Why do men call women sluts when they want us to behave this way?

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“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#1 Mar 5, 2010
See now i don't get it, men call women sluts but yet they want us to behave this way in the bedroom.

A lady in the street but freak in bed, so what is it men really want women to be ?

Don't say "Yourself" lol.

“Surfer Dog”

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#2 Mar 5, 2010
sassie chick wrote:
See now i don't get it, men call women sluts but yet they want us to behave this way in the bedroom.
A lady in the street but freak in bed, so what is it men really want women to be ?
Don't say "Yourself" lol.
It depends on how many bedrooms you have been in.

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Savannah

#3 Mar 5, 2010
A lady who knows how to be sexy while also acting like, well, a lady lol. Can't explain it but I seen it a lot.

“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#4 Mar 5, 2010
Kickbacks wrote:
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It depends on how many bedrooms you have been in.
I don't agree with your argument it is too general, men like women to behave a certain way, but still call her a slut, women also are users of this word against other women, and most of them behave in very much the same way, men sleep around what would you call them?
hockey guy

United States

#5 Mar 5, 2010
The ones calling you a sl*t are the ones who arn't getting any, jealousy.

“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#6 Mar 5, 2010
hockey guy wrote:
The ones calling you a sl*t are the ones who arn't getting any, jealousy.
You may have a point, i think your right, it pisses me off something rotten when people start using these words willy nilly and it really doesn't apply.
COAB

United States

#7 Mar 5, 2010
When most guys say they want a 'private slut' (yeah its a smartass term)it just means we don't want a female that is TOO overtly or hypersexual out in the public view or like behavior.Not so much about control but actually everything to do with the appearence of class (this can be subjective)and having you for ourselves.Some also see it as a way of eliminating any possible competition from other guys (or friends) who could possibly be eyeing you.Again not an insecurity issue as much as too avoid alot of future drama.There is a big difference between sexy and slutty as far as how someone acts or dresses,definitely doesn't mean we want some chick in a burka,or TOO conservatively.Just one guy's view

“Surfer Dog”

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#8 Mar 5, 2010
sassie chick wrote:
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I don't agree with your argument it is too general, men like women to behave a certain way, but still call her a slut, women also are users of this word against other women, and most of them behave in very much the same way, men sleep around what would you call them?
Maybe you are hearing this from the wrong kind of people, listen to people who don't have an axe to grind probably not from this forum. People go around using words to loosely, only a hypocrite, idiot man wants a woman to be slut and than call her a slut. For a woman to be a slut in the bedroom could be a very loyal and good woman but likes to have fun in the bedroom.
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#9 Mar 5, 2010
sassie chick wrote:
See now i don't get it, men call women sluts but yet they want us to behave this way in the bedroom.
A lady in the street but freak in bed, so what is it men really want women to be ?
Don't say "Yourself" lol.
Hi "sassie chick" its john from australia, I will never, and have never in my life called a woman a slut, even if she slept with a dozen men on the same night, good luck to her!! to me she is a 'sexy lady' I cant help it, I just love women!!!
hockey guy

United States

#11 Mar 5, 2010
The losers are the ones doing the name calling, that's all they have.
sassie chick wrote:
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You may have a point, i think your right, it pisses me off something rotten when people start using these words willy nilly and it really doesn't apply.

“slipping slowly into senility”

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#13 Mar 5, 2010
sassie chick wrote:
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I don't agree with your argument it is too general, men like women to behave a certain way, but still call her a slut, women also are users of this word against other women, and most of them behave in very much the same way, men sleep around what would you call them?
i think the correct term for men who sleep around but call women who do sluts is - MIMBO.
avoid mimbos at all costs.

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#14 Mar 5, 2010
hockey guy wrote:
The ones calling you a sl*t are the ones who arn't getting any, jealousy.
Not really,I've seen some women do some really nasty low things and I didn't even want to have sex with them.Their behavior and obvious low-self esteem issues are a turn off. No on repsect the girl at the party who gets naked and lets a train of strangers grope her or take turns on her.

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#15 Mar 5, 2010
I don't want a slut in the bedroom,I want a good lover,but I don't want one who is a ex neighborhood ho or a promiscious party girl.
GentleGyant

Dayton, OH

#16 Mar 5, 2010
As with most things, there are a million reasons why individuals might behave this way. And it isn't just men, Jeff Foxworthy did a pretty good job of touching on it. Women say they want a bad boy, but he's only a bad boy when he's in THEIR bed - he's a "jerk" when he's in someone else's bed. What they often really want is a bad boy sometimes and Mr. Clean the rest of the time. It's pretty much the same thing with "slut". I don't care for the term, but there are plenty of women out there that are fine with the idea of it... to a point. I love a woman who can be a fiery wench in the bedroom (or kitchen or laundry...) and still manage some composure in public. It wouldn't hurt men to pick up on some of that either.

