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Daphne

Montréal, Canada

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Aug 11, 2009
 

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My husband likes to have his early bedtime
spanking in the privacy of our bedroom, but
occasionaly he has an appreciative audience.
Some of my women friends who've had a bad
experience with men look on with delight as
he squirms with embarrassment. At being put
over my knee and having his macho striped
pajamas unceremoniously removed!
obedienthusband

Chicago, IL

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Aug 11, 2009
 

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My wife is 47 years Chinese woman and very petite while I am 56 white man and a pretty big guy, but she spanks me very soundly when she thinks it is warranted. Before we got married I signed notarized seven written promises regarding our wife-led marriage.

One of them is that I must present myself before my wife every day (usually when I get home from work or late in the day) for a sort of review or confession. We really just discuss about that day like any other couple, but at that time I must also disclose if I disobeyed her or broken any one of her rules. And she can also make any inquiry she wants which I am required to answer truthfully. At that time I also renew my promise to accept any discipline that she decides is warranted. If my wife decides that I need a spanking, I must accept the spanking.

My wife spanks if I disobey her or break one of her rules, but it is usually relatively mild if I have given disclosure and answered truthfully at my daily presentations. She may also randomly spank on occasion without a specific violation if she decides that I have not been spanked in a while and that I could be putting more effort in my devotion to her. And of course the most severe spankings are reserved for failing to disclose any disobedience or for lying to her about something at presentation.

Even though my wife is petite she does spank very soundly, effectively, and without hesitation. But really the most effective part of all this is the fact of my daily presentation and offer to receive discipline. Even though she spanks me justa few times a month, the daily fact of presentation, review and judgment has a powerful psychological reinforcement effect on both of us, which has only increased as time goes by. It has become very natural for her to exercise her authority over me in all phases and I rarely forget who is in charge (anymore). And she has instituted a system where each of the seven days of the week is devoted for discussion about one of the seven promises in addition to the general presentation.

The end result has been a marriage where she absolutely allows me to be myself, but she is completely in charge and control over me.
Ms Des

Alameda, CA

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#205
Aug 11, 2009
 
Obedianthusband: you and your wife have something very precious and special. Congratulations!
Mirel: I agree with you on so many levels! I, too, enjoy the absolute power of taking a grown (deserving) man over my knee, the chair or the ottoman!
littlejeff

Neenah, WI

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#206
Aug 11, 2009
 
Ms Des, may I cast a vote for over your knee? I agree that Mirel has the right ideas about naughty men.
Sa ndr a Jane

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#207
Aug 12, 2009
 
Daphne wrote:
My husband likes to have his early bedtime
spanking in the privacy of our bedroom, but
occasionaly he has an appreciative audience.
Some of my women friends who've had a bad
experience with men look on with delight as
he squirms with embarrassment. At being put
over my knee and having his macho striped
pajamas unceremoniously removed!
Wow Daphne you are some woman I bet your the
envy of all your friends. I expect theres a
lot of wives who would like to spank their
husbands and perhaps a few husbands who would
like to be put across your knee!
Ms Des

Yuba City, CA

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#208
Aug 12, 2009
 
littlejeff wrote:
Ms Des, may I cast a vote for over your knee? I agree that Mirel has the right ideas about naughty men.
It would be my pleasure, I'm sure!
Are you planning a trip to N. Cali soon?
Smiles...

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#209
Aug 12, 2009
 
Daphne wrote:
My husband likes to have his early bedtime
spanking in the privacy of our bedroom, but
occasionaly he has an appreciative audience.
Some of my women friends who've had a bad
experience with men look on with delight as
he squirms with embarrassment. At being put
over my knee and having his macho striped
pajamas unceremoniously removed!
I would love the humiliation of being spanked in fron of some other women. Unfortunately, there sin't anyone that my wife would feel comfortable doing that to me in fornt of.
obedienthusband

Chicago, IL

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#210
Aug 12, 2009
 
Ms Des wrote:
Obedianthusband: you and your wife have something very precious and special. Congratulations!
Mirel: I agree with you on so many levels! I, too, enjoy the absolute power of taking a grown (deserving) man over my knee, the chair or the ottoman!
Thank you so much Ms Des. You have no idea how wonderful our marriage has become. At one time I had femdom fantasies like a lot of guys have, but that all seems so cartoonish and theatrical now, with the costumes, props and scripted scenarios, compared to living the real deal.

My wife rules over me with a very firm but also very loving feminine hand, and the depth of my submission to her has become so real and genuine that it makes femdom fantasy play seem silly and ridiculous. It works so well because it is based on the incredible natural power of woman (I know of no greater earthly power) over the profound natural weakness of man. Even our lovemaking has become a ritual celebration of the glorious victory of that power over that weakness.

Even the Devotion of the Seven Promises was entirely my wife's idea, proving that she knows my male psyche even better than I do.
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Ms Des

Yuba City, CA

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#211
Aug 12, 2009
 
Obediant: I'd love to hear more about the Seven Promises. Would you share?
obedienthusband

Chicago, IL

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Aug 12, 2009
 
Ms Des wrote:
Obediant: I'd love to hear more about the Seven Promises. Would you share?
The Seven Promises are the pillars of happiness for the married man, according to my wife. She believes that a happily married husband is solely the creation of a happily married wife. Just like the mother takes a boy child and creates a son, so does a wif etake a man and create a husband. The Seven Promises were made by me before the marriage, in writing and notarized. Not all will be enforceable by courts, but some are. My wife signed also, with the statement that agreed to marry me on the basis of my promises.

