“Play with your food”

Since: Mar 12

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#408 Nov 8, 2012
Laurie wrote:
<quoted text>
Hello J Gunn,
“Gentleman with Appetite”
I cannot believe I am writing to a Dom, but every since I read Fifty Shade of Gray it has opened up a part of me I never knew I had. I have led a very sheltered life, I went from my parent’s house to my husband’s house and that is all I know. I am 53 years old and have been married for 35 years, however for the past five years my husband has stopped everything from sex, touching, kissing, and so on. I have found I am extremely sexually frustrated. My self-esteem has gone from a 10 to a 3. I left him for a year and all that did for me is caused me to become depressed. Many of my friends and family as told me I should divorce him, but I am scared of the unknown. To get my self-esteem back I started going to an online school and now I have my associates degree, however that only helped my mind not my body. So, I started reading up on the Dom and Submissive relationships and ran across this site, and you and a few other Dom’s seem to know what you are doing. I just want advice to see what step I should take.
P.s I like it when you tell someone who is 22 or younger they are to young. it shows you are very smart and choosing, which is a good thing
Hi Laurie,

I also live this lifestyle... I think exploring your submissive desires is a great thing. I suggest you create a profile and communicate first with submissive women, like jolene1985, or Dorei... I think getting their advice and experienced insights is paramount. 50 Shades of Grey made a lot of women curious, but it is not a guide, by any means, as someone who read it pointed out to me recently...

As a Dom, My advice is for you to think long and hard about what it is that attracts you to this lifestyle. I suggest that you research some of the basic etiquette, so you feel comfortable communicating and find time to list (for your own introspection) what you would do and not do as a sub, what you are willing to try anf what you wont try, what rules you would live by and what limits are important to you. While a submissive gives a lot of power to her Dom, the submissive has rights and those are to be respected without question. It is also essential that you understand that, while life as a sub is highly sexual, the role extends far beyond the bedroom. Being a sub requires devotion to your Dom/Master, but unlike in your sexless marriage, the rewards of your submission are a life lived with tremendous passion and a sense of value and purpose like no other.

Welcome... I hope that you get to experience all that this offers

Sir Specs
XO
Laurie

Lancaster, PA

#409 Nov 8, 2012
Sir Specs,
Think you for answering to my post. You gave me great advise and I will do want you said I should do. I have done a lot of research here on the internet, however I would like to get information straight from a Dom and Sub, so yes I will write to Jolene 1985, and Dorei. I am curious on how does this work online vs. in person. Do I have your permission to write to later?
Again, think you.
Laurie

Since: Nov 12

Lancaster, PA

#411 Nov 8, 2012
Spectacles wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Laurie,
I also live this lifestyle... I think exploring your submissive desires is a great thing. I suggest you create a profile and communicate first with submissive women, like jolene1985, or Dorei... I think getting their advice and experienced insights is paramount. 50 Shades of Grey made a lot of women curious, but it is not a guide, by any means, as someone who read it pointed out to me recently...
As a Dom, My advice is for you to think long and hard about what it is that attracts you to this lifestyle. I suggest that you research some of the basic etiquette, so you feel comfortable communicating and find time to list (for your own introspection) what you would do and not do as a sub, what you are willing to try anf what you wont try, what rules you would live by and what limits are important to you. While a submissive gives a lot of power to her Dom, the submissive has rights and those are to be respected without question. It is also essential that you understand that, while life as a sub is highly sexual, the role extends far beyond the bedroom. Being a sub requires devotion to your Dom/Master, but unlike in your sexless marriage, the rewards of your submission are a life lived with tremendous passion and a sense of value and purpose like no other.
Welcome... I hope that you get to experience all that this offers
Sir Specs
XO
Sir Specs,
Think you for answering to my post. You gave me great advise and I will do want you said I should do. I have done a lot of research here on the internet, however I would like to get information straight from a Dom and Sub, so yes I will write to Jolene 1985, and Dorei. I am curious on how does this work online vs. in person. Do I have your permission to write to you later?
Again, think you.
Laurie

