Why do men go to prostitutes?

Why do men go to prostitutes?

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Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#1 Aug 15, 2008
I have been sex with a prostitute isn't the same as sex with someone you love, so why would someone waste their time with crap sex?

Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#2 Aug 15, 2008
That should be * I have been thinking sex with prostitute isn't the same.

Since: Jul 08

Norco, LA

#3 Aug 15, 2008
Prostitution wouldn't be "The Worlds' Oldest Proffession" if men did not use them.

I guess if your question was do men in relationships use prostitues, that would be a whole other animal.
Allan

Toronto, Canada

#4 Aug 15, 2008
This question is different for different men. If one travels to regions where there are large numbers of men living far from their families--migrant workers, for example--miners, oil industry workers, foresters, fishermen in deep sea fleets half way around the world putting into ports, sailers, they have no other easily accessible women and so they visit prostitutes for sex, as well as for other reasons men visit prostitutes. Which is what?

Apart from sex, men visit prostitutes to get a comforting shoulder, a person to talk to, female companionship, a person to confide in, get advice, feel more like at home, in other words, get psychic comfort and satisfaction, apart from sexual contact. Intimacy in a sense that goes beyond mere sex as well. Of course this does not always happen and some prostitutes are either inexperienced and cannot deliver, or does not care, or is just bad at the real work of being a prostitute, which is a profession that requires a lot of skill and experience to do well. A woman need not be beautiful to be successful as a prostitute. Indeed, she need not be youthful and appealing either, although that makes her able to do her job better and to get more lucrative customers and better pay and gifts and gratuities.

Why did I visit prostitutes? I am not sure I wish to answer that question. However, I will say that it came with no strings attached and there are times when one wants sex with another person and no strings. Just pure sex, with not much talk and no pretense of phony love and courting and the like--Hemingway mentions something to this effect in his short story, "Soldiers Home."
Dude

Seattle, WA

#5 Aug 15, 2008
Most guys are super horny and will bang just about anything that moves!
Allan

Toronto, Canada

#6 Aug 15, 2008
Dude wrote:
Most guys are super horny and will bang just about anything that moves!
Please leave the sheep and chickens alone! Trees with knots are also vulnerable huh? Most boys, like you, stick to wanking because they are too scared to approach a women and the girls won't give you the time of day. Now blow! Be gone with you!

Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#7 Aug 15, 2008
Allan wrote:
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Please leave the sheep and chickens alone! Trees with knots are also vulnerable huh? Most boys, like you, stick to wanking because they are too scared to approach a women and the girls won't give you the time of day. Now blow! Be gone with you!
Chickens are defenseless animals. I always think its cruel that so many get eaten. I would rather them dude wank then resort to chicken fecking.

Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#8 Aug 15, 2008
Allan wrote:
This question is different for different men. If one travels to regions where there are large numbers of men living far from their families--migrant workers, for example--miners, oil industry workers, foresters, fishermen in deep sea fleets half way around the world putting into ports, sailers, they have no other easily accessible women and so they visit prostitutes for sex, as well as for other reasons men visit prostitutes. Which is what?
Apart from sex, men visit prostitutes to get a comforting shoulder, a person to talk to, female companionship, a person to confide in, get advice, feel more like at home, in other words, get psychic comfort and satisfaction, apart from sexual contact. Intimacy in a sense that goes beyond mere sex as well. Of course this does not always happen and some prostitutes are either inexperienced and cannot deliver, or does not care, or is just bad at the real work of being a prostitute, which is a profession that requires a lot of skill and experience to do well. A woman need not be beautiful to be successful as a prostitute. Indeed, she need not be youthful and appealing either, although that makes her able to do her job better and to get more lucrative customers and better pay and gifts and gratuities.
Why did I visit prostitutes? I am not sure I wish to answer that question. However, I will say that it came with no strings attached and there are times when one wants sex with another person and no strings. Just pure sex, with not much talk and no pretense of phony love and courting and the like--Hemingway mentions something to this effect in his short story, "Soldiers Home."
You saying that theres more to seeing a prostitute other than sex? Don't you feel shame about doing what you did?
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Allan

Toronto, Canada

#9 Aug 15, 2008
Ronnnie wrote:
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You saying that theres more to seeing a prostitute other than sex? Don't you feel shame about doing what you did?
Why? Of course not! Do you feel shame going to a doctor or dentist or barber? Prostitutes are highly paid professionals--at least many of them. Some are sleazy and wrong for their chosen profession and some are forced into it, but the majority in democratic countries enter the profession because it pays well, provides independence and flexibility and many enjoy the lifestyle and their work. You need to undo a lifetime of puritanical thought! It is not easy finding good prostitutes and someone that will fit one's needs and wants, just like in any other professional service, but with time and effort, one can find someone just right for you!
Franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#10 Aug 16, 2008
Ronnnie wrote:
I have been sex with a prostitute isn't the same as sex with someone you love, so why would someone waste their time with crap sex?
I've never been with a prostitude but there were times when I wondered "Is this the way I will get sex?" ... this was when had "dry spells" where I worreid about when I would find my next girlfreind. Becasue I was shy and unconfident up to my mid-20's it took me a while sometimes and I'd be looking for many months sometimes.

