Anal sex "problems"

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Since: Sep 08

Long Beach, CA

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Sep 25, 2008
 
my girlfriend of 2+ years and i have tried anal sex about 3 or 4 times. on any given night she likes just a little bit of anal play which turns me on that she enjoys it.(we use plenty of lube and foreplay before any anal play/sex) the problem is that each time weve tried anal sex a) its never been good for her at the time and b)she says that in the day or 2 afterwords she experiences "problems"
she hasnt told me explicitly what these "problems" are which i why theyre in quotes. but ive just assumed it means being really sore afterwords or actually having bowell problems as a result. id like to know if anyone whos done anal could tell me what problems could be arising and if its possible to work around these problems

“Not your aveage woman”

Since: Sep 08

Port Mansfield, TX

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Sep 26, 2008
 

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You may have started peneatration to soon. think about buying about 4 sizes of b*tt plugs. Have her start with the smallest first, using lots of lube. Have her wear it a long as possible during the day for at least a week or until she comfortable with it. she may want to carry some wipes and extra lube with her to use during the day when she need to take it out to potty and then re insert it. Move on the next. After she is comfortable with the last. Before any action, have her use a enema or suppoisitory to empty her bowel. Then use lots and lots of lube. Your action should never be real rough, you do not want to harm her. You can tear her insides rather easily and cause a prolased bowel and even uterus. To make it enjoyable for her, stimulate her cl*t or have her stimulate it. she may even enjoy a toy. If she is having bowel leakage a few days aftewards, she may want to start wearin a b*tt plug all the time.
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Sep 26, 2008
 

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Bambi3 gave some weird advice.

Long term studies show that regular anal sex usually does NOT cause any major problems and that those doing anal sex are LESS likely to experience incontinence (leakage) over time due to greater "anal muscle" control.

The major factor is you, the guy, going slow and gentle.

A butt plug or properly shaped vibrator is actually a good way to start her off. It helps her work her way up to penis size.

However, keep in mind that the anal canal can accommodate penis sized objects naturally (think about it). It is more that you are getting her to learn how to relax her muscles and receive.

You can have vaginal sex while the butt plug or vibrator is in her anal canal. If you use the vibrator, you can actually feel it on your penis when in her vagina.

The other element is her and getting her to relax. Some women are simply very uptight and anal retentive types. This "stress" actually manifests itself by the person squeezing their anal sphincter muscles tight.

Such a person has trouble relaxing. You may want to address that by possibly letting her drink some wine first, stretching/Yoga (which is good for her in general), or something that gets her to relax.

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Since: Sep 08

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RealityDealer wrote:
Bambi3 gave some weird advice.
Long term studies show that regular anal sex usually does NOT cause any major problems and that those doing anal sex are LESS likely to experience incontinence (leakage) over time due to greater "anal muscle" control.
The major factor is you, the guy, going slow and gentle.
A butt plug or properly shaped vibrator is actually a good way to start her off. It helps her work her way up to penis size.
However, keep in mind that the anal canal can accommodate penis sized objects naturally (think about it). It is more that you are getting her to learn how to relax her muscles and receive.
You can have vaginal sex while the butt plug or vibrator is in her anal canal. If you use the vibrator, you can actually feel it on your penis when in her vagina.
The other element is her and getting her to relax. Some women are simply very uptight and anal retentive types. This "stress" actually manifests itself by the person squeezing their anal sphincter muscles tight.
Such a person has trouble relaxing. You may want to address that by possibly letting her drink some wine first, stretching/Yoga (which is good for her in general), or something that gets her to relax.
What studies are you talking about, I am a Physican Assistant, been doing this a long time. Seen many patients, and I know what occurs and preventions.
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Just make sure to slide your tongue in first to loosen her up, otherwise you could damage her butt walls.

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#6
Sep 26, 2008
 
or maybe she enjoys anal PLAY as opposed to anal SEX. my wife is this way. she enjoys a moist finger or two playing around, tickling, limited penetration. but she doesn't like anal sex, part of it i think could be stress about the idea, as well, but she doesn't enjoy it.
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Sep 27, 2008
 
Unless you have the girth of a coke can, there shouldn't be any problems. Maybe you go too hard too fast. Slow down, just barely go past the head for a few minutes, let her muscles relax, relube often then go at a slow pace for a while, she'll let you know when you can start to pump for real.
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Seattle, WA

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Oct 11, 2008
 
Always slide your tongue all the way up into the butthole first, and then load you dick up with with lots of KY!

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