Reality

Montgomery, AL

#244 Nov 12, 2008
JoeRocket84 wrote:
Most women I've chatted with about this subject really do mean it when they say that size doesn't matter, some of them even prefer a guy who's a little on the shy side. Guys who came to the realization that they had huge cocks became contented over the years to simply rely on the fact that they were packin' and so they never really had to do much with it. Guys on the small side overcompensated by perfecting their technique and using everything at their disposal to make sure their partner had an unforgettable time. These guys had to compete with their own mental image that everyone but them was packing a porn stars monster cock and and so they made damn sure that they could stack up against these gargantuan love muscles by learning everything they could about how to please a woman (or man). It's in the same vein as the girls who were ugly ducklings in high school (or saw themselves as less than perfect) and so they made up for it by being amazing in bed (not to mention developing personalities).
It was those who were perfect in their youth that really never learned the subtle tricks or refined their technique over the years because for a good chunk of time they never had to learn it - they went through their teens completely confident that simply having a big dick (or in the case of women, flawless features and a hot bod) would always be enough.
The ones who grew up lacking (or believing that they were lacking) are the ones who will knock your socks off in bed. The "pretty faces" are the ones who will either just lie there and let you do all the work or fall back on the one or two moves that they have in their sexual repotoire.
I've been around and with women who say it doesn't matter or matters very little, but when they were on occasion around a guy known to be hung, of a guy with tight jeans and a big flaccid dick showing, or in a couple of cases I've witnessed how they were when watching porn and a guy has a big thick dick, plus it saw it happen on a reality show on tv in which the chick along with other chicks saw a guy's very big dick as he came out of the shower and she commmented right there on tv that that was too damn big for her but then that night she went to his room and crawled into bed with him (and everyone in the house could hear her grunting)and they ended up living together for a quite a long while afer the show ended (though they did eventually break up)- many of the chicks act completely different than they speak.
JoeBlow

Toronto, Canada

#245 Nov 12, 2008
Is the most popular dildo size is representative of the average penis size?
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I visited three sex shops in Toronto and asked the staff, "What is the most popular sized dildo?" The answer from all three was,'the 6 inch long by 1.5 inch wide.' Apparently this accounts for 90% of dildo sales. From this, I think it's a safe assumption that 90% of women are comfortable and satisfied by the appearance and feel of this dimension.
I also asked the question, "So porno dick is huge compared to this, why do you think this is the most popular size?" The answer, again from all three, "Porno is made by men."

How much length can a woman accommodate?
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In general, this depends on her height and genetics. There are freaks of nature amongst both men and women,
I've found by experience, that a woman between 5' to 5' 3'' average body type, will accommodate about 7 to 7.5 inches. However, this takes good foreplay and she really needs to feel comfortable with you.
In similar test that a friend of mine did, a woman 5'7'' average body type can take 9 inches similarly.

Do women have a good sense of measurement?
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I don't think that the majority of women do.
In the first case above, the majority women on the shorter side thought that my dick was about 9 inches long and in the second case, they thought that my buddies' dick was about 12 inches.

What about girth?
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By dildo sales, around 1.5 inches is good. Massive is 2+ inches.

Some findings
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- If it's too thick, good head is rare
- A very thick penis is eventually accommodateable, but not for head.
- If it's too thin, she will not enjoy it
- If it's too long you'll have to be careful not to slam into her cervix.
- A longer penis is better for doggy style positions
- A longer penis will stimulate those first three inches more on one stroke than a shorter penis
- A longer penis is more difficult to ride for a long time (she can't come all the way down and this can tire her out)
- A shorter penis tends to slip out more often
- A shorter penis isn't ideal for doggy style positions
- A longer penis can more easily hit the G-spot, Deep spot, etc. A shorter penis may be able to do it by adjusting the position for deep entry
- Generally speaking, a bigger penis is softer than a smaller one
JoeBlow

Toronto, Canada

#246 Nov 12, 2008
My perspective
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Around 7'' long and between 1.5-1.75'' thick should strike most women as comfortably large, visually appealing, potent, useful for various activities, desirable etc.
MORE IMPORTANTLY, it should stirke men as all those things! Penis size does matter to both sexes and to us men, it matters even more.
If you are closer to 6'' no problem - you'll be able to slam most women hard and not worry about hitting that cervix. If you are 7 and above, you'll be able to do it as well, but not just two minutes into it with most shorter women.