HOwever, when I asked some freinds about thier experiences, invariably they were not good. They said the experience was too businesslike. Very little time to talk, get to know each other, establish any kind of emotional link. Some of them were very good at BJ's .. in fact sometimes too good .. they seemed to know how to get a guy to come quicker than he would have liked ...

This is a difference between the low-priced hookers and the real professional "call girls" .. who charge much more but are much more "professional" as described above.
IWasTooYoung

Stirling City, CA

#11 Aug 16, 2008
Allan wrote:
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Why? Of course not! Do you feel shame going to a doctor or dentist or barber? Prostitutes are highly paid professionals--at least many of them. Some are sleazy and wrong for their chosen profession and some are forced into it, but the majority in democratic countries enter the profession because it pays well, provides independence and flexibility and many enjoy the lifestyle and their work. You need to undo a lifetime of puritanical thought! It is not easy finding good prostitutes and someone that will fit one's needs and wants, just like in any other professional service, but with time and effort, one can find someone just right for you!
Because of some evil laws that cause prostitution to be corrupt and dangerious, it's very difficult FOR ME to find someone just right for me.

Since: Dec 07

Brisbane, Australia

#12 Aug 16, 2008
Franko wrote:
<quoted text>I've never been with a prostitude but there were times when I wondered "Is this the way I will get sex?" ... this was when had "dry spells" where I worreid about when I would find my next girlfreind. Becasue I was shy and unconfident up to my mid-20's it took me a while sometimes and I'd be looking for many months sometimes.
HOwever, when I asked some freinds about thier experiences, invariably they were not good. They said the experience was too businesslike. Very little time to talk, get to know each other, establish any kind of emotional link. Some of them were very good at BJ's .. in fact sometimes too good .. they seemed to know how to get a guy to come quicker than he would have liked ...
This is a difference between the low-priced hookers and the real professional "call girls" .. who charge much more but are much more "professional" as described above.
Your describing it from a sex pov where Allan is talking more about the other aspects, like having someone to talk about your problems etc. I just wondered how some dude went out and picked up one of the street and told them about their problems. lol

I think prostitutes would probably have more problems than the guys that pay to sleep with them. I have met girls before that have considered doing it, but the reasons they were doing it was because they needed the money to survive, not because they wanted to get rich or like doing it.
Allan

Toronto, Canada

#13 Aug 16, 2008
Ronnnie wrote:
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Your describing it from a sex pov where Allan is talking more about the other aspects, like having someone to talk about your problems etc. I just wondered how some dude went out and picked up one of the street and told them about their problems. lol
I think prostitutes would probably have more problems than the guys that pay to sleep with them. I have met girls before that have considered doing it, but the reasons they were doing it was because they needed the money to survive, not because they wanted to get rich or like doing it.
There is a large amount of literature on prostitutes out there, some dating back to antiquity, some more recent, as in former prostitutes describing their professional lives, some written by "madams," such as Sydney Biddle Barrows, high society lady, or in East of Eden by John Steinbeck, and Cannery Row, or in books by other writers, or paintings by Toulouse Lautrec, who lived in a brothel and painted the girls around him [Lautrec was physically deformed and seemingly quite hideous physically]. Egon Schiele painted prostitutes as well--indeed, many European artists' models moonlit as prostitutes as well. Prostitution was legal in parts of the Austro-Hungarian Empire (Prague) in the 19th c., and is legal in many places today--in your Australia, there is at least one brothel listed on the stock exchange as a company! In movies, prostitutes are often portrayed as either victims, or women with hearts of gold who are understanding and empathic to the needs of shy or wounded men, and even occasionally portrayed as patriotic heroines! Prostitutes have often played major roles in politics, throughout history! Indeed, they have changed the course of history!

The great danger in seeing a prostitute is to get attached. As for being able to help one with problems, one ought to never assume that other people with problems are unable to help one. Just because someone has problems, does not disqualify them from being able to help you solve or sort out what aflicts you. That is in fact the basis of self-help groups, including Alcoholics Anonymous, Narco Anon etc--addicts helping each other, better than most professionals can help these same people!

Since: Aug 08

Summerhill, PA

#14 Aug 16, 2008
This is a good question. I used escorts because I was a virgin and wanted some sexual experience. With some escorts, the sex is really good because they love doing it and love pleasing the customer. It's not just sex, it's the ability to do specific acts or fulfil fantasies. I was single when I used it but the escorts told me most of their clients were married men who were missing something in their relationships at home.

