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<quoted text>Ah buddy, I hoped to catch you before you ran off. Been on my mind this morning and finally putting it down. If you do leave for a spell, Reality, I hope during that time you'll seriously consider what I'm about to say.
Whatever you give yourself to becomes your master. You can't learn more about a subject without the subject comtrolling you, until you tie off the subject with a firm thought, and replace the subject with a new interest. Replacement must occur or the void will be filled by the unraveling tie of the former subject.
It does no good to know all basketball players stats, present and past if you're in a game and get passed the ball. It also does nothing if you're the coach. Put aside the stats and all of your information and thank yourself for your experience of taking it as far as it could go, but still in the end, requiring you to live with courage. There is no stat or one woman's comforting words that will eliminate all risk of rejection.
Your saved info may or may not come in handy but it no longer has to own you.
Please do not reply for days arguing with me or justifying insecurity. You are a masterpiece of a person. As soon as you take the next positive step. What others say will make no difference in your life, because they will adjust their words and feeling, and even morals, to match what you give them to live up to. There is no universal prevention of risk, rejection, or sadness. Only approaches.
I have no intent of arguring with a good poster.
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Personally, I DO think size matters. Some women might not admit to it, or say that size isn't important if you're looking for a longer term relationship with somebody, but it truly is. Sex can be a huge cornerstone in a relationship. It ignites passion between lovers, and can bring them closer to one another, so you should be able to really enjoy sex with your partner. And if he's inadequate, or "over-endowed", it can cause a riff between you, in many different ways. Now, like others have said, size (length & girth) preference depends on each individual woman. My boyfriend is 8" long and between 2" and 3" girth. I absolutely love it. At first, it was a bit uncomfortable every now and then, and he couldn't fit all the way in, but most of the way. The vaginal canal is actually composed of the same material as the penis, so when the tissue has lots of blood flowing through it, it will actually change size and elongate. Now, because of this and the fact that we're both very sexually charged people and are very physically attracted to each other, over time, my vaginal canal actually started to change and form to his penis and now he can get all the way in, and it hasn't been discomforting in the least bit for most of the 9 1/2 months we've been together now. He can always pleasure me just right, and we still have fun doing other activities as well. But, it does vary with every woman.
Some of my knowledge can possibly be useful to me (and a partner), such as knowing how long it may take for a woman's cervix to move out of the way, or which positions hit which particular areas in the vagina, etc, etc, but much of what I know is of no real help to me. I know that.

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Yes, I'm a woman and I don't have a preference.
thats what I like about you :) that and you have some great posts :)

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Personally, I DO think size matters. Some women might not admit to it, or say that size isn't important if you're looking for a longer term relationship with somebody, but it truly is. Sex can be a huge cornerstone in a relationship. It ignites passion between lovers, and can bring them closer to one another, so you should be able to really enjoy sex with your partner. And if he's inadequate...
The small guys are well aware.

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Aug 8, 2010
 
He's looking for the vagina that will warm up and comform to him.

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Aug 8, 2010
 
I guess I should have said they're looking for the vaginas that will warm up and conform to them. Supposedly women stress over their looks, bodies, and men leaving them for another hotter girl. Men wanting loving sex, regularly. Hot is very low, as long as his gal is sweet and willing to do a little more than be bad - which happens. Flip the coin though, and men being loving, willing, and healthy won't seem to cut it, won't seem to get in all that far - if the woman sets up in her mind medium - large or nothing. It's not THAT simple, bodies are involved and the woman must be happy. But she must also understand the day after marriage he can step on a land mine in service of his country and intimacy is over. Or like a buddy here, playing with kids in his own pool, dove in and broke his neck, and docs says he might be able to relearn some things and also walk someday. But not much more.
Yes, we all want to be happy and may call all this rare stuff. What I call it is: Was there a lot of pre-marital sex that formed the foudation of the woman's "happiness." If so, the won't survive young mana's disease testicular cancer and many other assorted thing because she has her needs, the "cornerstone" of marriage. Bull. I deeply respect sex, love sex, and don't engae in risky behaviors because there's more pressure on me than her by far. But it is absolutley not the cornerstone of a good relationship. Loyalty and rspect are. Sex add to it and any woman's shape and man's shape can work, but there needs to be attraction and so on built to a level of devotion that can't be based on the man being more than a considerate lover. He can always do or be more than that. I see on so many forums boohoo my husband neglects me, or can't get erect and I'm such a victim. Not him, He sucks. I'm the victim.
Go back to square one. Did you screw up square one and think it was all about sex? Or was it about caring, loyalty, and respect and doing things to demonstrate those qualities pre-marriage.
I did not at first gel with my wife sexually. I won't say which of us or why for usual reason of respect. It was nearly a no go. Then it was often a no go. But a little angel said there's a family beginning, and you must take action. We are the absolute most compatible in bed that 2 can be, I think ;)