A little more please?
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The confidence of a good sized penis is amazing - that's a fact. Just knowing that if you dropped your pants that you will be judged very positively is a massive boost to approaching women.
You will have to know how to use it of course. Most men cum within 5 minutes. Most women take longer than that to cum. So do some research and work - gain that control. For your own confidence, you should be able to shag for 15 minutes without cumming. Boost the foreplay time, and finger her till she's soaking wet and almost cumming before you stick it in. That way you satisfy her everytime.
How can you make your penis bigger? We've all gotten thousands of spam emails on this - pills and devices. I don't know if they work. I imagine that some do. There are exercises that are reputed to work. I've seen forums where men have gone up 1-3, sometimes more in length and 1-2 in girth. You won't know until you try.
Remember, if you are already in that magic size zone, just work on performance and aim for being with good women and treating them right. Also, expect the best treatment from them. Cheers, good luck in everything.
Ira

Baltimore, MD

#247 Nov 12, 2008
This question has no answer. Line up 20 guys and let a girl look at them with no clothes on and pick the one they want for sex and it will be the best looking or best hung one. The question was FOR SEX..Not for a life partner.
Can't always go by looks. as I was told by an older woman years ago. Don't worry Some are showers and some are growers.
"Hung like Einstien & Brains of a mule"
Reality

Montgomery, AL

#250 Nov 12, 2008
Ira wrote:
This question has no answer. Line up 20 guys and let a girl look at them with no clothes on and pick the one they want for sex and it will be the best looking or best hung one. The question was FOR SEX..Not for a life partner.
Can't always go by looks. as I was told by an older woman years ago. Don't worry Some are showers and some are growers.
"Hung like Einstien & Brains of a mule"
According to the Psychology Today study, 75% of women cared about size, but only 10% cared enough to let penis size interfere with a relationship.
Reality

Montgomery, AL

#252 Nov 12, 2008
Put a big penis in front of women who say size doesn't matter and suddenly they are act differently. Except for the bi chicks perhaps. I'm starting to notice that all the bi chicks at this site prefer average penis or even slightly less than averge penis size. They are into chicks and chicks don't have dicks, so apparently that carries over into their penis size desires involving men. Maybe they would be the exception in the presence of a big dick guy and not become all lustful like other women who say size doesn't matter but act tottally different than they say when around a big dick. Maybe bi chicks can indeed be more trusted on this issue.
Duh

AOL

#253 Nov 13, 2008
i would ask that question too in disapointment.

if i were working on making my suasage longer every day and night only too find out that size doesnt reall matter.
Duh

AOL

#254 Nov 13, 2008
if size doesnt matter...
Live with it and accept it!
Join Free
Duh

AOL

#255 Nov 13, 2008
i would ask that question too in disapointment.

if i were working on making my suasage to make it longer every day and night only too find out that size doesnt reall matter.
reality

Halifax, Canada

#256 Nov 14, 2008
no one has dared to mention that the large penis males Fall down as they age Yep - the bigger the penis the less firmness with age and i am not talking real old - actually the young penis is really too stiff or hard to be used well without causing some discomfort, just off rock hard is perfect but Flopping around is - Well Useless and Big penises will all arrive at that point sooner than later - so you don't want an 18 year old with their rock hard issues - you really want a thirty something average but thick penis to do the job well
Reality

Montgomery, AL

#257 Nov 15, 2008
If you ever partied in nightclubs enough you know each club always has some guy who is constantly there that has a thick long flaccid showing through tight jeans. On many nights he can be seen flirting and then leaving with a new chick. And you've also seen 'good' 'wouldn't let him have any' chicks who visit the club semi regular, give in on a night when they are too horney to turn him away, and leave out the door with him. Guys like that big dick so many women it alters and increases the standard percentage chances of women having had a big dick. Thses chicks posting on here that they perfer average size. I would bet dollars to doughnuts that would give in if they were around his thick flaccid dick staring them in the face all too often, and had some drinks in them, if they haven't already before.

“I'm not just white, I'm pasty”

Since: Sep 08

Columbia, MO

#258 Nov 15, 2008
Reality wrote:
If you ever partied in nightclubs enough you know each club always has some guy who is constantly there that has a thick long flaccid showing through tight jeans. On many nights he can be seen flirting and then leaving with a new chick. And you've also seen 'good''wouldn't let him have any' chicks who visit the club semi regular, give in on a night when they are too horney to turn him away, and leave out the door with him. Guys like that big dick so many women it alters and increases the standard percentage chances of women having had a big dick. Thses chicks posting on here that they perfer average size. I would bet dollars to doughnuts that would give in if they were around his thick flaccid dick staring them in the face all too often, and had some drinks in them, if they haven't already before.
First of all I've only ever had 2 one night stands. The first sucked beyond all belief and was an emotional time in my life. I had been friends with the guy for a few months and one thing led to another. Never did anything with him again.

