Threesome

My fiance is very attracted to women. She is also very interested in having lesbian sex, threesome FFM & MMF, and foursome. The problem we are having is that she is concerned with seeing me being with another woman. My question is, how do I get her past this so that we can start exploring?

cats eyes

I also am very attracted to women and my boyfriend and I had a 3 some. Well, I handled it well, but I constantly think about him liking her more. He paid more attention to her than me, and I still don't know if it was the newness or he really found her more attractive, so we never get "past" it.

Tom

Arcadia, CA

Somewhat of a double standard here? Usually it's the other way 'round - he's concerned about seeing her with another guy.

A long as she's willing to try to get over it, then start by making sure she's fully occupied in any group encounter. If you do a FFM, make sure that when you're doing the other girl, she's doin' your fiance. If you plan a 4some, make sure she's having a good time with the other guy before you start having a good time with the other girl.

It can work, but it's largely dependent on your sensitivity to her reactions (ie, take it slow) and her willingness to get past her negative reactions. Honesty and openness between the two of you is essential.

Good luck to both of you. If she can get past her jealousy and you can share this experience together, it will be the most fun and excitement you've ever experienced sexually!

zer125

We plan to start with a Swinger Club. We are going to go to check it out and if the possibilty is there, then so be it. If it is not, we will at least have got to see what it is all about.

Bill

Binghamton, NY

I am having a threesome with my siter-in-law nad wife it is very hot and erotic

cats eyes

Bill wrote:

I am having a threesome with my siter-in-law nad wife it is very hot and erotic

Sounds like us too. Very hot

pablo

Is this a 'new one' Cat's Eyes? Or are you saying your wonderful 'lover' rather than reg partner likes your sister more? Confused am I~!! That is an issue that worries me too! It is natural to be attracted to the 'NEW' cute bits whether FFM or MFM)', BUT ......one must take care to share!

cats eyes wrote:

I also am very attracted to women and my boyfriend and I had a 3 some. Well, I handled it well, but I constantly think about him liking her more. He paid more attention to her than me, and I still don't know if it was the newness or he really found her more attractive, so we never get "past" it.

zer125

I think that having a threesome with my sister in law would just make things a little weird during family gatherings! I would prefer the person be no closer than a friend and not a good friend either! I guess if it was just a friend, they could turn into a good friend if everyone enjoyed the situation and wanted that person to join in again!

pablo

I agree wholeheartedly. However think I'd opt for a good friend, someone you really know and trust. And yes, if 'everyone' enjoyed that would become a 'close ' friend in more ways than one!

cats eyes

TriciaThePhoneSe xOperator

pablo wrote:

Is this a 'new one' Cat's Eyes? Or are you saying your wonderful 'lover' rather than reg partner likes your sister more? Confused am I~!! That is an issue that worries me too! It is natural to be attracted to the 'NEW' cute bits whether FFM or MFM)', BUT ......one must take care to share!
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NO, same one. I am over the jealousy. You are right, it was the "new", he now is back to being very attentive to me and also brought up things that he didn't like about her , being that he was attracted to me for a reason. She was just fun for the time, but we all love each other.

“More to say than 'ooh! ahh!'”

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Dacula, GA

My husband and I have considered threesomes and swinging because we've had so much fun with our lifestyle: namely, my being a phone sex operator and having pretend sex with so many guys. However, we've chosen to avoid it because we can't find a situation that seems comfortable enough. Friends could get awkward, strangers could get dangerous. Anyone's feelings could get hurt at anytime when egos and emotions get out of hand. What we've got is just too good to risk.

If we ever do it, I think it might be with a professional girl. I do keep an eye out for cheap air fares to Las Vegas ;)(is prostitution legal anywhere else???)

zer125

Joined: May 9, 2007

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We have struggled with getting ourselved ready. She was concerned about jealousy and my actions with another woman in a threesome. My best suggestion would be don't rush into it and take the time to work it all out. Play it out in your head or play it out loud while you are laying in bed. If nothing else, it should turn you on thinking about it and spice up the night. As for finding someone, that is on you, we are going to a swing club and meet people. As for dangerous, use protection. I am not sure I would trust a prostitute. They can say they are tested regularly, but I'm not sure I would believe that at all!

pablo

Thanks for your reply .... think I'd be jealous seeing my gf perform fellatio on 'the guest' more so than him 'entering' her! Weird huh? Jealousy is something?

cats eyes wrote:

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NO, same one. I am over the jealousy. You are right, it was the "new", he now is back to being very attentive to me and also brought up things that he didn't like about her , being that he was attracted to me for a reason. She was just fun for the time, but we all love each other.

lily6913

Cabot, AR

me my bestfriend and his wife whom is actually my gf had one and no one was really werided out but it was all the more fun cuz no one was left out. and what made it even better is it made all of our relationships with each other grow to something really special . it made us realize all our feelings for each other . and my bf thinks its cool that we all are on the same level . we werent dating when it happened so. but he knew coming into the relationship that me and her were dating and he was jealous

your other luscious half

"me my bestfriend and his wife whom is actually my gf had one ......

I'm lost here!

cats eyes

pablo wrote:

Thanks for your reply .... think I'd be jealous seeing my gf perform fellatio on 'the guest' more so than him 'entering' her! Weird huh? Jealousy is something?
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We all have our weak points, I guess. When I had my 3some, I asked him not to bang her. Oral sex was only performed on her, she didn't do him. He did both of us at the same time, he's soooooo good.

pablo

Well, you are a sweet manipulator. Why couldn't he 'bang her' he asks. Isn't the use of the tongue more intimate ? Jeez, I have all these questions ... did he go from you to her and back again or finish the job at one 'work site', then move on? You did say before he was up for more but your sister had had enough...( see, you should have let him bang her!)

cats eyes wrote:

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We all have our weak points, I guess. When I had my 3some, I asked him not to bang her. Oral sex was only performed on her, she didn't do him. He did both of us at the same time, he's soooooo good.

cats eyes

pablo wrote:

Well, you are a sweet manipulator. Why couldn't he 'bang her' he asks. Isn't the use of the tongue more intimate ? Jeez, I have all these questions ... did he go from you to her and back again or finish the job at one 'work site', then move on? You did say before he was up for more but your sister had had enough...( see, you should have let him bang her!)
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I don't know, to me making love is more intimate, oral is just a sex thing, with banging it's eye to eye and smiling at each other.
My sister and I love to please each other, meaning that whatever I wanted my bf to do, she trusted me and I trusted her. She's recently divorced by the way and has a married lover, ain't it the way of the world lately?

pablo

Banging is ~
'Eye to eye '~ maybe I shut my eyes! And grimmace!
Just teasing!

Funny you say that oral is just 'sex'. I regard oral as very much making love...and very intimate. Maybe like you I have a sweetie who loves oral.... at least for her! And if in a 69 both arrive simultaneously, well that is mind blowing....SIGH!!

You seem to have a great fella! Lucky him, to nibble two sisters!

cats eyes wrote:

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I don't know, to me making love is more intimate, oral is just a sex thing, with banging it's eye to eye and smiling at each other.
My sister and I love to please each other, meaning that whatever I wanted my bf to do, she trusted me and I trusted her. She's recently divorced by the way and has a married lover, ain't it the way of the world lately?

zer125

Joined: May 9, 2007

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