Girls - Have you ever had a one night stand?

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Melissa

Seattle, WA

#1 Dec 21, 2009
I recently had my first one night stand and I'm feeling uneasy about it. Here's the thing. Before it happened I thought having sex with a complete stranger would be really exciting. A few of my friends had them and they raved about how excitng it was. A newer friend told me she learned how to flirt with and hook up with older guys when she was just 14. If felt so sexually stunted because I had didn't even start having sex until I was 16 1/2. I have been with 8 guys in the year and a half since then but they were either guys I had dated\least 3 or 4 times or they were friends I had known for a while. So this happened a week ago when I went on an overnight ski trip with my school's ski club. I met a cute guy on the slopes and told him he could text me if he liked. That night I got a text and sneaked out to meet him. We went straight to his room and I was really excited. But once we got started I found I wasn't enjoying it at all. I started out being scared because his penis was a lot bigger than any of the guys I had been with before. It was at least 8 inches and I don't think any of the other guys were even 7 inches. Luckily it didn't hurt but it wasn't fun either. I just wanted him to finish so I could leave. The other thing is I let him go bareback. It was stupid and reckless I know. But I wanted to see what it would feel like to have a guy spurt that deep in me. I do like it when I feel hot jizz filling me and I thought having a guy do it that deep would be thrilling. I'm not worried about pregnancy because I'm on the pill but I'm not sure how safe he was. I'm going to the clinic to get tested and I hope everything is fine. Of course I won't have unprotected sex until I find out. But I also wonder why I couldn't get any pleasure from it at all. Girls, any thoughts?
Chloe

UK

#2 Dec 21, 2009
Melissa wrote:
I recently had my first one night stand and I'm feeling uneasy about it. Here's the thing. Before it happened I thought having sex with a complete stranger would be really exciting. A few of my friends had them and they raved about how excitng it was. A newer friend told me she learned how to flirt with and hook up with older guys when she was just 14. If felt so sexually stunted because I had didn't even start having sex until I was 16 1/2. I have been with 8 guys in the year and a half since then but they were either guys I had dated\least 3 or 4 times or they were friends I had known for a while. So this happened a week ago when I went on an overnight ski trip with my school's ski club. I met a cute guy on the slopes and told him he could text me if he liked. That night I got a text and sneaked out to meet him. We went straight to his room and I was really excited. But once we got started I found I wasn't enjoying it at all. I started out being scared because his penis was a lot bigger than any of the guys I had been with before. It was at least 8 inches and I don't think any of the other guys were even 7 inches. Luckily it didn't hurt but it wasn't fun either. I just wanted him to finish so I could leave. The other thing is I let him go bareback. It was stupid and reckless I know. But I wanted to see what it would feel like to have a guy spurt that deep in me. I do like it when I feel hot jizz filling me and I thought having a guy do it that deep would be thrilling. I'm not worried about pregnancy because I'm on the pill but I'm not sure how safe he was. I'm going to the clinic to get tested and I hope everything is fine. Of course I won't have unprotected sex until I find out. But I also wonder why I couldn't get any pleasure from it at all. Girls, any thoughts?
I agree with you theres nothing like a guy jizzing deep inside you :)

Since: Jan 07

Northeast, Ohio

#3 Dec 21, 2009
Chloe wrote:
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I agree with you theres nothing like a guy jizzing deep inside you :)
While I appreciate the idea, I can't help but think you may have missed the larger point of the post.

“Walking Attitude”

Since: Aug 07

The Q continuum

#4 Dec 21, 2009
Girls don't have "one-night-stands", only women do. Not many of them in the US anyway..........
Zel

Bakersfield, CA

#5 Dec 21, 2009
sorry to hear it went like that Mel, but if you think about it, only sex addicts can have sex with a complete stranger and enjoy it, you feeling uneasy or not enjoying it while it happened was just your morals coming into place, just my thoughts but then again i'm a guy so.

