Interracial sex? Is this normal to want in a marriage?

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Since: May 10

United States

#1 May 22, 2010
I'm a white girl married to a white man. My husband brings home dirty movies all the time showing only white girls with black men. The only time we have sex anymore is if we are watching, reading or talking about interracial sex. For about the last 6 months he has bought me several large black toys. I have caught him whispering in my ear when he thought I was sleeping about how good I look with black men inside me. He went on in great detail for about 45 minutes like he watched me all the time with a group of black men. Now he is talking about bring home some black men for me to have sex with while he watches. He brings it up all the time, at dinner, in the car, in bed, etc.. I used to get mad but now I wonder if I should just do it to shut him up! I have to admit I always wondered about the myths about black men.

Should I give in or stand my ground? BTW, I have fantasized about with being with 2 guys at the same time for as long as I can remember, my husband wants to have 2 or 3 black men over for me. My heart says NO! but my mind keeps tempting me.

“Just takin' it easy”

Since: Mar 10

Owensville, Mo.

#2 May 23, 2010
It would be presumptuous of me to advise you on this; but I can give a little input.

Iíve been in threesomes and foursomes. Interesting events, they were. You could even live out that fantasy that you say youíve had for so long. But you have to decide whatís best for your own situation. Sorry I canít be of more help to you.

Good luck, and may the Almighty take a liking to ya!
Homeboy

AOL

#3 May 23, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
I'm a white girl married to a white man. My husband brings home dirty movies all the time showing only white girls with black men. The only time we have sex anymore is if we are watching, reading or talking about interracial sex. For about the last 6 months he has bought me several large black toys. I have caught him whispering in my ear when he thought I was sleeping about how good I look with black men inside me. He went on in great detail for about 45 minutes like he watched me all the time with a group of black men. Now he is talking about bring home some black men for me to have sex with while he watches. He brings it up all the time, at dinner, in the car, in bed, etc.. I used to get mad but now I wonder if I should just do it to shut him up! I have to admit I always wondered about the myths about black men.
Should I give in or stand my ground? BTW, I have fantasized about with being with 2 guys at the same time for as long as I can remember, my husband wants to have 2 or 3 black men over for me. My heart says NO! but my mind keeps tempting me.
I would believe its all a GIG MISTAKE and then some .
truth

United States

#4 May 23, 2010

Since: Oct 08

Arlington, TX

#5 May 24, 2010
Beth if you want to do it, then do it. I am just like your husband, I want my wife to have sex with black men as well. My problem is she is very conservative. Does the idea turn you on? Does your husband know your fantasy?
scorpiomedic@yahoo.com
WTF

United States

#6 May 24, 2010
It should be something you both should talk about and if you want to do it than I say go for it!!!!
But if not tell your husband why you dont & how the whole subject is making u feel and maybe suggest something that's sexually different that would find satisfying!!!

Hope that helps :-)
Lisa

Sherman Oaks, CA

#7 May 24, 2010
Why do husbands suggest this? Do they have to make their wives into kind of a porn actress in order to still find her exciting? Or do husbands feel too much pressure on sexual performance, so they want to bring in some help?

Two of my female friends are having affairs, but the husbands don't know. These women don't just want sexual variety, but also the attention, romance, dating fun, and intimacy that calls for privacy, not a watching husband.
Bandit

Charlotte, NC

#8 May 24, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
I'm a white girl married to a white man. My husband brings home dirty movies all the time showing only white girls with black men. The only time we have sex anymore is if we are watching, reading or talking about interracial sex. For about the last 6 months he has bought me several large black toys. I have caught him whispering in my ear when he thought I was sleeping about how good I look with black men inside me. He went on in great detail for about 45 minutes like he watched me all the time with a group of black men. Now he is talking about bring home some black men for me to have sex with while he watches. He brings it up all the time, at dinner, in the car, in bed, etc.. I used to get mad but now I wonder if I should just do it to shut him up! I have to admit I always wondered about the myths about black men.
Should I give in or stand my ground? BTW, I have fantasized about with being with 2 guys at the same time for as long as I can remember, my husband wants to have 2 or 3 black men over for me. My heart says NO! but my mind keeps tempting me.
I dont think it has to do with anything mare than fantasy. But I have to agree with the old dude it's gotta be your choice. I would wait tillt he next time he brings it up to you and talk to him about it. You need to be well informed about the risk and consequenses that may occur. The real ones seem not to be the ones you will have it sound like your husband has given this great thought.I had the same desires to let my wife enjoy another man with a bigger cock it happened to be a very good friend that I could trust. Don't let your or his desires put you in danger how do you feel about this really do you want this?
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Bandit

Charlotte, NC

#9 May 24, 2010
So did you try the toys? If so how was they and did you take all of it and how big are they?
truth

United States

#10 May 24, 2010
Beth45434

United States

#11 May 25, 2010
Bandit wrote:
So did you try the toys? If so how was they and did you take all of it and how big are they?
Yes i enjoy them very much. They are molded after some black porn star (can't remember his name). I find myself using them by myself after my husband goes to work sometimes. They are also part of our normal sex together.