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#412 Nov 8, 2012
Laurie wrote:
<quoted text>Hello J Gunn,
“Gentleman with Appetite”
I cannot believe I am writing to a Dom, but every since I read Fifty Shade of Gray it has opened up a part of me I never knew I had. I have led a very sheltered life, I went from my parentÂ’s house to my husbandÂ’s house and that is all I know. I am 53 years old and have been married for 35 years, however for the past five years my husband has stopped everything from sex, touching, kissing, and so on. I have found I am extremely sexually frustrated. My self-esteem has gone from a 10 to a 3. I left him for a year and all that did for me is caused me to become depressed. Many of my friends and family as told me I should divorce him, but I am scared of the unknown. To get my self-esteem back I started going to an online school and now I have my associates degree, however that only helped my mind not my body. So, I started reading up on the Dom and Submissive relationships and ran across this site, and you and a few other DomÂ’s seem to know what you are doing. I just want advice to see what step I should take.
P.s I like it when you tell someone who is 22 or younger they are to young. it shows you are very smart and choosing, which is a good thing
Thanks Laurie,

Very kind words from you. Tell me a little more about your self.

You crave to be controlled? To give yourself completely?

“Play with your food”

Since: Mar 12

Location hidden

#413 Nov 8, 2012
lrr1958 wrote:
<quoted text>
Sir Specs,
Think you for answering to my post. You gave me great advise and I will do want you said I should do. I have done a lot of research here on the internet, however I would like to get information straight from a Dom and Sub, so yes I will write to Jolene 1985, and Dorei. I am curious on how does this work online vs. in person. Do I have your permission to write to you later?
Again, think you.
Laurie
Hi Laurie,

Write Me any time. I'm happy to provide whatever guidance...

Since: Nov 12

Lancaster, PA

#414 Nov 8, 2012
Spectacles wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Laurie,
Write Me any time. I'm happy to provide whatever guidance...
Sir Specs,
What is the difference between a online and in person Dom/sub relationships? What can I expect from a Dom online?

Think you, I am sure I will need your guidance.

Laurie

Since: Nov 12

Lancaster, PA

#415 Nov 8, 2012
J Gunn wrote:
<quoted text>
Thanks Laurie,
Very kind words from you. Tell me a little more about your self.
You crave to be controlled? To give yourself completely?
Mr. Gunn,
I am 53, however in 8 more days I will be 54, I am not looking forward to getting older. I have 3 grown kids, and nine grand-kids, which are taking over my life. I want so much to do something for myself. I feel lost. The only relationship I have had is with one man (husband),but I do not think of him as my husband anymore, just a companion. I have been trying to better myself and have set goals for myself. 1. get my GED, which I did in 1999. 2. go to college, which I just finished about a week ago. 3. lose weight working on that one. As for my sex life it has been, well boring. My husband has not really liked having sex from the first time we were together.

I have never been controlled, however I know I can give myself completely, I have for 35 years.

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#416 Nov 9, 2012
lrr1958 wrote:
<quoted text>Mr. Gunn,
I am 53, however in 8 more days I will be 54, I am not looking forward to getting older. I have 3 grown kids, and nine grand-kids, which are taking over my life. I want so much to do something for myself. I feel lost. The only relationship I have had is with one man (husband),but I do not think of him as my husband anymore, just a companion. I have been trying to better myself and have set goals for myself. 1. get my GED, which I did in 1999. 2. go to college, which I just finished about a week ago. 3. lose weight working on that one. As for my sex life it has been, well boring. My husband has not really liked having sex from the first time we were together.

I have never been controlled, however I know I can give myself completely, I have for 35 years.
Thanks for the background.

You sound like a lovely woman.

I think it's awesome that you are improving yourself. Its admirable. You are on the right track.

Be careful out here. Make sure you take precautions in dealing with strangers online.

I am sorry your hubby never liked sex. That is so unfortunate for you.

Helping a person wake up sexually is very exciting and is very intoxicating for me.

