I would

Mabank, TX

#22 Oct 5, 2010
I am a bi curious male and I would like to suck on a guy that can't come.
If there is no semen then it would be relatively safe as far as most stds go.
So guys there are alternatives don't give up.
my 2 cents worth

Brookville, OH

#23 Oct 6, 2010
I would wrote:
I am a bi curious male and I would like to suck on a guy that can't come.
If there is no semen then it would be relatively safe as far as most stds go.
So guys there are alternatives don't give up.
In my case, you would have to put up with "soft serve"!! I'm bi-curious like a lot of other guys, at least from what I've gathered by the number of threads dealing with that topic. Maybe you can find someone who can get an erection and have dry orgasms both!! You could always start your own thread on your desire and encourage positive replies for contact!! Good luck!!!
I gotta go

Raleigh, NC

#24 Oct 12, 2010
Folks --there's a lot of discussion here about erections and lack thereof....but no one is mentioning one outcome of prostrate removal that has to affect many more men than just me...and it's the absolute worst. Namely, I can have great orgasms (only 80-90% hard), but I also shoot pee like a firehose. I wasn't told before surgery that I will have a direct pipeline from bladder to weenie, with no prostrate for valve control. I am not incontenent otherwise (...and that's real good), but, man, orgasms come with major pee. Now, sure I empty my bladder first, but after 10, 20, or so minutes later, there's more pee that has built up. I have to squeeze pretty hard while orgasming after voiding bladder, and that usually works (but no fun)....
What to do? Any suggestions? Certainly some of you are experiencing the same...not dry orgs, but very wet ones, shooting urine (..man, that organsm 'pump' really propels it, but I could cry afterwards because this is such a nasty way to live. I say to those considering surgery: NO. The value of life diminishes greatly. No full erections; pee coming out; leaking sometimes if I move 'funny' thru-out the day. What a mess! I wish I had not had the sugery (laproscopic, the best...but it made a mess of my sex life)
MajorSubincision

Spring, TX

#25 Nov 10, 2010
I would wrote:
I am a bi curious male and I would like to suck on a guy that can't come.
If there is no semen then it would be relatively safe as far as most stds go.
So guys there are alternatives don't give up.
I don't think you lower the risk of STD's much simply because there is no semen. You should still use a condom when having sex / oral sex with a man you have not seen the recent STD test results of.
Jonathan

Manchester, NH

#26 Nov 10, 2010
Well, let's see. I agree a lot with "I Gotta Go"....things are very different. Major problem here is even thinking about meeting a woman. I mean, if things are feeling crapy for us, how can we even begin to entertain the idea of sharing this?

I can get pretty hard while sitting or if I put an elastic around my balls...but it does take some concentration or watching of porn shorts like on youporn type sites.

Truthfully, I'd probably just like to have a woman come and suck me off a few times per week while I eat her and touch and caress her.
Susie

Indianapolis, IN

#27 Nov 10, 2010
Shots work good for us. And I give it. I love my man!
Susie

Indianapolis, IN

#28 Nov 10, 2010
Shots work good for us...and I give it. I love my man!!
Ralph

Shorewood, IL

#29 Dec 6, 2010
Prostatectomy for me back in May 2010. Nerve sparing via robotic assist ans still waiting for nerves to begin to function again. My wife of 20 years has been a saint but i want her to have what she used to have. I can pleasure her orally and other ways but (she admits) it's not quite the same as a good stiff one. So . . . we talked and talked and finally agreed to carefully screen men from a swingers site and we had a blast this past weekend. It was SO gratifying to see her in the throes of passion and getting dicked good and hard. She loved it and could not stop thanking me over and over again. She means the world to me and there are no jealousy issues. She is able to get me off by using her hands and it takes about 20 minutes. She lovingly did that after the guy left. Still hoping that I'll get better in time but for now . . . this seems to be a good alternative.
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Jose

Weston, CT

#30 Jan 6, 2011
Don't have surgery. Have sex for a few years, and then die. We all have to die anyway.

Since: Jan 11

Alto, GA

#31 Jan 28, 2011
I had mine removed 3 years ago. I got my first beginning erections 3 days post op with the catheter still in. The surgeon saved the nerves that control erections and continence. Three months post op I had full erections with 5mg Cialis. Now I get full natural erections with no meds. It takes time for those sensitive nerves to heal. The penis was shortened by the surgery but after getting almost daily erections mine is "stretched" back to my normal size which I have always been proud of. Orgasms and pleasure is the same even better not needing condoms I can feel the inside of my woman. No ejaculation but the spasms are still fantastic. I don't mind the dry orgasms as now I can fake orgasms too !!!!! LOL
nervous guy

Round Lake, IL

#32 Jan 28, 2011
My father has prostate cancer but he's never had it removed because of other heath issues.

