Question on oral

[Peacenlove]

Alright, so let me just say that I LOVE giving my boyfriend head. I've only been doing it for a few months, but it's one of my favorite things ever.

Here comes my question. I love giving head and actually initiate oral most of the time...meaning he gets head pretty much almost everyday. The thing is I'm the first to give him head because in his past relationships his girlfriends never wanted to GIVE or RECEIVE oral. So, my boyfriend has never given me oral. He says he is so hesitant because he doesn't want to do it wrong and mess up. I've talked to him several times and have tried to reassure him that I wasn't perfect when I first started and that practice makes perfect. I'm just not sure what else I can do.

Foreplay is really important to me and I want to enjoy all aspects of sex. What can I do?

[jprob50]

Just keep giving him positive feedback. You could put a little pressure on him by telling him that, since you do it for him, it is only fair for him to do it as well. He is very lucky to have a girl like you.

[Ben]

Peacenlove wrote:

Alright, so let me just say that I LOVE giving my boyfriend head. I've only been doing it for a few months, but it's one of my favorite things ever.
Here comes my question. I love giving head and actually initiate oral most of the time...meaning he gets head pretty much almost everyday. The thing is I'm the first to give him head because in his past relationships his girlfriends never wanted to GIVE or RECEIVE oral. So, my boyfriend has never given me oral. He says he is so hesitant because he doesn't want to do it wrong and mess up. I've talked to him several times and have tried to reassure him that I wasn't perfect when I first started and that practice makes perfect. I'm just not sure what else I can do.
Foreplay is really important to me and I want to enjoy all aspects of sex. What can I do?

Make sure you're super clean and he knows it, like right after a shower. In fact if you two shower together he could see you washing there and you could really turn him on by stroking him with soap. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. It may never be really fun for him but it's simply the thing to do because you like it.

[h-man]

This should be an easy one to solve. While you're giving him head stop before he's sated. Jump up and sit on his chest. Tell him it's your turn, you want his tongue, you want him to lick you, and whatever else you realy want. Always in a fun, sex-crazed tone. If he hesitates, grab his hair to hold him in place and ride his face. Keep telling him what you want. If he really cares about you at all, seeing how you're turned on and get off will encourage him and he'll love it. After you've had your pleasure reward him with the best head you've ever given him.

[Louisa DaG]

Peacenlove wrote:

Alright, so let me just say that I LOVE giving my boyfriend head. I've only been doing it for a few months, but it's one of my favorite things ever.
Here comes my question. I love giving head and actually initiate oral most of the time...meaning he gets head pretty much almost everyday. The thing is I'm the first to give him head because in his past relationships his girlfriends never wanted to GIVE or RECEIVE oral. So, my boyfriend has never given me oral. He says he is so hesitant because he doesn't want to do it wrong and mess up. I've talked to him several times and have tried to reassure him that I wasn't perfect when I first started and that practice makes perfect. I'm just not sure what else I can do.
Foreplay is really important to me and I want to enjoy all aspects of sex. What can I do?

It could be he isnt sure if he will like it. It seems like some guys have a hangup. Others like my husband went rught for it. He says just looking at it he couldnt resist it. Of course I give him a lot of "eye candy" to get him hot which is number 1. I am so glad he is that way, but he was not that good at it really.(A-for effort lol.)
I finally let him know how he could please me "even more" with suggestions (you know what I mean) and he took it ok and now hes doing it great. So If hes unsure dont be afraid to let him know whats pleasing you. AND very important- be sure to be fresh and clean. one other suggestion I do is I put on baby powder lightly all over me and even behind my ears. I know it sounds strange but it works for me. He mentions how I always smell so sexy. I think there is somthing about that smell that turns him on. You may have other sents that work but no harm in trying it. I might be onto a good thing.

[Jja]

Really? I'd bury my face in yur lil teat and eat u forever if I could. If he won't do it I will!!! Lol. [e-mail]

[seymour]

Ben wrote:

<quoted text>Make sure you're super clean and he knows it, like right after a shower. In fact if you two shower together he could see you washing there and you could really turn him on by stroking him with soap.

The preceding is superb advice. Let me now say that his doing foreplay on you is more important than what you do to him. I also say that every freshly washed woman in the world deserves to receive oral if she desires it. Oral puts another human's face as close as possible to the seat of your woman power. It is the ultimate test of the extent to which you embrace your femininity and sexual power. And his face being there is, I think, the best way a man can admire your power.