The other was intended to be a one night, crazy drunk Halloween thing (he was average FYI) but ended up being a relationship with a really great guy. We broke it off because we weren't right for each other, and while the sex was great, and we got along fantastically we had different life plans. When you want incompatible things, you can't make it work.

Other than that, I haven't had any one nighters. Honestly I wouldn't have any one night stands ever again. No matter what drinks I have in me, or who's hitting on my in the club. I have to get to know the guy.

It's not the size of a guys penis that makes you decide to sleep with him. It's his overall look and demeanor. I can tell you within the first 5 minutes of meeting a guy who doesn't stand a chance. After the first 5 minutes if I get to know the guy and he's interesting and I think I like him, I might, not will, might take him home (It takes a few dates to really get a feel for a person at this point).

I do have a preference for average size though. So I guess if I knew from the beginning what size two interesting guys were I might factor it in, but seems unlikely.

As for the guy with the huge penis getting girls... Maybe he's just more confident. Maybe he plays the scene better. Dresses better? Talks better? Is more attractive? Those are reasons why women leave with a guy, not what he's got in his pants!
Franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#259 Nov 15, 2008
FairSkinnedGirl wrote:
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First of all I've only ever had 2 one night stands. The first sucked beyond all belief and was an emotional time in my life. I had been friends with the guy for a few months and one thing led to another. Never did anything with him again.
The other was intended to be a one night, crazy drunk Halloween thing (he was average FYI) but ended up being a relationship with a really great guy. We broke it off because we weren't right for each other, and while the sex was great, and we got along fantastically we had different life plans. When you want incompatible things, you can't make it work.
Other than that, I haven't had any one nighters. Honestly I wouldn't have any one night stands ever again. No matter what drinks I have in me, or who's hitting on my in the club. I have to get to know the guy.
It's not the size of a guys penis that makes you decide to sleep with him. It's his overall look and demeanor. I can tell you within the first 5 minutes of meeting a guy who doesn't stand a chance. After the first 5 minutes if I get to know the guy and he's interesting and I think I like him, I might, not will, might take him home (It takes a few dates to really get a feel for a person at this point).
I do have a preference for average size though. So I guess if I knew from the beginning what size two interesting guys were I might factor it in, but seems unlikely.
As for the guy with the huge penis getting girls... Maybe he's just more confident. Maybe he plays the scene better. Dresses better? Talks better? Is more attractive? Those are reasons why women leave with a guy, not what he's got in his pants!
technically neither of your examples count as true one-nighters. The first guy yuo knew for a while already. Even though you had sex only once, it does not realy count because of that.

The second one you had sex with more than once, so it also does not count, although if yuor original intent was to have sex with him only once then I guess it does count for that first nite.

A true "one nighter" is when yuo go to bed with someone you met that night, or you maybe have known them "at a distance" (for example he is a regular at a nightclub you also go to often and you've seen him and danced with him but not yet befreinded him)... then yuo go to bed with him and don't do it again.

I think the sort of woman who does do "one nighters" does look for superfical things more, and Reality might be right, many of those probably do want something like a bigger dik as one of the main factors.

By contrast, the sort of woman who does not do "one nighters" is looking for more meaningful aspects to the relationship and loose sex and big diks is not part of the equation.

Since: Nov 08

Bucharest, Romania

#260 Nov 15, 2008
Isn't it about visual stimulus? I have been happily (and faithfully) married for 20 years, but before meeting my wife had 100+ sexual experiences with different women. Now, I am an average 6" long by 6" thick. Of all of those women, only one couldn't reach orgasm through intercourse and frankly it was probably because she was rather large and voluminous. In discussions with a large number of women, they said that a big cock was visually arousing (in the same way big breasts are arousing, but they worried about it hurting. As a fantasy it was a fine and exciting thing, as a reality it was a bit different. Just some thoughts.

“I shall not be moved!!!”

Since: Mar 08

Place where few are sober

#261 Nov 15, 2008
I never lie-I have always said I love fat ones.Most women do:)
If a man is small, you dont have to insult him, but I also wouldn't waste my time.
Men are very picky about what they want in us women, too and there is no need for them to be selfish in the size matter or get angry that women have preferences.
Reality

Montgomery, AL

#262 Nov 15, 2008
butterflye25 wrote:
I never lie-I have always said I love fat ones.Most women do:)
True, thickness isn't even a debate is it, unless she is unusually tight. Yet the chicks who say they prefer average usually will only bring up length, saying 5" this, and 6" that, but notice they avoid mentioning thickness. Why do they leave thickness out? Because they don't want to admit it? Because their bf doesn't have extra girth?