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Aug 8, 2010
 
Men want loving sex regularly (not wanting). Sorry for the difficult reading.

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<quoted text>here is an interesting consideration .. if it is true that asian men are not as hung as other races, then perahps all those women realize that they have no choice but to accept simply what is available because there is nothing they can do about it. Cheating by women is a much bigger social no-no in most asian countries, so marreid women are less likely to go looking for a hung man if their hubby is small.
thus the whole societal outlook is geared to say "size does not matter" ...

I wonder though, if a well hung, handsome, and well-employed asian man were to go into nightclub in SHanghai, and it was made known he is well hung ... would he have all the single asian women flock to him? Or would they not care? Are there asian women (outisde the west) who are "size queens"?
In my observation,a lot of Asian women are more interested if the man is handsome. The matured Asian women and the practical Asian women are more focused on what the man can bring on the table it doesn't matter if he is handsome or not. On this case,we are not talking about the penis size because a lot of these ladies would not spread their legs to any man just to find out if they like him or not.

If the man got the whole package which is rare,then of course,more Asian women would flock on him.

Now,when you talk about night club,I interpreted that as the place where the women are selling their bodies for sex and money. Those types would be after the money regardless of how the man look like and whatever his penis size is. They are there to make money not to be choosy on dong size and man's looks.

I haven't heard of any decent Asian women who bragged they are size queen. It would be embarassing for anyone to know they are hungry for a hung one because that would means the Asian woman is as loose as a door way. Maybe the prostitutes talk that way but since I was not around them,I have no idea if they are size queen or not.

The only thing I know is,some women's genitals can become loose after giving birth but again,I haven't heard any of my friends who seriously admitted they were even if one of them said she married a 4" dong and she was not quite happy about it because her past Filipino bf was way bigger than her spouse. She love her hubby so she put up with his penis size.

Cheating by Asian women in my country is not acceptable. So,it is possible that those who married a smaller one would just put up on what they got,or,they may not even realize they are married to a small one if they had no other sexual partner in the past to compare with. Unless,the spouse has micro penis,then even a virgin Asian woman would see the issue right there.
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<quoted text>i AGREE, i THINK AGE IS CATCHINg UP WITH HER and it gets harder and harder to keep the weight off .. especially if she has certain genetics, where the added weight goes straight to the booty.

On the other hand, there seems to be a fad towards having a "booty" ....J LO and Beyonce, as well as Janet, for example, may have set that trend in motion ..
Fat is not cool in hollywood. Thin and anorexic are. Big boobs,huge booties,and calves are sexy so these celebrities are going nuts on cosmetic surgeries where they inserted silicons in their breasts,calves,butts,mouths,ch eeks for high cheeck bones.

I won't be surprised if the bodies of Jlo,Beyonce,and Janet are all stuffed with silicons just to be in.

