tips for first time anal?

[bigggcock]

lol jeff----
you just have to get her on her knees...line up your pecker and grab her hair real hard.
just donkey punch her a few times and your in......like flint.
it really scares me how the dude and other men know how to take it so well?

[Girl]

brooke wrote:

my boyfriend really wants to try anal. i want to for him, but i'm nervous about it.
i've tried small things like fingers, and the handle of an old toothbrush. i used vaseline for lube, and i used a lot of it, but it didn't feel good. it was uncomfortable. i do my best to relax and take my time, but it still doesn't feel good.
and obviously my boyfriend is a lot bigger than my fingers, so i'm afraid anal sex is going to hurt.
any tips?

Smear loads of lube all over the boy's dick and on your butthole! And make sure he doesn't ram it in too hard or fast.

[bigggcock]

that works too girl

[Shurtugal]

lilbaby wrote:

is it bad for you? my bf and i tried it the other night, lucky for me he isnt that big. i just layed on the bed and tried to relax, i put my face into the pillow so incase i get loud no one heard me. it felt good but weird at the same time. i want to try it again but if its bad for i dont want to. and will shi* come out on his dic* if i do this??

My guess, is no. Try going to the bathroom before you do anal ~_^

[Anna]

If you haven't don't try anal ever. It is adictive. I let my husband do it the day before he was deployed and I had been craving for it ever since.

[Dude]

Anna wrote:

If you haven't don't try anal ever. It is adictive. I let my husband do it the day before he was deployed and I had been craving for it ever since.

Hey Anna, I'm sure you can find another guy to slide it in when hubby is away!:)

[gerda]

you have to be realistic and expect pain when you are penetrated for the first time,you are obviously going to be nervous and a little tense,dont expect too much pleasure the first time but think about how you are pleasing your man!after the first time,you can control the rate of his penetration coupled with your arousal and im please to say it is pleasurable,youll know its right when you instigate it for the first time and you orgasm.enjoy!

[sunmoonstar9]

There is also a product out there called "anal eeze" that can be used to kinda help lessen the pain. Make sure you use a condom though if you use it!

I've found the best position for anal with the least amount of pain is spooning. And like everyone else has said....never can have to much lube!

[bigggcock]

analyse me
by pjur is best for the broads pooper.
not the spray...the lube.

[RealityDealer]

sunmoonstar9 wrote:

There is also a product out there called "anal eeze" that can be used to kinda help lessen the pain. Make sure you use a condom though if you use it!
I've found the best position for anal with the least amount of pain is spooning. And like everyone else has said....never can have to much lube!

Actually this wrong.

Some women actually prefer not to use any lube for anal sex. So women can naturally relax their muscles better.

The "secret" is the male going really slow and allowing her anal muscles to adjust.

Condoms are not necessary either, they are just a preference, which will depend on the person. Also condoms make anal sex more difficult, because condoms dry the area out faster, the condom is coated with an irritating substance called nonoxynol-9, or she may be allergic to latex.

[sunmoonstar9]

My comment was condoms need to be used if you use anal eeze. It numbs the area...not such a good idea on the penis.....

I've tried it both ways, I prefer it with lube. yes to each their own but that doesn't make my comment wrong.

[girl]

I've had anal sex a couple times with a guy I was seeing about 2 years ago and he didn't use a condom and he wasn't the most gentle either. But after a couple times its just uncomfortable. It may be good during but after words not so much. the guy I'm seeing now wants to try it and the other night I agreed to, but this time he was using a condom and was really gentle, but honestly it hurt more when he was gentle just because you feel every second of it. When they're rougher it just hurts like hell for a second.

[brooke]

Thank you for your help everyone!

I noticed no one mentioned enemas though... I always assumed they were a good idea.

[patricialynn]

brooke wrote:

Thank you for your help everyone!
I noticed no one mentioned enemas though... I always assumed they were a good idea.

For us, anal is always spontaneous, so no time for enemas. He bought a few for that purpose two months ago, and they are still sitting in the original wrapping under the bathroom sink.

[brooke]

patricialynn wrote:

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For us, anal is always spontaneous, so no time for enemas. He bought a few for that purpose two months ago, and they are still sitting in the original wrapping under the bathroom sink.

Aren't you worried about... problems?

[patricialynn]

brooke wrote:

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Aren't you worried about... problems?

What kind of problems, you mean like poo coming out?

Hasn't happened yet! Fortunately for me, if there is a smell, my boyfriend can't smell it - he was born without a sense of smell. And since he is a paramedic, he does not flip out over body functions like most people would.

[brooke]

patricialynn wrote:

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What kind of problems, you mean like poo coming out?
Hasn't happened yet! Fortunately for me, if there is a smell, my boyfriend can't smell it - he was born without a sense of smell. And since he is a paramedic, he does not flip out over body functions like most people would.

You're lucky then I suppose.:]

[patricialynn]

brooke wrote:

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You're lucky then I suppose.:]

Yeah, I am. Sometimes I allow the pressures of everyday life to overcome me, and I forget how lucky I am.

Then my boyfriend comes home, ties me up, and reminds me!

[brooke]

patricialynn wrote:

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Yeah, I am. Sometimes I allow the pressures of everyday life to overcome me, and I forget how lucky I am.
Then my boyfriend comes home, ties me up, and reminds me!

Yep, you're definitely lucky.

[jeff]

patricialynn wrote:

Just had my boyfriend read these posts - he actually suggests silicone-based lube if you are not using toys - a thicker lube will last longer, and is usually considered best for anal.
He also suggests starting with a small butt plug to get used to having your anus filled...gradually work your way to a larger size. Also remember, although many women enjoy the sensation of weight there, not all women enjoy the actual thrusting - so you may want to keep the butt plug in during vaginal sex?
Also, he says that when something is being inserted, push against it with your muscles (almost like a bowel movement)- it will help to open you up and make insertion easier. He learned that both from sex websites and from his training as a paramedic.
He also says, "You can never use too much lube". It may look like too much, but trust me, it isn't
He also recommends the following podcast for more info on sex-positive relations - the podcast is called "Sex is Fun":
http://www.greatsexgames.com/podcast/

can i borrow your bf for a couple hours :)