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“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#6 Jun 3, 2009
LeeAnne wrote:
My bf likes me to suck him and to massage him down there and he wants that more than real sex.
He licks me down there on my body too, and I like that, but it's like he wants all that more than real sex.
I need the feel of penetration and the feeling of being full of a man. We don't actually do that very often.
And my bf says he gets tired of huffing and puffing with moving the dick in and out, in and ou. He gets out of breath and has to stop and rest.
I really like it when he "finishes" in me. But we don't do that very often.
He's a bit over weight but not too much. Is he just not in physical condition to administer intercourse to a girl????
If I get on top and slide up and down the hard dick, he goes softer after a while and then we have to get back to the other stuff. He likes to do the 69 thing a lot too.
I enjoy all the sex stuff, but I really want more penetration. How can I get him to realize I want this and that I'm willing to help him be hard and stay hard to "complete the act"??????
Is he scared of getting you pregnant? What kind of birth control are yuo on and does he trust that YOU are also intent on avoiding pregnancy?

Assuming this is not the concern, sex can be a way for him to get into shape.

Tell him that, for every 1 hour workout he does he gets a handhjob for at least 30 minutes. ANd for every 1 hour intercourse session he gets a BJ for at least 30 minutes.

See if the reward system works?

“Dont hateME cause my car's HOT”

Since: Sep 07

St Louis Missouri

#8 Jun 6, 2009
I totally get where your coming from cause my bf and I our both over weight and working on it together.There are other ways he could please you without getting all out of breath.Have you considered buying some toys?Works wonders for us and or me..lol..just a ideal.Good luck.Oh and I agree with an-other's comment about rewarding him when you encourage him to walk or some form of exercise.
Moondancer

East Providence, RI

#9 Jun 6, 2009
If sex is difficult, you really need to think abaout improving his physical conditioning and maybe he needs to start with complete physical. Also there are a number of positions that do not require much effort on his part. Woman on top or side by side usually with him behind you
Rory

Sedalia, MO

#10 Jun 6, 2009
TALK to him. TELL him of your needs. That's the first step. IF he will not change, then if you really want to keep him, raise the possibility of letting other men take you from behind while you orally pleasure him. If that doesn't work then you have no choice but to dump him.
Reality

Montgomery, AL

#11 Jun 6, 2009
If he's getting soft while you're riding him then it sounds like it's not just his being out of shape but maybe also that you don't respond enough to keep his excitement level up. If he's having to work really hard when he's pumping you in order for him to see or hear enjoyment response from you it could be he realises that's only when he gets any indication. Do you handle his penis size too easily? Has he said anything to you that indicates he may feel that he's not quite big enough for you? His going soft while you ride him makes me wonder this but I'm just asking and don't know for sure of course.
Ami

Sarasota, FL

#12 Jun 6, 2009
Reality wrote:
If he's getting soft while you're riding him then it sounds like it's not just his being out of shape but maybe also that you don't respond enough to keep his excitement level up.
That's not necessarily true. It's easier for a lot of guys to keep their dick hard if it's facing downwards. You can either work with gravity or against it.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#13 Jun 7, 2009
morning glory wrote:
I totally get where your coming from cause my bf and I our both over weight and working on it together.There are other ways he could please you without getting all out of breath.Have you considered buying some toys?Works wonders for us and or me..lol..just a ideal.Good luck.Oh and I agree with an-other's comment about rewarding him when you encourage him to walk or some form of exercise.
notice that I mentioned intercourse (penetration) as a way to get more BJ's ... sex is also excercise ... depending on how vigorous 200 to 400 calories in an hour. This way both parties get what they want.

My present GF prefers penetration .. in fact she does not like much else which is dissapointing.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#14 Jun 7, 2009
Moondancer wrote:
If sex is difficult, you really need to think abaout improving his physical conditioning and maybe he needs to start with complete physical. Also there are a number of positions that do not require much effort on his part. Woman on top or side by side usually with him behind you
I think that last position is called "spooning"?