“<Bronx cheer>”

Since: Jul 07

Gresham, OR

#12 May 25, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
I'm a white girl married to a white man. My husband brings home dirty movies all the time showing only white girls with black men. The only time we have sex anymore is if we are watching, reading or talking about interracial sex. For about the last 6 months he has bought me several large black toys. I have caught him whispering in my ear when he thought I was sleeping about how good I look with black men inside me. He went on in great detail for about 45 minutes like he watched me all the time with a group of black men. Now he is talking about bring home some black men for me to have sex with while he watches. He brings it up all the time, at dinner, in the car, in bed, etc.. I used to get mad but now I wonder if I should just do it to shut him up! I have to admit I always wondered about the myths about black men.
Should I give in or stand my ground? BTW, I have fantasized about with being with 2 guys at the same time for as long as I can remember, my husband wants to have 2 or 3 black men over for me. My heart says NO! but my mind keeps tempting me.
Sounds to me like your husband has a fetish. If you don't want to do it, then don't. If he's so into that kind of stuff perhaps he should have married a white slut who is also into that.

“<Bronx cheer>”

Since: Jul 07

Gresham, OR

#13 May 25, 2010
Lisa wrote:
Why do husbands suggest this? Do they have to make their wives into kind of a porn actress in order to still find her exciting? Or do husbands feel too much pressure on sexual performance, so they want to bring in some help?
Two of my female friends are having affairs, but the husbands don't know. These women don't just want sexual variety, but also the attention, romance, dating fun, and intimacy that calls for privacy, not a watching husband.
Those friends of yours shouldn't be married.
Bandit

Charlotte, NC

#14 May 25, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes i enjoy them very much. They are molded after some black porn star (can't remember his name). I find myself using them by myself after my husband goes to work sometimes. They are also part of our normal sex together.
So how big are they, and do you take every inch?
Sexually Repressed

Santa Clara, CA

#15 May 26, 2010
Hey Beth. I wouldn't say it's normal but it is becoming very pervasive (well, at least on the web).

We all have fantasies and sometimes it is perfectly safe to act on those fantasies. But sometimes it is best the fantasy remains a fantasy. Bringing other men and women into the bedroom can be thrilling the first few times, but it has the ability to spark unneeded tension in the marriage like jealousy, envy, insecurities, etc.

I would not advise it.
Beth45434

United States

#16 May 27, 2010
Thanks for all the advice everybody. I agreed to try it once last night, he is going to ask his friends to spend the weekend with us this weekend.

I am so scared but also excited too. My husband promised me it will be 3 days of "all about me" and at anytime if I want it to stop that I can do that. He also promised me that these guys will be the biggest guys I ever seen, I guess they do this sort of thing alot for white couples like us.

Wish me luck...

Since: Nov 08

Location hidden

#17 May 27, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
Thanks for all the advice everybody. I agreed to try it once last night, he is going to ask his friends to spend the weekend with us this weekend.
I am so scared but also excited too. My husband promised me it will be 3 days of "all about me" and at anytime if I want it to stop that I can do that. He also promised me that these guys will be the biggest guys I ever seen, I guess they do this sort of thing alot for white couples like us.
Wish me luck...
From reading your post, it doesnt sound like you are on the same level as your husband. Although a threesome sounds fun, you have to think about how your gonna feel after its all done, and how your husband will act after the big weekend. Maybe he will give it up, or maybe he will want to do something like this all the time.

Im not against interracial threesomes or what ever the hell is going on (hell im Half black Half white), but if you have any doubts, i would wait on this particular fantasy, maybe for a better time.

If your definitely gonna go through with the weekend, pick up a bottle of Jack, a bottle of Patron, and a Bottle of Jager, that will solve most if not all your problems... for now anyways lol
Bob

United States

#18 May 27, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
Thanks for all the advice everybody. I agreed to try it once last night, he is going to ask his friends to spend the weekend with us this weekend.
I am so scared but also excited too. My husband promised me it will be 3 days of "all about me" and at anytime if I want it to stop that I can do that. He also promised me that these guys will be the biggest guys I ever seen, I guess they do this sort of thing alot for white couples like us.
Wish me luck...
Good for you sweet heart. Your doing the right thing. White women, especially married white women, deserve to know the pleasures of sex with black men.

You husband obviously knows you will be pleasured more than he can ever do, that is why he wants this for you. He must love you very much. Be open to this and even consider doing this on a regular basis. For a white women to be shared by black men is natural and a beautiful thing that should be enjoyed by all.

One thing to remember, make sure you tell your new lovers how good they make you feel often. Also make sure you husband is included to watch and thank him often for what he has done for you. Let him know that you love him more than ever for allowing you to do this and being a part of it. When everybody has gone home, make love to him, let him know how much you love him.

I'm guessing he will want to hear you say something like "that was the best sex of my life" when talking about the weekend. You should let him know that you are willing to do it again for him if he wants you to. Than after that, never bring it up again, let him start the conversations. Here's the thing though, do things for him you never or rarely do and do them often. Make him feel special, send him flowers at work, dress all sexy for when he comes home, preform oral sex on him while y'all are eating dinner, etc. This will tell him that you really love him for what he has done for you and will make him want to do it again for you over and over.

When the second "weekend" comes around, ask him to video it so y'all can watch it together. A copy should be given to your lovers too.

Well good luck and let us know how it went
sagitarious

Condon, OR

#19 May 27, 2010
please keep us posted as to how things went!! my email sagit1952@yahoo.com sure would like to know!!

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#20 May 27, 2010
Beth45434 wrote:
Thanks for all the advice everybody. I agreed to try it once last night, he is going to ask his friends to spend the weekend with us this weekend.
I am so scared but also excited too. My husband promised me it will be 3 days of "all about me" and at anytime if I want it to stop that I can do that. He also promised me that these guys will be the biggest guys I ever seen, I guess they do this sort of thing alot for white couples like us.
Wish me luck...
I'll jump in here too and say good luck and enjoy make sure you take care of hubby afterwards. Also consider letting him have another women join you and him as a reward for being thoghtful to you.

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