How do I say to my husband i want a big toy? P.S. Hes very petite in that area

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UnsatisfiedButHa ppy

Windsor, Canada

#1 Mar 18, 2014
were both 27, 3yrs married. Im more than content with our relationship; but i need more than a penis that cant reach and i cant feel. All i want is a toy...but a big one, Ive been with larger men (they were all larger) and i miss the feeling of being filled and being pleased sexually. Unfortunately, hes a mere 4 inches at best and not thick, at all. I have my eyes set on 7-8inch and vibrating. He'll do anything and everything for me but how can i do this without breaking the news that hes too small? is he to small? i feel shallow but its just a toy :(
Girls,please think how'd you feel in this situation! I'm open to any opinions, advice, experiences, or anything that might help us out :)
How can I go about this?
Athletic male

Liverpool, UK

#2 Mar 18, 2014
Just buy a toy and let him use it on yu I'm see he'll be happy to help :p
zoey

Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK

#4 Mar 18, 2014
I was in this situation! This is what I did.. if you look online, find the toy you like but order him a toy too, maybe some lube aswell.. then when they come suprise him with them, say you wanted to try something new or spice things up. If the toy is obviously larger than him just explain you didnt realise how large it was going to be as it looked smaller on the picture haha xx
UnsatisfiedButHa ppy

Windsor, Canada

#5 Mar 18, 2014
I may have left out that he thinks hes well endowed and a great lover.
When we make love I completely fake it and usually have to keep myself from falling asleep so its something to do. He knows nothing, I have to keep myself from laugh when i see him soft. he begins at an inch, so i dont know how he'll feel about 8 being in me
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#6 Mar 18, 2014
Wow can't believe how many topics on here all blend together in one way or another. I've been posting on a topics about ( wife's who husband have a small penis). On it I posted how I'm in love with my husband and very happy, but sexually we are miss matched. Your situation is different than mine and I think it would be very difficult. My husband was the one who bought up about his penis being small, and asked about how it was for me sexually. Over time I got comfortable enough to be honest and admit when he asked if I wish it was bigger. Then it was him who suggest vibrators and dildos that we did order on line. My husband like yours is also in the 4" range and very petite in girth the size of a hotdog in girth. But if your husband thinks he's big then I don't know how he would react ( it is nice he's that confident). I'm surprised in today's day and age with Internet porn and the comments made on general TV he doesn't realize being only 4" his penis is small. The size that you stated while limp at 1" about the same as my husband. My husband told me he knew growing up in high school and taking showers he had a very small penis. My admission to him when he asked and not trying to lie to him was because its just obvious. But I also let him know I love him no matter what, and the toys are just a way to please my physical needs. But I have to admit there is a very strong emotional pleasure I get from the toys. Can't think of anything other than maybe watch porn with him that shows what a big one really looks like. Maybe that might help open a door good luck keep us up dated
demanding man

Appleton, WI

#7 Mar 18, 2014
Stacey wrote:
Wow can't believe how many topics on here all blend together in one way or another. I've been posting on a topics about ( wife's who husband have a small penis). On it I posted how I'm in love with my husband and very happy, but sexually we are miss matched. Your situation is different than mine and I think it would be very difficult. My husband was the one who bought up about his penis being small, and asked about how it was for me sexually. Over time I got comfortable enough to be honest and admit when he asked if I wish it was bigger. Then it was him who suggest vibrators and dildos that we did order on line. My husband like yours is also in the 4" range and very petite in girth the size of a hotdog in girth. But if your husband thinks he's big then I don't know how he would react ( it is nice he's that confident). I'm surprised in today's day and age with Internet porn and the comments made on general TV he doesn't realize being only 4" his penis is small. The size that you stated while limp at 1" about the same as my husband. My husband told me he knew growing up in high school and taking showers he had a very small penis. My admission to him when he asked and not trying to lie to him was because its just obvious. But I also let him know I love him no matter what, and the toys are just a way to please my physical needs. But I have to admit there is a very strong emotional pleasure I get from the toys. Can't think of anything other than maybe watch porn with him that shows what a big one really looks like. Maybe that might help open a door good luck keep us up dated
Great suggestion.