My GF likes to start with that, and it is much easier, but it often converts into her on her stomach and me up over her ... a better position for harder jackhmemring ... she likes that!
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“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#15 Jun 7, 2009
Reality wrote:
If he's getting soft while you're riding him then it sounds like it's not just his being out of shape but maybe also that you don't respond enough to keep his excitement level up. If he's having to work really hard when he's pumping you in order for him to see or hear enjoyment response from you it could be he realises that's only when he gets any indication. Do you handle his penis size too easily? Has he said anything to you that indicates he may feel that he's not quite big enough for you? His going soft while you ride him makes me wonder this but I'm just asking and don't know for sure of course.
if he fits a bit loosly, she can circle the base of his penis as he goes in and out ...that should help keep him harder ...

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#16 Jun 7, 2009
Reality wrote:
If he's getting soft while you're riding him then it sounds like it's not just his being out of shape but maybe also that you don't respond enough to keep his excitement level up. If he's having to work really hard when he's pumping you in order for him to see or hear enjoyment response from you it could be he realises that's only when he gets any indication. Do you handle his penis size too easily? Has he said anything to you that indicates he may feel that he's not quite big enough for you? His going soft while you ride him makes me wonder this but I'm just asking and don't know for sure of course.
if a guy is RELALY out of shape, especialy if he is carrying some extra weight, then his heart may not be able to pump enough blood/oxygen to his muscles and to the penis to maintain an erection.
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#17 Jul 19, 2009
He sounds totally out of shape, and needs to lose weight and get in better shape for the both of you. I would tell him flatly but respectfully, please get in better shape for the both of us, because his poor physical condition is starting to negatively affect the sex life. Also, he should work on his breathing technique, he should breath in his nose and out the mouth, it seems like he has poor breathing habits, maybe due to his physical condition.
Quinns Girl

United States

#18 Feb 9, 2010
I want more penetration too. I love being penetrated. Sometimes my BF comes up behind me and hugs and kisses me. I want it to lead to something more but usually it doesn't go to the bedroom.

I'm on the pill so I want to always finish up with penetration. I want him to finish in me. I love the wet spot in bed because I love to think about how it got there.

Since: Feb 10

Irvine, CA

#19 Feb 9, 2010
Quinns Girl wrote:
I want more penetration too. I love being penetrated. Sometimes my BF comes up behind me and hugs and kisses me. I want it to lead to something more but usually it doesn't go to the bedroom.
I'm on the pill so I want to always finish up with penetration. I want him to finish in me. I love the wet spot in bed because I love to think about how it got there.
Let him know how you feel. Communication is a big key to a good lasting relationship, but be nice about it. Try being seductive when he kisses you, talk dirty to him, tell him you want him to f**k you hard.
Gary

AOL

#20 Feb 9, 2010
LeeAnne wrote:
My bf likes me to suck him and to massage him down there and he wants that more than real sex.
He licks me down there on my body too, and I like that, but it's like he wants all that more than real sex.
I need the feel of penetration and the feeling of being full of a man. We don't actually do that very often.
And my bf says he gets tired of huffing and puffing with moving the dick in and out, in and ou. He gets out of breath and has to stop and rest.
I really like it when he "finishes" in me. But we don't do that very often.
He's a bit over weight but not too much. Is he just not in physical condition to administer intercourse to a girl????
If I get on top and slide up and down the hard dick, he goes softer after a while and then we have to get back to the other stuff. He likes to do the 69 thing a lot too.
I enjoy all the sex stuff, but I really want more penetration. How can I get him to realize I want this and that I'm willing to help him be hard and stay hard to "complete the act"??????
Try watching a porno together or try other positions , whichever makes you both happy.
gary the south