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<quoted text> Over and over and over women repeat (men listen), "please know what you're doing in bed" "please last longer" and these are not unreal requests. And it is what they want.
Now to answer your question, Franko. IMO, the more women are acquainted with one-night stands and inept, unhealthy, and uncaring men, the more the percentages (I really hate using that beaten-to-death term in this thread!) will move toward, "What the heck, if men are probably going to be as clumsy as they are on the dance floor and the sideline showing a weak move to a male bud, at least let's make it something different and memorable. I'm not taking any chances, I'm getting the low down on a guy or advertising "cut/uncut" and "size matters."
What should be beside some of the interesting standard profile questions answered by men and women esp. online, is right below "Does penis size matter, Yes or No," is "Does breast size matter?" The small girls are demanding a lot these days. The new question could add a moment of thought, "Hmmn, I just answered does penis size matter Yes, now I'm about to answer does breast size matter No"!(N/A is not an listed option, btw -AE).
And there are exceptions to all I said, too, with people that have a preference certainly being allowed to have a preference without someone thinking they have a problem. They may, they may not at all. They are stacking the odds pretty well by eliminating small men and many mediums unsure if that means they best not jump in, IF the women get hits. They can deal with plenty of ineptness and still say they got "experience... Next."
In my opinion, comparing if breast size matters is not the same as if penis size matters.

the breasts may have a visual compomennt for some men, btu it makes little difference to the man or the women in terms of the actual sex act ... in fact, breast sensitivity is a more important question and that affects the woman not the man.

By comparision, the penis is the central component used for intercourse, and so the size, shape, and how long an erection lasts do indeed affect the quality of the sex act.

I do agree that the size aspect is blown way out orf proportion ...

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We are the absolute most compatible in bed that 2 can be, I think ;)
I also have a "security blanket" many men I suspect do not have. We enjoy each other so much, and her female friends husbands are getting "older" so she appreciates our good circumstances each and every time more. My wife said about a year ago to me, if I could never "do that" again it would be okay. Granted, we've lived a good life and I'm 45. But what kind of man wouldn't return that kind of loyalty for all time? Seek to preserve himself and their no pressure pure pleasure life. Devotion both ways.
I had to shake a girl early in my life who wanted more than 3 a day every day. I was leaning toward 10 a week not 21. Skip a day here and there. After a while I did not think my love of her would be returned if I wasn't giving her sex, and I have one strike against my in that department already, from a either a motorcycle accident age 10 or being undecended - docs weren't sure. Surgery age 10 pulled it down, but half-size and not fully functioning.

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Too much trouble. I'm kinda tired of it all. I'd rather wait and see if anyone posts anything I want to add to or correct. Most postings are the same ole same ole. I post to those but it just about seems as if I didn't as people continue to post week after week incomplete and misinformation over and over. Space brought up a couple of questions that don't come up quite as often, that of penis pills and pumps and that grabbed my interest to post to more so than this other sex stuff really has lately. I'm mainly just going through the motions in most of my postings. I may just look in and wait for more such not quite as usual postings to come along, such as what Space brought up, before I continue posting much in the future. I can't keep trying to put out misinforamtion fires all over the place. The fires continue on anyway in what seems as rampant as ever.
waiting for someone to randomly hit on a subject of interest is a passive way of handling the situation ... as you pointed out, it is moslty same old smale old,and yo coudl wait ages fro someone to touch on somethign new. You leave the control to others who will, most often go in a differnet direction than YOU want to go.

BUT, If you proactivley put out matters for discusion, especially with people like me, Zoey, Pamela, Allusion, and a few others curently posting, you are certain to initiate a NEW subject of discusison that is new and intersting to yourself and possibly to others ...

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Personally, I DO think size matters. Some women might not admit to it, or say that size isn't important if you're looking for a longer term relationship with somebody, but it truly is. Sex can be a huge cornerstone in a relationship. It ignites passion between lovers, and can bring them closer to one another, so you should be able to really enjoy sex with your partner. And if he's inadequate, or "over-endowed", it can cause a riff between you, in many different ways. Now, like others have said, size (length & girth) preference depends on each individual woman. My boyfriend is 8" long and between 2" and 3" girth. I absolutely love it. At first, it was a bit uncomfortable every now and then, and he couldn't fit all the way in, but most of the way. The vaginal canal is actually composed of the same material as the penis, so when the tissue has lots of blood flowing through it, it will actually change size and elongate. Now, because of this and the fact that we're both very sexually charged people and are very physically attracted to each other, over time, my vaginal canal actually started to change and form to his penis and now he can get all the way in, and it hasn't been discomforting in the least bit for most of the 9 1/2 months we've been together now. He can always pleasure me just right, and we still have fun doing other activities as well. But, it does vary with every woman.
I believe size matter. If she is inlove with the man,of course she would accept him for what he is but that doesn't means deep inside she would not see the difference that she is having sex with a dong that she can't feel at all or that can't satisfy her. She may not admit it though.