The good escorts really make you feel really good about the whole experience. They are attractive and pamper you and don't ask for much more than common courtesy and money in return. A girlfriend or wife requires much more investment.

But I hear you on the sex with someone you love. When I was in a relationship it was wonderful. Sure I didn't get everything I wanted when I wanted and of course I had to invest time and emotion into it, but sex with someone you love is really worth it for me.

So for me, the escorts were mainly to improve my confidence and get experience. I doubt I would do it again. I like dating and being in a loving relationship.
Franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#15 Aug 16, 2008
Ronnnie wrote:
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Your describing it from a sex pov where Allan is talking more about the other aspects, like having someone to talk about your problems etc. I just wondered how some dude went out and picked up one of the street and told them about their problems. lol
I think prostitutes would probably have more problems than the guys that pay to sleep with them. I have met girls before that have considered doing it, but the reasons they were doing it was because they needed the money to survive, not because they wanted to get rich or like doing it.
Interesting observation ... yes I think you are right, women who are prostitutes ... especialy the low-class street type, probably have eff'd up lives. Apparently a lot of them feed drug habits.

I think a very small percentage of women would CHOOSE such a lifestyle over many other choices. I have heard that very good and "in demand" prostitutes (call girls) do make well above average income.

There were some other threads that talked about this and some guys think it costs less to regularily see a prostitute and have guaranteed sex, compared to dating and no guarantee of sex. So I guess if yuo see the same woman regularily then yuo can get to know her and talk to her ... but I can't imagine getting anything emotional out of it if yuo only see a hooker on rare occasions.

(Hmmmm ... I wonder how much of their income prostitutes declare for the government/re. taxes??? Seeing as Allan thinks prostitudes are OK and all... Hey Allan ... can you answer me that???? You know, compared to waitresses declaring all their tips?? SHould prostitutes go to jail for tax evasion???)

Since: Aug 08

Sterling Heights, MI

#16 Aug 16, 2008
hmmm... well I could ask my ExH for you, as you might know this is 1 of the reason's why he is indeed my Exh now.

He had a Heavy Addiction to Sex, Prostitutes and Porn.

I could ask him how it felt being arrested for solicitation.?

Or about the 1 time: He brought something home when being with one - Causing me to have major surgery-a hystorectomy.

So, with all thats new out there like aids and all, tell me, is it really Worth the chance.?
Orpheus

Lakeland, FL

#17 Aug 16, 2008
I have no problems with the sex workers, they provide a service that we as humans crave and need. I believe the United States should legalize it and require all sex workers to do regular STD check ups. Plus,if prostitution were legalized then maybe sexual predators would be able to release their sexual tensions on the professional sex workers who can help them, instead of the unwilling public.

Since: Aug 08

Sterling Heights, MI

#18 Aug 16, 2008
Orpheus wrote:
I have no problems with the sex workers, they provide a service that we as humans crave and need. I believe the United States should legalize it and require all sex workers to do regular STD check ups. Plus,if prostitution were legalized then maybe sexual predators would be able to release their sexual tensions on the professional sex workers who can help them, instead of the unwilling public.
So your saying that Preditor's and Rapest - Do what they Do because Prostitution isn't legal.???

They do what they do, because they Like it.
Its a sick and perverted act, and your wayyy off the topic with that.

Besides, if they made it legal, people would still do it and hide income made from it. sheesh...
IWasTooYoung

Stirling City, CA

#19 Aug 16, 2008
Silent Willow wrote:
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So your saying that Preditor's and Rapest - Do what they Do because Prostitution isn't legal.???
They do what they do, because they Like it.
Its a sick and perverted act, and your wayyy off the topic with that.
Besides, if they made it legal, people would still do it and hide income made from it. sheesh...
I think is what Orpheus was trying to explain is that legalized prostitution may enable rapists to get sex therapy, which would HELP them learn to have sex without raping. If more people can be legally taught to make love, there would be fewer sexual abuse victims becoming rapists. Sex therapy is very closely related to prostitution, expecially if that type of sex work was a legal way to help people. And the sex therapist would make hundreds of dollars per hour and pay taxes like the rest of us do.

Since: Aug 08

Sterling Heights, MI

#20 Aug 16, 2008
IWasTooYoung wrote:
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I think is what Orpheus was trying to explain is that legalized prostitution may enable rapists to get sex therapy, which would HELP them learn to have sex without raping. If more people can be legally taught to make love, there would be fewer sexual abuse victims becoming rapists. Sex therapy is very closely related to prostitution, expecially if that type of sex work was a legal way to help people. And the sex therapist would make hundreds of dollars per hour and pay taxes like the rest of us do.
That does not make any sense, since its the violent and submissive act rapest desire, and the perverted act that preditor's desire.

If a prostitute could help them, they could do that now. That would change nothing...

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