Are you just looking to dip your toes in the water online or looking for a dedicated master?

If you want to talk further, send an email to my account here.
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Since: Dec 11

Location hidden

#418 Nov 9, 2012
lrr1958 wrote:
<quoted text>
Sir Specs,
What is the difference between a online and in person Dom/sub relationships? What can I expect from a Dom online?
Think you, I am sure I will need your guidance.
Laurie
Hi Laurie,

First, congratulations on taking steps to improve yourself. From the sounds of it you have had a difficult time over the years and much has been lacking in your life as you have given so much to others so it is good you are trying to do more for yourself.

As for the differences between an online and real life Dom/sub relationships, the most obvious difference is in physical touch and interactions. Other than that they can be very similar. It is essential that you take your time and not rush in getting to know a potential Dom; trust is vital in D/s relationships and it takes asking each other and yourself lots of questions. Also, you need to research and learn as much as you can about the lifestyle.

As for what you can expect from an Dom online, I will tell you now that Topix is not the place to find one. There are only a handful of Doms who post here who truly understand the lifestyle and will be respectful to you; but most are already taken. The vast majority of guys here who claim to be Dom or Masters do not have an understanding of the dynamics of D/s relationships, they believe it is all about what they want, they are completely selfish and many tend to be very abusive. Most will try to issue you orders right from the start and they demand photos of you immediately.

A potential Dom must prove he is worthy of your submission and must earn your respect and trust, never rush you, allow you to set your own limits and can never make demands of you, until such time as you decide he is worthy and you submit to him and only to the extent of control you allow for him to have over you and he must respect your limitations. Again, trust is essential; because online Doms require pics you have to be able to trust that they will not share or otherwise use any pictures against you or do anything which may cross your limits and/or abuse you.

I will send you a PM later with a website that will be better suited for you to explore which offers chances to meet Doms and other subs and which has a huge source of information. You can contact me anytime through PM.

Jolene

Since: Nov 12

Lancaster, PA

#419 Nov 9, 2012
jolene1985 wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Laurie,
First, congratulations on taking steps to improve yourself. From the sounds of it you have had a difficult time over the years and much has been lacking in your life as you have given so much to others so it is good you are trying to do more for yourself.
As for the differences between an online and real life Dom/sub relationships, the most obvious difference is in physical touch and interactions. Other than that they can be very similar. It is essential that you take your time and not rush in getting to know a potential Dom; trust is vital in D/s relationships and it takes asking each other and yourself lots of questions. Also, you need to research and learn as much as you can about the lifestyle.
As for what you can expect from an Dom online, I will tell you now that Topix is not the place to find one. There are only a handful of Doms who post here who truly understand the lifestyle and will be respectful to you; but most are already taken. The vast majority of guys here who claim to be Dom or Masters do not have an understanding of the dynamics of D/s relationships, they believe it is all about what they want, they are completely selfish and many tend to be very abusive. Most will try to issue you orders right from the start and they demand photos of you immediately.
A potential Dom must prove he is worthy of your submission and must earn your respect and trust, never rush you, allow you to set your own limits and can never make demands of you, until such time as you decide he is worthy and you submit to him and only to the extent of control you allow for him to have over you and he must respect your limitations. Again, trust is essential; because online Doms require pics you have to be able to trust that they will not share or otherwise use any pictures against you or do anything which may cross your limits and/or abuse you.
I will send you a PM later with a website that will be better suited for you to explore which offers chances to meet Doms and other subs and which has a huge source of information. You can contact me anytime through PM.
Jolene
Jolene,
Think you so much for your advice. I will wait for you to send me the PM. Do you need my e-mail address to send it? I would love to talk more on the sub/dom relationships with you. I guess the one thing that is lacking is the physical part in a online relationship. which is what I do not get at home.