Sex should take place with a bath close at hand. Gently wash his tackle, especially the groove behind the head. Explain to him how you keep your girl bits clean. When the two of you have dried off, return to the bedroom, leave the light on. Better yet, position yourself so that sunlight shines on your bits, spread your legs, and invite him to examine them closely with his eyes and fingers. Explain to him how you masturbate. All this requires that you be well acquainted with your bits, and not be embarrassed by them. The two of you have to work out together what turns you on. That will depend on how long and agile his tongue is.

[wanna taste-boob sucker]

Peacenlove wrote:

Alright, so let me just say that I LOVE giving my boyfriend head. I've only been doing it for a few months, but it's one of my favorite things ever.
Here comes my question. I love giving head and actually initiate oral most of the time...meaning he gets head pretty much almost everyday. The thing is I'm the first to give him head because in his past relationships his girlfriends never wanted to GIVE or RECEIVE oral. So, my boyfriend has never given me oral. He says he is so hesitant because he doesn't want to do it wrong and mess up. I've talked to him several times and have tried to reassure him that I wasn't perfect when I first started and that practice makes perfect. I'm just not sure what else I can do.
Foreplay is really important to me and I want to enjoy all aspects of sex. What can I do?

change him..he is useless...actauully its the guys resposiblity to make the girl happy in everyway and sex in whichever form is the best n cheapest way..if he cant do this he is third class person...hook on with someone who would adore ur pussy with hs lips n tongue..n mouth..n slivaa.....mmmmmmmm....

[seymour]

Louisa DaG wrote:

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It could be he isnt sure if he will like it. It seems like some guys have a hangup. Others like my husband went rught for it.

I spent my teenage years in a factory town a few hours drive from where you live, and am older than your parents. Boy did I hear lots and lots of boys crack wise and idly boast about "eating p***y." My point is that I was totally socialised to expect that to be a part of my sex life. I am grateful for that. I think that if men spent more time with their faces between women's legs, women would be happier and more accepting of their raunchy side.

Louisa DaG wrote:

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He says just looking at it he couldnt resist it.

I think we men are hardwired to bury our faces in it and to lick it.

BTW, the main sex act depicted on the net is the BJ. It's easy to photograph, doesn't show his face, and is pretty near safe sex for her. Now try to find porn showing him eating her. Not a lot out there. And a large part of what you will find is girl on girl.(Most lesbian porn is str8 women faking to make money.)

[Mackenzie]

I love eating my girlfriend out The vagina tastes sweet but the only thing i dont like is the smell of her pee.

[Louisa Dag]

seymour wrote:

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I spent my teenage years in a factory town a few hours drive from where you live, and am older than your parents. Boy did I hear lots and lots of boys crack wise and idly boast about "eating p***y." My point is that I was totally socialised to expect that to be a part of my sex life. I am grateful for that. I think that if men spent more time with their faces between women's legs, women would be happier and more accepting of their raunchy side.
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I think we men are hardwired to bury our faces in it and to lick it.
BTW, the main sex act depicted on the net is the BJ. It's easy to photograph, doesn't show his face, and is pretty near safe sex for her. Now try to find porn showing him eating her. Not a lot out there. And a large part of what you will find is girl on girl.(Most lesbian porn is str8 women faking to make money.)

Im not sure about my husbands education about eating it from the guys around here, but he sure didnt know very much about the anatomy of a girl. The only clue I got as to why he was so drawn to do it is he said I looked delicious and he couldnt resist. I was very happy about that !!!! It makes a girl feel special. He isnt into porn at least since were together, so there too he probably didnt learn anything that way. I very rarely check out porn myself. I kinda like a few cfnm sites but hardly ever look at that stuff. There are a lot of BJ ones. I goy some ideas from them.
Im judt as glad he dont get involved in porn anyway. Our sex life is just fine and i rather he keep admiring my body and not some sex bomb on the net.

[seymour]

I never pay for anything I invite you to do save your money for other things. I am not at all attracted to the slickly photographed "porn stars." I'm not into brand names for my lust.

The professionals are just electronic prostitutes, in a way that is less risky and antisocial. The interesting stuff is the amateur action. The literal girls next door with this urge to share their privates with the world. If they show their faces, they may be closing the door on ever becoming rich and famous. On the other hand, thanks to them we truly know what women look like.

CFNM is very much a UK fetish. I don't like role playing at all. I cannot stand mixing cruelty and bullying with sex.

