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Hello J Gunn,
“Gentleman with Appetite”
I cannot believe I am writing to a Dom, but every since I read Fifty Shade of Gray it has opened up a part of me I never knew I had. I have led a very sheltered life, I went from my parent’s house to my husband’s house and that is all I know. I am 53 years old and have been married for 35 years, however for the past five years my husband has stopped everything from sex, touching, kissing, and so on. I have found I am extremely sexually frustrated. My self-esteem has gone from a 10 to a 3. I left him for a year and all that did for me is caused me to become depressed. Many of my friends and family as told me I should divorce him, but I am scared of the unknown. To get my self-esteem back I started going to an online school and now I have my associates degree, however that only helped my mind not my body. So, I started reading up on the Dom and Submissive relationships and ran across this site, and you and a few other Dom’s seem to know what you are doing. I just want advice to see what step I should take.
P.s I like it when you tell someone who is 22 or younger they are to young. it shows you are very smart and choosing, which is a good thing
I also live this lifestyle... I think exploring your submissive desires is a great thing. I suggest you create a profile and communicate first with submissive women, like jolene1985, or Dorei... I think getting their advice and experienced insights is paramount. 50 Shades of Grey made a lot of women curious, but it is not a guide, by any means, as someone who read it pointed out to me recently...
As a Dom, My advice is for you to think long and hard about what it is that attracts you to this lifestyle. I suggest that you research some of the basic etiquette, so you feel comfortable communicating and find time to list (for your own introspection) what you would do and not do as a sub, what you are willing to try anf what you wont try, what rules you would live by and what limits are important to you. While a submissive gives a lot of power to her Dom, the submissive has rights and those are to be respected without question. It is also essential that you understand that, while life as a sub is highly sexual, the role extends far beyond the bedroom. Being a sub requires devotion to your Dom/Master, but unlike in your sexless marriage, the rewards of your submission are a life lived with tremendous passion and a sense of value and purpose like no other.
Welcome... I hope that you get to experience all that this offers