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May 29, 2010
 
I just broke up with my girl friend of 1 1/2 years.
She was great.She was kind and sweet and caring.
We had some differences of opinions on various things but I never tried to hide my past or my opinions as I wanted her to know th "real" me..
But while I was opening my self to her she has been hiding stuff about her from me and sometimes gone to the extent of lieing to cover up what she says..

I agree (somewhat) that we should live in the present.But I'm also a firm believer that it is our past that defines our present and our future..

I want o know if anyone has any idea why she did this...
This by the way is not the only time I have come across girls lying..But this girl shocked me cos I was hoping that she wouldn't...

I love her v much and when I ask her why she lied (which is what bothers me to a great extent - while one of the things she's lied about is v difficult for me to accept) she doesn't have a proper answer...

I didn't want to lose her and I really wish I could have an answer to move on..

But my brains spinning this around looking for answers...

If anyone can tell me why girls feel the need to lie about themselve - to make them believe that covering up salient points about their personality or choices they would rather lie about what they think the guys want to hear rather than tell them the truth and not waste each others time or energy or effort on the arguments and fights and finally the heartbreak...

If anyone can help me pls do...
Diamond Gal

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May 29, 2010
 

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Usually girls lie to make their guys want them more..OR maybe it's so tah we don't want the guy to want us less...

I'm not sure what she lied about but maybe the past should stay in the past...

If you didn't ask she wouldn't have lied...
Diamond Gal

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May 29, 2010
 

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Anyway what did she lie so much about for you to get so upset..?
Black Anaconda

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May 29, 2010
 

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you sound like a pathetic white boy crying cos his white gf wanted some good old sturdy balck dick!!come on get it in to your stupid heads that white girls luuurrvve the black boys..
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May 29, 2010
 

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Maybe she lied cos she loved you and didn't want to hurt you.
Girls are strangelike that.They want to be the perfect woman for their man and they don't want to spoil the image they have of them.Maybe what she did went against your opinions and she just didn't want to be labelled as anything by you!!
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#7
May 29, 2010
 
What did she lie to you about?

People lie for all sorts of reason. She may have lied to protect your feelings because the truth would hurt you. I doubt she lied for any other reason then to make you feel at ease.

The past if the past,but I agree I'd also like to know who I'm getting involved with and I don't like being lied to. It sounds like she was being fake with you about herself and that you were dating someone she made up rather than the real her.
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May 29, 2010
 
I know this might sound absurd but if all the guys and all the guys will tell each other "the truth", there would be no long term hook ups.
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#9
May 29, 2010
 
Wow the poster from Milpitas,CA must have some issues huh...LOL.

A lie is a LIE,it doesn't matter what the intention of the d!mn lie was.Be glad you're rid of her.Find someone who can be trusted.Otherwise you'll always be looking over your shoulder and wondering what else she's hiding.
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May 29, 2010
 

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Did u think she was a virgin and she turned out to not be? What exactly did she hide from u? Was it bad?

It's kind of a double standard. Guys get all they can get and we have to not have a "past". If she had partners before u, so what?

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#11
May 29, 2010
 
Why would she lie to you?

Two reasons readily occur:

1-She is ashamed of something she did.

2-You have done or said something that has lead her to belive that you can't handle the truth.

There are no guarantees or warranties in human relations. Either you love her and want her in your life, or you don't. Good luck.

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Jun 4, 2010
 
ChrissieLee wrote:
Did u think she was a virgin and she turned out to not be? What exactly did she hide from u? Was it bad?
It's kind of a double standard. Guys get all they can get and we have to not have a "past". If she had partners before u, so what?
Well Missy would You care if a guy u marry tells u ,that u r his third women in his lifetime and later on down the road you found out maybe in a night?

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Jun 4, 2010
 
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Well Missy would You care if a guy u marry tells u ,that u r his third women in his lifetime and later on down the road you found out maybe in a night?
Like I said. I don't care, his past is his business.

