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Just a guy

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#24
Apr 22, 2014
 
Hey Bobby, any updates?

Would love to know how things are progressing.

Please update.:)
Bobby

Dublin, Ireland

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#25
Apr 23, 2014
 
Just a guy wrote:
Hey Bobby, any updates?
Would love to know how things are progressing.
Please update.:)
The late night texts continue as I work, which I think are unusual for a 19yo guy. He still still becomes pretty explicit, perhaps even moreso since I started to tell him to just 'take matters into his own hands' whenever he get overly horny. The displays of nudity in the gym, or when he showers in my house are not a problem at all.
I'm happy to help and advise my young friend and respond to his questions as best I can, even if they can be very sexual in nature. I enjoy our chats, but I'm starting to feel quite guilty that he is expressing what should be considered a natural 'curiosity' about another guy, and that I am sometimes the object of his nighttime fantasies. I guess it is natural for a young guy to sometimes feel a little curious in general, and in particular about an older married guy that he looks up to and admires, While I have found it flattering and even kind of heart pounding at times, it makes me feel responsible and guilty.
Of course I know I am not the cause of how he feels, and that it is most likely just teenage testosterone in overdrive, im at the stage where I think I should cut him off from texting.
As I said before, the last thing I want is for him to feel rejected, especially since he has had enough of that in his life.
I've explained all this clearly and in detail to him. He thinks I am just overreacting and that this is all just harmless fun. I'm more concerned about his feelings than he is, and im worried that he may eventually feel hurt in some way,
I would love to hear the views of another straight young guy to see if I am in fact reading too much into it all.
Just a guy

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Apr 24, 2014
 
Bobby wrote:
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As I said before, the last thing I want is for him to feel rejected, especially since he has had enough of that in his life.
I've explained all this clearly and in detail to him. He thinks I am just overreacting and that this is all just harmless fun. I'm more concerned about his feelings than he is, and im worried that he may eventually feel hurt in some way,
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but is it possible you are having some difficulty adjusting to the fact that this young man is a grown adult? I recall you mentioned he was 19+
As a parent, I've observed the difficulties some 'parents' have adjusting to their children no longer being 'children' and under their control. As a parent, I attempt to give my kids more autonomy and authority over time so we both have time to adjust before their magical 'adult' birth date arrives. And sometimes that means the kids make decisions I'd rather hey hadn't.
It sounds like you and the lad have some sort of father/son type bond in your mind. Perhaps even in the lad's mind.. except he wants some sexuality there too.(Not an uncommon attraction from what I see online. "father/son" "Big Brother / Little Brother")
My thoughts at this point, with the limited (and possibly incomplete) information at hand is to consider treating him as an adult, respect his decisions and take him at his word. Accept that while you may be 'older and wiser' and totally correct, he may need to make some less than optimal choices as part of living/learning.(And he IS a guy. Sex and feelings aren't necessarily connected.)
Treat him like you would any other adult.
The question then becomes, what do you want? What would you enjoy/be ok with? What are you not ok with? If the sexting bothers you, then put a stop to it. If not, then enjoy it. From the sidelines it seems harmless. Remember, sex is supposed to be fun. Can you laugh with him at the antics?
Is it time to become a peer rather than a supervisor?
What do you think? Am I anywhere near the mark?

Since: Apr 14

Broken Arrow, OK

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Apr 26, 2014
 
Only if i had some go fast get hihh i would elplore
Bobby

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May 9, 2014
 
sexntweek wrote:
Only if i had some go fast get hihh i would elplore
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Just a guy

Whitby, Canada

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#29
May 10, 2014
 
Bobby wrote:
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Lol - yup..

So how have things worked out?

It would be nice to get an update.

All the best

Since: May 14

Ashfield, UK

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#30
May 10, 2014
 
TBH I think the advice that you are almost shouting to be given is, just bum him and see if you enjoy it.

Then see how you feel. As a straight guy I find other male nudity embarrassing, and would avoid such a situation.

Since: Dec 10

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#31
May 10, 2014
 
But the bigger question is can a straight guy have a relationship with a lesbian woman? now that would be good,particularly if she never tried a man!
Tom

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#32
Thursday Jul 3
 
karloskih wrote:
TBH I think the advice that you are almost shouting to be given is, just bum him and see if you enjoy it.
Then see how you feel. As a straight guy I find other male nudity embarrassing, and would avoid such a situation.
Guess it depends on how you were brought up, and what it is that makes you feel that way.

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