And, too, some people just don't know how to handle their emotions, so they just lash out with whatever hurtful thing they can come up with. Calling a woman a slut implies that "I'm alright, it's HER that's screwed up!"
COAB

United States

#17 Mar 5, 2010
Also,when we cannot refer to someone as a 'slut' when it is obvious by their actions that they behave as such ie.pornstars,prostitutes and loose women then political correctness has completely f--ked up the world..this goes both ways on the sexes-call it how you see it im sick of walking on eggshells for people that make complete wrecks of their lives,ive seen this ad nauseum from people i know its a tired song..sorry thats the truth deal with it.

“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#19 Mar 5, 2010
COAB wrote:
Also,when we cannot refer to someone as a 'slut' when it is obvious by their actions that they behave as such ie.pornstars,prostitutes and loose women then political correctness has completely f--ked up the world..this goes both ways on the sexes-call it how you see it im sick of walking on eggshells for people that make complete wrecks of their lives,ive seen this ad nauseum from people i know its a tired song..sorry thats the truth deal with it.
Bravo!!! I'm not in no way shape or form disputing what you have said that if a woman or man for that matter behave in such a way that obviuosly they will be called such names,i myself have a little more decorum and don't feel the need to belittle others with such names, and it doesn't make it right refardless of how you see it, the question is if you had read it properly was asking quite clearly that why do men call women sluts when this is how 9 out of 10 want women to behave in the bedroom, it's not about how many guys she sleeps with, or whether she's a porn star, why can't they still be respected as people human beings? let me ask you this...you guys get off on watching porn, and ogle and become aroused by it but in the next breath you diss the same thing that gives you pleasure, WTH, and for the record there is nothing wrong with political correctness, if everyone went around calling it like it is you'd be in hot water everyday of your god dam life.... it shows civility and at the end of the day i can still respect a person as a human being and not as a piece of meat, but then some of you guys have that problem i know this, but don't expect that it sits well with most women because it doesn't.

“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#20 Mar 5, 2010
hockey guy wrote:
The losers are the ones doing the name calling, that's all they have.<quoted text>
This is what i think, i respect people as people and the name callers are usually the ones who have been turned down by the woman they persue thats another reason a lot of women get dissed by men it's alright if she is freaky with him, but if that goes sour suddenly she becomes a hoe over night, some people here have slightly gone off what i asked but it all makes good debating i guess to see the views and mentality of some people, you seem to be the exception in all of this and i respect you for that, you have a very good understanding of what i'm actually talking about here.

“Sweeter Than Honey”

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#21 Mar 5, 2010
john wrote:
<quoted text> Hi "sassie chick" its john from australia, I will never, and have never in my life called a woman a slut, even if she slept with a dozen men on the same night, good luck to her!! to me she is a 'sexy lady' I cant help it, I just love women!!!
Hiya John what can i say, you're just a Real man lol, we women don't find too many of you around these days, but seriously it's guys like you that women all over the world would want to be with because you don't judge you know how to treat a woman as a woman regardless...geez your girl is such a lucky girl to have you, as i'm sure it's a two way thing, but back to what i was saying i dispise the fact that some men think it's alright to throw this terminology around, but still want a woman to be this way with them in the bedroom, and it's not always the case that she has many partners, but will still be labled as a slut it's beyond me but maybe i'm missing the point here.
Aftershock

Europe

#22 Mar 6, 2010
In answer to your original post, i think that you're talking about two different things. Being a freak in bed is one thing where the word is used to describe a particular behaviour associated with it, you could say uninhibited or open minded but the emotion attached to the word slut is powerful.
The other is purely about name calling. Its an adult version of childish playground bullying, someone is using a word with powerful connotations to put someone down or humiliate them.
I know a few women who enjoy being called slut in bed but to use that term outside of the bedroom would be a vicious slur.
hockey guy

United States

#23 Mar 6, 2010
The people doiing the name calling are usually inmature and frankly do not come across as very intelligent. It does not take much intelligents to utter out 4 letter overused words.
sassie chick wrote:
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This is what i think, i respect people as people and the name callers are usually the ones who have been turned down by the woman they persue thats another reason a lot of women get dissed by men it's alright if she is freaky with him, but if that goes sour suddenly she becomes a hoe over night, some people here have slightly gone off what i asked but it all makes good debating i guess to see the views and mentality of some people, you seem to be the exception in all of this and i respect you for that, you have a very good understanding of what i'm actually talking about here.

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