Rape Fantasies-how do i tell him?

Rape Fantasies-how do i tell him?

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lilalicellovesja sper

Broken Arrow, OK

#1 Apr 23, 2009
I have always dreamed of being "kidnapped" and taken somewhere and "forced" to do my "attacker's(attackers') bidding. I have no clue how to tell my fiance about this. please help

Since: Apr 09

Guelph, Canada

#2 Apr 23, 2009
maybe tell him you want to be taken really roughly and make a "safe word" so you can say stuff like please stop and not actually have him stop
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Liphook, UK

#3 Apr 23, 2009
Hey, you never know, he may rape you for real, then let's see if you like it then.
Rich

Nottingham, UK

#4 Apr 24, 2009
My girlfriend and I in our experimental phase decided to each write our deepest fantasies down on a bit of paper and the let each other read them. We both put down rape :)
Well, I phrased it like "sex where you resist me and say no". Needless to say, it was a pretty good night
Cryos

West Palm Beach, FL

#5 Apr 24, 2009
A large number (some studies suggest the vast majority) of women have "rape" fantasies, so you can consider this normal. Of course, most women who have this fantasy don't actually want to be raped, it's just a fantasy.

There can be numerous reasons for it. You could be one of those unfortunates who was brought up to feel that sex is "dirty" or "bad", and a rape fantasy takes all the decision-making and blame off your shoulders. You might simply enjoy the thought of somone wanting you so badly that they'll do anything to have you. Or it could be something else, we're not really here to figure that out.

In any case, unless you literally want your fiance to kidnap you in your sleep, throw you hogtied into a van, and drive you to a warehouse where he and his buddies force you to do all kinds of unspeakable things (which I can't imagine you do), then do this:

Tell him that you've had a longtime sexual fantasy about being forced into sex, you don't necessarily need to go into detail if you don't think he can handle it. Assure him that it's just a fantasy, and that you love making love to him, but that a bit of ravaging couldn't hurt once in awhile.

A girlfriend of mine put it this way, and I paraphrase: "Sometimes, I just want to find myself bent over the back of a chair, torn panties on the floor, with you ramming away like you just can't get enough". Essentially, she got incredibly turned on by the thought of me needing her badly enough to lose control, and it was a turn on for me, knowing how much she was enjoying it, so it worked out pretty well.

Since: Feb 09

Location hidden

#6 Apr 24, 2009
You have two posts of the same question???

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Since: Aug 11

United States

#7 Aug 19, 2011
Cryos wrote:
A large number (some studies suggest the vast majority) of women have "rape" fantasies, so you can consider this normal. Of course, most women who have this fantasy don't actually want to be raped, it's just a fantasy.
There can be numerous reasons for it. You could be one of those unfortunates who was brought up to feel that sex is "dirty" or "bad", and a rape fantasy takes all the decision-making and blame off your shoulders. You might simply enjoy the thought of somone wanting you so badly that they'll do anything to have you. Or it could be something else, we're not really here to figure that out.
In any case, unless you literally want your fiance to kidnap you in your sleep, throw you hogtied into a van, and drive you to a warehouse where he and his buddies force you to do all kinds of unspeakable things (which I can't imagine you do), then do this:
Tell him that you've had a longtime sexual fantasy about being forced into sex, you don't necessarily need to go into detail if you don't think he can handle it. Assure him that it's just a fantasy, and that you love making love to him, but that a bit of ravaging couldn't hurt once in awhile.
A girlfriend of mine put it this way, and I paraphrase: "Sometimes, I just want to find myself bent over the back of a chair, torn panties on the floor, with you ramming away like you just can't get enough". Essentially, she got incredibly turned on by the thought of me needing her badly enough to lose control, and it was a turn on for me, knowing how much she was enjoying it, so it worked out pretty well.
I had the same"fantasy " and didn't know why... but this really made me understand because I grew up thinking sex was bad lol thank you for your post :)

Since: Aug 11

United States

#8 Aug 19, 2011
Just be honest with him about it. If he really loves you then he'll make sure you get to live out your fantasy somehow.

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