“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#64 Dec 12, 2008
Pamela in red wrote:
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Thank you. I diet and exercise.
Definitely no oxen. lol
Oral is good. No particular style. Hard to describe really.
WEll, quite a lot of women find oral is ther favorite thing to receive ... does your hubby still do that for you once in a while?

Since: Dec 08

New York

#65 Dec 12, 2008
free bird wrote:
It is normal for soem of us to share our past with husband/wife. me and hubby open about it and we enjoy sharing our past. It is a turn on talking about pas experiences. Ofcourse he get bit jealous when i say i had bigger guys, but same time he enjoy hearing them too.
Yeah, my thoughts exactly....this is what happened to me....while I'm a bit jealous and feel a little outdone as she's had bigger guys, but at the same time, I'm happy she's had the experience of a big one

Since: Jul 08

New York, NY

#66 Dec 12, 2008
i never had this discussion with my wife; not after a somewhat unpleasant (though amusing) conversation on the topic with a gf years earlier.
RiderBuck

Japan

#67 Dec 13, 2008
Guy wrote:
I've been with my current girlfriend for about a year. She's lousy when she is drunk and early on in our relationship she got drunk one night and said things like "Bring on the big dick!" and "Once you go black you never go back!". We were at one of my friends house and it was really embarrasing. So I asked her about it. If that's what she likes (big guys). Me being a tad above average (6" in length and 5" in girth), I started to feel a little bit insecure. She wasn't really all that tight to begin with and she wasn't really getting off when we had sex. She got wet, yes. Really wet, and she said it felt good. She said she's only had an orgasm once with one guy, which is kind of hard to believe. She dated this guy for 6 years and has admitted to me that he was large in size. She has also admitted to sleeping with a black guy whos nickname is "Black Mamba". Obviously another biggin'. I know of 2 other guys on top of that she has slept with that had large penises as well. So like half of the 10 guys she has slept with have been either above average or huge. She says "big dicks aren't where it's at" but I wonder why she has gravitated towards that so often. And why the only guy to get her off (via a vaginal orgasm, not clitoral) was a large guy. I don't think she would tell me if she did prefer that, I mean what chick would when they are trying to be in a serious relationship.
Thoughts???
Seems you say that your gf has ever had only one orgasm with a guy. Either she physically is a hard nut to crack, or her bfs have all ignored her needs.

Have you asked her about her masturbation? Can she orgasm alone? What does she like doing? How sensitive is her clitoris? How much does she enjoy touching there? How far apart is her clit from her vagina? If you go through these questions, I believe you will get your answer.
mark

Carlisle, PA

#68 Dec 13, 2008
this issue has never plaugued me before. one girlfriend told me her ex was a little biggerthan me but that it was bigger than she prefered (yeah right). that didn't bother me because I didn't love her. the girl I have now I am way in love with and I know without a doubt that her ex had a bigger one because he's black. i didn't ask. she didn't tell. the suspicion is bad enough.

Since: Dec 08

New York

#69 Dec 13, 2008
mark wrote:
this issue has never plaugued me before. one girlfriend told me her ex was a little biggerthan me but that it was bigger than she prefered (yeah right). that didn't bother me because I didn't love her. the girl I have now I am way in love with and I know without a doubt that her ex had a bigger one because he's black. i didn't ask. she didn't tell. the suspicion is bad enough.
So do you feel any envy, or a bit of inadequacy?
RiderBuck

Japan

#70 Dec 13, 2008
Manipulation of her lover has to be considered in this. What good does it really do for a woman to tell her partner that her man doesn't measure up? My friend told me he had a problem with his wife because she told him her previous lover was huge. They already had several kids. I assumed this revelation came out because she was dissatisfied sexually. It could be approached in a better way than that by her.
mark

Carlisle, PA

#71 Dec 13, 2008
Michael Christensen wrote:
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So do you feel any envy, or a bit of inadequacy?
yes and no. i have never had a problem with mine. i'm 6.5". i know how to use it and what seems to work for me is A) my oral skills and B) that after I come, I can keep going until the women do. overall, it's not a problem. it certainly is there in the back of my mind.
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“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#72 Dec 13, 2008
mark wrote:
this issue has never plaugued me before. one girlfriend told me her ex was a little biggerthan me but that it was bigger than she prefered (yeah right). that didn't bother me because I didn't love her. the girl I have now I am way in love with and I know without a doubt that her ex had a bigger one because he's black. i didn't ask. she didn't tell. the suspicion is bad enough.
don't assume because he was black he was bigger .. the size difference is a myth ... most studies show an average difference of 1/2 inch from white men ...