I'm 36 and getting nervous. I haven't been checked yet cause I'm affraid they may tell me something bad. I do get up and pee most nights (an sign of an enlarged prostate).

I spake it as much as I can. Is there anything else to be done for prostate health?
mac

Monroe Township, NJ

#33 Feb 1, 2011
does anyone know if these vacuum pumps have any benefit?
chris

UK

#34 Feb 2, 2011
i had my prostate removed almost a year ago and for a while I was able to get about half an erection but my psa started to rise again and I had to have a course of radiotherapy and now can not get any erection at all. I have been experimenting with a vacuum pump and, although this gives me an erection inside the tube it is lost as soon as the pressure is released. The tube is about 3 inches in diameter which seems too wide to put a cock ring on it to slip off once an erection has been achieved. I tried today using a piece of plastic pipe into which I could just insert my penis and fixed a flange onto this plastic tube so that I could insert it into the vacuum tube. This makes it easy to get a cock ring into position and seems to work quite well although early days yet. Whether using a vacuum pump helps you to achieve a natural erection I don't know.

Since: Feb 11

Stari Mikanovci, Croatia

#35 Feb 2, 2011
Terry wrote:
Looks like us men are doomed after having our prostate removed.
Hallo Terry, amssory i fell like you too befor but not at this stage hawing datig young woman from 34y.o.- what ever,where is the will there is the way. Its all up to you not your penis Terry,You are in charge , you are captain,so what order you gived you self you must must be doung that..Young i hawed cpmletly prostate removal back to 2007/08.
After that i wass ready to kill my surger,reason is nothing hapen, no sex life at all...
Then my friend and doctor D.U.from Victoria /Australia recommend me hormon therapy with with Prof Dr Lording in Melbourne, sice i start that My problems is going trough the windows.. if you wanted more inform phone contact no etc or any one else send me a message on : jastreb000@gmail.com best regards roooz

Since: Feb 11

Stari Mikanovci, Croatia

#36 Feb 2, 2011
This is for a persons with total prostate removal, and what and how to still enjoj sex life with your deareset one ...YOU must go for a hormone therapy with your hormone therapy specialist and it is work . send me a note if you hawed some other quest...we are all together into this so we should help each other if we can, no matter of race ,contry ,religion etc..

roooz
Leroy

Stewartsville, NJ

#37 Feb 2, 2011
nervous guy wrote:
My father has prostate cancer but he's never had it removed because of other heath issues.
I'm 36 and getting nervous. I haven't been checked yet cause I'm affraid they may tell me something bad. I do get up and pee most nights (an sign of an enlarged prostate).
I spake it as much as I can. Is there anything else to be done for prostate health?
At your age, Saw Palmetto and other related supplements should help keep the prostate in good health. Check with a good Health Food store nearby. Good luck to you.
Beach Lover

United States

#38 Feb 4, 2011
Thanks for your post. It is reassuring to know things are working normal again for you. My husband was diagnosed on Sept. 7, 2010 with prostate cancer. No symptoms just a routine physical showed an elevated PSA of 14. After the subsequent biopsy we decided on the robotic nerve-sparing surgery which was done last December 9th. He too left the stirrings of an erection while the cath was still in. The doctor put him on 5 mg of Cialis for 4 weeks. Then it was time for the 6 week check-up on Jan. 17, 2011. The PSA was undetectable thank God and no treatments of any kind are necessary. He was then advised to start using the vacuum pump 2-3 times a week and to try Viagra. After a month of taking Viagra a couple days a week, he is to take Levitra for a month. I guess the doctor wants to let him try all three and see which meds work best for him. Right now we can't see that any have helped. We tried to have sex once after he used the pump and put that horrid band on. Ouch! His penis was only semi-hard and 2/3 the normal length before surgery. Very difficult to get penetration. He said the orgasm was weird with no ejaculate but it felt really good. I loved the fact there was none to clean up later. I was unable to achieve orgasm because it kind of felt like a science experiment. He was able to rectify that with a little help from a vibrator but I'd prefer his hard penis. Right now he doesn't seem that interested in trying again to have sex. I guess things aren't working properly yet. I was wondering if this regimen sounds anything like what you were instructed to do post-op. I don't want to put any pressure on him but I do hope things get somewhat back to normal within the upcoming year. He is 51 yrs. old and I am 47. We have been married for 31 years this month. Childhood sweethearts. I love him dearly and would never stray because of lack of sex but we have always had a very active sex life and I miss that intimacy. Oral sex is something I have always loved to give. I look forward to doing this when things are working again, but now I won't have to swallow. That is going to be weird for me. Sorry, I am not trying to be graphic but want you to get the whole picture of what things used to be like. Do you have any suggestions on what we need to be doing? Is this anything like what you went through? I would appreciate any advice that is sincere from anyone that has been through the same thing.

