoyed him playing with your ass.

Keep encouraging him further, do not get upset even if it's not exactly what your wanting. Guys can retreat very quickly without encouragement when it involves sex.
Thanks for the thorough and descriptive advice. To answer your question, he actually has (very lightly) squeezed and (also very lightly) smacked my ass while in the doggy style position. However, never has he intensified it or repeated it consistently. It was 2 or 3 (at most, and then he'd stop). I just wish he could put me over his knee, pulled down my panties and spanked it (but not too hard). Just enough to feel the sting. That would be enough to get me really soaking wet. Then if he slipped his fingers inside, I'm sure I'd cum so fast.

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#19 Apr 4, 2013
When he smacked your ass a couple times during doggy what did you do?

Right now you just need to get him to understand you like having your ass smacked, then the spanking can come after. Sounds like a great fantasy you have...for him anyways lol

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#20 Apr 4, 2013
Jason wrote:
<quoted text>hey text me 19373298783
I can't because i need to be discreet. Would you mind chatting on here? I'm laying in bed next to my hubby. He's asleep but I don't want to wake him up or him knowing about my conversations. I'm wet, and I just wish he could spank me for being so naughty. He never has before, and I could use the practice with role playing. I'm already wet just thinking about it

“sugar&spice! and not so nice”

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#22 Apr 4, 2013
etem wrote:
When he smacked your ass a couple times during doggy what did you do?

Right now you just need to get him to understand you like having your ass smacked, then the spanking can come after. Sounds like a great fantasy you have...for him anyways lol
I responded for soft moans, but that's pretty much it. I didn't make a fuss over it, and I wish I did. Maybe if I said something, like you suggested he would have continued. Yes-- it's been a fantasy for a long time. If only there was something I could do that would merit a spanking. You know? I could say something like "what are you gonna do...spank me?" And hopefully he'll follow along. I'm so wet even writing about it.
Jason

El Monte, CA

#23 Apr 4, 2013
Well just say ya have always wanna be spanked

“I like to be in control”

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#24 Apr 4, 2013
Indeed. You need to encourage him. You say he is your husband, so that means you've probably been together for a while now, so your sexual desires are already set inhis mind. He likely doesn't know about your interest.

Next time he slaps your ass say something like "oh yes...harder" and then "ohh harder still!" That should encourage him. If things start to slow down after a few more hits pout at him and say coyly "more?"

All of these should encourage him, and one good session should set it in his mind assuming he likes it

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