However, what I gather is the balck guys who often go with white women are the ones who can live up to the myth, becasue the white women going after the blacks are often looking for a sizeable guy. The average sized ones are thus embarrassed to reveal to a white woman they are only averege, so this creates an illusion.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#73 Dec 13, 2008
PS. I spent some time in the African American forum ... from what I gathered there realy is pressure amongst the balck people ... enforced by both the men and the women, to sustain the myth ... I suspect an average sized black guy would be totally embarrassed to reveal this and will feel compelled to exagerate by at least an inch ...
panTsniffr

United States

#75 Dec 16, 2008
its crazy but i get soo turned on when my gf tells me about her sexual experiences with other guys who were bigger than me! one night we were drunk and while she held mine and teased me with her hand she told me that one of her ex's was over twice as big as me and made her have intense orgasms from intercourse, I got off so hard just hearing about it while she gave me a hj, I think I wanna watch her with another guy!
just a normal dude

Omaha, NE

#76 Dec 16, 2008
I love talking to my wife about past lovers. Unfortunately she's only done four others. One had a penis about 1/2 to 1 inch longer. She said she can only tell by what is left when she puts it in her mouth as far as she can.

One other (a one night stand) had one that may have been longer but was definitely thicker. She said she had trouble getting it in her mouth. She said he was hot looking, but it hurt going in..... and that was it. She did not even get a chance to try and enjoy it. He came on the entry stroke. She was so embarassed that she got dressed and left.

Now... I bottom out pretty easy in her. I am about 6-6 1/2. She would be totally happy if I was about an inch less but the same thickness.

I think other than for discussion, most guys worry too much about this. No doubt some women like a big one now and then, but most women also like to be pounded now and then. That is real tough to do when it is too big.
Randy

Fresno, CA

#77 Dec 18, 2008
My wife slept with 6 others before me. I am right at 7" X 5.5" so above average I guess. She said that for sure she remembers one being much smaller, and one being much bigger. The others were somewhere in the middle. None were in a real relationship and she new she was being used. She had low self esteem and family issues so sex was a way for her to get attention and feel loved. Anyway the guy that was longer was an ass. She said he got off on making it hurt so if she was not acting like it hurt, he would go harder. He also held her down and made her talk dirty like in a porn movie.

Sounds like most are married here. Also remember what age your wife was back then as well as her lovers. My wife was 19 when we met and lost her V card at 15. All of her 5 lovers were 15-20 yo. Most were wham bam thank you mam she said. God all men equal...with this an average penis size is all you need to satisfy a woman, that along with effort, knowledge, stamina, and staying power. The girls that say it is important are the sluts that think they are cool because they like large penises. LOL
Koy

Langhorne, PA

#78 Dec 20, 2008
Reading some of these post is somewhat of a bummer. I was starting to buy into the "size doesn't matter" thing, but that is obviously not true. And for what it is worth. I am married and african american male with "average" lencth...I think. Not to get into too much detail, but the size of the head makes up somewhat for the lack of girth. I can only get my wife to the big O (not Oprah)by oral. She has gotten there in the past only twice....according to her with 2 different guys (they were blessed in the size department). I always thought I was doing it right in the past with previous women, but with her something is amiss. I can get to a point with her, but then something happens with her where she just never gets there. Now, I really don't even care to entertain sex with her. It's like Charlie Brown trying to kick the football and Lucy is pulling it away. I love pleasing her orally and make excuses to end it there after she reaches her climax. Anyone know if that product Extenze works ?
RiderBuck