It will be painful for him to hear.

Men are like that.
SexMadOverGf

Nottingham, UK

#9 Mar 18, 2014
Ever since my gf had a baby her sex drive has sunk to very low levels, I'm about average 6" ok girth, she seems to picked up a bit last few week but 2 years and more of being intensely sexually frustrated while your living with the girl you fancy most in the world, ever! Ain't good for a man.
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#10 Mar 18, 2014
demanding man wrote:
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Great suggestion.
It will be painful for him to hear.
Men are like that.
for my husband he already knew he was small and brought it up to me. It was very painful for me to admit the truth to him, thanks for liking my comment. I just wish I had more ideas lol I think it would be harder in her situation. Since he thinks he's big and she feels unsatisfied with her sex life, but I know for a fact toys are very good to resolve this situation, over the years my husband has brought up other ideas. Some I've been tempted to try but uncomfortable at the time but growing more willing to experiment as I've read toxics
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Anon

Saint-basile-le-grand, Canada

#11 Mar 18, 2014
UnsatisfiedButHappy wrote:
were both 27, 3yrs married. Im more than content with our relationship; but i need more than a penis that cant reach and i cant feel. All i want is a toy...but a big one, Ive been with larger men (they were all larger) and i miss the feeling of being filled and being pleased sexually. Unfortunately, hes a mere 4 inches at best and not thick, at all. I have my eyes set on 7-8inch and vibrating. He'll do anything and everything for me but how can i do this without breaking the news that hes too small? is he to small? i feel shallow but its just a toy :(
Girls,please think how'd you feel in this situation! I'm open to any opinions, advice, experiences, or anything that might help us out :)
How can I go about this?
Tell him u want it as a birth day or holiday present for when he is away

Since: Oct 13

Tampa, FL

#12 Mar 18, 2014
I agree I'm small it's no secret to me and wife it in no way bothers me to her buy and use whatever she wants I want her to be happy whatever it takes
demanding man

Appleton, WI

#13 Mar 18, 2014
Stacey wrote:
<quoted text>for my husband he already knew he was small and brought it up to me. It was very painful for me to admit the truth to him, thanks for liking my comment. I just wish I had more ideas lol I think it would be harder in her situation. Since he thinks he's big and she feels unsatisfied with her sex life, but I know for a fact toys are very good to resolve this situation, over the years my husband has brought up other ideas. Some I've been tempted to try but uncomfortable at the time but growing more willing to experiment as I've read toxics
It's a Pandora's box. Once you open it up it will be difficult to close.

My wife and I used to experiment more but it made her uncomfortable so we stopped.
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#14 Mar 18, 2014
demanding man wrote:
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It's a Pandora's box. Once you open it up it will be difficult to close.
My wife and I used to experiment more but it made her uncomfortable so we stopped.
. Very true its not something everyone is comfortable with

Since: Nov 13

Arlington, MA

#15 Mar 18, 2014
UnsatisfiedButHappy wrote:
I may have left out that he thinks hes well endowed and a great lover.
When we make love I completely fake it and usually have to keep myself from falling asleep so its something to do. He knows nothing, I have to keep myself from laugh when i see him soft. he begins at an inch, so i dont know how he'll feel about 8 being in me
So you have been lying and deceiving him for years, preventing him from learning better how to satisfy you, and now you complain you're not satisfied. Well, duh. You've made your bed, now you lie in it.
UnsatisfiedButHa ppy

Windsor, Canada

#17 Mar 18, 2014
Thanks so much for your ideas and comments! youve all be so helpful. I think deep down he must know hes small because hes just barely 4 on a good day, and when its soft it almost disappears. I'm sure he knows but thinks i dont know very much about sex because i dont tell him every encounter ive ever had *cough*cough because they were all a lot larger*. So hes confident jst because he thinks im inexperienced but its the opposite :( Ive orderd us some fun toys for us both. However, the 8inch size is in the title and box and bill ! After when i realized this i bought more lingerie and things to suck off him as a bribe haha. I dont wanna make him sad but i need this. Its been years since ive got off from penetration and i love him and im never leaving so what am i to do right?Besides, One way or another i have my charms and always leave him satisfied with a grin on his face. Im mainly concerned about my vocal response to a vib 8in and its realllllllly realistic, i mean ive been with something i dont feel for 7years. Im only worried he'll immediately see that hes outranked laughably. Im not loud with him, noisy at most :s How am i gunna lighten that load? Do you think he'll be upset that he'd have a heart attack before getting a real sound out of me?