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Jun 13, 2010
 
It was about a guy she dated..
1st she hid it..Then she lied about it..and then when i asked her she lied some more..
I don't like this guy..and she knew it..
What bothers me is the lying..That she made a conciuos effrt to concoct a story..That takes some hard cunning conniving mind play..
That's why I broke up cos it became too much - wondering what else was going on in her head!!

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Jun 13, 2010
 
truth wrote:
Wow the poster from Milpitas,CA must have some issues huh...LOL.
A lie is a LIE,it doesn't matter what the intention of the d!mn lie was.Be glad you're rid of her.Find someone who can be trusted.Otherwise you'll always be looking over your shoulder and wondering what else she's hiding.
Si should accept the fact that every woman I meet will lie to me..?
Thats a bit sad isn't it...?

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Jun 13, 2010
 
Black Anaconda wrote:
you sound like a pathetic white boy crying cos his white gf wanted some good old sturdy balck dick!!come on get it in to your stupid heads that white girls luuurrvve the black boys..
Dude you're a sad lonely man!!!
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Jun 13, 2010
 
They lie to be accepted. If they think you like sports they will tailor their resume to show interest in sports. My wife didn't show her lesbian past at first because she felt I would not accept it. But when I told her that I had several bi girl friends in my past and actually watched hem have sex with women she spilled the beans and confessed everything.
I presume it is true because she really lusts for women. We have been married only 10 months and I know she is dying to get with a woman, and may already have and is withholding that from me even though she knows I would accept it.
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Jun 13, 2010
 
ChrissieLee wrote:
Did u think she was a virgin and she turned out to not be? What exactly did she hide from u? Was it bad?
It's kind of a double standard. Guys get all they can get and we have to not have a "past". If she had partners before u, so what?
Not all guys ''get all they can get''. I certainly have no intentions of sharing myself with anyone who is unworthy or evil or some one I don't know or care about. Guys who do that are just insecure and are looking for boosts that often only last a day or two and then they need more. It is like trying to build a sturdy house without any foundations, eventually it will topple.

As for the ''if she had partners before you'', regardless of whether she did or didn't, it is more about honesty.

Honesty is the foundations of a close and trusting relationship. If you can't be honest with the person you are with, then why bother. When you lie, you are also lieing to yourself.
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Jun 13, 2010
 
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Like I said. I don't care, his past is his business.
You are missing the point. Yes the past is his business but it does not mean that he should lie about it. They could just chose not to discuss it but if you think it is acceptable for some one you are with to lie to you then why bother.
EthnicCleansingI sGood

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Oct 23, 2010
 
Black Anaconda wrote:
you sound like a pathetic white boy crying cos his white gf wanted some good old sturdy balck dick!!come on get it in to your stupid heads that white girls luuurrvve the black boys..
Dear BlackAnaconda,
Damn, you are the epitome of an ignorant and illiterate black fool.
You are what makes your race so fragile, you are the crutch to the progress and empowerment of your own people. I may be wrong but I believe you may fall into (1) or more of the following categories: non-productive, un-employed or low wage earning, un-educated, driving your g/f's car or one that has been financed through the respectable business of drug distribution, or one that is soon to be repossessed, receiving government assistance, incapable of complex or logical thought, consumed by the glorification of a lifestyle of money, ho's, and cars, taking your lead from some hip/hop or r&b artist that might also have an issue with their chromosomes, blaming of everyone but their self for their shortcomings i.e.(the white man, the system)...i could go on my friend..believe me. I could. But, I would rather not give you anymore of my time. So I will leave you with this.
You are the reason that the famous word that begins with "N" is still alive.
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Oct 23, 2011
 
Hey i just went through my gf's mind and found out that she was lying to me all the time so that she will stay for a long time with me. I know she was lying to me all the time but everything she was telling went out of mind and one day i just got pissed off and asked to say truth thinking me as a alien who don't know the human relationship and then she exploded. what i feel now is i know abt her and i know the way to get adjust to give her a happy life; 'coz in the end it is the only thing matters and bothers too if u continue to be a lair

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