Japan

#79 Dec 20, 2008
Couldn't she be contributing to the matter, not just you? Does she have a "working" clitoris? Some women are not so sensitive there, which would be an important factor. You say she only orgasmed twice in her life. Does that also include masturbation? Any changes at her workplace or at home that would distract her from enjoying your lovemaking? How was your sexual relationship before marriage with her? Remember also only about 30% of women orgasm by sexual penetration. So most men need to be a "digital man", "tongue man," or both. I am not sure that the situation is entirely yours or even partially of your own making. I really hope that you can avoid fatalistic thinking and can find a solution.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#80 Dec 20, 2008
Koy wrote:
Reading some of these post is somewhat of a bummer. I was starting to buy into the "size doesn't matter" thing, but that is obviously not true. And for what it is worth. I am married and african american male with "average" lencth...I think. Not to get into too much detail, but the size of the head makes up somewhat for the lack of girth. I can only get my wife to the big O (not Oprah)by oral. She has gotten there in the past only twice....according to her with 2 different guys (they were blessed in the size department). I always thought I was doing it right in the past with previous women, but with her something is amiss. I can get to a point with her, but then something happens with her where she just never gets there. Now, I really don't even care to entertain sex with her. It's like Charlie Brown trying to kick the football and Lucy is pulling it away. I love pleasing her orally and make excuses to end it there after she reaches her climax. Anyone know if that product Extenze works ?
HOw long have you been marreid? Are there other issues? DO you have kids???

WIth women a lot of things affect how they feel about and during sex.

THe most important thing to consider ... if she arried youknowing what you got, then she mareid for othe reasons that she considered more imortant. What other women think about size is irrelevant ...

I suggest if the sex life is started to sputter a little, try to find out what it is and work on that .. it may be something that you do that pisses her off ... that means it is something you can solve by yourself.

BTW ... not that many black guys will admit they are only avereage ... there is a lot of pressure amongst blacks because of the myth that all black guys are big.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#81 Dec 20, 2008
Koy wrote:
Reading some of these post is somewhat of a bummer. I was starting to buy into the "size doesn't matter" thing, but that is obviously not true. And for what it is worth. I am married and african american male with "average" lencth...I think. Not to get into too much detail, but the size of the head makes up somewhat for the lack of girth. I can only get my wife to the big O (not Oprah)by oral. She has gotten there in the past only twice....according to her with 2 different guys (they were blessed in the size department). I always thought I was doing it right in the past with previous women, but with her something is amiss. I can get to a point with her, but then something happens with her where she just never gets there. Now, I really don't even care to entertain sex with her. It's like Charlie Brown trying to kick the football and Lucy is pulling it away. I love pleasing her orally and make excuses to end it there after she reaches her climax. Anyone know if that product Extenze works ?
BTW .. have you tried masturbating her clilt while you are inside her??? THat can bring some women to orgasm during intercourse ... also loook into positions and angles that will allow you to stimulate her G-spot during intercourse.

Since: Dec 07

Valley Springs, CA

#82 Dec 20, 2008
franko wrote:
<quoted text>don't assume because he was black he was bigger .. the size difference is a myth ... most studies show an average difference of 1/2 inch from white men ...
However, what I gather is the balck guys who often go with white women are the ones who can live up to the myth, becasue the white women going after the blacks are often looking for a sizeable guy. The average sized ones are thus embarrassed to reveal to a white woman they are only averege, so this creates an illusion.
Interesting... so white women who go after black men are looking for big penises. lol

So if black men didn't have the size myth then white women probably would be like likely to desire to date black men.

Since: Dec 07

Valley Springs, CA

#83 Dec 20, 2008
Koy wrote:
Reading some of these post is somewhat of a bummer. I was starting to buy into the "size doesn't matter" thing, but that is obviously not true. And for what it is worth. I am married and african american male with "average" lencth...I think. Not to get into too much detail, but the size of the head makes up somewhat for the lack of girth. I can only get my wife to the big O (not Oprah)by oral. She has gotten there in the past only twice....according to her with 2 different guys (they were blessed in the size department). I always thought I was doing it right in the past with previous women, but with her something is amiss. I can get to a point with her, but then something happens with her where she just never gets there. Now, I really don't even care to entertain sex with her. It's like Charlie Brown trying to kick the football and Lucy is pulling it away. I love pleasing her orally and make excuses to end it there after she reaches her climax. Anyone know if that product Extenze works ?
Are you speaking in thrid person? Kinda confused here because you said your are married to a bm then you talk about only being able to get your wife off through oral.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#84 Dec 20, 2008
Alpha Omega Game wrote:
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Interesting... so white women who go after black men are looking for big penises. lol
So if black men didn't have the size myth then white women probably would be like likely to desire to date black men.
I think you mixed up the wording on the last sentence in your comment.

I think the women who are "size queens" do find ways to get what they want .... in fact I am sure they would seek it out from either black or white guys ...

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