Since: May 09

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#6 Dec 21, 2009
Melissa wrote:
I recently had my first one night stand and I'm feeling uneasy about it. Here's the thing. Before it happened I thought having sex with a complete stranger would be really exciting. A few of my friends had them and they raved about how excitng it was. A newer friend told me she learned how to flirt with and hook up with older guys when she was just 14. If felt so sexually stunted because I had didn't even start having sex until I was 16 1/2. I have been with 8 guys in the year and a half since then but they were either guys I had dated\least 3 or 4 times or they were friends I had known for a while. So this happened a week ago when I went on an overnight ski trip with my school's ski club. I met a cute guy on the slopes and told him he could text me if he liked. That night I got a text and sneaked out to meet him. We went straight to his room and I was really excited. But once we got started I found I wasn't enjoying it at all. I started out being scared because his penis was a lot bigger than any of the guys I had been with before. It was at least 8 inches and I don't think any of the other guys were even 7 inches. Luckily it didn't hurt but it wasn't fun either. I just wanted him to finish so I could leave. The other thing is I let him go bareback. It was stupid and reckless I know. But I wanted to see what it would feel like to have a guy spurt that deep in me. I do like it when I feel hot jizz filling me and I thought having a guy do it that deep would be thrilling. I'm not worried about pregnancy because I'm on the pill but I'm not sure how safe he was. I'm going to the clinic to get tested and I hope everything is fine. Of course I won't have unprotected sex until I find out. But I also wonder why I couldn't get any pleasure from it at all. Girls, any thoughts?
You should feel uneasy. You had unprotected sex with a stranger. That one night could kill you.
wolfafterurazz

Naperville, IL

#7 Dec 21, 2009
It's guilt from doing something wrong. You must have been raised right. Chalk it up as experience and I'll tell you the sex gets better the longer you stay with one person.
sarah

Perth, UK

#8 Dec 22, 2009
I've had a one night stand after a weeding, feel a bit guilty after the person leaves but was satisfying during the sex and excitment of it all
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Melissa

Seattle, WA

#9 Dec 22, 2009
Thanks for the feedback. I went to the clinic to get tested and will hear back in a couple of days.
I confided in my aunt who is really cool meaning she listens to me without judging. She grew up in the 70s. According to her she is or was probably a sex addict. She loved the thrill of casual sex. She lost her virginity in 1978 when she was just 14 to her first boyfriend. But soon after she was having sex with other guys. At 15 she was hooking up with older guys some of them being in their 20s. She even had sex with a 35 year old. At 16 she had a threesome with two guys and a few weeks later the same two guys brought a friend with them. She said she had been with over 50 guys by the time she turned 18. Does she regret it. Well yes, she does. HIV wasn't an issue back then and she never caught it but she did contract herpes. Luckily she didn't contract HPV either. Her advice to me was some of the stuff written above. She said I'm not wired for casual sex and shouldn't try to force myself to learn to like it.
YUMYUM

United States

#10 Dec 23, 2009
i only have 1 night stands. i cant deal with relationships. i dont feel guilty cuz i dont think sex is immoral. i think killing is immoral or doing things that hurt other people's feelings. but why is sex immoral? there are societies where sex is a just pleasant pass-time. like the lepchas or some ethnic groups in china. they dont have marriage or monogamy. i wish i was them. i think they are more sensible. sex is just a natural hunger.
Been Around The Block

Hazel Green, AL

#11 Dec 23, 2009
I've had a couple. One with condoms, one without.
The sex was good both times, no promises were made and I'd have to say I have only fond memories.
Allie

Seattle, WA

#12 Dec 23, 2009
Yes for me and yes, the first few times I felt really slutty afterwards. But that feeling would always go away and I would start to think about doing it again. I like it when guys tell me I'm hot and I like guys telling me how good I am in bed. A couple of guys have told me I have the nicest, most sensous p*#@!y they have ever had. So maybe I'm a sex addict or at least an attention whore because I like having guys treat me like I'm the hottest thing alive. My sister says I should get counseling or I'll never have a real relationship. Maybe she's right. I'm 20 now and I realize the risks of casual sex. I haven't let a guy do me without a condom in two years. From 15 to 18 I used condoms about 75% of the time. Luckily I never caught anything except chlamydia which is treatable. For perspective, I lost my virginity when I was 13 but I only had sex 4 times the entire year that followed. I didn't start having a lot of sex until I was 15.
Rick

AOL

#13 Dec 23, 2009
I had a one night stand with one of the secretaries in the office. She was not my secretary so it was not sexual harasment. Anyway, she just got a divorce and had a son just a few years younger than me. I just graduated college and was my first job, I think I was like 23 and she was 38, 5' 4" slim very attractive, about a 34 B, 24, 34.Beautiful face. Anyhow it was an office christmas party and she was in no position to drive even if she looked OK. So I drove her to her home. On the way she scoot over, and lean toward my side and her dress ran up her thighs. It was short to begin with and so it shows all the way to her sexy thong panties. She then gave me a kiss on my cheek and said Merry Christmas handsome. Then proceeded to put her hand on my crotch and copped a feel for several seconds. Then she said, if you like that we can do more of that in her apt. Well she let me into her apartment and she started undoing my tie and clothes as soon as she closed the front door. We moved directly to her sofa and she undressed in a flashed, laid down on the sofa with nothing left except her panties whih was by now wet and jammed in her seam down below. She hardly had any labia, so she looks like a young girl and then said, OK big boy eat me now! and dont stop untill I tell you. So being the nice gentleman that I am and was, I did. We moved to her bed after the came and where she had me do some loving to her pussey, butt and breasts. I stayed with her until the next day in the afernoon. Believe it or not we didnt repeat it after that, she said she felt guilty and it she didnt want her son think she was a slut.
SaraLeigh

