Does Anal Sex Destroy Romance?

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She

Redmond, WA

#1 Nov 3, 2007
Guys, if you LOVE a girl, or you are married to someone you LOVE, if she allows you to do it up the back door, doesn't that destroy the romance?

It does feel good, but let's face it, it is the nastiest, and not romantic.

“open mind”

Since: Nov 07

Skopje, Republic of Macedonia

#2 Nov 3, 2007
no, there is nothing that you both like can do that.
anal sex is OK if done the right way, and that would be pleasurable and in consent from and for both :D
Yada

Sneedville, TN

#3 Nov 3, 2007
She wrote:
Guys, if you LOVE a girl, or you are married to someone you LOVE, if she allows you to do it up the back door, doesn't that destroy the romance?
It does feel good, but let's face it, it is the nastiest, and not romantic.
I don't know why 'twould.
Alpha Omega Game

United States

#4 Nov 3, 2007
I STOP desireing to have anal sex . I use to want to do it but now i think its nasty. Id rather have vaginal intercourse with my lover.
Alpha Omega Game

United States

#5 Nov 3, 2007
I don't think having anal sex is romantic at ALL.
Pete Toronto

Scarborough, Canada

#6 Nov 3, 2007
In any relationship, there is a time for lust and a time for love. I'm willing to bet anyone that when couples are moaning and grinding from oral, anal or pen/vag sex feelings of 'candlight, wine and love' are far from the mind.

Since: Oct 07

AOL

#7 Nov 3, 2007
Pete Toronto wrote:
In any relationship, there is a time for lust and a time for love. I'm willing to bet anyone that when couples are moaning and grinding from oral, anal or pen/vag sex feelings of 'candlight, wine and love' are far from the mind.
I agree. Yes, sometimes you can be very romantic and actually make love. Let's be real though, sometimes there are quickies and sometimes you just want wild sex with your partner. I think that if two people love each other, the sexual stuff happens naturally. You lose yourself in the moment. You lose your inhibitions. What is right for one couple isn't necessarily right for another. Personally, I don't think anal sex is nasty. I actually enjoy it very much. I think it can be very erotic and yes...very romantic depending on the situation and timing. It is an intimate moment between two people.

“open mind”

Since: Nov 07

Skopje, Republic of Macedonia

#8 Nov 3, 2007
Pete Toronto wrote:
In any relationship, there is a time for lust and a time for love. I'm willing to bet anyone that when couples are moaning and grinding from oral, anal or pen/vag sex feelings of 'candlight, wine and love' are far from the mind.
not far from reality :D
at least sanity is on your side.
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Honesty

Australia

#9 Nov 3, 2007
I like your perceptiveness Pete Toronto.

Unlike AOG - who has stopped desiring anal sex. Wonder if his partner has as well?

Making love is a particular form of sex. Passionate, mindless, lust is another form. I share both with my partner. Each has it's own place and time, and each feels damn amazing.

Oh, and if anal sex is done right, with consideration and patience - it is one of the most pleasurable and intense feelings ever.
Yada

Sneedville, TN

#10 Nov 3, 2007
Morgan Logan wrote:
<quoted text>I agree. Yes, sometimes you can be very romantic and actually make love. Let's be real though, sometimes there are quickies and sometimes you just want wild sex with your partner. I think that if two people love each other, the sexual stuff happens naturally. You lose yourself in the moment. You lose your inhibitions. What is right for one couple isn't necessarily right for another. Personally, I don't think anal sex is nasty. I actually enjoy it very much. I think it can be very erotic and yes...very romantic depending on the situation and timing. It is an intimate moment between two people.
Indeed.
Anonymous

Gainesville, FL

#11 Nov 3, 2007
She wrote:
Guys, if you LOVE a girl, or you are married to someone you LOVE, if she allows you to do it up the back door, doesn't that destroy the romance?
It does feel good, but let's face it, it is the nastiest, and not romantic.
Ahhh, yes, but the taboo of it all makes it even MORE desireable....

Since: Oct 07

Chestermere, Canada

#12 Nov 3, 2007
To me the "romantic" aspect is in the emotion and not the act. You can "make love" but this can be oral, anal or anything in between based on the emotion and mind set. In my opinion, most people who don't do it associate anal sex with aggression and some level of domination; where as those that do it regularly know that it can be romantic, intense and passionate. As I said, it isn't the act it is the people and their mind sets that make something romantic or not...
peejay

Sargodha, Pakistan

#13 Nov 4, 2007
Yes it does destroy romance coz that place is made for something else.
She

Redmond, WA

#14 Nov 4, 2007
She wrote:
Guys, if you LOVE a girl, or you are married to someone you LOVE, if she allows you to do it up the back door, doesn't that destroy the romance?
It does feel good, but let's face it, it is the nastiest, and not romantic.
Don't you respect a woman less if she lets you do that?

Since: Oct 07

AOL

#15 Nov 4, 2007
genevieve wrote:
To me the "romantic" aspect is in the emotion and not the act. You can "make love" but this can be oral, anal or anything in between based on the emotion and mind set. In my opinion, most people who don't do it associate anal sex with aggression and some level of domination; where as those that do it regularly know that it can be romantic, intense and passionate. As I said, it isn't the act it is the people and their mind sets that make something romantic or not...
Very well said! I agree.
Principles

AOL

#16 Nov 4, 2007
only if you destroy your rectum doing it.. DUH.

“Beautiful conundrum”

Since: Sep 07

Portland, OR

#17 Nov 4, 2007
genevieve wrote:
To me the "romantic" aspect is in the emotion and not the act. You can "make love" but this can be oral, anal or anything in between based on the emotion and mind set. In my opinion, most people who don't do it associate anal sex with aggression and some level of domination; where as those that do it regularly know that it can be romantic, intense and passionate. As I said, it isn't the act it is the people and their mind sets that make something romantic or not...
Exactly. For me, it is about complete trust. My boyfriend knows that it takes a lot of trust for me to let someone have anal sex with me again, and I do trust him completely. It became him wanting to give me a pleasurable experience instead of the negative ones I had. It was slow, kind, and so very loving.
hardon

Fairmont, WV

#19 Nov 9, 2007
Morgan Logan wrote:
<quoted text>I agree. Yes, sometimes you can be very romantic and actually make love. Let's be real though, sometimes there are quickies and sometimes you just want wild sex with your partner. I think that if two people love each other, the sexual stuff happens naturally. You lose yourself in the moment. You lose your inhibitions. What is right for one couple isn't necessarily right for another. Personally, I don't think anal sex is nasty. I actually enjoy it very much. I think it can be very erotic and yes...very romantic depending on the situation and timing. It is an intimate moment between two people.

YES very good anser
stop hating

Brooklyn, NY

#20 Nov 9, 2007
im not into anal, i dont think its needed, my puss is tight and i give the bomb oral so why wud anyone use my a-hole, unless i was doin it with the 3 loves of my life, one in my mouth, my vag nad a-hole. then id say ok, lol, that wud never happen. :-(
Trisia

United States

#21 Nov 9, 2007
She wrote:
Guys, if you LOVE a girl, or you are married to someone you LOVE, if she allows you to do it up the back door, doesn't that destroy the romance?
It does feel good, but let's face it, it is the nastiest, and not romantic.
I think it does. I lived with a guy I loved very much for two years. He was always asking for that, but after we did that, he never seemed to love me again. His attitude about me seemed to change. Some months later we broke up.

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