The first Pillar or Promise is that the husband accepts that the wife is the not only the highest but the only authority of the family, and that the husband has no authority of his own (tho he may act as agent of the wife as she decides).

The second Promise that the husband pledges total obedience to the wife in all matters except for things unlawful or immoral. The wife has the superior wisdom about what behavior by the husband will benefit or harm the family.

The third Promise is that the husband pledges complete devotion of his life to the wife's success in her chosen field. That means that if the wife decides that the husband's successful career produces income beneficial to the family, then he will continue to work in his career for the benefit of the family. She may decide that both will work. Or she may decide that the husband will stay at home and take care of the house while she pursues her career. In that case the husband is expected to assist in his wife's career by providing home office assistance to her, so that she will be more competitive at work than any of her male counterparts can ever hope to achieve.(This is how I serve my wife, by the way, and at her office, due to my uncredited assistance, she is seen as superhuman by her colleagues and, more importantly, by her superiors).

Other Promises later
Ms Des

Yuba City, CA

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#213
Aug 12, 2009
 
Thank you, obediant! I'm taking notes!
littlejeff

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#214
Aug 13, 2009
 
Ms Des, I'm sorry, but I will not be travelling anywhere soon. Your pleasure would be utmost on my mind. I hope that turning my bare bottom into many shades of RED would put a big smile on your face.
littlejeff

Neenah, WI

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#215
Aug 13, 2009
 
obedienthusband, I like what I've seen so far.
tonya harding

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#216
Aug 13, 2009
 
i often tell my guy that he has an appointment with my paddle during the weekend.....then when opportunity allows i really get him good.....on a few occasions he has given me appointments with his paddle......we both enjoy the results and the anticipation of knowing u r gonna get it is great..
obedienthusband

Chicago, IL

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#217
Aug 13, 2009
 
Of the Seven Promises, the Fourth is that the husband promises to surrender all financial control to the wife. That means that my wife has full signature control over all property and assets of the marriage (and I as her husband have little or none). This is really just an additional extension of Promise number One, since all property belongs to the household and my wife is the sole authority of the household.

But it means that all accounts are in her name only, with the exception of one joint checking account in both of our names, with an ATM card. All income or other transfers of money into the household goes first into her accounts only. That also included my paycheck when I was working up until a year ago. She would then decide how much to deposit from one of her accounts to the joint account for my needs, including purchases I must make on behalf of the household.

Whenever possible I pay for everything by debit or credit card, so there is a record of spending. As for ATM cash withdrawals, well, let's just say she STRONGLY discourages them, as I sometimes find out when she gets the monthly statement. All ATM cash withdrawals must be justified penny for penny by actual receipts for the purchases plus the leftover cash. Understand that at any time the I can ask for more money, but at the same time my wife has no obligation to grant it, and usually some justification is required. This prevents the wasteful spending that some husbands make on gadgets and other things.

It should also be understood both for this promise (four) as well as number One, none of this means that I have no input. I am permitted and even encouraged to give my input and opinions on all matters, even some of the accounts which she keeps in her name only. The only thing is that she, as my wife, makes every final decision and her authority within the household is absolute.

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obedienthusband

Chicago, IL

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#218
Aug 13, 2009
 
Promise No. Five I already talked about before, that is that the husband must make a daily presentation of himself to the wife (when I was working it was when I got home from work, now it's when she gets home from work). It must happen at least once a day, though my wife can postpone it until later in the day at a time of her choosing.

The presentation actually means many things at the same time. First I turn in receipts for any spending that I did during during the day, and since my last presentation. Second I report to her on any matters that she wants to know bout, including my actvities and accomplishments during the day. Third, I "confess" any matters that are or might be considered by her to be disobedience, insubordination or transgression during the day (it is much better for me for her to find out about something like that by my confessing it, rather than by her finding out on her own). She also makes any inquiry of me that she desires, and I must make satisfactory answer. She also likes to assign each of the seven days of the week for in depth discussion of one of the Peven Promises at this time. For instance, Thursdays happen to be for Promise Number Four, so we will have conversation about that tonight when she gets home for my presentation. Finally, I offer to receive and accept any discipline that she in her sole discretion decides appropriate to administer. More about that later as Promise Six. But the important thing is the psychological effect of her examining and judging me, albeit fairly, on a daily basis. Believe me it does enhance her power and authority over me in the marriage.
whoses

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#219
Aug 14, 2009
 
OMG I LOVE this Devtion of the Seven Promises. They should make this a mandatory part of sex education for all girls in the sixth grade. What about the boys? Leave that to us!!!!!
Ms Des

Yuba City, CA

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#220
Aug 14, 2009
 
Thank you so much, obedient! I'm looking forward to #6 and #7!

I am taking notes, you know. I love this concept!
Ms Des
pwrgurll

Glenview, IL

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#221
Aug 14, 2009
 
Oh I love this how many men will do this?

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Aug 14, 2009
 
pwrgurll wrote:
Oh I love this how many men will do this?
Maybe start a poll in a nearby town? Get permission from owner to stand with clipboard outside a bakery, etc. It might take more than a usual amount of courage, but online here it sound like many men would do this. But what's the percentage? I'm sorry it's not my thing personally, can't picture it in a million years.

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