In the instances I was speaking when I saw the guys working the nightclubs with their big flaccid dicks showing, they always had substantial thickness. One of them was very thick, his flaccid looked to be as thick as the average penis is thick when erect. Guys were always sort of quiet/submissive around a group of chicks when he was also around the same chicks. The guys looking to see how much attention he was going to get. No doubt some jealousy amongst some guys.

You are a black chick. This is one of the things what I like about black chicks - they are going to tell it like it is, and aren't going leave out details that apply. I don't trust many white chicks to be as totally honest.

“I'm not just white, I'm pasty”

Since: Sep 08

Columbia, MO

#263 Nov 15, 2008
Reality wrote:
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True, thickness isn't even a debate is it, unless she is unusually tight. Yet the chicks who say they prefer average usually will only bring up length, saying 5" this, and 6" that, but notice they avoid mentioning thickness. Why do they leave thickness out? Because they don't want to admit it? Because their bf doesn't have extra girth?
In the instances I was speaking when I saw the guys working the nightclubs with their big flaccid dicks showing, they always had substantial thickness. One of them was very thick, his flaccid looked to be as thick as the average penis is thick when erect. Guys were always sort of quiet/submissive around a group of chicks when he was also around the same chicks. The guys looking to see how much attention he was going to get. No doubt some jealousy amongst some guys.
You are a black chick. This is one of the things what I like about black chicks - they are going to tell it like it is, and aren't going leave out details that apply. I don't trust many white chicks to be as totally honest.
I'll admit that I prefer them thicker. That was never in question. I just really didn't like the show to prove that bigger (longer) is absolutely better. It's not for all girls. Thicker also has a cap. While yes, thicker is better, you do hit a certain point, where I'd probably be sore and thus unhappy about it.
Lola

Hamburg, Germany

#264 Nov 15, 2008
Tenn wrote:
I know, many men are told size doesn't matter. It is found in many magazines all the time in the Q&A.
Why is it women only say this to little guys?
Some of us bigger guys in that area are told we are a dream come true in that department. I have been informed that it is not so much the length down there 9" but the thickness that brings so much pleasure. I have been told; I bring vaginal orgasms due to size whereas smaller guys canít do that.
I'd just like to know why women aren't more honest about it and tell the truth to the guys with the tadpoles?
Seriously, just joking about most of that but I do believe women lie about size not making a difference so why the lies? Men know better just as you know we like larger breasts.
Women have all different preferences (and not all men like larger breasts). A big dick looks good but it doesn't necessarily make a big difference when you've got a tight fanny.
Lola

Hamburg, Germany

#265 Nov 15, 2008
Reality wrote:
<quoted text>
True, thickness isn't even a debate is it, unless she is unusually tight. Yet the chicks who say they prefer average usually will only bring up length, saying 5" this, and 6" that, but notice they avoid mentioning thickness. Why do they leave thickness out? Because they don't want to admit it? Because their bf doesn't have extra girth?
In the instances I was speaking when I saw the guys working the nightclubs with their big flaccid dicks showing, they always had substantial thickness. One of them was very thick, his flaccid looked to be as thick as the average penis is thick when erect. Guys were always sort of quiet/submissive around a group of chicks when he was also around the same chicks. The guys looking to see how much attention he was going to get. No doubt some jealousy amongst some guys.
You are a black chick. This is one of the things what I like about black chicks - they are going to tell it like it is, and aren't going leave out details that apply. I don't trust many white chicks to be as totally honest.
Maybe they have tight pvssies ?

“I shall not be moved!!!”

Since: Mar 08

Place where few are sober

#267 Nov 15, 2008
butterflye25 wrote:
I never lie-I have always said I love fat ones.Most women do:)
If a man is small, you dont have to insult him, but I also wouldn't waste my time.
Men are very picky about what they want in us women, too and there is no need for them to be selfish in the size matter or get angry that women have preferences.
Yeah, I am going to speak the truth.And most chics I have discussed the issue with, white or black, like them thicker moreso than longer.When girls discuss thintgs we admit this among ourselves.I dont care if u a virgin, once u are broken in, the way a woman is designed, she is pressure sensitive, and a thicker one applies most pressure to the vaginal walls.I think some women are afraid to admit it to men, because men may accuse them of being loose, especially men who have thinner penises.But loose got nothing to do with it.If u loose, a thick dick wont help, and from what I understand it is extremely difficult for a woman to become "loose" even after childbirth.
Those of us who are tight as hell want a thick one too.It may hurt at first but that goes away, and the beauty of it is because you are tight, and he is thick its such a fantastic tight squeeze.

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