I've heard that the 4" is common and if the man is good on foreplay and if he can thrust good,he is still capable of giving the woman pleasure consider she is not too loose not to feel him. If she is loose,in that case,she needs to learn kegel exercise so she would be able to tighten up herself to adjust her width on her partner's penis size.

Now,when the man has micro penis: 2" and below,that's different story. If the woman said she is happy with it,then so be it. But, if the woman is just being honest to herself,how can she be happy with a dong size that is way smaller than normal? Love wise she is happy with the man she is sleeping with. But sex wise and penis size wise,she is probably not.

I only screw my hubby but I can tell you that I won't be happy with a real small dong if I happened to be married to one.

Here's why. By dong size calculation,I made my hubby make love with me by putting only 2" or less of his dong inside me,it is just an experiment to answer my curiousity. I can feel his thickness alright but can I feel the rest? Nope. He was just on the opening,so how can I enjoy it? His finger is longer than that.

Then I made him try a 3",well,I can feel him somehow but there is something missing. Then the 4",he is fine. He put in 5" or 6",it is perfect. He pushed in about 7",it was quite uncomfortable. He pushed deeper,I said: "Get off of me,you are killing me."

To any women who had no idea what a small dong or the smaller ones feel like,they can't really tell if they have no dong preferences or not until they made love with it or until they experimented on something similar.

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In my observation,a lot of Asian women are more interested if the man is handsome. The matured Asian women and the practical Asian women are more focused on what the man can bring on the table it doesn't matter if he is handsome or not. On this case,we are not talking about the penis size because a lot of these ladies would not spread their legs to any man just to find out if they like him or not.
If the man got the whole package which is rare,then of course,more Asian women would flock on him.
Now,when you talk about night club,I interpreted that as the place where the women are selling their bodies for sex and money. Those types would be after the money regardless of how the man look like and whatever his penis size is. They are there to make money not to be choosy on dong size and man's looks.
I haven't heard of any decent Asian women who bragged they are size queen. It would be embarassing for anyone to know they are hungry for a hung one because that would means the Asian woman is as loose as a door way. Maybe the prostitutes talk that way but since I was not around them,I have no idea if they are size queen or not.
The only thing I know is,some women's genitals can become loose after giving birth but again,I haven't heard any of my friends who seriously admitted they were even if one of them said she married a 4" dong and she was not quite happy about it because her past Filipino bf was way bigger than her spouse. She love her hubby so she put up with his penis size.
Cheating by Asian women in my country is not acceptable. So,it is possible that those who married a smaller one would just put up on what they got,or,they may not even realize they are married to a small one if they had no other sexual partner in the past to compare with. Unless,the spouse has micro penis,then even a virgin Asian woman would see the issue right there.
don't they have, in asian countries like china or Taiwan or Korea, nightclubs where young people go to dance and meet poeple of the opposite sex? How do people meet over there?

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... She love her hubby so she put up with his penis size.
... So,it is possible that those who married a smaller one would just put up on what they got...
If they love their husbands couldn't they transform their thoughts to also love his penis, not just put up with it?
To think of a man putting up with his ugly, flat-chested wife, but he loves her, seem to be opposite feelings that makes the love diminish eventually, too.
I'm trying to be practical. His penis won't do the whole trick for her, but as it rises etc., I'd think if I were a woman I'd love it, as I love the man.

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<quoted text>Yes, right on your last paragraph. Again though, can't get from micro to average, only micro to larger micro.