As far as the incontinence goes,the doctor said at the 6 week check-up he was ahead of most patients at that point. He wears one of my panty liners everyday and seldom has to change during the day. If he does, you can almost bet it is because he has had too much caffeine that day or has strained in some way at work. He is really hoping this goes away soon but he seems to be dealing with it well.

Funny thing is, even with out the sex we are closer now than ever before. I guess having gone through everything together: the doctor appointments,the pre-op tests, getting the news "You have cancer" and being so afraid of losing my soul mate in such a short time frame we had no choice but to face this alone, but together. We have been so very blessed and I am so thankful to God for my husband. I love him so very much.
Beach Lover

United States

#39 Feb 4, 2011
photojax wrote:
I had mine removed 3 years ago. I got my first beginning erections 3 days post op with the catheter still in. The surgeon saved the nerves that control erections and continence. Three months post op I had full erections with 5mg Cialis. Now I get full natural erections with no meds. It takes time for those sensitive nerves to heal. The penis was shortened by the surgery but after getting almost daily erections mine is "stretched" back to my normal size which I have always been proud of. Orgasms and pleasure is the same even better not needing condoms I can feel the inside of my woman. No ejaculation but the spasms are still fantastic. I don't mind the dry orgasms as now I can fake orgasms too !!!!! LOL
To Photojax...My above post was meant for you or anyone else with any advice. Thanks!
50ishdad

Sheffield, UK

#40 Feb 4, 2011
Beach Lover wrote:
Funny thing is, even with out the sex we are closer now than ever before. I guess having gone through everything together: the doctor appointments,the pre-op tests, getting the news "You have cancer" and being so afraid of losing my soul mate in such a short time frame we had no choice but to face this alone, but together. We have been so very blessed and I am so thankful to God for my husband. I love him so very much.
Hey, Beach Lover, I can't yet offer any wisdom on post-op experiences, as I am in that rather scary position for so many middle aged men of wondering whether the more frequent night peeing and reduced bladder capacity are forewarning me of what's to come! However, what I can say with complete certainty is that your attitude and commitment and enduring support for your hubbie are wonderful, a great credit to you, and enormously encouraging for men like me to see. Well done, thank you, and I hope I get such great support if and when my time comes!:-)

I'm sure that your support will carry him through, and if he seems disinterested in sex at the moment, it may be because he is unsure, deep down, how you will react to him trying to live up to your and his previously great sex life. With my male mindset, I know that it would be tempting not to try at all, rather than go through the emotional pain of "failing" in bed.

Take the lead with him, tell him you need an orgasm with his help, and perhaps that will help him regain his confidence in his own body. If he can't always erect for you, take your pleasure from him another way, and let him know how great it's been. For us men, we need the confidence that our penis, the symbol of our manhood, will work. For a woman, failure to arouse is not so obvious. For us men, failure of arousal is SO obvious, it's like announcing it to the neighbourhood by megafone. So he needs to know that you are having a great time, having your orgasm with him and with his help, even if his cock is not erecting as it used to... And maybe that will rebuild his self confidence in his ability to satisfy you.

Being able to take my partner to orgasm is an enormously erotic experience for me, and a key factor in building and sustaining my own arousal. If I'm flagging a bit, and then I see that far-off look start to appear in her eyes, I know she's going over the edge: and it's like a shot of aphrodisiac straight to my groin - suddenly I'm hard like a teenager again, and often it's enough to trigger my own orgasm.

Good luck :-)
Ralph

Flint, TX

#41 Feb 4, 2011
Tracey wrote:
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I sucked one once. This guy told me he had had his prostate removed and could come but not ejaculate. I'd never heard of it, but his dick was plenty hard and the no come was nice. None in my mouth and no post-coital drain. It was nice. It's too bad my new BF dumps loads.
Question: Did any urine come out?

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