United States

#14 Dec 23, 2009
I've had one, it was the same for me, I felt ugh afterwards. I agree that the longer your with someone & the more your in love with that person, the better the sex is, because not only are u atrracted/tied to the person physically but also emotionally/mentally which makes it better.
Tawny

Seattle, WA

#15 Dec 23, 2009
I experimented like so many girls I know. My first dozen or so experiences were all really casual hook ups with older guys. The seniors and juniors in my school had a game going to see who could score sex with the most girls. There were extra points for getting a freshman. I was a freshman and I was considered to be pretty hot. I really liked getting attention from all the popular jocks and cool guys so I put out. I was only 15 and I was already getting a pretty bad reputation. Luckily for me my dad got tranfered and I got to start over at another school. I met a sweet guy my first day and we wound up dating. We went out a dozen times before we had sex and that's when I learned how much better it is when you have an emotional bond. It was a hard lesson to learn and I hope other girls think about it before they let guys just use them.
Ryan_

United States

#16 Dec 23, 2009
Not trying to hijack this thread cause i know the original ? was intended for chicks and im not tryin' to judge anyone per se,but taking these stories at face value- Geez...where the heck are some of you from "planet stupid" ? Might as well just play frickin russian roulette....sad.
Tawny

Seattle, WA

#17 Dec 23, 2009
Ryan_ wrote:
Not trying to hijack this thread cause i know the original ? was intended for chicks and im not tryin' to judge anyone per se,but taking these stories at face value- Geez...where the heck are some of you from "planet stupid" ? Might as well just play frickin russian roulette....sad.
You're right of course. Unprotected sex is a risk. I'm in my mid 20s now and I have been in a monogamous relationship for 5 years. But the scary statistics show that a lot of sexually active teens don't use condoms every time. I think at that age...early and mid teens...kids tend to live in the present. They get caught up in the moment and have sex and think about the consquences later. They do the same with drinking, drugs, driving too fast, or any number of things we look back on when we're older and wonder how we could have been that stupid. What I can't fathom is people in college or older who still take reckless chances with sex or anything else.
secretsara

Ft Mitchell, KY

#18 Dec 31, 2009
I've had several, probably 7 or 8. I don't feel bad about them at all, and nobody has any reason to do so long as it happened for the right reasons.

My reason? I was horny and wanted to get laid. Not covering for any emotional reasons, not getting revenge on anyone. Nobody was in a relationship, and protection was used.
Melissa

Seattle, WA

#19 Jan 7, 2010
Hi everyone. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I left off by saying I was worried about diseases and lucky me, my tests came back negative. I'm not sure that I'll never have another one night stand but I will make condoms a requirement if I do. I don't have a boyfriend but I have two of really close guy friends who would like to be my ongoing sex partners. We've talked about it. They will not have unprotected sex with anybody but me and vice versa. That way I get to enjoy having guys ejaculate in me at least some of the time when I have sex. They are just friends so they won't get jealous of me doing it with another guy. Maybe they would even do a threesome with me. I think it would be really erotic and fun to do that.
Tell The Truth

Japan

#20 Jan 7, 2010
Melissa wrote:
I met a cute guy on the slopes and told him he could text me if he liked. That night I got a text and sneaked out to meet him. We went straight to his room and I was really excited. But once we got started I found I wasn't enjoying it at all. I started out being scared because his penis was a lot bigger than any of the guys I had been with before. It was at least 8 inches and I don't think any of the other guys were even 7 inches. Luckily it didn't hurt but it wasn't fun either. I just wanted him to finish so I could leave. The other thing is I let him go bareback. It was stupid and reckless I know. But I wanted to see what it would feel like to have a guy spurt that deep in me. I do like it when I feel hot jizz filling me and I thought having a guy do it that deep would be thrilling. I'm not worried about pregnancy because I'm on the pill but I'm not sure how safe he was. I'm going to the clinic to get tested and I hope everything is fine. Of course I won't have unprotected sex until I find out. But I also wonder why I couldn't get any pleasure from it at all. Girls, any thoughts?
It sounds like you are inexperienced with sex and were very nervous.

It also seems that you went straight at having sex, versus you both or he doing anything to relax you and get you into the mood.

Sex can often go bad if a woman is nervous, tense, uptight, or not in the mood.

It should be obvious for you not to have sex with STRANGERS without using a condom.

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