Common sense and not research is required for most surgeries. The surgery risk that will save a life? Perform it. The risk to add a 3/4ths of an inch? Do not perform it. No more research. It's common sense, not some mysterious planet of evidence where common sense doesn't apply because a woman can't feel what a man feels. Stop for a moment, put youself in a man's shoes and answer the question. I do it all the time for others when it hard for me to understand, or I need to prepare a speech or counseling session.
I'm not one to exclude a wife from an equal partnership which includes decisions, but neither sex can go beyond certain areas, and into where they don't belong.

There is no discussion about what's comfortable for both of them. I don't know why you keep returning to that, unless it's like my 90% kind and 100% beloved wife, who will not rest if accidently all evidence points to her being mistaken. She'll then add something for arguments sake that is slightly connected.

What's comfortable for a man's penis, esp. if the wife is already unhappy, is up to one person only, and that is him. It may feel good to get involved in every decision, but this one not a woman's to make, unless a man losing his own voice because he connects it to her description of him. His self-worth is his responsibility. If she won't encourage it, he should divorce her.

Her happiness is her personal responsibility. If it involves being creative and possessing greater love than a one-night stand mentality, seeing other strenghs such as the ones that drew her to him originally, etc., then that's the course - or she should divorce him.
If they are husband and wife and they care for each other's opinion,there would always be a discussion of what's comfortable for both of them,meaning,they will weigh the situation and they will consider the downsides of the surgeries. Whatever they agreed about will be the decision.

If the man think he is not gonna go for surgery,then no one can force him for it. It is his dong and his life. If the woman thinks she can't live with a microscopic dong,then the decision they should come up with is to use a different non-surgical alternatives. If sex is very important to them but they are unable to resolve their issue just because no one would give way or none are willing to help each other then they are better off hiring a divorce laywer to end their misery.

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<quoted text>If they love their husbands couldn't they transform their thoughts to also love his penis, not just put up with it?
To think of a man putting up with his ugly, flat-chested wife, but he loves her, seem to be opposite feelings that makes the love diminish eventually, too.
I'm trying to be practical. His penis won't do the whole trick for her, but as it rises etc., I'd think if I were a woman I'd love it, as I love the man.
To put up with it is to also love it. IF, the woman love the man. If she don't love the man,that's when she put up with it.

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<quoted text>don't they have, in asian countries like china or Taiwan or Korea, nightclubs where young people go to dance and meet poeple of the opposite sex? How do people meet over there?
I don't know about other countries. But in the Philippines,the place where we dance and meet people are not called night club but disco house or restaurant. Night clubs are for prostitutes who entertain men for sex and money.

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<quoted text>In my opinion, comparing if breast size matters is not the same as if penis size matters.
the breasts may have a visual compomennt for some men, btu it makes little difference to the man or the women in terms of the actual sex act ... in fact, breast sensitivity is a more important question and that affects the woman not the man.
By comparision, the penis is the central component used for intercourse, and so the size, shape, and how long an erection lasts do indeed affect the quality of the sex act.
I do agree that the size aspect is blown way out orf proportion ...
Not all men are boob men and it doesn't matter if the woman is big breasted or not,the feeling during penetration involving genitals is different. The persons can feel if the penis size is small or not or if the vagina is loose or not. While the breasts can just be sitting there untouched during sex or can be padded for visual effect.
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Not all men are boob men and it doesn't matter if the woman is big breasted or not,the feeling during penetration involving genitals is different. The persons can feel if the penis size is small or not or if the vagina is loose or not. While the breasts can just be sitting there untouched during sex or can be padded for visual effect.
Years back I had a one night stand with a woman I met in a nightclub (actually I've had a number of one night stands with various women, but I'm just speaking about this one) and when she got naked she was quite flat chested. I didn't realise it beforehand. My pecs were signicantly bigger than her breasts (to be fair I do have naturally strong big size pecs). She did have good looking legs and a nice looking body I focused a good bit of foreplay onto those parts, even kissed long kisses with her once I realised she was very much into that even though we were just having a fling, but not hardly sanything with the breasts. I couldn't get myself to fondle her practically non exist breast area. I felt some guilt at a point or two that night while we were having foreplay and intercourse and told myself to play with her breasts area but couldn't and eventually put it out of my mind while we were in bed together. I've since felt some guilt for having being that way that night.

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