That your hubby was fairly innocent when you met him is a good sign.

[Someone who knows]

The best way to get your BF to eat you is to tell him thats what you want. Tease him with a taste of that sweet juice, and tell him there's more where that came from. Let him see you touching yourself and tasting it, and invite him to try it. Moan if it feels good, but don't be afraid to tell him if you want something different. I'm a woman whose lucky enough to have a guy that loves to go downtown, hell, he could camp out there all day! Just help him learn how to please you.

[Louisa Dag]

seymour wrote:

I never pay for anything I invite you to do save your money for other things. I am not at all attracted to the slickly photographed "porn stars." I'm not into brand names for my lust.
The professionals are just electronic prostitutes, in a way that is less risky and antisocial. The interesting stuff is the amateur action. The literal girls next door with this urge to share their privates with the world. If they show their faces, they may be closing the door on ever becoming rich and famous. On the other hand, thanks to them we truly know what women look like.
CFNM is very much a UK fetish. I don't like role playing at all. I cannot stand mixing cruelty and bullying with sex.
That your hubby was fairly innocent when you met him is a good sign.

I said on other topix how I know him since he was about 10 and I was 8. Due to age dif we hung in seperate groups. I got to be friendly with him since he was living so close by. He was older and kinda looked out for me. At some pont in our teens he recently told me he began noticing me as not a kid anymore and got a super crush on me. He knew I was cheering and saw me at games and stuff and saw a lot of the boys trying to go with me. He didnt think of making a move untill a friend his age was dating me. When that ended, he asked me out and thats were we began. Im not sure but i strongly think he was a virgin when we married in September. If so im glad he was.

[seymour]

You married a virgin, and value that. I was one when I met my SO. I wish I could write that she valued that.

[seymour]

Time was, girls married innocent, or pretended to be. If a boy had some lad adventures before meeting the woman he was to marry, everybody looked the other way as long as he didn't pick up a disease. He then sort of taught her the Ways of Flesh.

In the 21st century, it is worldly young women like yourself who break in their naive hubbies. The tables turn and turn...

[Louisa DaG]

seymour wrote:

Time was, girls married innocent, or pretended to be. If a boy had some lad adventures before meeting the woman he was to marry, everybody looked the other way as long as he didn't pick up a disease. He then sort of taught her the Ways of Flesh.
In the 21st century, it is worldly young women like yourself who break in their naive hubbies. The tables turn and turn...

Im not as experienced as many girls my age really. I began going with boys at 14 but no sex. At 16 I thought I was in love and my BF was very insistant on showing me his thingy. He knew If I saw it I would be more likely to go further I think. In the next 3 years I had 2 more serious BFs and then at 19 I got together with my husband. I know thats 4 altogether including my husband in 4 years. So I wasnt screwing every guy who chased me. I thought I was in love each time and although it was dumb of me I was sincerely trying to be a good girl. I do suspect (but not positive)my husband came to me pure and wish I could offer him the same thing. He would never admit he was a virgin at 22 so he said he had a few girls but I lived on the block and never saw him with any girls. He is not a pushy type and so you have to get to know him to see how good he is. I am lucky to be so loved by a great guy.

[seymour]

It's easy for most guys to remain male virgins. I speak from experience. Most guys don't have women chasing after them.(My younger brother did, I never did.) A lot of guys aren't even noticed by the typical high school or college girl. Just how many girls will break the ice with a guy? If you tried to set a lunch date with a guy and he said no thanks, how would you take it? Rejection of this nature is a bald fact of life for us guys.

When I met the person I married, I told her forthrightly I was a virgin. She took it very much in stride. In the years since, though, she has made a few sarcastic comments about my past. I had to remind her that skill in meeting girls and starting relationships before marriage makes it easier for a married man to stray.

[zeron]

I think oral sex with a woman is…….. Well……………..disgusting.

It tastes terrible.

I have done it a few times just to make my girlfriend happy but it was revolting.

She seems to enjoy giving it but sometimes I think that is because she has the better end of the deal.(seriously)

[Peacenlove]

I just want to say that I don't plan on leaving my love ever. Yes sex is really important to me, but not as important as being with this man the rest of my life. Just wanted to get that out of the way, because even if he never does go downtown, I would still be with him. I just can't even imagine someone better than he is.

With that said, thanks guys! Most of the advice was really helpful and I plan on trying a few of them. I'm actually pretty excited to try them out and hopefully get some results!!!:]