Covington, LA

#21 Feb 10, 2010
LeeAnne wrote:
My bf likes me to suck him and to massage him down there and he wants that more than real sex.
He licks me down there on my body too, and I like that, but it's like he wants all that more than real sex.
I need the feel of penetration and the feeling of being full of a man. We don't actually do that very often.
And my bf says he gets tired of huffing and puffing with moving the dick in and out, in and ou. He gets out of breath and has to stop and rest.
I really like it when he "finishes" in me. But we don't do that very often.
He's a bit over weight but not too much. Is he just not in physical condition to administer intercourse to a girl????
If I get on top and slide up and down the hard dick, he goes softer after a while and then we have to get back to the other stuff. He likes to do the 69 thing a lot too.
I enjoy all the sex stuff, but I really want more penetration. How can I get him to realize I want this and that I'm willing to help him be hard and stay hard to "complete the act"??????
Lets talk a little I may be able to help, reply if your on.
Mishy

South Africa

#22 Feb 10, 2010
get him to have a physical check, including coronary issues at the doctors. he will want to exclude basic medical problems b4 u just assume he's o/weight and needs more exercise and some sex. ed or lessons in the bedroom from you. being pooped after a little exertion may indicate a medical problem esp. if he's none too obese. the doc need not know its about his lack of sex. performance, just let the doc know exercise/ physical exertion is a struggle and she/ he will take it from there.
Mishy

South Africa

#23 Feb 10, 2010
he may also have some unrealisitc expectations of ensuring you climax every time when he is inside you.make sure you tell him that you doing that every time is not his responsibility or the sole aim of making love.
gary the south

Covington, LA

#24 Feb 10, 2010
Mishy wrote:
he may also have some unrealisitc expectations of ensuring you climax every time when he is inside you.make sure you tell him that you doing that every time is not his responsibility or the sole aim of making love.
All of the above may apply and then again it may be other
things,I havn't followed this section all the way I'm not
sure if your male or female what I do know is there are
more than I area that can be penetrated if were talking
vagina "aw shit" lets call it by the name most of us MEN
adore and women should be proud of "PUSSY" now there you
go you forced me to say it. LOL. now that issue should be
rather clear, albeit some people don't like that area for
some ungodly reason, but this not for me to judge, to each
his or her own. IMO, but this is it in a nut shell, you
have to be commited to your partner their wants and needs
should be the most important thing, who gives a shit what
your personnel wants are, that is different for all of us,
if you put yourself first you are a selfish "son of son of
a bitch: excuse my French ladies you asshole men fuck you!
and that don't mean for pleasure. but now all this shit
about what men wants are, I will apologise to the one,s
who have a medical problem or something. What all this
may boil down to intersted or the lack off, example he
may be into the dick thing, so what can you get.
"some other options are available" such as I'm here an
that would mean undevided attention to your wants.
Ladies does this shit clear anything up for you?

and that
late nighter

Myrtle Beach, SC

#25 Feb 10, 2010
My boyfriend and I are both slender non-sweaters but one night we accidentally found a position that was quite comfortable for both of us that you may try. He was lying on his side and I got where my crotch was up against him, my legs were swung over his side and I was side-ways on the bed. It worked for both of us and he had complete access to my G-spot. It made a "T" shape if that helps. We only did it that once but now I want to again.
gary the south

Covington, LA

#26 Feb 10, 2010
late nighter wrote:
My boyfriend and I are both slender non-sweaters but one night we accidentally found a position that was quite comfortable for both of us that you may try. He was lying on his side and I got where my crotch was up against him, my legs were swung over his side and I was side-ways on the bed. It worked for both of us and he had complete access to my G-spot. It made a "T" shape if that helps. We only did it that once but now I want to again.
You had to have read my book this is unbelievable almost
word for word it also comes from my wife's and my experience
wives take note you and your man try this you will love it, take
your time and another great point is he has complete ability
to comfortable get to a beautiful little love spot. How can you
go wrong. Another big plus you can get a foot message and he
can tooth those beautyfull little puppies, it is the only thing
for me and my wife for many year, we tried other stuff but that
wasn't "hitting on shit":) LOL

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