Thinks,
Laurie
Spectacles

Santa Monica, CA

#421 Nov 9, 2012
jolene1985 wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Laurie,
First, congratulations on taking steps to improve yourself. From the sounds of it you have had a difficult time over the years and much has been lacking in your life as you have given so much to others so it is good you are trying to do more for yourself.
As for the differences between an online and real life Dom/sub relationships, the most obvious difference is in physical touch and interactions. Other than that they can be very similar. It is essential that you take your time and not rush in getting to know a potential Dom; trust is vital in D/s relationships and it takes asking each other and yourself lots of questions. Also, you need to research and learn as much as you can about the lifestyle.
As for what you can expect from an Dom online, I will tell you now that Topix is not the place to find one. There are only a handful of Doms who post here who truly understand the lifestyle and will be respectful to you; but most are already taken. The vast majority of guys here who claim to be Dom or Masters do not have an understanding of the dynamics of D/s relationships, they believe it is all about what they want, they are completely selfish and many tend to be very abusive. Most will try to issue you orders right from the start and they demand photos of you immediately.
A potential Dom must prove he is worthy of your submission and must earn your respect and trust, never rush you, allow you to set your own limits and can never make demands of you, until such time as you decide he is worthy and you submit to him and only to the extent of control you allow for him to have over you and he must respect your limitations. Again, trust is essential; because online Doms require pics you have to be able to trust that they will not share or otherwise use any pictures against you or do anything which may cross your limits and/or abuse you.
I will send you a PM later with a website that will be better suited for you to explore which offers chances to meet Doms and other subs and which has a huge source of information. You can contact me anytime through PM.
Jolene
Thanks Jo... Always sober advice...

Since: Oct 12

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#422 Nov 10, 2012
lrr1958 wrote:
<quoted text>
Jolene,
Think you so much for your advice. I will wait for you to send me the PM. Do you need my e-mail address to send it? I would love to talk more on the sub/dom relationships with you. I guess the one thing that is lacking is the physical part in a online relationship. which is what I do not get at home.
Thinks,
Laurie
Jolene, i'd like receive this web site in pm... Is possibile? Thanks

Since: Oct 12

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#423 Nov 10, 2012
WetNready wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm your slave!! You know I'm not fake... Your my daddy :) I will do whatever you want!
you confirmed that i thinked about you... A fake person.... Have a good life...

“Play with your food”

Since: Mar 12

Location hidden

#424 Nov 10, 2012
lrr1958 wrote:
<quoted text>
Sir Specs,
What is the difference between a online and in person Dom/sub relationships? What can I expect from a Dom online?
Think you, I am sure I will need your guidance.
Laurie
Hi Laurie,

I'm travelling, but will take a minute to say that I have never had an online sub. I'm not sure that it can be done properly and I doubt you'd find the same satisfaction online...

Specs
older male

Birmingham, UK

#425 Nov 10, 2012
I'm 55 and love the thought of a sUbmissive sexual female in a OL bbm relationship 2979e9cf
Murky

Winnipeg, Canada

#426 Nov 12, 2012
Sub slaves

Mail me colingilbody at googlemail dot com

Since: Apr 12

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#427 Nov 12, 2012
Hi
My name is David, I'm a 39 year old male with over 18 years experience in online and real life domination and submission.
I'm looking to meet new women who are interested in the scene, first to chat and then see if we have more things in common.
If you want to chat more with me then you can message me on here or on
purplelibrarian at hotmail dot co dot uk
David
patrick

Beckenham, UK

#429 Nov 12, 2012
im not one for titles, but when im out with my woman she does whats shes told, if i want my dick sucked in the car i just grab her by the hair and push her down. I made her aware of this frpm day one and shes devoted to me, so i must be doing something right..for once.
Please

Waterbury, CT

#432 Nov 14, 2012
I've never tried a Dom/sub relationship but I'd like to try one. I want to be spanked, slapped, sexed deep n hard. 31/f/CT hmu

Since: Jan 12

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#434 Nov 15, 2012
Please wrote:
I've never tried a Dom/sub relationship but I'd like to try one. I want to be spanked, slapped, sexed deep n hard. 31/f/CT hmu
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