*Stacey Id take a hotdog over a cheesey any day! haha
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#19 Mar 18, 2014
Hi Unsatisfiedbuthappy,
I'm not sure how he will react like I said my husband was the one who approached me. So he knew he was little and could tell I needed more so when I obviously went wilder than I've gone with him. It wasn't a surprise for him he knew and just wanted to let me feel the pleasure. I don't think your going to be able to hide how it feels if your going to do 8". If its thick as well there is no way your going to orgasm and there is no hiding that. The first one we got was 8 1/2" insertable and 6 1/4" around in girth, lets just say it milked me lol I had a very intense orgasm really quick. I laid there starring at the ceiling and then went for round 2 having another orgasm. My husband topped it off by almost killing me by licking my clit right after I cam so hard I kicked him off me because his tung was so intense lol. We have allot of fun but he doesn't have any Insecurities with the toys.
UnsatisfiedButHa ppy

Windsor, Canada

#20 Mar 21, 2014
So the toys and things arrived a day or two ago, and we used them last night. Amazing for me, surprising for him. We drank a lot of wine and had enjoyed a great night mixed with alcohol and a hot tub when I had said i got us some fun toys and lingerie and he was excited. Later I wore a sexy new piece and asked him to get ready on the bed. I went our closet and got the bag they were in and set it next to the bed. I got him started and we had sex for awhile, after he had some fun I reached down and grabbed the new VERY realistic 8inch vibe. Ive never seen anyones eyes widen as much as his did, speechless at first. I was unsure what to do so i just started to use it trying to turn him on while i performed oral. This was not a good plan. Not long after beginning to use my new 8inch "friend" I was in a state of pure fulfilled extacy, moaning and dripping and having the best sex of my life by myself. I was so out of it I didnt even realize i had stopped my oral performance. After what i imagine was quite a show, I stopped using the toy and asked him to come back to me (in a really dirty way). We began again, this time in doggy style, as usual i could only tell when he began by the feel of his thighs hitting me. but then suddenly i felt what felt like the tip of the new toy, it felt incredibly thick and i assumed my husband had picked up the toy and had placed it at his thighs to pretend it was his. foolishly not looking back, I said "ohh im glad your coming around bby, oh thats nice, more bby" at that point I felt it pull out of me and when i turned my husband explained that it wasnt the toy it was all of his almost 4inches and his small balls that entered me. I could tell he was embarrassed it was so tiny of a thing it all slide in. After the toy I was adjusted to a much larger size and I could tell how outgunned he felt. It made it worse that he knew then i could feel any of his penis because i didnt say anything until he was balls deep. He wasnt mad because he knew i loved him and pretended all this time to make him happy, sacrificing my pleasure. he was just very sad :( Ive tried a bunch of things to cheer him up but nothing works. Hes soft 99% of the time and I see him looking down at his 1inch state when im not around frowning. What can i do? Hes all sad all the time, I think if i can show him i can get a real orgasm from him he'll be so very happy and more confident and comfortable. Any suggestions for positions?tips? I need to be able to draw a real performance out of him, Is anyone really good with smaller men?

Since: Dec 13

Italy

#21 Mar 21, 2014
I post here as some kind of an expert since I m even smaller than your husband and both my wife and I know thats a problem.
We talk a lot about anything and at one time she started saying that maybe we could find a third guy to play with from time to time. At first I felt outraged but I knew that was a problem and it had to be solved.
After months we finally organized a dinner with a friend of hers. He is a little younger and very well endowed. We talked him into giving it a try. A week later we did it. It was very strange at the beginning watchin my wife being pounded by another man but I was there and I could see how much she enjoyed it. And she took my tool in her mouth all the time with even more passion than before.
We are happy now. Our common friend comes from time to time but there is another guy who we are also gonna talk with. It is true there is something weird in letting another man do those things to your wife, still we are adults and care for each other. And with time I got so intimate with the guy that he started pinching my thingy between his finger while pounding my wife and I found that so much arousing.
In the end I wann say also that small dick men do usually know their condition, and let me also state that those I know kind of enjoy coming out to this, because theyve suffered that condition all their life. I suggest you to find an alternative but still to focus on his tool. We are small but we love when the thingy gets all the attention.
Hope it helps
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#22 Mar 21, 2014
UnsatisfiedButHappy, I think its going to take time for both of you to find a way to make this comfortable. I think talking about it is your first step to make this work, he's wondering what your thinking and your wondering things as well. Just start talking and over time the two of you won't have anything hidden, because you just whipped out a huge toy. Now he has these thoughts going thru his mind and you have no way to know what he's thinking.
So you can't defend or explain anything to him about how you feel and why you want and need your BIG TOY. I glad you got your toy and I'm sure our pussy is thanking you too lol I know mine did.
Stacey

Mount Vernon, WA

#23 Mar 21, 2014
Bigsmall, very interesting and my husband has been wanting to expend our sex play for years since experience with dildoes and vibrators. I said on her the other day how reading about other topics people telling how much they have enjoyed this. I have been more seriously talking to my husband about taking him up on a MFM with a very well endowed guy.

“Fun Hunter”

Since: Aug 12

Benton Harbor, Michigan

#24 Mar 21, 2014
UnsatisfiedButHa ppy wrote:
So the toys and things arrived a day or two ago, and we used them last night. Amazing for me, surprising for him. We drank a lot of wine and had enjoyed a great night mixed with alcohol and a hot tub when I had said i got us some fun toys and lingerie and he was excited. Later I wore a sexy new piece and asked him to get ready on the bed. I went our closet and got the bag they were in and set it next to the bed. I got him started and we had sex for awhile, after he had some fun I reached down and grabbed the new VERY realistic 8inch vibe. Ive never seen anyones eyes widen as much as his did, speechless at first. I was unsure what to do so i just started to use it trying to turn him on while i performed oral. This was not a good plan. Not long after beginning to use my new 8inch "friend" I was in a state of pure fulfilled extacy, moaning and dripping and having the best sex of my life by myself. I was so out of it I didnt even realize i had stopped my oral performance. After what i imagine was quite a show, I stopped using the toy and asked him to come back to me (in a really dirty way). We began again, this time in doggy style, as usual i could only tell when he began by the feel of his thighs hitting me. but then suddenly i felt what felt like the tip of the new toy, it felt incredibly thick and i assumed my husband had picked up the toy and had placed it at his thighs to pretend it was his. foolishly not looking back, I said "ohh im glad your coming around bby, oh thats nice, more bby" at that point I felt it pull out of me and when i turned my husband explained that it wasnt the toy it was all of his almost 4inches and his small balls that entered me. I could tell he was embarrassed it was so tiny of a thing it all slide in. After the toy I was adjusted to a much larger size and I could tell how outgunned he felt. It made it worse that he knew then i could feel any of his penis because i didnt say anything until he was balls deep. He wasnt mad because he knew i loved him and pretended all this time to make him happy, sacrificing my pleasure. he was just very sad :( Ive tried a bunch of things to cheer him up but nothing works. Hes soft 99% of the time and I see him looking down at his 1inch state when im not around frowning. What can i do? Hes all sad all the time, I think if i can show him i can get a real orgasm from him he'll be so very happy and more confident and comfortable. Any suggestions for positions?tips? I need to be able to draw a real performance out of him, Is anyone really good with smaller men?
what about one of those extenders on Adam and Eve ?? Will make him longer and thicker?

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